Izigaba ezine kunye nemiSebenzi yosizi

Iingcamango malunga nendlela abantu abajamelana ngayo nentlungu

Ngelixa abantu abaninzi beva ngo-Elizabeth Kübler-Ross kunye "nomxholo" weDABDA "yeendlela ezihlanu ezibuhlungu ezibangelwa kukufa , ezinye iingcamango ezinxulumene nentlungu ezibandakanya izigaba, izigaba, okanye imisebenzi. Hlola izishwankathelo zezifundo ezimbini ezinxulumene nentlungu ezibandakanya izigaba ezine zosizi kunye nemisebenzi emine yokulila.

Indlela osabela ngayo ekufeni komntu othandekayo unomntu obalulekileyo kwaye wonke umntu uya kufumana impendulo yakhe yentlungu ngokuhlukileyo.

Unokuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwiinqanaba, umzekelo, okanye ngokukhawuleza; unokuthi uhambe kuzo ngendlela eyahlukileyo, okanye unokweqa isigaba okanye umsebenzi ngokupheleleyo, okanye unamava angaphezu kwesinye. Nangona kunjalo, uhamba kwinkqubo yokulila, yithemba ukuba kuya kuba yindlela efanelekileyo kuwe njengoko ulungelelanisa neyona nyaniso.

Izigaba ezine zosizi

Ngama-1970, isifo sengqondo saseBrithani uColin Murray Parkes kunye nesazi-kwengqondo uJohn Bowlby wacebisa umxholo obandakanya izigaba ezine okanye izigaba zentlungu:

1. Ukutshatyalazwa kunye nobunzima: Esi sigaba ngokukhawuleza silandela ukulahlekelwa kukufa. Umntu osizileyo uzizwa ephazamisekile, yindlela yokuzikhusela eyamvumela ukuba aphile emoyeni emva kokulahleka kwangoko.
2. Ukulumkela nokukhangela: Kwakhona kubhekiswe njengokutya, eli nqanaba libonakaliswa ngumntu onomvandalo onqwenela okanye enqwenela umntu oshonile ukuba abuyele ekuzaliseni ukungabikho komsebenzi owenziwe ngokufa kwakhe. Iimvakalelo ezininzi ziboniswe ngeli xesha, ezifana nokukhala, umsindo, ukuxhalabisa, ukukhathazeka, kunye nokudideka.

1. Ulungelelaniso kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba: Ngokuqinisekileyo umntu osizileyo unqwenela ukurhoxisa nokukhupha abanye kunye nemisebenzi ayeyithandayo rhoqo ngeli nqanaba. Emva kokuba samkele into yokuba ilahleko, iimvakalelo zokuphanda kunye nokulangazelela ziba nzima kakhulu xa ukuziva, ukungabikho komsindo, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukuphelelwa ithemba, kunye nokunyuka kwembuzo.

1. Ukulungiswa kwakhona kunye nokubuyisela: kwisigaba sokugqibela, umntu osilayo uqala ukubuyela kwimeko entsha "yesiqhelo." Ukulahlekelwa kwesisindo esibuhlungu ngexesha losizi oluninzi kunokuthi kuphuculwe, amazinga emandla akhula, kunye nomdla kwimisebenzi evuyisayo. Intlungu ayisoze yaphela, kodwa iingcamango zokudabuka nokuphelelwa yithemba ziyancipha xa iinkumbulo ezilungileyo zomntu ofileyo zithatha.

Ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu uyaxhalabisa ngendlela yakhe kunye neyakhe, akukho mali okanye "isiqhelo" sexesha apho abantu bafumana / bazalise ezi zigaba. Kwezinye iimeko, ukufumana isiluleko sokutshatyalaliswa kunye / okanye ukujoyina iqela lokuxhaswa ngumntu osweleyo kunokunceda umntu osizileyo ahambe kwiindawo ezininzi ngokubanzi.

Imisebenzi emine yokulila

Ngowe-1982, isazi sezengqondo saseMerika uWilliam J. Worden washicilela incwadi ethi "UkuCetyiswa Koluhlungu kunye neNyango Yobuhlungu," eyayibeka ingcamango yakhe ngemisebenzi emine yokulila:

1. Yamkela into eyenzekayo yokulahleka: Ukuza ubuso obupheleleyo kunye nenyaniso yokuba umntu ufile kwaye akayi kubuya ngumsebenzi wokuqala umntu osizileyo kufuneka azalise. Ngaphandle kokufeza oku, awuyi kukwazi ukuqhubeka kwinkqubo yokulila.
2. Ukusebenza Ngentlungu Yobuhlungu: Indlela ophendula ngayo ekufeni komntu omthandayo udla buhlungu, kwaye uya kuba nemvakalelo ehlukahlukeneyo, njengomsindo, unecala, ukwesaba, ukuxinezeleka, ukudabuka, ukuphelelwa ithemba, njl. Lo msebenzi uthatha ixesha . Kufuna umntu oshonelwe ukuba aqonde le mivakalelo eyahlukileyo kunye nentlungu, kunokuphelisa okanye ukuphepha loo mvakalelo, ukuze usebenze kuwo.

1. Ulungelelaniso kwiNdalo apho ilahlekile ilahleke khona: Ukongeza kwiinguqu zengqondo kunye / okanye yengqondo, lo msebenzi ungadinga ukufumana indima okanye umsebenzi lowo oshonile owakwenzayo, kwaye uya kuhluka ngohlobo lwentsebenziswano. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lifa, lo msebenzi ungabandakanya ukuphatha iimali zezindlu, ukukhulisa umntwana wodwa, ukufumana umsebenzi okanye ukubuyela emsebenzini, njl njl.
2. Fumana uxhumano oluhlala kunye noxakekileyo Ngethuba lokuqalisa Ubomi obutsha: Nangona akukho nto inokukunyanzela ukuba ulibale ngokupheleleyo ngolwalamano lwakho kunye nomntu ofileyo, umgomo kukufumana indawo efanelekileyo ebomini bakho bentsapho ehamba phambili kwaye uqale ukuhlala kwakhona. Oku kungase kufuneke ukuhamba kwezinto ezincinciweyo ukuze ulwalamano olutsha, olunentsingiselo luqalise ukwenza.

Ukusebenza ngemisebenzi emine yokulila kunokunceda abafelweyo bavumelane nokulahlekelwa kwabo baze babuyele kwimeko entsha yesiqhelo. Kwakhona, ukubandakanyeka kumaqela enkxaso yokulahlekelwa okanye ukufuna ukululekwa ngentlungu kunokunceda abantu baqhube kule mi sebenzi.