Ngokuqhelekileyo (Mis) Iinkolelo malunga nokuThetha
Ukufa okulindelekileyo kumhlobo okanye othandekayo utshintshana nolwalamano lwakho - ngamanye amaxesha lungcono, kukusondeza kunye, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukubi kakhulu. Kungaba nzima kakhulu kwaye kunzima kubantu abaninzi ukuthetha nomhlobo wabo othandekayo. Unokuzibuza uthi "Ndithini na?" Kwaye "Ndiya kukwazi njani xa ndithethile ngokwaneleyo?"
Kukho iinkolelo eziqhelekileyo malunga nokuthetha kunye nokufa okunokukunceda ukuba singathethi nonke.
"Ukuba Ndiyathetha Ngokugula Kwakhe, Ndiya Kuphela Mthukuthelele"
Inkolelo efanayo ukuba ukuthetha ngesifo somntu okanye ukufa okuzayo kuya kubaphazamisa nje. Abantu abaninzi bayamangalisa ukubona ukuba umntu ofayo ufuna ukuthetha malunga noko kwenzeke kubo. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abantu abasweleyo bacinga into efanayo-ukuba ukuthetha ngezinto ezenzeka kubo kuya kuphazamisa umhlobo wabo okanye othandekayo.
"Ukuthetha Ngokugula Kwakhe okanye Ukufa Kuyakwenza Okubi"
Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukuthetha ngokufa kuza kwenza ukuba kwenzeke kungekudala. Basenokucinga ukuba ukuxoxa ngokufa kuya kugxininisa umntu ofayo kwaye kunokuzisa intlungu yesifo . Basenokwesaba ukuba xa umntu ofa elamkela ukufa kwakhe ukuba baya kuphelela baze bafe ngokukhawuleza.
Le nkolelo ayinasiseko. Nangona ukuthetha ngokufa kungabangela uxinzelelo kumntu ofayo kunye nabathandekayo babo, kungaphinda kube yonyango kunye nokuphilisa umntu ofayo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo.
Kakade, akusiwo wonke umntu oza kuthanda ukuthetha ngokufa. Ukuba wakho okanye othandekayo wakho othandekayo akafuni ukuxoxa ngokufa kwabo, kunjalo. Kukho ezinye izinto onokuthetha ngazo.
"Ukuba Ndithetha Naye Ngezinto Eziyingozi Kwixesha Elona Linzima, Ndiya Kummthelela"
Le nkolelo inqanda abantu abaninzi ukuba bangaxubushe ngemihla ngemihla yobomi bethu.
Sinokucinga ukuba ukuthetha ngomdlalo otywalayo okanye umboniso wethu oonomathotholo we-TV uza kwenza ukuba kubonakale ngathi asikhathalele ukuba kwenzekani kumthande wethu. Sinokucinga ukuba akakwazi ukuba nomdla kwiindaba okanye kwinto eyenzekayo kumsebenzi namhlanje.
Inyaniso kukuba, abaninzi abantu abasweleyo basenomdla kwizinto ezifanayo abanomdla kuzo ngaphambi kokuba bazi ukuba bafa. Ukuba ungumdlali odlala umdlalo, akufuneki ukuba ahambe. Ukuba uyakhathalela, inokwenzeka ukuba uya kufuna ukuva malunga nento eyenzekayo ebomini bakho, njengokuba wenza ngaphambili. Ukuthetha ngobomi bemihla ngemihla kukuqinisekisa ukuba, nangona ubomi bakhe bephelile, usaphila.
Ukujonga kwiintlanganiso zokuqala ezintathu, sibona ukuba abantu abaninzi banomuzwa wokuthi abanakuthetha ngokugula, abakwazi ukuthetha ngokufa, kwaye abakwazi ukuthetha ngokuphila. Yintoni eseleyo ukuthetha ngayo?
"Ukuba Andiyazi Into Eyithethayo, Ndiyesaba Ukuthula Kuza Kubuhlungu"
Amathuba ukuba uyakholelwa oku, awuyazi into oyithethayo kunye nokuthulisa kuya kuqinisekisa. Ukuhambela ngaphaya kwezo nkolelo kunye nokufumana indlela yokudibana nomhlobo okanye othandekayo unokukunceda ukukhusela i-silence silences.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba akusikho konke ukuthula okumele kube nzima. Ukuzola ngokubonakalayo kudla rhoqo umntu ofuna ukufa okanye ufuna.
"Uthando luqine ngaphezu kokufa nangona lukwazi ukunqanda ukufa kungenzeki, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvavanyo olunzima luzama kangakanani, alukwazi ukuhlukanisa abantu nothando. Ayikwazi ukususa zethu iinkumbulo. Ekugqibeleni, ubomi bunamandla kunelokufa. "- Angaziwa