Ungayinqoba njani umngeni onzima
Isizathu sokufa sisoloko sivusa ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kubantu. Ukucinga ngabanye abasweleyo kwenza ukuba kwethu ukufa kufumaneke ngokwenene. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abantu abafayo bachithwa kuluntu kwaye bakunqandwa ngabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nosapho.
Ngenxa yoko, kulula ukubona ukuba kutheni izigulane ezininzi ezifa zibika ukuba zodwa kwaye zodwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo uhlobo lokufa abaninzi bethu abanokukhetha.
Ukuzungezwe ngabahlobo kunye nabathandekayo yindlela abaninzi abanokukhetha ngayo ukuchitha iinyanga zethu zokugqibela okanye iintsuku zokugqibela.
Kutheni Kunzima Kangako?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba abantu abaninzi banenkinga enzima yokusebenzisana nomntu ofayo: engafuni ukujamelana nokufa kwabo; ukungabi naso ixesha lokubandakanyeka, kwaye ungenayo iindawo zokugcina iimvakalelo ekujongeni imeko enjalo. Ukuziva unetyala malunga nokuba ngaba bebenokwenza into ekuthintela ukugula, okanye malunga nokuba ubuhlobo babo nomntu osanda kutshanje, kunokubangela ukuba umntu aphephe umntu ofayo.
Xa umntu enenkathazo enxulumene nomntu ofa, ngokusoloko kubonakalisa njengokukhusela, ukuthetha ukuthetha, ubunzima bokugcina amehlo kunye nokugcina umgama. Umntu oza kufa uya kuqonda le miqondiso.
Kukho imiba emininzi enokuba nzima ukujamelana nemeko esele ilukhuni
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba isizathu sokufa sibonwa njengentlalo eyamkelekileyo okanye ingenjalo (oko kukuthi ukungaphumeleli kwentliziyo kunye ne- AIDS )
- Ingaba ukufa kubonakala ngathi "ngexesha" okanye kungabi (ie umntu okhulile nomntwana)
- Apho bafa khona (umzekelo, ikhaya labahlengikazi kunye nekhaya labo)
Ngenxa yokuba bonke abantu bafa ngokuhlukileyo, umntu ofayo angabangela ukukhuselwa okungakumbi ngenxa yenqanaba leentlungu okanye iimpawu ezinzima kunye nendlela abajamelana nayo.
Abanye abantu abasweleyo abanakho ukufuna ukubandakanya iingxoxo ezipheleleyo kodwa bakhethe ukuthetha okufutshane, okufutshane. Ezi zinto zinokunyusa abantu abathandekayo abavakalelwa.
Ukuqhawula i-Gap
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unentsapho kunye nabahlobo abanoyikiyo okanye abangenakunqweneleka ukuba behlala kunye nomhlobo othandekayo. Ngomnye, umntu ofayo uzizwa eshiywe, ekhulile kwaye eyedwa. Sithwala njani i-gap ukuzisa aba bantu? Ukunxibelelana okuvulekileyo kuyindlela elula kunye eyona ndlela ilula yokubhanqa loo gale.
Vumela umntu ofayo ukuba uyazivayo okanye akanakukhathazeka, okanye nayiphi na imvakalelo enayo, kuba baya kuwujonga. Kuya kubatshela ukuba uthatha amanyathelo okuwadlula kwaye ubanike into abayifunayo kakhulu ngeli xesha.
Buza umntu ofayo oko akufunayo okanye alindele kuwe. Abanye abantu abasweleyo baya kufuna ukuthetha ngokukhululekile ngokugula kwabo kunye nokufa kwabo okuzayo . Abanye bayakufuna ukuphepha ukuthetha ngayo kwaye ukhethe ukugxininisa ngakumbi kwiimbali ezinomdla okanye ubomi babo obathandayo. Ukwazi ukuba ngubani umntu ofayo ofuna ukuthetha ngawo ngexesha lokusebenzisana kwakho kuya kuhamba ixesha elide. Abanye abanakufuna ukuthetha nonke kodwa banokufuna ukuba eceleni kwabo babambe isandla sabo, bafunde incwadi okanye bave ukuba bakho ubukho.
Ukunyaniseka malunga noko unokunikela. Ukuba bafuna ukuba utyelele imihla ngemihla kwaye awukwazi ukuwufakela kwishedyuli yakho okanye ungaziva ngathi unako ukujongana nobunzima obunemiqobo , bazise. Batshele into enokuyilindela kuwe, "Ndiyaqonda ukuba ufuna ukuba ndikuvakashele yonke imihla. Ndifuna ukutyelela njengoko ndinako kodwa yonke imihla ayinakukwazi ukuyenza. , NgoLwesithathu, noMgqibelo, kwaye ukuba ndiyakwazi ukulungelelanisa naziphi na iintsuku ezongezelelweyo, ndiya kwenza. " Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungenzi isithembiso esingenakukugcina.
Kwakhona, qiniseka malunga nokuziva ukhululekile ukuthetha. Kungenxa yokuba umntu ofayo ufuna ukuvuleka kwaye angathethekiyo malunga nento eyenzekayo kubo, unganakuziva ukhululekile ukuxoxa ngazo zonke iinkcukacha.
Bazise ukuba ngaba kunjalo. Xa iimfuno zabantu bonke kunye nokulindela zivulekile, inkqubo yokwehliswa ingakwazi ukuqala. Ukufumana indawo apho wonke umntu ukhululekile kwaye ukufumana iimfuno zabo ezidibeneyo kuya kunceda ukusebenzisana nomntu ofayo amava akhethekileyo onokuluxabisa.