Ngaba wakha wava abantu bekrazula imimiselo njengemigqaliselo yembali yamandulo? Yenza umehluko omncinci kubo ukuba amasiko ahlala eMpuma, eNtshona, ekhuselekileyo, okanye enobuninzi. Abantu benza ingxabano yokuba nangona ezi ziphathekayo zingaba zihle kwaye zidlulileyo, azibalulekanga kubomi namhlanje. Akukho nto inokuthi ihambe kwi nyaniso, ingakumbi kubanakekeli abakhonza ababathandayo abanezifo ezingapheliyo okanye eziqhubekayo.
Kubo, ukusetyenziswa kwamasiko kunokuba sisixhobo esibalulekileyo kwi-arsenal yabo enceda umntu onyamekelayo kunye nabo.
Isithethe kunye nokuBaluleka kweMbali
Umkhadikhadi uTheodore McCarrick waseWashington, DC wayekholelwa ngokusemthethweni, iimpawu kunye nemikhuba yayiyimfuneko ebomini yabantu abangazange bakwazi ukufunda. Abo ba lawula uluntu kwaye babesetyenzisiweyo nokusebenzisa izithethe zokufundisa nokufundisa abantu. Ukulawula kunye nemfundo kunokucacisa ukuba kutheni imikhosi ibalulekile ngexesha lexesha elide, kodwa uyichaza njani amandla okuqhubeka ngawo ngo-2016? Kwaye kubaluleke nakakhulu, ngaba ukusetyenziswa kwesithethe kubangelwa nantoni na?
Izithethe zonqulo nezangezona zonqulo ezisijikelezile zisuka kwiivumo zamaKatolika ukuya kudlala ingoma yesizwe ekuqaleni kwemicimbi yezemidlalo. Kuthiwani malunga nesithethe esiqakathekileyo esinqumla yonke imigca yonqulo kunye neyeyona yonqulo?
Kwaye kutheni abantu abanonophelo bafanele bayifumene?
Into enokuyenza: Ulibale ngobudlelwane obunokuthi lunokuba nolunqulo lwenkolo. Ukubaluleka kwayo kukuthi ingaba nomsebenzi ontle ekukhathaleleni kwakho. Njengabanonophelo, awugcini nje ngokunyamekela iimfuno zomzimba zomntu, kodwa uzama ukuvalela iimvakalelo zabo.
Ukuhluka okubalulekileyo ekunyamekelweni kukulahlekelwa ngumntu ofumana izifo ezingapheliyo, ezinzima okanye eziqhubekayo. Ngaloo lahleko liza ukuphulwa kwexesha elidlulileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo iziganeko ezimnandi zisakhunjulwa. Unokubhanqa ikhefu phakathi kokulahlekelwa kunye noko kwakunokwenzeka ngokusebenzisa amasiko. Ukudibanisa nexesha elidlulileyo akunakunomvuzo njengoko usenako ukwenza imisebenzi yangaphambi kokugula, kodwa kungcono kunokuhlala kwiilahleko.
Ritual and Outsiders
Imibutho emininzi ineemasiko kunye nemikhosi eyahlula phakathi kwamanye amaqela. Sifumana ezi ndawo kwi-Moose's Lodge kwakunye neengcambu zedrato. Ingaba umntu ungumongameli weqela elinobuchule elizinikele ekuncedeni abantwana abahluphekileyo okanye abatsha abangamalungu omqhubi wesithuthuthu abanomdla kwimisebenzi engekho mthethweni; Iingcamango zihlukanisa amalungu alo "ngaphandle." Zihluke njani iintlobo zeengcambu zezitalato 'zokugqoka imibala kuneStriner's Fez?
Isiko lendlela yokuthi sitshathile, sisodwa. Ingabandakanya iinqweba ezityhusekileyo zeMasons, ukusetyenziswa kwamathambo kwi-Odd Fellow initiations okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kobundlobongela ilungu elitsha legazi lezilwanyana kulindeleke ukuba lihlangane nomlingani. Nangona akukho nanye into efana neyokuqokwa kwamanye amazwe ekunakekeleni-ngaphandle kweyunifomu yomnakekeli oqeqeshiweyo-ukubaluleka kukuqonda ukuba isithethe senza ukuba umntu anakekelwe uncedo olukhethekileyo .
Isithethe singenza i-twist emihle Kwilizwe elidlulayo lomntu onokugula okungapheliyo okanye okuqhubekayo kudala ukuzimela. Omnye umncedisi wandixelela ukuba endaweni yokuzama ukukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba isimo sakhe sengqondo asizange sihlukane naye, wasebenzisa indawo yokuzimela ukuze enze indawo enezoxolo. Njalo ngemini waqokelela iposi, kwaye kunye nomyeni wakhe bawagxotha yonke into ephumayo kwi-fireplace eyayingabalulekanga ebomini bakhe. Umdlalo wavutha amaphepha kwaye bobabini bavuya ngokunciphisa into eyayingabalulekanga ebomini babo. Ukutshisa i-junk mail kwaba yinto eyabathuthuzela bobabini.
Oko Okumele Uyenze: Kubonakala kungenakudinga ukuzukisa imeko yonyango njengento engakhokelela kwimvakalelo emihle. Ukudala iziphathamandla eziqhelekileyo ezivela kwisifo okanye izifo azixhomekiyo okanye zingenangqiqo. Kunoko, isenzo sigxile kwizinto ezintle kwiimeko ezibuhlungu ezinokuthi zivelise iimvakalelo ezakhayo njengoko kwenza isigulane esasikhupha i-mail yangasese. Thatha ingxaki echaphazelekayo malunga nesimo somntu obathandayo kwaye wenze ukuziphatha okunokwenziwa komsebenzi okunganciphisa imiphumo emibi.
Amandla eSithethe kunye neDlulileyo
Imikhuba ingenza ukudibanisa kunye nexesha elidlulileyo elincomekayo, elivuyisayo, okanye eliduduzayo kunelo likhoyo kwizinto ezikhoyo. Umbhali, uRobert Penn Warren wathi imbali ayinakusinika iprogram yekamva, kodwa inokusinika ukuqonda okupheleleyo kwethu kunye noluntu lwethu oluqhelekileyo.
Isithethe siqhagamshelana nomlando wethu. Inokuba yinto yonqulo ngendlela yokutshintshisa ukubonakaliswa komfanekiso ohloniphekileyo okanye i-antics yokukholelwa kwiintliziyo zebalandeli bebhola ezilungiselela ukubetha ibhola. Amandla oqhagamshelwano kunokuba imvelaphi yonqulo okanye engekho yonqulo ibaluleke kakhulu.
Kwiminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, ndabuyela kwidolophu encinci yeMpuma yasePennsylvania apho ndakhula khona. Ingatshintshi yayingumdlalo we-movie owawuhamba kuyo yonke iMgqibelo emva kwemini efihle ubuso bam xa bekubonakala uDracula kwaye ehlabelela ngo-Hopalong Cassidy njengoko wadubula isibhamu esandleni somntu ongendawo ngaphandle kokumlimaza.
Nge-10: 00 ekuseni ndifumene umphathi weqonga lokulungiselela ukuboniswa kwemini. Ndambuza ukuba kuya kwenzeka yini ukuhambahamba kwiholo apho ndafumana ezinye zezihlandlo ezimnandi kakhulu njengomntwana. "Kakade," watsho.
Xa ndihamba ngaphesheya kwimilo yokuphucula, ndakhumbula ukuthenga amazinyo-ukubola i-candy kunye ne-popcorn ezingamaqhekeza angachangekanga ahlala ebambe ithuba lokutyhawula amazinyo am. Ndangena emnyango wokungena ngakwesobunxele, ndahamba ngenyameko, kwaye kwakukho isihlalo sam esiyithandayo ekupheleni komqolo we-8 ndahlala kwiminyaka engaphezu kwama-60 edluleyo. Njengoko ndahlala kuyo, imifanekiso yam yexesha elidlulileyo yamkhukula ingqondo yam: Abbot ne Costello, Hopalong Cassidy, uBuck Rogers kunye ne-Our Gang Kids. Ukungaphumeleli kwasasazeka ngeenyosi zeJu Ju ezazingabamba iintambo zam ezinqiniweyo phantsi.
Kwakuyinkohlakalo nje enamandla njengeMisa yamaKatolika, izila ukudla kwi-Yom Kipper yamaYuda, okanye icela iBhudhist kathathu ukuba ibonge. Amandla okwenziwa kweso sihlandlo ngokukhawuleza yayilingana naluphi na inxulumene nenkolo; undikhuphe kwiindawo ezibalulekileyo ebomini bam. Abanakekeli bangasebenzisa imimiselo edibanisa nokudlulileyo kumntu omthandayo ukudala ingqiqo yoxolo njengoko yenzayo kumntu oneminyaka engama-80 ubudala owayengumalungu osisiseko esaziwayo eselwandle esaziwayo ngasentshonalanga.
Wayevalelwe embhedeni kwindawo yokukhathalela. Ngodonga kunye neenxa zonke egumbini, bekumememorabilia ukusuka kwimihla yakhe yesithuthuthu ukususela ngo-1950 ukuya ku-2015. Kwakukho imifanekiso, iikhopi, iimpahla zokugqithisa kunye neengcambu ezincinci. Wachaza ukuba waqala imihla ngemihla ngokutyelela ebomini bakhe, eqala ngemifanekiso yakhe ngesithuthuthu xa wayeneminyaka eli-15 ubudala kwaye waphela umfanekiso owathathwayo kwiintlanganiso zakhe zokugqibela.
Into enokuyenza: Uninzi lweziganeko zokukhathalela ziquka ukuthuthuzela abantu abalahlekelwe into ebalulekileyo ebomini babo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubandakanye umsebenzi okanye amandla anokulahleka okanye ekugqibeleni. Ininzi yethu yazi ukuba yintoni elahlekile ayikwazi ukufunyanwa (umz., Ukusebenzisa i-marathons kumntu onesifo se-muscular diserative). Nangona kunjalo iziganeko ezikhunjulwayo ezinxulumene nezikhundla ezilahlekileyo zingabuyiselwa kumasiko. Qala ngokuqokelela ukudibanisa kwekhonkrithi (umz., Iinqwelo zegalufa, iiklabhu zegalufu ezikhethekileyo, njl.). Emva koko uyisebenzise njengesiseko sokudala isithethe.
Isithethe kunye neNje
Isithethe sinokubonelela nokuvalwa kwesi sikhoyo. Iminyaka embalwa edluleyo ndaya kumbhiyozo womhlobo wokudlula uLabrador Retriever. Wayejikelezwe ngeentyantyambo, isiqhumiso kunye nabahlobo bekhumbula izihlandlo ezimnandi kunye naye. Iimfundiso zam umhlobo wam wadala ukuhlonela ubomi bakhe inja zibangele imembulelo enhle kubahlobo bakhe ababeye kulo mthendeleko kunokuba bahlala kwindawo engummangaliso eyashiya ebomini bakhe.
Into enokuyenza: Njengomnakekeli kumntu onesifo esibi okanye esiqhubekayo, unokujamelana nokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Unokuqiniseka ukuba uya kubuyela, okanye uyaqiniseka ukuba uya kulahleka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukunyanzeliswa, unokudala iziganeko ezilungileyo. Unokwenza imemori ecacileyo kwaye imnandi ukususela nantoni na.
Xa umntakwabo wayesweleka, intsapho yayiza kubuthela embhedeni wakhe kunye kunye siyakhumbula ezinye zexesha elihle kakhulu esinaye. Wayegxininisa ibali, ehlala ecela ukuba sikhumbule iziganeko ezilungileyo ebomini bakhe. Kwiminyaka emininzi emva kokufa kwakhe, kwiiholide ezininzi, siza kuxela amabali ngokungathi sisaphinda sisekho. Esi siko sasisondeza kuye kwaye saqhubeka silahlekelwa yilahleko.
Isiphelo
Phantse yonke into esiyifumanayo igcinwa njengezikhumbuzo ngendlela ethile. Ezinye iziganeko zigcinwa ngokungathi zingabonakaliswa iiplati zezithombe ezizenzekelayo ezinokungatshintshi okanye kungekho nto ebonwayo. Abanye bazimisele ukudala imifanekiso yezinto esazange sibone kodwa sasifisa ukuba sinakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba icacile okanye iphosakele imemori, igcinwa, ilinde ukubizwa ngeemeko, amagama, okanye iingcamango.
Ngokudala imicimbi emihle sinika induduzo kumntu esiyinyamekelayo, kwaye sibeka isigaba sokudibanisa kwixesha elizayo kunye nenkumbulo yomntu esimthandayo.
Isithethe sisiganeko esibalulekileyo sengqondo esisebenzele, okwangoku sisebenzela, kwaye siza kuqhubeka sikhonza isidingo esisisiseko sobomi: Sidibanisa nathi esidlulileyo kwaye sisigxeka kwangoku. Ukuzicima kuyo, uzinqamle kwiimbali zethu uze usishukumisele ukuba simele sodwa kwikhoyo. Yamukela isithethe kwaye uyisebenzise ukuze uzuze umntu onokumkhathalela kwaye unikele isiseko esihlala sisigxina sezinkumbulo zakho.