Ukukhetha Umzali
Naliphi na ixesha apho unquma ukulala ngesondo (nangona usebenzisa ulawulo lokuzalwa ), kukho ithuba lokuba unokuphelisa ukukhulelwa okungalindelekanga . Ukuba ule meko, yazi ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nefuthe leemvakalelo ezisebenza ngqondweni wakho. Xa ubhekene nokukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa, usenokuziva uvuya kakhulu - okanye usenokuziva ukhululekile kwaye ungaqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni.
Ukuba ngumzali ngumcimbi oguqula ubomi. Ngoko ke isigqibo esibalulekileyo. Unokusekela isigqibo malunga nokuqhubeka nokukhulelwa kwakho kwizinto okholelwa ukuba zilungele kuwe ngeli xesha elithile ebomini bakho. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokukhetha umzali, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba unolwazi oluchanekileyo malunga nokukhethwa kwakho kokukhulelwa .
Ukujongana nokukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa kwaye akuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni?
Enye yezikhetho zakho zokukhulelwa kukuqhubeka nokukhulelwa kwakho. Ukuba ngumzali kudla ngokuchazwa njengenye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu kodwa ezinomvuzo umntu anokukwazi. Okunye owaziyo malunga nokukhulelwa, abasebenzi kunye neemfanelo zokuba ngumzali, uya kulungelelanisa ukuba uya kukhetha ukuba ukhetha olu khetho.
Indima yoMzali
Ukuba ngumzali kuthetha ukuba uya kufuneka ukubonelela indawo enothando apho umntwana wakho angakwazi ukufunda nokukhula. Icandelo leembopheleleko zakho kukuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba afinyelele amandla akhe.
Ukuba ngumzali kuthetha ukuba:
- Kuya kufuneka ube nomonde.
- Kufuneka sikwazi ukusingatha intlungu kunye neengxabano.
- Unokubonelela ngokufanelekileyo.
- Ngaba uzilungiselele ukuba umntwana wakho azalwe ngemicimbi yonyango.
- Unokusingatha ukukhungatheka.
- Kuya kufuneka ukuba uguquguquke.
Umzali unokunokukuvuyisa olukhulu, ukuzingca kunye novuyo.
Kodwa, kufuneka uzimisele ukubeka iimfuno zakho eceleni kwaye ugxininise ingqalelo kwintsana yakho. Ukuba ngumzali kunzima kuba ngamnye umntwana uhlukile. Uzakufuna ukukwazi ukunika uthando olungenammiselo - ulungele ukuba nomntu oxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe.
Iindleko zokukhulisa umntwana
Ukuba ngumzali kwindleko. Uya kufuneka uhlawule ukutya, i-diapers, izambatho, izinto zentsana, iindleko zonyango kunye nendawo yokuhlala. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufanele ukwazi ukubonelela ngononophelo lwezingane ezinokwethenjelwa. Abazali abaninzi kufuneka baqale ukugcina imfundo yengomso yabo yengomso.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufumane inkxaso kumntwana wakho, kufuneka kuqala uhlangabezane neendleko ezinxulumene nokukhulelwa. Ezi ndleko ziquka:
- Iimpahla zokubeleka.
- Ukunakekelwa kokubeleka.
- Iindleko zebhedlele (xa kufike ixesha lokuzala okanye ukuba unesixinzelelo sokukhulelwa).
Ukuba usebenza ngoku, ngaba uyazi ukuba inkampani yakho iya kunika ikhefu lokubeleka? Ezinye izinto zezimali ezimele ziqwalaselwe:
- Ingaba unesicwangciso xa usenokufuna ukuba ulale ekuphumuleni ngenxa yokukhulelwa okuphezulu?
- Ngaba ukufumana ubomi kuwe nomntwana wakho kube ngumngeni?
- Ngaba unesicwangciso sezemali ukufihla indleko yokuba ngumzali?
Ukukhulelwa
Ukuba ngumzali kuthetha ukuba ulungele ukukhulelwa.
Ukukhulelwa kunokuba yinto enomdla. Abanye abafazi banokukhulelwa ngokukhulu-kodwa abanye banokugula kwasekuseni, ukukhathala kunye nezinye iimpawu ezininzi. Ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kuya kufuneka unakekele umzimba wakho. Kumele ulungele amathuba okuxhamla - ngenxa yakho (njengokwesifo sikashukela, i-placenta previa, preeclampsia, okanye ukufakwa kwikhelo lokuphumla) okanye umntwana wakho (njengeziphoso zokuzalwa okanye imiba yonyango). Uya kufuneka kwakhona ufumane ugqirha uze ufumane ukuhlolwa kwexesha lokubeleka. Njengoko uyakubona, uxanduva lokuba ngumzali luqale indlela ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho afike.
- Iveki ngeveki Ikhalenda yokukhulelwa
Sebenzi no kuziswa
Ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumzali ngokusemthethweni, kuya kufuneka uzalwe. Uya kufumana ukuba ukulungiselela abasebenzi kunye nokuhanjiswa kunokukunceda ukuba uzive ungakhathazeki. Kodwa, kuya kufuneka wenze izigqibo - njengendawo yokuhambisa umntwana wakho, ngaba ufuna ukubhala icebo lokuzalwa, ngubani ongayifuna nawe ngeli xesha, kwaye nokuba ungaziva ukhululekile usebenzisa amayeza enhlungu ngexesha lokuhambisa . Zibuze, ngaba ndinomntu othembekileyo onokundifumana esibhedlele? Kubalulekile ukuqonda inkqubo yokubhinqa, ngoko uyazi ukuba ungalindela - ukuba uyaqonda ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba unokufuna icandelo le-C okanye ukuba iingxaki zingenzeka.
Ukuba ngumzali ongabodwa okanye u-Co-parenting?
Ngaba uceba ukuhlala kunye neqabane lakho ukukhulisa umntwana kunye? Okanye ngaba ulungele ukuba ngumzali omnye? Ukuba ngumzali ongabodwa unokushiya ixesha elifutshane kakhulu. Nangona uncedisayo, umzali ongabodwa unokulula. Uya kuba ngumntu oyintloko apho umntwana wakho uya kubuyela kuyo ( imihla ngemihla ) yothando kunye nokunakwa. Akukho "iholide" ukusuka kumama. Ukuba ngumzali kuthetha ukuba ulapho ukukhalisa ixesha elide. Umntwana wakho uya kufuna kakhulu kuwe - ngaba uyaziva ukhululekile ekufuneka uthembele kwabanye abantu? Unokufuna uncedo lwabo ngononophelo lwabantwana, inkxaso yabo yeemvakalelo, mhlawumbi nokuba uncedo lwemali.
Ukukhetha Ukuba ngumzali - Cinga le mibuzo:
Ukuba ngumzali Olungileyo
Njengoko bethetha, iintsana azifikeli imiyalelo. Iimfuno zomntwana wakho ziya kutshintsha rhoqo. Ukuze ube ngumzali omhle, kufuneka ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kule nxaxheba. Kuya kuba luncedo ukuba unengqiqo kakuhle yintoni umzali onayo yonke into-kwaye ufunde ngabantwana, izigaba abahamba ngazo, nendlela yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zokuba ngumama. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ulungele ukuba ngumzali, funda ngokuba ngumzali, uthetha nabanye abantwana, kwaye ulindele ukuba ulindele imingeni abazali abajongene nayo. Luyimpumelelo, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba ulungele ukwenza lo myalelo wokuzibophelela.