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Ukujamelana nokuphela kweengxaki zobomi

Ukufa yingxenye yendalo yobomi kodwa ininzi yethu igwema ukuxoxa ngokufa kwethu kunye nohambo lokugqibela okumele sizithathele. Ukufunda okungakumbi malunga nale ngxaki inzima, nangona kunjalo, sinokusixhobisa kwaye sinciphise ukungaqiniseki kunye nokwesaba ngamaxesha amava.

Kukulungele ukulungiselela nokuzifundisa ngokwexesha lokuphela kokuphila, malunga nendlela yokucwangcisa umngcwabo okanye inkonzo yesikhumbuzo, kunye nendlela yokuhlangabezana kakuhle nentlungu kunye nokulahleka emva kokufa komntu othandekayo.

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Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba izinto ezininzi ziya kuthintela amava afayo kumntu ngamnye, njengale:

Ukongezelela, inkqubo yokuphela kokuphila ayihambelani nexesha elifanelekileyo okanye alandelayo "amanqaku" athile abonisa ngokuthe ngqo ukuba umntu omthandayo uya kuhlala phi.

Kwabanye abantu, inkqubo yokufa ingathatha iiveki ezimbalwa, iinyanga eziliqela, okanye ngaphezulu. Kwabanye, utshintsho oluvela kwimpilo ebonakalayo entle ekufeni lungenzeka ngokukhawuleza-ngaphakathi kweentsuku okanye kwiiyure.

Oko kwathiwa, nangona kungekho namava okufa aqhelekileyo kubo bonke, abantu abaninzi basabonisa ukufana ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo njengoko ukufa kuhamba. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu angase aqale ukuhoxisa amalungu omndeni, abahlobo kunye nabanye abathandekayo, okanye abonise umdla okanye akukho nxaxheba kwimicimbi yoluntu, izinto ezithandwayo, kunye / okanye izinto ezithandayo. Abanye basenokuhlala behlala kunye nokufumana iindwendwe kodwa bangabonakali ngokungahambisani nomsindo okanye benze kube nzima ukusebenzisana nabo okanye ukubonelela .

Ngexesha lokuphela kokuphila, akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu bafumane imicimbi yabo ngokufanelekileyo, ukuba bengenayo. Oku kunokubandakanya imiba efanelekileyo, njengale:

Kwakhona, abafayo bavame ukucinga ngobomi babo kwaye basenokuzama ukuxazulula ulwalamano oluxhatshazayo okanye ukujongana naluphi na ukuzisola. Ukusebenza ngokusebenzisa " ImiSebenzi Emihlanu Yokufa " kunokunceda abantu bathi bangabathandeki kubathandekayo, bafumane ingqondo yokuvalwa, baze bafumane uxolo njengoko ukufa kusondela.

Abanye abantu abasweleyo banokufumana into eyaziwayo ngokuthi " ekufuphi ukuqonda ngokufa " -ukuqaphela ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kubo nokuba akakwazi ukuyiveza ngokufanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukugxothwa ngabanonophelo njengengxaki yokungabikho komzimba okanye isigxina , isigulana esifayo sisenokuthetha okanye senze njengokungathi ufuna ukulungiselela uhambo okanye ukwabelana "nombono" ngokubona umntu ofileyo okanye "indawo enhle."

Ngamanye amaxesha umntu osweleyo unokufumana utshintsho kwiimbono ezibonakalayo ezibangelwa ukukhohlisa okanye ukucinga. Isigulane singabonakalisa oku, umzekelo, ngu:

Njengoko ukufa kukhula, abafayo bavame ukulahlekelwa ngumdla wabo-nangenxa yokutya okuthandayo okanye ukusela-kwaye banciphise ubunzima. Nangona oku kunokubangela ukothuswa kumathandwa omguli, oku kuyingxenye yendalo yohambo lokuphela komsebenzi kuba umzimba womntu udinga amandla angaphantsi. Enyanisweni, i-chemistry yomzimba womntu inokutshintsha kweli nqanaba kwaye ngokwenene ivelise umqondo omnene wokuvuya ngaphakathi komntu ofayo.

Ukongeza kokungadli okanye ukusela, umntu oza kufa uya kuthetha ngokuncinci, ukuba kukho konke, kwaye angakwazi ukuphendula imibuzo okanye iingxoxo kwabanye.

Unokulala kakhulu, kwaye umsebenzi womzimba uya kukhula ngokukhawuleza ukuba awuyikhoyo ngokupheleleyo.

Kusondele ekupheleni kwenkqubo yokufa, umzi womntu uya kuqala ukubonisa ezinye / zonke ezi zilandelayo:

Njengoko umzimba womntu uqala ukuvalela, izandla kunye neenyawo zakhe zingabonakala ziba ngumbonakalo kwaye zikhuseleke ngokubonakala. Itheyibhile yesikhumba esinamandla enokuthi isasaze ngokunyuka phezulu kunye neengalo nemilenze.

Amehlo omntu angahlala evulekile okanye evulekile, kodwa akayi kubona iindawo ezizungezile kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akayi kusabela.

Iingcali ngokuqhelekileyo zikholelwa ukuba ukuziva kwethu ukuziva kukuphelile ngaphambi kokufa. Ngako oko, abathandekayo basigulana banokuhlala kunye nokuthetha nomntu ofayo ngeli xesha, ukuba ufuna.

Ekugqibeleni, ukuphefumula kwesigulane kuya kuphelisa ngokupheleleyo kwaye intliziyo yakhe iyayeka ukubetha. Ukufa kuye kwenzeka.

Ngeli nqanaba, umzimba womntu uqalisa ngokukhawuleza iinkqubo zenyama emva kokufa . Oku kubandakanya:

Ukucwangcisa uMngcwabo, iNkonzo yeSikhumbuzo, okanye UkuHlanganisa

Xa umntu othandekayo efa, kukho imisebenzi emininzi ekufuneka abantu basindeyo baphathe ngokukhawuleza kunye nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo eya kufuneka bayifeze kwiintsuku kunye neveki ezilandela ukufa .

Emva kokuba iziphathamandla zenze isimemezelo esisemthethweni sokufa, iintsapho ezisondeleyo okanye umntu osweleyo osondeleyo uya kuqala ukucwangcisa umngcwabo okanye inkonzo yesikhumbuzo , phakathi kweminye imisebenzi emfuneko ephakamileyo. Ukuba umhlobo wakho ulungiselelwe okanye ulungiselele umngcwabo wakhe okanye inkonzo yesikhumbuzo, ngoko kufuneka uqhagamshelane nomnikezeli okhethiweyo ukuba axoxe ngeenkcukacha aze agqibe amalungiselelo.

Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabantu lugwema ukuthetha ngokufa ngexesha lokuphila kwazo ngoko ke ungalokothi ubambe ingxoxo malunga nezifiso zabo zokugqibela kunye nesithandwa, isihlobo okanye umhlobo. Ngaloo ndlela, unokufuna ukuba wenze amalungiselelo ngokupheleleyo kuwe. Isigqibo sokuqala omele ukhethe ukhetha oko ungathanda ukukwenza ngomzimba wakho omthandayo-uhlobo lwesimo sokugqibela. Unokhetho oluninzi:

Iintsapho ezininzi ziya kusebenza nomniki-ngcali, njengomlawuli womngcwabo okanye umbhiyozeli , ngexesha lomngcwabo wenkqubo yokungcwaba ukwenza inkonzo efanelekileyo, enokwenza ukuba abathandekayo bahloniphekileyo baze bawakhumbule abafikile bebanokududuza nokuxhasana. Ngoxa ulungise inkonzo, uya kucelwa ukuba unikele ngolwazi olufunekayo ukubhala umcimbi kwaye ungagqiba ekubeni ubhale kwaye uhambise i-eulogy ngexesha lomngcwabo okanye inkonzo yesikhumbuzo, naye.

Ezinye iindwendwe zikhetha ukulungiselela ezinye iinkonzo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Kule meko, banokukhetha ukwangcwaba ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokukhawuleza okanye ukutshiswa ngokuthe ngqo . Njengomthengi, kufuneka uhlaziye kwaye uqonde i-Federal Trade Commission "yeRhafu yeRhafu," ekhusela amalungelo akho xa uthengisa iimpahla okanye iinkonzo kubanikezeli abathile (ngokuyinxalenye yamakhaya omngcwabo).

Ukujamelana Nokubuhlungu Nokulahlekelwa

Ubuhlungu buyimpembelelo enamandla, emininzi, kwaye kaninzi engalawulwayo abantu abajamelana nayo emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu okanye esibuhlungu, njengokufa komntu othandekayo. Nangona usizi luyimpendulo eyimvelo kwaye iyimfuneko ekulahlekelweni, umntu ngamnye uya kulila ngendlela yakhe kunye nexesha elikhethekileyo.

Nangona uqobo lwabantu beentlungu, abaninzi abanesijwili basoloko bebonisa ukubonakalisa ezinye zeempawu ezilandelayo kwiintsuku, iiveki okanye iinyanga emva kokufa komntu othandekayo:

Nangona kukho ezininzi iingxaki ezingaqhelekanga malunga nentlungu enokwenene inokubangela ukudabuka kunye nokulahlekelwa yilahleko esiyiyo xa sisalila ukufa komntu esimthandayo, akukho mpikiswano yokuba intlungu ingabaphazamisa kakhulu ubomi bethu obuqhelekileyo kunye neziqhelo.

Ukudabuka nentlungu ebangelwa usizi kunokudala imiphumo yangempela emzimbeni wethu, njengengxaki yokugaya inyama, intlungu kunye nokukhathazeka, kunye nokufumana ubunzima okanye ukulahleka. Usenokufumana kunzima ukubuyela emsebenzini wakho okanye kwiofisi xa ulila. Ngenxa yokuba unokuba neengxaki ekucingeni ngokucacileyo ngeli xesha, kukho izigqibo ezininzi zobomi omele ulibazise ukwenza okwesikhashana, ukuba kunokwenzeka.

Azikho "izigaba" zokulila . Endaweni yoko, indlela esabela ngayo ekufeni komntu esimthandayo ngumntu ngamnye kwaye kufuneka sithole iindlela zokujamelana nalo msebenzi. Abanye abantu bakhetha ukulila ngokwabo kwaye abafuni okanye bafuna uncedo olungaphandle. Abanye banokufuna nokufumana induduzo xa bexhamla intlungu, umsindo, ukuxinezeleka kunye nezinye iimvakalelo abazivelayo emva kokulahlekelwa ngokujoyina iqela lokuxhasa abafelweyo kwindawo yabo. Kukho nje "indlela echanekileyo" yokulila.

Ukuba ungathanda ukubonelela kunye nokuthuthuzela ilungu lentsapho elusizi okanye umhlobo, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezinokubakhokelela ekujonganeni nokulahlekelwa kwabo. Nangona kubonakala kunzima ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo okuthuthuzela umntu osilalayo-kwaye abaninzi abantu bathi izinto eziphosakeleyo -kunokuba zithetha ngokwenene , zibonisa ukubonisa uxolo . Kodwa mhlawumbi isipho esibaluleke kakhulu ongayinikela kumntu olila ukufa kukuhlala kwakho okuzolileyo, ukubonakala kunye nokungaqiniseki, ukungaxhasi.

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