U-Elisabeth Kubler-Ross wachaza ukuba abantu bahlala behamba ngezigaba ezicacileyo xa bejamelana nokufa okungenakukuphepha. Ezi zichasayo, umsindo, ingxoxo, ukuxinezeleka, kunye nokwamkelwa. Akuyena wonke umntu ohamba ngawo onke amanqanaba, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayisoloko ehamba, kodwa abantu abaninzi abasweleyo baya kufumana isigaba somsindo kunye nentukuthelo.
Intukuthelo isabela ngokuqhelekileyo kwilahleko enzima.
Umntu ofayo ulahlekelwa yinto yonke kunye nayo yonke into ebalulekileyo kuye. Uziva ephangwa ngukugula kwakhe. Ukuba ukholelwa kummandla ophezulu, unokugxeka uThixo wakhe ngokubangela ukugula kwakhe okanye ukuphilisa. Unokuba noyikrakra intsapho yakhe kunye nabahlobo bakhe ngokuqhubeka bephila ubomi babo xa ephuphuma ngokukhawuleza. Unokuvakalelwa kukuba ugqirha akahambelani naye, abahlengikazi bakhe abaphendulanga iimfuno zakhe ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ihlabathi liye laqala ukulibala.
Ukujongana Neentlungu Zokufa
Intukuthelo iqhutyelwa kwabanye lula, ngoko yinto engokwemvelo ukuba umsindo wakho othandekayo ukhankanywe kuwe. Ukuba ufumana ujongene nomntu onobuhlungu , nasi izicebiso ezintlanu zokukunceda ukuba uncede.
- Ukugcina Ubudlelwane Abadala Abadala: Ngokuqhelekileyo kulula ukuphatha umntu ogulayo njengomntwana; kwimeko yobuntu ukunyamekela nokunyanzelisa abagulayo. Xa uwela kulo mzekelo, into eyayiyakuba ngumntu omdala omdala waba ngumntu omdala. Ukunyanga umntu omdala oza kufa njengoko unokuthi umntwana abuyele kwaye akhulise umsindo umntu ofayo sele evakalelwa. Mhlawumbi uye wawela kule patheni ngaphandle kokuyiqonda, kwaye uya kukhangela umsindo owenzelwe kuwe ukwenjenjalo. Kuphazamiseka kwaye kuhlazisa ngokwaneleyo ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwakho kunye nobumfihlo ngaphandle kokuphathwa njengomntwana. Umntu ofa ngokuqhelekileyo ufuna ukuhlala elawulwa ngokwawo, ubomi babo, kunye nezigqibo zabo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuxhobisa umntu ofayo ukuba enze izigqibo, abonise iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye bahlale bezimeleyo ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo indlela ebalulekileyo yokubanceda bathuthuke umsindo.
- Musa ukuyithatha: Abantu abathukutheleyo bajonga umntu ukuba abeke ityala. Xa umsindo ukhankanywe kuwe, kunzima ukuba ungayithathi kwaye uzibuze, ndenze ntoni na? Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba umntu ofayo akacaphukisi kuwe, kodwa ngenxa yokugula kunye nemeko yakhe ngokubanzi. Nangona ingqumbo yakhe ingabhekiswa kuwe, akuyiyo nayiphi na ityala lakho.
- Jonga Ngendlela Ejonga Ngayo: Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuba wazi kakuhle indlela umntu ovakalelwa ngayo, ukuzama ukubona izinto kwindlela yokujonga ngayo kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba kutheni benza ngendlela ethile. Cinga ngobomi bomntu obhubhayo-wonke umntu omthandayo, izinto azithandayo, umsebenzi awawenzayo, amaphupha ayenayo ngekamva-kwaye ucinge ukuba uphangiwe konke okukulo ubomi obunalo. Xa ndijonge ngale ndlela, akumangalisi ukuba unomsindo. Umi ukulahlekelwa ngumntu wonke kunye nantoni na into eye yathetha into kuye.
- Hamba phambili kwaye Yenza udade ... kwiSifo: Ukuqonda apho umsindo womntu ofayo uvela khona kukunceda ukuba uqaphele ukuba umsindo wakhe ulungile. Ukulungiswa komsindo kwisifo kunokunceda umntu ofayo ahlangabezane neemvakalelo zabo. Kungenokuba luncedo ukuthukuthela umntu ofelayo. Emva kwakho konke, umele ulahlekelwe yinto ethile. Qhubekani niphatheke ngokugula.
- Qondani Ubushushu Olungileyo: Umntu ofayo unokuziva enamahloni, eneentloni, okanye othukile emva kokuvutha komsindo. Unokuthi into enje, "andinakukholwa ukuba ndithe ndatsho njalo. Akunjalo kum. "Usenokucinga into efanayo. Ukuqaphela nokwamkela loo ngqumbo iyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ilungile inokunceda umntu ofayo amkele kwaye ahambe kwinqanaba lomsindo kwinkqubo yokufa. Ukuthetha ngomsindo onobulungisa kunye nokuhlanganyela ekufumaneni iimvakalelo zokulahleka kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
> Imithombo:
> Imvakalelo Njengoko Usondele Ekupheleni koBomi. American Cancer Society. https://www.cancer.org/treatment/end-of-life-care/rearing-the-of-life/emotions.html.
> Wang-Chen R. Ukujongana Nomonde Othukutheleyo. Unxibelelwano lwePalliative Care of Wisconsin. https://www.mypcnow.org/blank-xfjmi.