Naliphi na umzali oye wachaza "iintaka kunye neenyosi" kumntwana mhlawumbi uyaqonda ukuba nangona le ngxoxo ingaba ngumngeni kwaye ingakhathazeki ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba nencoko ngesondo, uthando, kunye nenkqubo yokuvelisa nendodana okanye intombi ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye kuyimfuneko. Ngelishwa, ukuxoxisana ngokucacileyo ngesinye isimo somntu wonke umntu uya kuba namava, ukufa nokufa, ngokuqhelekileyo akahoywa.
Eli nqaku linikeza izizathu ezihlanu zokuba kutheni ukusetyenzwa kwekhadi lomdlalo wekhadi elide lokugqibela lokuphila kunokukunceda ukuba ubambe le ngxoxo ebalulekileyo nomntu omthandayo.
Iyini Umdlalo weKhadi lokuQeda ukuPhila?
Namhlanje, kukho ikhefu lamakhredithi angabalulekanga anokunceda abantu baqale ingxoxo malunga nazo zonke iintlobo zezihloko ezibalulekileyo, ezifana nemali kunye nemali yemali, umtshato kunye nobudlelwane, imilinganiselo kunye nezakhono zentlalo, kunye nokunye. Ngokungafani nemidlalo yamakhadi yendabuko edlalwa kunye nebhodi eliqhelekileyo lokudlala amakhadi, ezi zikhundla ezizodwa zijolise ngaphantsi kokuncintisana kwaye ziphumelele kunye nokubanxibelelana nentlalo kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba ukuba "bavulele" omnye komnye. Ngexesha elidla ngokuzonwabisa, injongo yeeninzi zala maqhosha kukukhuthaza intetho nencoko yencoko.
Le njongo yendawo yokugcina umdlalo wekhadi lokugqibela: ukukhuthaza nokuququzelela iingxoxo phakathi kwabathathi-nxaxheba malunga neembono zabo, iingcinga zabo kunye neminqweno malunga nezihloko ezinzima zokufa nokufa.
Iimidlalo zekhadi ezifana nalezi zinokuthintela kwizinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo, ezizimeleyo, ezifana nezonyango zokusindisa impilo; oko kubaluleke kakhulu njengoko ukufa kuhamba; izinto umntu anethemba lokuba azalisekisa, aka "uluhlu lwamabhakethi"; umngcwabo othile, isikhumbuzo kunye nesifiso sokukhulelwa; indlela enethemba ngayo ukukhunjulwa; njl njl
Izizathu zokusebenzisa iMidlalo yamakhadi
Ukuba ungathanda ukuxoxa ngento yokufa kunye / okanye nokufa nomntu omthandayo ukuze ufunde ngezifiso zabo zokugqibela kodwa bakuthola kunzima ukuqalisa le ngxoxo, besebenzisa umdlalo wekhadi lokugqibela lokuphila (njengabo kuboniswe kwiphepha elingentla) kunokukunceda uqale le ngxoxo nakweyiphi na okanye zonke izizathu ezilandelayo:
1. Kulula ukuPhakamisa
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubunzima obunzima kakhulu esibhekana nabo malunga nokuphela komnqweno wokuphila komntu ngokuqhelekileyo kukhoyo kwiingqondo zethu njengoko sizabalazela ukuba sibone indlela esinokukhupha ngayo "isihloko" sokufa kunye / okanye nokufa nomntu othandekayo . Ngokufanayo nokuba ngabazali abaninzi abanomsebenzi wokuchaza "iintaka kunye neenyosi" kumntwana ekuqaleni beyikre le ntetho, kuqhelekile ukuba ucinge ukuba ingxoxo malunga nokuphela komntu obathandayo / iminqweno ingayidlala kwangaphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo, sisebenzisa yonke indawo yokucinga okanye ingxaki ebonakalayo njengesizathu esinye sokususa le ngxoxo ebalulekileyo kwaye akasoze kwenzeka.
Inyaniso kukuba awunakufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo, indawo okanye amagama ukuba uqalise ingxoxo engcolileyo malunga nokufa okanye ukufa kunye nomntu othandekayo, yingakho i-game, igxina lokuphela komdlalo wekhadi lomdlalo / inqanawa inokunceda.
Endaweni yokuzama ukuthetha, "Hayi, Uthandwa, ufuna ukuba ndibe ngcwatywe okanye ndiyihlambe umzimba wakho?" ungakufumana kulula ukusikisela, "Hayi, Ndiyakuthanda, Ndingathanda ukudlala umdlalo wekhadi nawe ..." ukukunceda ufumene impendulo yalo mbuzo kunye nokunye okuninzi.
Nceda uqonde ukuba oku akukho 'ukukhohlisa' umntu ukuba abambe le ngxoxo inzima-kodwa kubalulekile ! Ngokucacileyo, umhlobo wakho uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza uhlobo lwalo ngxoxo emva kokuba uqale ukusebenzisa le khadi, kwaye nangona angenakukudlala, incoko yakho iya kuqhubeka ngokuqhubekayo xa udibanise isihloko.
2. Unokuxhomekeka kwiikhadi
Njengoko unokufumanisa kunzima ukukhupha umxholo wokufa komntu othandekayo kunye noko akufunayo, usebenzisa umgcini weemfuno zokugqibela unokukunceda ukuba ubuze umbuzo ukuba unengxaki yokukhumbula okanye ukufumana Kunzima ukubuza into ngokuzwakalayo. Nangona la makhadi anikezela ngeendlela ezininzi zokubamba ingxoxo yokuphela komxholo ( jonga "Khuthaza uFlexibility / Personalization" ngezansi ), kulula ukuba uthembele kwigama ngalinye kwikhadi ngalinye kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokusebenzisa njani oku.
Njengoko kuphawuliwe kwangaphambili, ukuxubusha ngokuthandana nomntu osithandayo kukuphelisa ngamanye amaxesha, yoko kutheni sithintela le ngxoxo kuqala. Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba ufumene ukhula emoyeni ngandlela-thile, unakho ukulibala ukubuza umbuzo okanye uzive ungenakukwazi ukuvakalisa into into oyifunayo okanye ofuna ukuyifumana. Kule meko, ukuthembela kwidokethi yekhadi lokufuna ukugqibela kunye nemibuzo yakhe eyilungiselelwe ingakunceda ugcine ingxoxo yakho yokugqibela, kunye / okanye kukunceda ufikelele naziphi na iingxaki.
3. "Andizange Ndicinge Ngaloo nto"
Kungakumbi, ukuba ubucelwa ukuba ubhale phantsi ngamnye umbuzo owodwa ofuna ukuwucela kumntu othandekayo malunga nesifiso sakhe sokugqibela, unokuza kunye no-10 okanye mhlawumbi 20. Inzuzo enye yokusebenzisa ikhadi elilodwa lokugqibela lokuphila Umdlalo kukuba iindawo ezininzi zinemibuzo ebalulekileyo, kwaye ezininzi zazo zichaphazela izifundo onokucinga ukuba ungaziceli.
Ngokomzekelo, esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo abantu abangenayo ingxoxo yokuphela komntu kukuba abaninzi bethu banentswelo yokufa nokufa kwaye abafuni ukucinga ngokufa kwethu. Noko ke, ukwesaba okunjalo kunokuba nefuthe kwaye kuthintele iimfuno zethu zokugqibela, kodwa ngaba ubungacinga ukuba ucele umntu wakho othandekayo ukuba abelane naye ngesimo sakhe sokwesaba ukufa okanye yintoni eyikhathazayo ngokufa? Impendulo mhlawumbi iya kubonakala ibe yinto ebalulekileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ifake le ngxoxo kodwa mhlawumbi ungazi ukuba awuyi kubuza.
Ngokufanayo, ukukhawulwa kwekhadi lokugqibela lokuphila kungabangela enye imibuzo engenakwenzeka kuwe, njenge:
- Ngaba ufuna ukuba ukufa kwakho kwaziswe kumajelo ezentlalo, njenge-Facebook okanye i-Twitter?
- Kubaluleke kangakanani ukufa phakathi kwamalungu entsapho / abahlobo kwaye kungekhona wena?
- Ngaba uthathe amanyathelo okuthintela iingxabano zentsapho ngaphambi okanye emva kokufa kwakho, njengokwenza umyalelo wezomthetho okanye umyalelo osisigxina wezempilo ?
- Ingaba ufuna ukuba wena okanye ugqirha wakho akuxelele inyaniso malunga nokunciphisa ubomi?
- Ucinga ntoni ngamazwi xa uva igama elithi "hospice"?
4. Kususa uMgxininiso ovela kumntu oyedwa
Ungayivakalelwa njani ukuba umntu emele phambi kwakho ebambe ibhodi yokunamathisela kwaye akucele iqela lemibuzo yobuqu enzulu? Nga phu Uphandwe? Ukukhangela ithuba lokuqala lokubaleka? Ngelishwa, oku ngokuqhelekileyo indlela incoko yokugqibela yokuphila inokuziva ngayo umntu owenza yonke impendulo njengoko ehleli kwindawo ebonakalayo ngumntu obuza imibuzo.
Ubumnandi namandla okuphela komdlalo wekhadi / ipakethi yinto ekunceda ukuphelisa ulwalamliwano-ndlebe nobudliwano-ndlebe ngokususa ingqalelo kumntu omnye kwaye, endaweni yoko, ukukhuthaza ingxoxo yenyaniso phakathi kwabantu ababini okanye ngaphezulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu ngokwakhe ofuna ukuqala le ngxoxo ebalulekileyo kunye nomthandayo uya kufumana ukuba naye aphinde ahlanganyele iingcamango neemvakalelo zakhe ngokuphendula imibuzo efunwa ngamakhadi, okanye ekuphenduleni omnye umntu obusondelene naye, ebonisa impendulo (s ).
Ngaphezu koko, akuqhelekanga, xa incoko iqala, ngamanye amalungu entsapho kunye nabahlobo "abafuna ukuphulaphula" ukuba badibanise ingxoxo yokuphela kokuphila njengoko bevalele eminye imibuzo ebuzwayo okanye iimpendulo ezinikeziwe.
5. Ukukhuthaza ukuFlexibility / Personalalization
Uninzi lweemidlalo zekhadi lokugqibela, ezibandakanya eziboniswe kwisithombe esingentla, zinikeza imiyalelo malunga nendlela yokusebenzisa ipakethi ukuze uthathe inzuzo enkulu kulesi sixhobo sokugqibela. Ezinye izinto zibonisa ukuba inxaxheba nganye kufuneka iphendule / ixoxe ngombuzo ofanayo ngaphambi kokuba ukhethe ikhadi elitsha, ngelixa abanye bathetha ukuba abantu bahlalutye onke amakhadi ngokwezinto abazijonga ngayo kakhulu-kubaluleke kuncinci ngaphambi kokuqhubeka, okanye into ephakathi.
Ukongezelela, amakhredithi ekhadi afana nalawa ngokubanzi awanikezela ukuguquguquka okukhulu kunokuba bangaphi abantu abanokuthatha inxaxheba kwiseshoni esinikeziweyo. Ngexesha eliqhelekileyo lijoliswe ekuncediseni le ngxoxo ebalulekileyo ekupheleni kwengxoxo phakathi kwabantu ababini , phantse yonke umdlalo wekhadi lomnqweno wokugqibela ungakwazi ukufumana abantu abathathu okanye ngaphezulu, abangakhuthaza ingxoxo ebalulekileyo phakathi komntwana kunye nabazali bakhe bobabini, umzekelo, okanye phakathi kwentsapho eyongezelelekileyo, okanye nakwiqela elikhulu labantu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baxhomekeke njani / ukuba bahlobene njani.
Ngaphezu koko (kwaye ndiyabelana ngolu hlobo kumava), ukuba uthenge enye yale midlalo yamakhadi / okupheka komphefumlo wokugqibela, akunakwenzeka ukuba ungagxininisi kwaye uqikelele indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo malunga nemibuzo eyahlukeneyo xa ubhekene ngokwakho. Ngamanye amazwi, imidlalo emininzi yokucwangcisa phambili / iipaki, nokuba ziyilo okanye zihlobo nje zento yazo, ziya kukulinga ukuba "udlale".
Engayilindelekanga okanye ayikho, ejongene neemvakalelo zakho kunye nembono malunga nemiba ebalulekileyo yokufa kunye neyokufa ezi zinto zidlala ngexesha lokudlala "i-solitaire" zingakulungiselela ngakumbi ingxoxo yokuphela komcimbi ofuna ukuyibamba nomnye umntu.
Ekugqibeleni, nangona uninzi lweemidlalo / amakhadi ekhadi linikeza imiyalelo, musa ukutshitshiswa ukuba ingxoxo yakho yokuphela komsebenzi, eqale iqalile, iyaphambukisa ize ihambe ijikeleze "ngaphandle kwesikripthi" naphezu kweendlela zokuqala (kwaye kulungile! ) Ukuhambelana nemimiselo ethile eyenzelwe umdlalo wekhadi lomdlalo wekhadi / ipaki yamanqaku angaphantsi kokubamba ingxoxo enentsingiselo kunye nabathandekayo bakho malunga neembono zabo, iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno malunga nezihloko ezinzima zokufa nokufa.
Indlela yokuthenga i-Deck
Ngenxa yobume obukhethekileyo bale sixhobo zokuxoxa kunye nomxholo wayo, uya kufumana indawo yokudlala kwikhasi / ipakethi ye-intanethi ekupheleni kwendawo yokuthenga izitena. Uninzi lwaloo makhadi alithengiswa ngabathengi-ngqo ngoshishino okanye intlangano ebenzileyo. Nangona ezinye iindawo zikhona, unokufumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nemidlalo yamakhadi okugqibela okufunwa apha ngentla apha:
• Umdlalo wengxoxo, iingxoxo zoBomi
• I-Fink: UkuCwangciswa koNcedo kwangaphambili, iiKhadi zeFink
• I-Game Wish Wish, iCoda Alliance
• Inhliziyo2Ukuphulaphula: Ngaphambi kokuCwangcisa ukunakekelwa, Xoxa ngezikhokelo
• Isipho sam Sobabalo, Isiqhelo Esiqhelekileyo
Umbongi uyabulela ngokunyanisekileyo iinkampani ezilapha ngentla ngokubonelela ngeikopi eziyimfuneko zekhadi labo ngexesha lokulungiselela le nqaku.
Imithombo:
"Ukufa eMelika: Ukuphucula umgangatho kunye nokuhlonipha okuthandwa ngabanye malunga nokuphela koBomi" yiNkcubeko yeMpilo, ngoSeptemba 17, 2014. Ukuqokelela umlobi.