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Ukuba umthandayo unayo i- Alzheimer okanye enye ingqondo, uyazi kakuhle iintsikelelo kunye nemingeni yokuba ngumnakekeli. Kodwa ukunikela ngononophelo olungcono, ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukubekela eceleni ixesha lokumisa kwaye uhlolisise oko kufuneka kwaye akufanele uyenze. Ngaba uyazibona naziphi na ezi zinto?
- Yeka ukubeka izinto ezingalindelekanga. Ingaba uzama ukuphuma endlwini ngexesha, ukhumbule apho umthandayo obeka khona iziglasi okanye ukulandela izikhombisi-ndlela ezininzi, qwa lasela oko ukulindele ukuba umthandayo enze. Yeka ukumlindela ukuba akwazi ukwenza konke ayenjalo, njalo. Ngaloo mgca wecinga (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unomngeni onzima nakakhulu): Yiba neyona nto ufunayo yona.
- Yeka ukuphepha imibuzo enzima. Ngamanye amaxesha, kulula kumsebenzi omfutshane ukungazi iimpendulo kumbuzo onzima. Kodwa njengoko siqhubeka nomendo, ukubonelela kwangaphambili kuya kubonisa ukuba luncedo kakhulu. I-Alzheimer isifo esiqhubekayo; ukucwangcisa phambili kunokunceda. Nazi iinkalo ezimbalwa ezilula ukungayithobeli kodwa kufanele ziqwalaselwe:
- Ukuba ubona iimpawu ze-Alzheimer okanye enye ingqondo yomntu othandayo , musa ukuwutyeshela olo tshintsho. Ukuhlamba intloko yakho entlabathi akuyikuguqula imeko, kwaye ukungahambi kunyango lwe-Alzheimer kungabangela ukuba isifo siphumelele ngokukhawuleza.
- Funda konke unokukwazi ngesifo se-Alzheimer kunye noko ukulindela.
- Thetha nomhlobo wakho malunga noko akufunayo kwixesha elizayo. Kungaba nzima ukuxoxa ngalezi zinto, kodwa uya kukwazi ukuzithemba kwiinqunto zakho, ukwazi ukuba wenza oko akufunayo ukuba wenze. Ezi ngxoxo mazibandakanye iindlela zokunyamekela xa isifo sakhe siqhubeka, amandla egqwetha kunye nokuhlala-aya kukhetha.
- Yeka ukucinga ukuba akukho mntu uyaziqonda. Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha unqwenela ingxoxo nomntu ophakathi kwamatye? Akukho mathandabuzo. Kodwa ukuba loo mntu ayifumaneki lula okanye exakeke kakhulu kule mijelo enzima ukuxhuma, nika omnye umntu uzame. Nangona bengenakuqonda ngokupheleleyo kumava apho uvela khona, banokuzuzwa ukuba bavelele. Musa ukukopela umntu weli thuba lokuba ngumhlobo wakho ngenxa yokuba wenze ukucinga ukuba abanakuyiqonda imingeni ojongene nayo.
- Yeka ukuzama ukwenza yedwa. Sonke sivile le nto, kunjalo? Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukwenza. Nazi izizathu ezimbalwa esizibambelelayo kwi "I-inokwenza-ngokwami" kwaye unqande uncedo:
- Abanye bangenakufumaneka okanye bazimisele ukukunceda. Kodwa khumbula: Kukho iindlela zokunakekelwa kwekhaya ekhaya ongakuqwalasela , kunye namaqela enkxaso kunye nezibonelelo zoluntu ezikhoyo kubantu abane-Alzheimer's.
- Mhlawumbi usetyenziselwa ekubeni ngumntu othembekileyo. Kulungile, kodwa kanye emva kokukhawuleza kufuneka uvumele ukuhamba kwezinto ukuze uqhubeke usebenza kakuhle ebomini. Cinga ngonyango lokukhusela; cwangcisa uncedo olunye kanye ngexesha.
- Mhlawumbi wenza isithembiso sokunyamekela umthandayo. Khumbula ukuba lesi siqinisekiso asifunanga ukuba wenze yedwa. Unako ukugcina eso sithembiso kwaye uncedo oluthile, kwakhona.
- Yeka ukubanjelwa intyala. Ukhona apho, kunene? Iingcamango zokuthi "ndimbolekisile" okanye "Ekugqibeleni ndiqeshe uncedo, umncedisi wayethusa" okanye "Nguwomsebenzi wam, kwaye ngaphandle koko, wanyamezela kakhulu kum." Iphulo lethu kunye nokunyanzela inembopheleleko kunokusifaka entolongweni. Qaphela ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuhlonipha nokuthanda umntu kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, ulungise ixesha elide. Kwaye "ngexesha elide" ndibhekisela kumgama omzimba kunye nokuhlukana kwengqondo kunye nomoya. Akwamkelekanga kuphela ukwenza oku, kubulumko. Akuthethi ukuba unomdla kumntu wakho othandekayo nangaphantsi.
- Yeka ukucinga ukuba umthandayo akanakho ukuthatha inxaxheba kuyo naziphi na izigqibo. Kungaba lula ukulibala ukuthetha nobawo malunga neengcamango zakhe okanye ukhetho lwakhe. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu onomdemokhrasi usenokukwazi ukubonisa uluvo lwakhe kwaye uyahlonishwa kwaye uqinisekiswe xa ucela. Nangona imemori yakhe ayinokuba yinto engcono, unokukwazi ukuxelela oko akwenzayo kwaye akafuniyo okanye ukuba uluphi uluvo lwakhe malunga nenketho yokonyango. Xa kunokwenzeka, faka umthandwa wakho kwizigqibo okanye ukhetho.
- Yeka ukunyamekela zakho iinkxalabo zempilo. Ingaba uxinzelelo lwegazi lwakho okanye lwakho uxinezelekile? Ngaba uye wahlala ekupheleni kokufumana ugqirha wakho wokungavumi okanye ukubonakalisa inkxalabo? Ndiyazi ukuba ukuzincama kwenzeka xa uthatha isigqibo malunga nezinto eziphambili. Kodwa ukuba impilo yakho uyayigxotha, yima uze ucinge ngomzuzu. Ukuba ulahla impilo yakho kwaye ekugqibeleni awukwazi ukuba ngumncedisi okanye mhlawumbi ube ngumngane wakho othandekayo, awuncedanga nabani na olu khetho.
- Yeka ukungahoyili intsapho yakho. Ngaba abantwana bakho bajikeleza ngeenxa zonke njengabantwana bebhuku labantwana ababuza, "Ngaba unina?" Musa ukutshabalalisa intsapho enye ukuze uzame ukugcina enye eyahlukileyo. Ukuba unesizukulwana sesi sandwich, apho uzinakekelwa ngabazali bakho kunye nezingane zakho, zenzele ngesigqibo kwisigqibo sakho sokuba unika ixesha elingakanani kulowo nalowo.
- Yeka ukukholelwa ukuba umthandwa wakho ukhetha indlela aziphatha ngayo okanye oko akulibalayo. Ngaba uye wakha waziva ukuba wayephosa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufikelele ekugqithweni kukagqirha? Ngaba uzive udidekile kuba uvakalelwa ukuba ukhumbula ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo kuye kwaye uzikhohlwa ngokupheleleyo ezinye izinto, ezinjengezinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe? Yenza yonke imizamo yokujonga le micimbi ngenxa yokugula, kunokuba ukhethe ngokuzikhethela okulungiselelwe kukukhuphaza okanye kukulimaza. Oku kuya kukunceda ukujamelana nokunyameka komqondo. Ndandisandul 'ukuthetha nomntu othe wachaza ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba umfazi wakhe ukhetha ukuba nzima. Oku kwandisa ukukhungatheka kwakhe kuba wayevakalelwa kuye njengokuba wayeziphatha ngendlela enenjongo. Njengoko waqala ukubonakalisa iimpawu zakhe ezinzima esi sifo, ukuphazamiseka kwakhe kwancipha kwaye wayekwazi ukujamelana nokubhetele .
- Yeka ukuzincama ukuzinyanya kwakho kwaye usebenze ngaphandle. Mfa nekiso kolu: Uphethe iintonga ezahlukahlukeneyo kunye namacwecwe ajikelezayo nganye, kwaye uhlala uzama ukugcina zonke iiplate zijikeleza ukuze enye ingawa. Ingaba uyi-spinner apha, uzama ukugcina impilo yakho, umsebenzi, abazali, abantwana, umtshato okanye olunye ulwalamano-lonke ixesha linyamekela umntu obathandayo? Ekugqibeleni, iplate iya kuphazamiseka. Qinisekisa ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke oko ungayikhupha isitya sakho (okanye yiphi iplani ukuyeka ukutshiza) kunokuba ube nesigqibo kuwe xa umntu ephahla. Ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa ngathi akukho nto apha. Kodwa nakwiimeko ezinzima kuninzi, udla ukuyeka into ethile. Oko ndikubonile amaxesha amaninzi ukuphazamiseka kwiplani umntu enqwenela ukuba ahlale ephahla kodwa awakwazi ngenxa yokuba wayengenakukwenza konke. Yiba neenjongo kwaye usebenze kakuhle apho ubela ixesha lakho namandla. Ukugcina ubungakanani ebomini kunceda wonke umntu obandakanyekayo, kwaye mhlawumbi umthandayo wakho kunye ne-Alzheimer ufuna ukuba wenze.