Ukulungiswa kweenguqu kunye nokuzinyamekela
Njengoko siba ngumphakathi osisigxina, abantu abanakho ukuhlala kwidolophu efanayo okanye kwimihlaba elifanayo njengabazali babo nootatomkhulu. Kwabaninzi, ikhefu zeeholide ziphela ixesha xa beza kubona uMama noTata.
Oko ke, oko kuthetha ukuba ukulindelwa kweendawo eziqhelekileyo, iinkumbulo zeentsapho kunye nokuchitha ixesha kunye kunye nazo zizahlukahluka kunokuba zikulindeleke.
Ngelishwa, ukutyelela kudla ngamaxesha apho ukulahleka okubonakalayo kumalungu ethu asekuhlaleni, ukuba kukho, kubonakala ngathi. Mhlawumbi umdala ubonakalisa ukulibala okanye uhamba ngokukhawuleza; indlu ayihlambulukanga njengoko iqhelekileyo; Umyezo womama wakho umyezo wemifuno ubonakaliswe, okanye uTata ulahlekelwe ngokucacileyo ubunzima.
Kwinqanaba elithile, sonke sicinga ukuba abazali bethu baya kuhlala behlala nathi behlala "ngokwabo." Singazama ukunciphisa iinguqu esizibonayo ngenxa yoko. "Kushushu kakhulu kwintsimi" okanye "wonke umntu uphazamisa izinto ngoku kwaye," umzekelo. Abaphezulu, besoyika ukuhla kwabo kunye nokulangazelela ukugcina ukuzimela kwabo, banqikazi ukuba bazinikele ngolwazi malunga nendlela abayenzi ngokwenene ngayo.
Isigaba esitsha soBomi kwiNtsapho yonke
Xa ubhekene nento entsha, kukho izimpendulo eziqhelekileyo. Njengomntwana okokuqala, abazali abaguga banomxholo omtsha kuwe.
Unokuziva uninzi lweemvakalelo, ngezinye izihlandlo. Kukho ukwesaba, kwaye kukho inqanaba elikhulu lezono ezibandakanyekayo. Eminye impendulo evamekileyo ukuphika; siyaqikelela ukuba mhlawumbi akusibi njengoko sicinga okanye unomdla ombi.
Ngaphambi kokuba upake umama okanye uTata kwaye ubazise ekhaya, kubalulekile ukuthatha umoya ophefumlelweyo kwaye ubeke imeko ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Ixesha elincinane elichithwe ekutyeleleni mhlawumbi alanele ngokwaneleyo ukuvavanya nokujongana neemfuno zabaphathi. Sekunjalo, kukho imiba enokuyinyamekela ngokukhawuleza. Okubaluleke kakhulu kukukhuseleko. Ngaba iingozi zabo ekhaya ezifana nezitezi ezimnyama okanye amanqanaba amaninzi eziyingozi? Ingaba imithi iyalityalwa okanye ithathwe ngokungalunganga? Ngaba badla ngokufanelekileyo?
Kukho iinzuzo zokuguga endaweni. Ukutshintsha kunzima kakhulu kubadala. Ngokuqhelekileyo banesiseko senkxaso yexesha elide, kunye nabahlobo, abamelwane, icawa yabo, isikhungo esiphakamileyo, ukunakekelwa kwezonyango kunye namanye amaziko awaziwayo. Kukho induduzo esele ekhaya lakho apho ungagcina ishedyuli yakho, ulungiselele ifenitshala yakho, kwaye ulaphu kunye nenja xa ufuna. Ukuhamba kwezinto kunokubangela ukuba kube nzima ukuba abantu abadala bafumane ubunzima bokufumana abahlobo abatsha.
Kulungile ukuvuma ukuba ufuna Uncedo
Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukusombulula iingxaki zakho kwixesha elide ngexesha elide nelixhalabileyo, ungase ufune ukufumana uncedo lomphathi wokunakekelwa kwezempilo. Unokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wokungena kunye nokuququzelela imiba yomdala wakho. Laba bantu abanamava banokuphendula njengommeli, kodwa banalo ulwazi kunye namava ukuba banikeze uvavanyo olupheleleyo lwezinga eliphezulu lomzimba kunye nengqondo, egxininise ngamandla akhe, izibonelelo kunye nendlela abafuna ukujongana ngayo nemiba.
Ezi zengcali ziyaziqonda izixhobo zendawo kunye neemfuneko kwiinkqubo zaseburhulumenteni nakwimimandla kwaye ziyakwazi ukuchonga ezo ezinokuphucula umgangatho wobomi bakho.
Uqeqesho oluqhelekileyo lukwazi ukufumana abantu abadala ukuba baqwalasele iiprogram okanye benze iinguqu ezilula zokuphila (oko kukuthi, ukusebenzisa ibhokisi yeepilisi ukulawula unyango) kunamalungu entsapho, njengoko bengaboni ngombono. Bayaqonda isidingo sokugcina ukuzimela kwexesha elide kunokwenzeka kwaye uqaphele ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuyinto encinci (oko kukuthi, Ukutya kwiivili kumhlolokazi ongafuni ukupheka nokulahlekelwa isisindo) okungenza umehluko omkhulu.
Bayakwazi ukuchonga kunye nokujongana nemiba engayithandi ukuthetha ngayo (okt, ukusetyenziswa kotywala okanye iimali). Umphathi wokunyamekela uya kuthatha konke oku kuqwalaselwa xa kudala isicwangciso sokukhathalela esingayi kulungisa kuphela iimfuno kunye neenjongo zangoku kodwa ukuba uphendule njani utshintsho olungenakuguquka kwixesha elizayo.
Ukubeka Isicwangciso Sokusebenza
Abafundi abadala abakhulileyo baba ngabaxanduva, ngokukodwa xa abathandekayo babo bengasondeli. Abaphathi beenkonzo zokunyamekela ababelethi baba iintloko zentsapho kunye neamehlo, kunye nokusebenza njengommeli wendawo. Bakulungele ukuhlalutya imeko yangoku okanye eqhubekayo kuba bayakwenza ngokomntu (umama uya kuthi yonke into ilungile xa umbiza). Ukongezelela, banokunika inkxaso nenkxaso yemoya kubantwana abadala kunye nabantwana abadala, ukuze bonke bathuthuke kunye nesicwangciso sokunyamekela kunye nendlela ukuphepha nokusebenza kuyo kugcinwa ngayo.
Nangona abaphathi beenkathalo bahlala behlawula phakathi kweedola ezili-100 kunye ne-$ 200 ngeyure, amalungu entsapho ngokukhawuleza ayaqonda ukuba aba bantu baya kuba nexabiso-mali ngenxa yolulwazi lwabo lwezibonelelo kunye nexesha elondoloziweyo. Ukuchitha iiyure kwifowuni ngokufuna iimfono malunga neenkonzo ezivela kwilizwe lonke akugcini nje ukuphazamiseka kodwa kungakhange kwenziwe kakuhle. Umphathi wezononophelo wendawo unalo lwazi kwizandla zakhe kwaye uyazi indlela yokuhamba ngeenkqubo, iinkonzo kunye neofisi zonyango.
Indlela yokufumana kunye noNxibelelwano noMphathi weNtloko
Ufumana njani umphathi wokukhathalela? Imibutho emininzi iyatholakala ukunceda. Ezi ziquka:
- Ukunakekelwa kweMpilo yokuguga (eyayibizwa ngokuba yiNational Association of Professional Geriatric Careers)
- I-National Academy yabaPhathi abaNgciniweyo
- UMbutho weSizwe wezeNtlalontle
Abaninzi abaphathi banamaphepha ebhodi. Buza malunga namava abo kunye neenkonzo zinikeza zona. Fumana ukuba ngaba ngabasebenzi bezondo kunye nokuba yintoni ukufumaneka kwazo (iintsuku, ubusuku, iveki, kwaye emva kweeyure). Bangaphi na baya kuthetha nawe? Udliwano-ndlebe uze ubuze imibuzo uze ukhululekile. Baqonda zakho iinkxalabo. Banobazali, nabo.
Eli nqaku linikezelwa ngoNonophelo loNcedo, inkonzo enokukuvumela ukuba ufumane umboneleli wonyango ngaphakathi kwendawo.