Indlela yokuthetha noTata wakho ngempilo yakhe

Amadoda amaninzi aphephe ukujongana nemicimbi yabo yempilo ngokukhawuleza

Enoba unomdla wokuba uyihlo unxilise okanye udidekile kukuba ukhawuleza emadolweni agugu kunyaka, ukumkholisa ukuba abone ugqirha unokuba nzima. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uneminyaka elingakanani, kunzima kubazali ukuthatha iingcebiso zezokwelapha ezivela kubantwana babo.

Kodwa, ukuba unenkxalabo ngempilo kabawo, ukuqala ingxoxo kunokumkhuthaza ukuba atshintshe imikhwa yakhe, ubone ugqirha, okanye enze ukunyamekela.

Kuqhelekile ukuba amadoda aphephe ugqirha

Ukuba ukhathazekile ngenxa yokuba ubaba wakho wenqaba ukubona ugqirha, awuyedwa. Amadoda amaninzi ayenqabe ukuya kwiimviwo zonyaka kwaye azilibazise unyango lweengxaki ngokukhawuleza.

Uphando olwenziwa ngo-2014 olwenziwa ngamaZiko okuLawulwa kweNtsholongwane kunye nokuThinjwa lufumene ukuba amadoda anesiqingatha sokubona ugqirha ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-2 ngokuthelekiswa nabasetyhini. Amadoda nawo angaphezu kwamathathu amaninzi ukukhusela ugqirha iminyaka engaphezu kwe-5.

Amadoda aphindaphindiwe kabini ukuba athi awazange abone uchwepheshe wezempilo njengomdala.

Ngokudabukisayo, kuyaqhelekile ukuba amadoda afake amandla amaninzi ekukhuseleni i-ofisi yegqirha, kunokunyamekela impilo yabo.

Kutheni Abantu Abafuni Ukubona Udokotela

Nangona utata wakho unokukwazi ukubhala izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni akhathalelekanga ngempilo yakhe, unethuba elihle lokugubungela ukuhlazeka kunye noloyiko.

Uphando lwesizwe olwenziwa yi-Orlando Health Hospital luchaze izizathu eziphezulu zokuba amadoda angavumi ukumbona ugqirha:

Ngoko ngelixa ngaphandle koyihlo unokuthetha into enjengaleyo, "Akukho nto ingaboniyo xa ebona ugqirha," unokuziva ekhululekile ngokuya kwi-aphoyintimenti. Isimo sakhe esinenkani esinokuyinyaniso singayindlela yakhe yokugubungela ubunzima bakhe.

Amadoda Akunakwenzeka Ukuthetha NgeMpilo Yabo

Oogqirha ayilona nto kuphela abantu abayiphepheyo. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba amadoda amaninzi akayi kuthetha nangempilo yabo-kungekhona nabahlobo babo besilisa.

Uphando lwe-2016 yi-Clinic yaseCleveland lubone ukuba ama-53 ekhulwini lamadoda athi akathethi ngemicimbi yezempilo.

Xa bephakamisa impilo yabo, ngokuqhelekileyo baziqhayisa malunga nendlela abafumana ngayo ukulimala kwabo. Ngako-ke, ngelixa enye indoda ingabelana ngezicathulo ezithe zafunyanwa xa iprojekthi yokuphucula ikhaya ingaphumeleli, omnye unokuziqhayisa ngesangqa esaphukileyo.

Uphando lwafumanisa ukuba iipesenti ezingama-22 zamadoda azizange zixubushe ngezihloko zempilo nabani na-kuquka nabatshati kunye nabantwana. I-Baby Boomers babecala ngakumbi, kunye neepesente ezingama-29 kuphela zithi banabantu abangaphezu komnye abakwazi ukuthetha nabo ngemiba yabo. Amawaka e-Millennial avulekileyo, kunye nama-47 ekhulwini athetha ukuba banabantu abangaphezu komnye abathethayo ngempilo yabo.

Ngoko abantu bathetha ntoni xa behlangana?

Uphando lufumene ukuba banokukwazi ukuxoxa ngeziganeko ezikhoyo, ezemidlalo kunye nomsebenzi.

Iingcebiso zokuthetha noTata malunga neMpilo yakhe

Ngaphambi kokuba uphumelele kwingxoxo kunye nobawo, sebenzisa ixesha elide ucinga malunga nendlela yokuhamba ngayo isihloko. Yenza kucacise ukuba uvela kwindawo yothando kwaye ukhupha umba ngenxa yokuba uxhalabile ngokuphila kwakhe. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuthetha nobawo ngempilo yakhe:

Amacandelo okuPhepha

Kukhona ithuba elihle uza kuziva udidekile-kwaye uloyiko-xa ubaba wakho engayinyamekeli impilo yakhe. Kodwa musa ukuvumela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zibe ngcono kuwe.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uziva ucinga kangakanani, thintela izicwangciso ezilandelayo:

Yintoni ongayenza kwiimeko ezininzi

Ukuba ukuziphatha kukayihlo kungasondelanga, akufanele uyenze. Ukuba naye unamandla okuhamba ngaphakathi kwevenkile ukuze athenge i-cigarettes yakhe, akudingeki ukuba uthenge ngaye. Okanye, xa ekucela ukuba uthabathe ukutya ngokukhawuleza endleleni yakho, awubophekanga ukuba wenze.

Kunoko, cacisa ukuba awuyi kuthatha inxaxheba ekunciphiseni kwempilo yakhe. Ingaba yintetho enzima ukuyenza, kodwa inokuba yimpembelelo ekumtshintsheni ukuba atshintshe.

Khawukhumbule ukuba olo tshintsho alinakwenzeka ngobusuku. Uyihlo uya kufuneka afike kwisigqibo sokuthi ufuna ukuzinyamekela kangcono phambi kokuba akwazi ukudala utshintsho oluhlala ixesha elide.

> Imithombo

> Amaziko okuLawula nokuSithintela izifo: iNgcaciso yeNtshwankathelo yezeMpilo kaZwelonke . 2014.

> Iklinikhi yaseCleveland: Ucwaningo lweKlinikhi yaseCleveland luqinisekisa ukuba abantu bahlala bethetha ngeMpilo yabo Ngamanye. Agasti 2016.

> Health Orlando. "Uphando lufumanisa ukuba kutheni amadoda amaninzi aphephe ukutyelela oogqirha: oogqirha ababini baqhuba umgama ukuya kumanxweme ngomyalezo kumadoda: Yeka ukwenza izizathu!" I-ScienceDaily, 9 Juni 2016.