Ukuba ulwalamano nomnye umntu, wenze isigqibo sokuba awufuni ukuhlala unqabileyo , kwaye ucinga ngokunyusa ubudlelwane ngokulala ngesondo, kufike ixesha lokuthetha nomlingane wakho malunga nokulawula ukuzalwa . Ukunyaniseka nawe, ukuthetha ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa kunokuba nzima, kodwa kubalulekile (ukuba ulwalamano olunzulu) ukwenza izigqibo kunye.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukuthetha nomlingane wakho malunga nokukhulelwa kwezilwanyana , izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo , kunye neembali zesondo, kufuneka uqikelele xa ulungele ulwalamano lomntu naloo mntu. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokunceda ukuba le ngxoxo ikhululeke kwaye ivelise ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo.
Ukuthetha Nomlingani Wakho Ngomzimba Wosondo
- Okokuqala, zilungiselele ngaphambi kwexesha. Fumana ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhulelwa kwaye uyenze uphando lwakho. Zama ukuqwalasela indlela eyona ndlela ingcono ngayo kuba kuya kuba lula ukuba nale ngxoxo kunye neqabane lakho xa unesiqinisekiso kwaye ufundiswa kwisigqibo sakho. Ukuba uziva ukhululekile, unokufuna iingcamango ezivela kubahlobo abasondeleyo abaye bahlala bele ndawo. Qaphela nje ukuba ufumana ulwazi oluchanileyo kuba kukho ezininzi iingcamango ezingalunganga kunye neengcamango malunga nokukhulelwa. Zama ukucinga indlela onokuthanda ngayo le ngxoxo. Ukunyaniseka, ukuzola, nokucaca ukuba nguwe, ngakumbi ukukhululeka iqabane lakho liza kuziva kwaye likhulise amathuba okuba iqabane lakho liyakuphendula ngokufanayo.
- Zazi ngokwakho okokukhusela okubonakalayo. Ukuba sele ukhe ukhethe indlela kwaye unokufikelela kuyo (njengekhondom okanye i- ponge ), kunokukunceda ukunqoba enye yeentloni enokuba uzive ngokuzijonga kunye nokuvakalelwa kokukhulelwa.
- Zilungiselele ngaphambi kokuba ube ne "The Talk." Unokucwangcisa le ngxoxo ngokuza kunye nokuqhuba imigca yokuvula. Kusenokuba luncedo ukucinga ngezimpendulo ezinokuthi ziphi na izichaso okholelwa ukuba iqabane lakho lingenza. Cwangcisa oko ufuna ukuthetha kwaye usebenzise ukuthetha ngokuzwakalayo. Kunengqiqo enkulu ukuthetha malunga nokukhulelwa ngaphambi kokulala ngesini okanye ngexesha eliphakathi kwezesondo. Xa abantu bebanjwe ekushiseni komzuzwana, banokufumanisa ukuba banako ukunyanzelwa ukuba benze into abazozisola ngayo kamva.
- Cwangcisa ixesha kunye nendawo ekhululekile kubo bobabini. Zama ukuqiniseka ukuba uya kuba nobungakanani obuyimfihlo, awuyi kuphazanyiswa, kwaye akayi kuvakalelwa. Cinga ukuthatha uhambo, apho unako ukubanxibelelana ngokomzimba njengokubamba izandla. Oku kunokukunika ithuba lokuthetha ngelixa uhlala ecaleni kwaye ungafanele ugcine uqhagamshelwano lwamehlo ngokuthe ngqo (oko kungenza ingxoxo ibe yinkxalabo encinci) okanye ukufumana kulula ukuba nale ngxoxo kwifowuni.
- Qinisekisa ukuba ufuna ukubandakanya kwingxoxo yakho. Oku kuphelele kuwe kunye nento oziva ukhululekile ngayo. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso malunga noko kufuneka uzame ukuthetha ngazo:
- Thetha malunga nokuba kutheni ukulawulwa kokuzalwa kubalulekile. Xa unolwazi olubanzi malunga nendlela yokukhusela okukhethileyo kunye nokuba kutheni ufanele usebenzise ukukhulelwa kwezilwanyana , mhlawumbi uya kuthatha uxanduva lokuba wenze umsebenzi.
- Thetha ngo lonwabo. Unokuzichaza kumlingane wakho ukuba xa unesiva ukhuselekile, isondo phakathi kwakho uya kukhululeka kwaye ujabule. Ukuba le ntetho ayifanele ichithe izinto phakathi kwababini benu, kodwa ukungabi nayo kunokuchaphazela ubomi bakho ngonaphakade kufuneka kukhulelwe . Unokuqinisekisa kwakhona iqabane lakho ukuba ukusebenzisa imithwalo yokukhusela izithandabuzo akuyi kuthatha inqabileyo yesondo; bobabini enokuxoxa ngeendlela zokwenza ube yinxalenye yenkqubo yakho yokuthanda uthando (njengokunceda omnye nomnye ukubeka ikhondom okanye ukufaka i- scrippm - gals, unokufunda nokubeka indlela yokubeka ikhondom xa usebenzisa umlomo wakho!) - oku kunokuba nzulu ubuqili phakathi kobabini kunye nokwenza uzive usondelelene komnye nomnye.
- Thetha ngobuhlobo bakho. Nonke nidinga ukuxoxa ngeembali zakho zezesondo kwaye ingaba okanye awunakho na owake waboniswa kwi-STD. Ababini benu kufuneka bathethe ngesimo sobudlelwane bakho - ngaba uya kuba yedwa kunye okanye ngaba uceba ukwenza isondo kunye nabanye abantu? Amaqabane angaphezulu kwesondo, unomngcipheko wokubamba i-STD; ngoko, ukuba wena okanye lakho iqabane lilalana nabanye abantu, landisa ingozi kubo bobabini. Uhlobo lwakho lolwalamano lunokuthi luchaze uhlobo lokuqhawula imithi oyisebenzisayo kuba iindlela ezithile zokulawulwa kokuzalwa zikhusela kwi-STD.
- Xoxa ngo- "Kuthe ukuba ..." Ukuba ulwalamano olwabelana ngesondo, ngaphambi kokuba ulale ngesondo, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngezinto oza kwenzayo xa ulawulo lwakho lokuzalwa luhlulekile . Qinisekisa ukuba bobabini benu bavumelana nesicwangciso sokubaluleka kufuneka ukuba ukhulelwe. Ngaba nonke niya kulungile ngokukhipha isisu ? Ngaba uyavuma ukufumana uxanduva lokuba ngabazali ? Uvakalelwa njani ngokukhetha kokwamkelwa ? Nonke nifuna ukucaca kwaye nivumelane ngoku. Ukuba nale ngxoxo ngaphambi kwexesha kuya kwenza kube lula ngakumbi kwimeko apho ukulawula kwakho kokuzalwa kukuphelisa .
- Thetha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zolawulo lokuzalwa. Yabelana ngolwazi olufundile malunga neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhusela. Ukuba sele usenzile isigqibo sakho, xubusha kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uchaze ukuba kutheni ukhethe le ndlela (mhlawumbi, ugqirha wakho wakucebisa ukuba usebenzise imithi ethile yokukhulelwa kwe-hormonal ngenxa yezinye izinto ezingenakukhulelwa ). Ukuba ufuna ukwenza le sigqibo ndawonye, thetha malunga nenzuzo kunye neendleko zendlela nganye. Zama ukulungisa indlela oziva ngayo ukhululekile ngayo . Buza iqabane lakho malunga noko akucinga okanye ukuziva. Ukuba nale ngxoxo kunye nokwabelana ngemibandela yakho nomnye nomnye kunokukunceda ukuba usondelane njengendoda esibini.
- Vumelana ukungavumelani kwithuba elithile. Ukuba ngaba bobabini anikwazi ukuvumelanisa kwindlela yokulawula ukuzalwa, nizithembisane ukuba ngamnye uya kwenza uphando oluthe xaxa kwaye ucinge ngalo. Emva koko, yenza icebo lokuthetha ngalo kwakhona.
- Yenza kucacise ukuba awuyi kulala ngesondo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa inzalo. Ukuthetha ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa nokuyisebenzisa kubonisa ukuba uyakhathalele wena kunye neqabane lakho. Ukuba iqabane lakho lingabonisi ukuxubusha okanye ukusebenzisa ulawulo lokuzalwa, kusenokuba ixesha lokuphelisa lo buhlobo. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, ungatshela iqabane lakho ukuba ungalalani nomntu ongakuhloneliyo okanye ngokwabo ngokwaneleyo ukusebenzisa ulwaphulo.
Iingcebiso
- Khumbula ukubonisa ukuba iikhondom (iikhondom zesilisa ze- latex okanye iikhondom i-polyurethane kunye neikhondom zamabhinqa ) zinokukhusela izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo kunye ne-HIV.
- Hlalani nigxininise ngesihloko, kucacile, ninyanisekile ngemvakalelo yenu. Musa ukuziva ukuba kufuneka udibanise kwiimpawu zakho okanye ukuziphatha kwakho.
- Hlonipha iinqwenela zomlingane wakho. Ukuba awuvumelani, phulaphula oko akumele athi kwaye uvule ukuva iziphakamiso zeqabane lakho kunye nezizathu ezilandelayo.
- Okwaziyo malunga nokukhulelwa kwezilwanyana, indlela esebenza ngayo, indlela efanelekileyo ngayo, inzuzo kunye neendleko zendlela nganye nendlela ukukhulelwa kuyenzeka ngayo, bhetele ulungele ukuba uya kuba le ngxoxo.