Abantu abaphila ngesifo esisongela ubomi bavame ukuva amagama avela kubanakekeli abanjengathi "Masibe nethemba lokulungileyo," okanye "Musa ukukhathazeka, yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo." Emva koko amazwi awona macebo angcono. Sibona intlungu yengqondo esiyithandayo, kwaye sifuna ukunciphisa. Siba ngabahlali beentlanzi, sikholelwa ukuba ukunyanzela ithemba lomthandayo kuyinzuzo.
Emva koko, sibona intlungu yabo ngoku , kunye neengcamango zekamva zibe zesekondari. Ngelishwa, ukubonelelwa ngokukhawuleza kunokuncedisa ubuninzi bezempilo yengqondo yomntu omthandayo. Nazi izizathu ezine zokuba kutheni ungafanele ube yinto yokuhlaziya.
I-Cheerleading May ingonakalisa iTrust
Umntu onyamekelwayo kufuneka athembele umnakekeli wakhe kuba ulwalamano luyinto yokuxhomekeka. Ukuba nethemba kuvela kwizinto ezininzi kubandakanywa izivakalisi ezifana "ungakhathazeki, uya kuba ngcono." Ukuthembela kuxhomekeke ekuthandeni komntu othandekayo ukutyhila ubungozi bakhe kunye nokunyaniseka okunyanisekileyo komnakekeli othembekileyo.
Umfazi womntu onomdlavuza wesisu esisisigxina wamqinisekisa ukuba uya kulwa nokugula. Inkolelo yakhe emathuba akhe okusinda ayithandanga nantoni, kuba umyeni wakhe oncologist wayecacile ukuba umhlaza awuphilwanga. Njengowesifazane othembekileyo ngokwenene, uncike ekukholweni kwakhe.
Umyeni wakhe, owayengenayo inkolo wayefuna ukumkholelwa. Wayekela ulondolozo; wayekulindele ukufa.
Njengoko umhlaza waqhubela phambili, kwacaca ukuba amaqiniso ayengacacisa. Umdlavuza wakhe waba nzima nangona imithandazo eyayithethwa ngumfazi wayo. Inkqubela yomhlaza yayingeyona nje kuphela ingcinezelo yendoda, kodwa iphakamisa nemiba yokuthembela.
Ukuba wayenokuphosakela malunga nokugxekwa kwam, yintoni na enye into ayiphakamisayo? Njengoko izifo ziqhubeka, izigqibo ezibalulekileyo zijongene nokukhetha okunjalo phakathi kweenkqubo ezahlukeneyo zonyango nokuba ngaba unyango lufanele luqhubeke.
Ukuba izithengiso zokuzalisa zizaliseka, ukuthembela kuyakhuliswa. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni ukuba izinto zingaphenduki njengoko zichazwe? Kwenzeka ntoni kulwalamano xa imeko oqinisekisileyo ukuba umyeni wakho uya kuzinza, akunjalo? Ukukhululeka ayekuvelele kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kuncipha njengoko imeko yakhe iqhubeka. Ngelishwa, yintoni eyayiqala njengesitatimende esihle ukukwenza ukuba azive ngakumbi, waphenduka waba ngumzekelo weso sokuba igama lomnakekeli lingathembeki.
Into enokuyenza: Ithemba lakho lokumisa okanye ukuguqulwa kwesifo esibi kufuneka sifaneleke. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngokuthemba ummangaliso. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uzigcinele ezo ngcamango, ukuba kungabikho nanye isizathu ngaphandle kweengxaki zokubuyisela. Ubungakanani bokuba ubiza umntu othandayo kufuneka kube nengqiqo . Umzekelo, ungamxeleli umhlobo wakho owaziyo ukuba uya kuphila kwinqanaba lomhlaza wesifo somdlavuza we-pulmonary when the figures of health say that he will not. Kunoko gxila kwizinto azakukwazi ukwenza ngexesha elifutshane (umzekelo, ukuvakashela izalamane ngosuku olulandelayo).
Ukuba unokuhlakulela ukuthembela kwangaphambili, wakho umthandayo uya kuba lula ukuphulaphula icebiso lakho xa kufuneka kubekho izigqibo ezinzima.
I-Cheerleading Inokuthintela iingxoxo ezibalulekileyo
Sivame ukuzama ukuphepha iingxoxo ezinzima . Ezinye ziquka imiba yokuphela kwempilo; Abanye baquka ukuguqula indlela yokuphila ngenxa yobume obuqhubekayo nokuqhubekayo bokugula. Abanomdla bahlala befuna ukuphepha iingxoxo ezinzima zokuthi isifo sichaphazela njani umthandayo okanye umcimbi wokuphela kokuphila. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba impilo yomthandayo iya kuphucula okanye ixesha elide lokuxoxa ngezihloko ezinzima lenza okuncinci ngaphandle kokulungelelanisa umntu kwixesha elizayo.
Kukho izinto ezininzi ebomini esinqwenela ukuziphepha, okanye ubuncinane ukuyeka. Ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane okanye isitayela sokuphila ngenxa yokugula kuphezulu kwoluhlu, kuphela ukuxoxwa ngeengxoxo zokugqibela. Sekunjalo, iminyaka yokulala i-bedside hospitell service inike ukuba ndiqonde ukuba le miba ingaphazamisa ukufa okunokuthula. Ukuzama ukujongana nemibandela yokubulela, ukuzisola, ukuxolelwa kunye nefa elikufutshane nokuphela kobomi okanye xa ukugula kugqithekile kunzima. Kungcono kakhulu ukujongana nabo ngokukhawuleza.
Umyeni waqhubeka ephazamiseka xa umfazi wakhe ofumene unesifo senhliziyo esinqabileyo wayefuna ukuthetha ngekamva lakhe. Wayeyazi kakuhle ukuba lesi sifo sasiqhubela phambili kwaye singakapheli unyaka, ukusinda kwakhe kwakuza kusongelwa. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo waqala ukuthetha nomyeni wakhe malunga neengxaki ezingaphendululwayo zangaphambili, ukutshintsha kwangoku kwindlela yokuphila, kunye nekamva eliqhutyelwe kuzo zombini. Wayemisa ukuzama ukuzama ukuxoxa ngale miba enzima. "Andifuni ukuthetha ngale nto," watsho. "Sinexesha elininzi lokuxoxa ngazo." Akazange akholelwe ukuba wayenexesha elininzi, kodwa ingcamango yokuphila ngaphandle kwakhe yayingenakuyithwala.
Ngelishwa, ukungafuni kwakhe ukujamelana nokunyaniseka kwanciphisa ithuba lomfazi wakhe kunye naye ukuba aqale iingxoxo ezinzima ezinokubangela ukuba ukufa kwakhe kufinyeleleke lula. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuxilongwa kwakhe, intliziyo yakhe yanda kakhulu. Njengoko imeko yakhe yayinzima, ngokunjalo wakwazi ukuthetha nomyeni wakhe ekubeni wayehlala ephelelwe amandla, kwaye kugxininiswe nokuhamba kwegazi ekunciphiseni.
Into enokuyenza: Musa ukulinda ukuxoxa ngezinto ezibalulekileyo, nangona uqinisekile ukuba umthandayo uya kusinda kwisifo sakhe. Kukho ilizwi lamaBuddha, "Ngomso okanye ngonaphakade, asisoze sazi ukuba ngubani oya kuvela kuqala." Akudingeki ukuba uxoxe ngezinto zonke kanye. Thatha isihloko esinye ngexesha. Ngokuqala ekuqaleni, kuya kuba namathuba amaninzi okugqiba ingxoxo.
I-Cheerleading Awuyi kuxhasa
Inkxaso ayisoloko imele ibe yindlela yethemba. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isenzo esinokuxhasa kakhulu sinokumkela into efunyenwe ngumthandayo. Omnye umthengi wandixelela ukuba isiganeko esihle kunazo zonke ehambo lwakhe lwangumyeni wakhe wayebambe isandla sakhe ngeli xesha elibuhlungu.
Sivame ukucinga ukuba kuxhasa ukunyaniseka kweemeko zesimo somzimba, nangona iifayili zibonisa ukuba amathuba okubuyiselwa aphantsi. Ukucinga kukuba, "Ndiyazi ukuba esi sigulo sibuhlungu kangakanani, kodwa ukuba ndiyakwazi ukumnika ngisho nexesha elincinci lokuphumla, kungafanelekile ukungazibali iinyani."
Ukuba unika inkxaso, cinga ngamathuba amabini amaxesha: elifutshane kunye nexesha elide. Ewe, kukho ixabiso elifutshane elifutshane ekuphuculeni ithemba. Othandekayo uxinezelekile, kwaye uzama ukumkhupha ngaphandle kwalo ngcamango ecacileyo. Nangona inokuthi isebenze ixesha elifutshane, ukudakumba okungenzeka xa uthanda umntu uyaqonda ukuba akayi kuphucula, ingaba nzima.
Into enokuyenza: Yinyamekela iinjongo ezifanelekileyo. Gxininisa kwenkxaso yento oyaziyo ukuba uyakwazi ukuyenza. Ngokomzekelo, ngokuhluleka kwentliziyo yesibindi, ingcamango yokuqeqesha uhambo olusandul 'uhambo olungenayo ingqiqo, kodwa loo nto yayiyinjongo yomntu ondikhathalelayo ndicebisa. Kwaye ngoxa wayeqala ukuphakamisa umthandi wakhe, waxinezeleka xa uqeqesho lwakhe lugqitywa emva kweentsuku ezimbini. I-short-term euphoria eyayifumaneka ngokucinga ukuba yayingasemva kwesikhwama, yayigxininiswe yinkxalabo yexesha elide xa yaqonda ukuba injongo ayizange ibe neyengqiqo. Okubi nakakhulu, waba ngumbungqangi womfazi wakhe ukuqonda oko wayekwazi ukwenza. Gxila kwizinto ezinokuthi zenzeke, ezinjengekhono lokunyuka ngaphandle kwinqanaba lokulala.
I-Cheerleading Inokuthi ibhujiswe
Omnye wandibuza into ephila nomdlavuza iminyaka elishumi elinesithathu ifana, engazange azi ukuba eso sifo siya kuhlala silawulwa. Ndathi, "Kufana nokuphonswa kwi-movie ye-horror movie yase-1950 apho uyazi izinto ezimbi ziza kwenzeka, kodwa awazi ukuba ziza kwenzeka nini." Abantu abaninzi abanezifo ezingapheliyo okanye ezigulana bazikhumbuza iingcinga ngexesha elililo xa Ingqondo igcina oko bazama ukuyiqeda yonke imini. Liza kubuya nini? Ngaba iya kuba nzima kakhulu? Ndiya kulahleka nini na izinto endithandayo?
Ephambili kwiintlobo ezininzi zezi ngcamango kubakho ukungazinzi. Izifo ezingapheliyo kunye nezigulane azigulanga. Ziyaqhubeka kwaye ziyakushintsha ukuthanda kwakho ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Ukukhubazeka ngokuqhelekileyo kuyinxalenye yezifo ezininzi ezingapheliyo nezigulane. Akukho nto ihlala efana nokuhamba kwezifo.
I-Cheerleading ebonisa inkolelo ukuba imeko izinzile ibeka ithemba elithembekileyo kumntu wakho othandekayo. Ucela ukuba akholelwe ukuba yonke into iya kubuyela "kwi-keel" okanye ubuncinci. Sekunjalo, siyazi ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuzinza kuyinqabile. Kubalulekile ukuqinisa ingcamango yokuba ubunzima bento yonke eseleyo yimeko yeyona nto iyancinci.
Umntu onomdlavuza wamaphaphu wayenzima ukuzamkela utshintsho oluqhubekayo ekuziphatheni kwakhe ngokomzimba njengoko umhlaza waqhubeka. Ubomi bakhe baba yintlaninge yeziganeko eziphazamisayo. Ngaphambi kokugula, wayehlala edibana nabahlobo bakhe ngeefesi nganye ekuseni. Ngoku, ezinye iintsuku, wayengenawo amandla okuqhuba imoto yakhe yokutyela. Kwaye ukwenza amalungiselelo okuya emacimbini waba ngumkhuhlane. Umfazi wakhe wamqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba izinto ziya kutshintsha, xa imeko yakhe "izinzile." Yayiyindlela yokumqinisekisa ukuba ubomi buya kubuya kwinto evamile. Ukuba akuzange kwenzeke.
Into enokuyenza: Ukuzinza kuyimeko engaqhelekanga enezifo ezinzima kunye nezifo ezingapheliyo. Nangona imeko yomntu omthandayo ezinzileyo, isimo sakhe sengqondo sihlala sithinteka yilahleko esele ihlupheke ngayo. Esikhundleni sokuzenza ngathi ubuyisele kwisimo esizinzileyo, lungiselela umhlobo wakho ukuba ahlangabezane nokungazinzi kweziganeko ezinzima kunye nezifo ezingapheliyo.
ILizwi
Sonke sifuna izinto ezilungileyo kubathandekayo bethu, nangona iinjongo zingenakukwazi ukufezekisa. Iingcamango zethu zihlala zijolise kwiinzuzo ezifutshane zezinto esizenzayo size singayihoyi imiphumo yexesha elide. Inkxaso kufuneka ijolise kwiimpembelelo ezifutshane kunye nexesha elide. Iinkolelo akufanele zinyamekele ukunyaniseka.