Nangona amagama angenakuze acacise ngokucacileyo indlela umntu athetha ngayo kuthi, ulwimi lunokuthi lunikeze induduzo, induduzo, ithemba kunye nokuphefumlelwa emva kokufa komntu othandekayo. Apha uya kufumana iqoqo ekhethiweyo yeengcaphuno kunye namazwi malunga nentlungu ebangelwa ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo.
Indlela Yokucoca Ngamagama Ingamnceda Emva kokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo
Xa ulahlekelwa ngumhlobo omhle, unokufumana ulahlekelwe ngamazwi.
Ungayibonisa njani into entliziyweni yakho? Ngezinye izihlandlo ezinje, ukucaphuna oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Unokufumana oku kokusetyenziswa xa ubhala incwadi ye-eulogy okanye ye-condolence letter, ngakumbi ukuba unenkathazo yokufumana amagama afanelekileyo kwaye udinga ukuphefumlelwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha, amacatshulwa avela kwiingcaphuno angakunika amagama achaza intliziyo yakho xa uthetha nabanye abathandekayo. Ngokomzekelo, usebenzisa i-quote evela kuYohn Taylor ebhalwe apha ngezantsi, unokukwazi ukuxelela umntu obathandayo ocela ukuba ulila, kodwa ukuba uyavuya ukuba uya kuphinda umhlangabeze emva kwesihenqo.
Ekugqibeleni, ukukhangela izicaphuno kunokukunceda ekubuhlungu kwakho, ngokunika amazwi entliziyweni yakho.
Iingcaphuno eziphefumlelweyo ngokufa komhlobo
Wonke umntu uhlukile, kwaye isicatshulwa esivakalayo sinentsingiselo kuye, asinokuba sesinye. Ngoko ke, siwabelana ngeengcaphuno ezininzi kubantu abavakalise izimvo zabo ngokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo.
Aristophanes , umdlali wamaGrike
Abahlobo bakho abalahlekileyo abafayo, kodwa baya phambili; uphumelele kwisigaba okanye amabini kweso sithuthi omele uhambe kuzo amanyathelo abanyathelisiweyo.
UJohn Taylor , wezopolitiko waseMerika kunye neen senator
Ngelixa silila ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo wethu, abanye bayakuvuyela ukumhlangabeza emva kwesihenqo.
UWilliam Young , umbongi wesiNgesi
Kodwa iziganeko ezithandwa ngabahlobo abathandekayo kufuneka bahlule.
URichard Bach , umbhali waseMerika
Ngaba iikhilomitha zizahlula ngokwenene kubahlobo ... Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala nomntu omthandayo, akunjalo na?
UArthur Schopenhauer , isazi sefilosofi saseJamani
Intlungu enzulu evakalelwa ekufeni kwayo yonke imiphefumlo enobungane ibangelwa kukuziva ukuba kukho into ethile engabonakaliyo, eyiyo yodwa kuye, kwaye ngoko ke, ilahlekile kwaye ilahleke ngokukhawuleza.
I-Stone Temple abaqhubi , i-American rock rock group
Ukuba ufanele ufe phambi kwam, buza ukuba unako ukuzisa umhlobo.
Umzekeliso wesiJamani
Ukufa komhlobo kufana nokulahlekelwa ngumlenze.
Umbhali aziwa
Kuthatha umzuzu ukufumana umntu okhethekileyo, iyure ukuyixabisa, kunye nomhla wokubathanda, kodwa kuthatha ixesha elizeleyo lokulibala.
UHenri JM Nouwen , umbhali waseDatshi nomfundisi wamaKatolika
Xa sinokuzibuza ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ubani umntu ebomini bethu uthetha kakhulu kuthi, sisoloko sifumana ukuba ngabo, kunokuba banike iingcebiso, izisombululo okanye ukunyanga, bakhethe ukuba bahlanganyele intlungu yethu baze baphathe amanxeba ethu ngokufudumala isandla sithenda. Umhlobo onokuthula kunye nathi ngomzuzwana wokuphelelwa yithemba okanye ukudideka, ngubani onokuhlala nathi ngeyure yosizi kunye nokutshatyalaliswa, onokunyamezela ukungazi, ukuphilisa, ukuphilisa nokujongana nathi ngokoqobo, ngumhlobo onomdla.
UJean Antoine Petit-Senn , umbhali waseFrench-waseSwitzerland
Xa abahlobo bethu bephila, sibona iimpawu ezilungileyo ezingenalo; fileyo, siyakhumbula kuphela abo babenabo.
UJohn Gay , imbongi yesiNgesi, kunye nomdlali wemidlalo
Ndixolele, ngoko! uyazi intliziyo yam
Bahlobo bahlobo, nonke! kufuneka uhlule
UAntoine de Saint-Exupéry , umbhali waseFrentshi, kunye nomlobi
Ngomhla wokungcwaba akukho mbono-ngokuba isikhala ngokwawo siyabhujiswa. Umhlobo wakho ofileyo usengumqhekeza. Usuku omngcwaba ngalo ngumsebenzi wemisebenzi kunye nezihlwele, zezandla zobuxoki okanye zinyani ukuzanyiswa, kwiinkxalabo zokukhalela. Umhlobo ofileyo akayi kufela ukufa kusasa, xa uxolo lujikeleza kwakhona.
Emva koko uya kuzibonakalisa egqibeleleyo, njengoko wayekuzo-ukuzikrazula, njengokuba wayekho, ukususela kwizinto ezinkulu. Ngaloo ndlela uya kukhwaza ngenxa yokuba ngubani oshiya kwaye ongeke uyigcine.
URobert Southey , umbhali wesiNgesi kunye nomlobi
Akukho mgama wendawo okanye ukuphelelwa kwexesha kunokunciphisa ubuhlobo balabo bachanekileyo.
Homer , umbongi waseGrike
Ububunzima abukhulu kakhulu ukufa ngenxa yomhlobo, njengokufumana umngane ofanelekile ukufa.
USteven Wright , umculi waseMerika
Ndandinomhlobo owayengumngceli. Xa wafa, bonke abahlobo bakhe baya emngcwabeni kwenye imoto.
URichard Bach , umbhali waseMerika
Musa ukuxhalabisa kwi-goodbyes. Ukwahlukana kuyimfuneko ngaphambi kokuba udibane kwakhona. Ukudibana kwakhona, emva kwexesha okanye ubomi, ngokuqinisekileyo kwabo bahlobo.
UCharles Caleb Colton , umbhali waseNgesi kunye nomfundisi
Ubuhlobo bokwenene bufana nempilo ephilileyo; ixabiso laso lingaziwa ngokukhawuleza de lahleka.
UHelen Fielding , umbhali weNgesi kunye nomdlali wezemidlalo
Umgama wexesha kunye nendawo iphilisa oko kubonakala ngathi bahlakulele; kunye nokuthatha ikhefu yabahlobo bethu kufana nokuthatha ikhefu lehlabathi, ekuthethwe kuyo, ukuba akusiyo ukufa, kodwa ukufa, okuyiyoyikeka.
USt. John Cassian , umonki ongumKristu
Ubundano phakathi kohlobo alukwazi ukuphulwa ngamathuba; akukho nxalenye yexesha okanye indawo inokuyichitha. Akukho ukufa ngokwayo kunokunxulumana nabahlobo bokwenene.
UHarold Kushner , uRabi waseMelika kunye nomlobi
Ngezinye zexesha elimnyama ebomini bam, abanye abantu ndicinga ukuba bangabangani-abanye ngenxa yokuba bendikhathalele ngam kwaye babenzakalisa ukuba bandibuhlungu; abanye ngenxa yokuba ndibakhumbule ngokwabo, kwaye oko kwakungekho abangayisebenzisayo. Kodwa abahlobo bokwenene banqoba ukundiba kwabo baza bahlala nam. Ukuba babengenamagama angenza ndiziva ndingcono, bahlala bodwa (kubhetele kunokuba bathi, "Uza kufikelela kulo," okanye "Akubi kakhulu; abanye banzima kakhulu") kwaye ndabathanda.
Washington Irving , umbhali waseMerika
Okumnandi kukukhunjulwa kwabangani abade! Njengemibala emigqabini yelanga elishiya, liwela ngothando, kodwa lusizi, entliziyweni.
UWilliam Penn , umguquleli wesiNgesi nomsunguli wasePennsylvania
Ukufa kunqumla ihlabathi, nje ngokuba ngabahlobo abahlala elwandle; bahlala omnye komnye. Kuba kufuneka babe khona, bathande baze bahlale kwindawo ekhoyo. Kulo glasi likaThixo, babona ubuso nobuso, kwaye ukuthetha kwabo kukhululekile kunye kunye nococekileyo. Olu thuzelo lwabahlobo, ukuba nakuba kuthiwa bafe, kodwa ubuhlobo babo kunye noluntu, ngokubhetele, kubangelwa ukuba bangafi.
Ngaphantsi kwee-Quotes malunga nokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo
Intlungu ehamba kunye nokufa komhlobo othembekileyo kunzima ukuthetha ngamazwi. Amaxesha amaninzi abahlobo bethu bexesha lethu, kwaye ukulahleka akumele nje ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo kuphela, kodwa ukufa kwethu. Ukulahlekelwa ngumntu onokufana naye kwiminyaka kunokubangela ukuba kubuze imibuzo ekhoyo malunga nokufa okungeke kubonakale ifanelekile xa umntu omdala omthandayo efa. Vumela ixesha elithathayo ukulilazela kuphela umhlobo wakho, kodwa ukujongana nemibuzo ekufeni kwayo.
Ukudabuka kuthatha ixesha, kwaye akukho nenye indlela engcono yokulila. Sonke sivile ngezigaba zentlungu, kodwa ezi zigaba akuyona indlela efanelekileyo. Kunoko, unokuzifumana kwisigaba esahlukileyo imihla ngemihla, okanye ngeyure nganye. Yiba nomusa kuwe uze udibanise xa uphilisa.
Ukwabelana ngeengcaphuno ngendlela kawonke esidlangalaleni, njenge-eulogy, yindlela ongayihlonela ngayo umhlobo wakho. Ukufunda icatshulwa ngasese kunokukunceda njengoko uhamba ngeendlela zokulahleka, njengoko uzama ukuphulaphula intliziyo yakho.
> Umthombo:
> Moestrup, L., no H. Hansen. Ukukhathazeka Okukuphela Kokufa: Isifundo Sokuqinisekisa Ukufa Kwezilwanyana kwi-Hospice yaseDenmark. I-American Journal Yokunyamekela Ukunyamekela . 2015. 32 (4): 427-36.