Wonke umntu omdala ucinga ukuba bayazi kakuhle indlela yokuthetha nabazali babo asebekhulile. Kodwa oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengoko kukho iindlela zokuthetha nabantu abadala abafuna ukuqeqeshwa kwiziphumo ezilungileyo. Ezi ndlela zisekelwe kwiingqondo zengqondo zabantu ezithembela ekuphatheni umdala ngesithunzi nangenhlonipho, kwaye ukhumbuze ukuba eli nqanaba lobomi lixabisekileyo.
Siyazi ukuba abadala bayabambisana ngokunyamekela kwabo xa bebandakanyiwe kwaye bathetha ngendlela exabisa igalelo labo.
Njengeminyaka yobudala, iingxoxo zabo abantwana abafuna ukuba nazo zibe nzima nakakhulu. Ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda ukunciphisa naluphi na uxhaphalo olunokwenzeka kwimeko:
Badibana Nabo Bahlalaphi
Hlangana nabadala kwinqanaba leso xa uthetha nabo ngokumelene nokuma ngasentla okanye kwicala labo. Bayakubona kwaye bakuve kakuhle ngale ndlela, kwaye kunceda "ukulingana nendawo yokudlala."
Yehlisa isantya
Thetha ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza. Yiba nokukulungele ukuphinda izinto ezininzi kangangoko kufunekayo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka nokukhukhumeza. Esi sifundo kwisineke nokuqulunqa amagama, njengoko ufuna ukuthetha ngendlela abangayiqonda ngayo.
Thetha ulwimi lwabo
Gwema izibhengezo (ie, yena). Abanye abantu abadala bengazi ukuba luphi usuku, ungalokothi uphike iziphi izivakalisi eziza kubani abantu. Sebenzisa amagama kwaye uwaxelele njengoko umdala enza ("umfana osuka kumnyango olandelayo").
Isaziso Oko Bawabelana ngako
Gwema ukuzibuza imibuzo ngaphaya kwezinga labo lememori. Ukuba bafumana ukulahlekelwa kwexesha elifutshane , musa ukubuza ukuba kwenzekani izolo. Ukuba bafumana ukulahlekelwa kwexesha elide lokukhumbula, musa ukubabuza imibuzo malunga nokuba basebancinci. Baza kubelana nawe oko bafuna ukwazi.
Landela iNkokeli Yabo
Buza imibuzo ethile, emfutshane. Abanye banako ukukwazi ukulandela imibuzo emibili ukuya kweyesithathu kwimibuzo okanye amaqhinga. Yilungile ngekhefu kwintetho, ngakumbi ukuba ibonakala iiphambili zexesha lokuqhuba phakathi kweengxelo. Ungaziphazamisi okanye utshintshe izifundo ngokukhawuleza.
IShedyuli ivakashela phambili kwexesha
Ukutyelela ishedyuli kunye nabadala ngaphambili, kwaye ubacele ukuba babhale ukutyelela phantsi kwincwadi yabo okanye ikhalenda. Babize iyure ngaphambi kokubakhumbuza. Ukungena kwiiendwendwe kunokungcolisa iinkqubo zabo zemihla ngemihla kwaye kubangele ukuphazamiseka.
Bhala phantsi
Bhala izinto phantsi kwabadala kwindawo abaya kuyikhumbula. Ingaba iyinombolo yakho yefowuni, into ofuna ukuba bayikhumbule, umhla wokuvakatyelela ngokuzayo, njl.
Phendula iifowuni zabo
Phendula ifowuni xa umdala ekubiza. Kungathatha ininzi ukuba bathathe le nyathelo, kuxhomekeke kwimeko yabo. Bambize ukuba bajonge kwakhona, njengoko baya ku soloko benamahloni ngokucela uncedo.
Iingcamango Zokugqibela
Indlela oyithethayo ibaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba uthini xa kuziwa kubadala. Ukuba ubahlahlela indlela engafanelekanga, abanakukuxelela nto, ukwenza kube nzima ukubanceda.
Ngenxa yokuba iintsapho zentshukumo zihlala zidlala, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ezi ntlobo zokunxibelelanisa izixhobo zokunxibelelanisa nokunciphisa izinto ezinokuthi zintetho zifudumele.
Kulula ukuphazamiseka ngokuphindaphinda izinto ezininzi okanye ukutyholwa ngezinto ongazange uzenze ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kwememori yomdala. Kodwa, oku kuxelela abadala abanzima kakhulu ukuba bajongane nabo, kubangele ukuba batyeke ngakumbi kwaye ekugqibeleni bayeke ukuthetha. Sidinga ukuba baqhubeke bexoxa ngokude kunokwenzeka ukuze baqonde iimfuno zabo. Ukuba sithetha nabadala ngendlela ezolile kunye neentlonelo, baya kuqhubeka bethemba kwaye bavumele ukuba sincede.
Kungcono ukuvumela umdala ukukhokela incoko ngoncedo lwethu. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kuthetha ukubuyela ngenye imini kunokuba uthathe inxaxheba enkulu kwingxoxo enye.
Emva koko, ngaba ngabazali bethu abasinike kakhulu. Sineemboleko kubo ukuba banciphise kwaye balandele ukukhokela kwabo.
Eli nqaku linikezelwa ngoNonophelo loNcedo, inkonzo enokukuvumela ukuba ufumane umboneleli wonyango ngaphakathi kwendawo.