Kubantu abaninzi, le nkqubo inokukhokelela ekufeni ngokubambileyo nokubonga
Njengomntu ofayo uya kumelana nokufa kwabo kwaye uqala ukulungiselela ukufa, unokusebenzisa ukuphonononga ubomi, okanye ukuxolelana nokuphila , njengendlela yokufumana ukuvalwa kunye nengqiqo yokugqiba.
Uhlolo lokuphila aluhambisani nomzekelo onokuqikelelwa, kwaye akukho bantu babini abanokulindela ukufumana uxolo lokuphila ngendlela efanayo. Okokuthi, kukho izigaba eziqhelekileyo ezi-5 zokuhlaziywa komsebenzi ezinceda ukuqonda: ukuthetha, uxanduva, ukuxolelwa, ukwamukelwa kunye nokubulela.
Inkcazo
Ukuza ngokubhekiselele ekufeni okukude kunzima kakhulu kubantu abaninzi. Njengomntu ofayo uhamba kwiinqanaba zeDABDA zokunyamezela , iimvakalelo ezininzi eziza kufuneka zichazwe. Intukuthelo ngokuqhelekileyo iyimvakalelo ebalulekileyo kuninzi lwalo xesha.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntu ofayo aveze nayiphi na imvakalelo abavakalelwa ngayo. Ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu nokukhulula umsindo kubalulekile ekufumaneni uxolo. Ukuba umntu ofayo avunyelwe inkululeko epheleleyo yokuthetha, ukuphilisa okwenyaniso kwinqanaba lemoya nengokomoya.
Umntu ofayo unokufuna imvume ecacileyo yokuvakalisa umsindo. Unokwesaba ukuba ngokuziveza ngokwakhe uya kubahlukanisa nabathandekayo. Unokuthukuthela ngamandla angaphezulu kwaye uhlazeke ngaloo mvakalelo. Ngokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zengqumbo - kwisifo, ngokungalungi kwehlabathi, okanye kummandla ophezulu, umntu ofa uyazilungiselela uxolo nokwamkelwa.
Xanduva
Njengoko umntu ofa ehlola ubomi babo, baqala ukuqonda indlela abaye bathatha inxaxheba kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo kubo. Bayaqonda ukuba izenzo zabo, iingcamango zabo, kunye nempilo yabo yimbopheleleko. Uninzi lwabantu luchaza oku njengamava okukhulula. Bayazi ukuba abagwebi ukugula kwabo kwaye ukufa akuthethi ukuba bahluleke ngandlela-thile ebomini.
Ukuqinisekiswa koxanduva kuluncedo kumntu ofayo ngokuvumelana nazo zonke ezenzekile ebomini babo kwaye alungiselele oko kuza kwenzeka.
Xolelo
Xa umntu efumana ukuxolelwa kwenene, bayazikhulula ezibophelelweni zentlungu kunye nentlungu. Ukuxolela akukwamkeli ukuziphatha okungalunganga. Ukuxolela malunga nokukhetha ukuyeka ukulimala kunye nentukuthelo esenza sihlale ngokuthula.
Umntu ofayo unokufumana kulula ukuxolela abanye ngenxa yexesha elidlulileyo kodwa unokuba nzima ukuxolela. Unokuzibuza ukuba ngaba abanye bayamxolela ngokunyanisekileyo zakhe, ezinkulu okanye ezincinci. Unokuchitha ixesha elithile ecela abanye ukuba axolele, acele amandla aphezulu okuxolela, aze axolele abo bamlimazayo.
Encwadini yakhe yezinto ezine ezibaluleke kakhulu , uDkt. Ira Byock uxoxa ngezinto ezininzi abantu abachazayo njengezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuzithetha ngaphambi kokuba ufe: "Ndiyabonga," "Ndiyakuxolela," "Ngaba uya kuxolela?", kwaye "Ndiyakuthanda." Amagama amabini emabini athetha ngokuxolela, egxininisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukunikela nokufumana oko ngaphambi kokuba sife.
Abanye abantu baya kukhetha ukufa ngokungaxoleli, kwaye oko kukhetha ngokufanelekileyo. Abanye abaninzi bakhetha ukumema uxolo lwangaphakathi ngaphambi kokuba bafe ngokunikela kunye nokufumana ukuxolelwa.
Ukwamkela
Ukwamkela kuyinqanaba lokugqibela kwi-DABDA ye-theory yokujongana nokufa kwaye iyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yokuhlaziywa komntu. Kubonakala ngathi silahlekelwe yinyani yokuba ukufa kuyinkqubo yendalo eya kwenzeka ngamnye ngamnye, kukhetha endaweni yokulwa nokufa kuze kube sekupheleni. Xa umntu ofa evuma ukufa kwabo ngokungenakukupheka, abayekeki ebomini kodwa kunoko bavumela ukulandelelana kwemvelo yobomi ukugqiba isangqa sawo.
Akufanele sithande into esiyayithandayo njengento yokwenene, kodwa ukuvuma ukuba ubomi buzalisekile ngokwenene ibinyathelo elibalulekileyo ekufeni ngokuthula. Kanye njengokuba umfazi obesemsebenzini akakwazi ukumiswa ekuhlanguleni umntwana wakhe, inkqubo yokugqibela yokufa ayikwazi ukuma emva kokuba iqalile.
Xa umntu ofayo ekwazi ukwamkela ukufa kwakhe okungenakukuphepha, bayazivulela ukuze bafumane uxolo kunye nokwaneliseka kwiintsuku zabo zokugqibela.
U mbulelo
Emva kokufumana ezinye iinkalo zokuphononongwa ngokupheleleyo komntu, umntu ofayo uya kuba noxabiso lokubonga kakhulu ngobomi babo. Uya kubabulela abantu ebomini bakhe; amava ayenayo, nokuba ayenzi okanye ayenzi; kwaye unokuvaka umbulelo kumandla aphezulu, ukuba ukholelwa kwinto enye, ngenxa yobomi ayenayo. Unokubonisa ukubonga kubahlobo bakhe kunye nabathandekayo baze bazive bevuya kakhulu. Nantsi indlela enqwenela ngayo ukuba singafa, ngentliziyo evuyokileyo nomoya woxolo.