Iingcebiso ezi-6 zokujongana nokulahleka ngexesha lexesha leeholide
Kuba umntu ojongene nokugula, intlungu, okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo, iiholide zingabakho ixesha lokudabuka, intlungu, umsindo okanye ukwesaba. Kunokuba nzima ukujamelana nayo, ngakumbi xa ubona izinto kunye nezandi zentlalo yeholide ezikujikelezile.
Ukuxhamla kunye nokuhamba kwentlungu kunokunyamezela ngamajelo enkumbulo, ngakumbi ngexesha loSuku lukaValentine, i-Thanksgiving neKrismesi.
Intlungu iyakwazi ukuphakamisa uxinzelelo olusoloko luyinxalenye yeeholide. Ungaqala njani ukuzalisa ukungabi nalutho ovakalelwa ngayo xa kubonakala ngathi wonke umntu uphuphuma ngokuvuyela? Kukho izicwangciso ezimbalwa ongayisebenzisa ukuze uncede ufikelele ngeli xesha.
Zizinikele Abanye Ububele
Enye yezona zinto ezintle ongakwenzayo zinike imvume yokuziva nantoni na oyiva ngayo. Zama ukungabi ngxangxwa kwinkolelo yokuba kufuneka uzive ngendlela ethile okanye wenze izinto ezithile ukuze wenze ieholide "eqhelekileyo." Ukuba uziva uhlungu, vumela iinyembezi zize; Ukuba uziva unomsindo, vumela ukuba uqhube umqhubi.
Yiba nomusa kuwe
Kubalulekile ukuba ufumane okunye kunye nokutya okufunekayo uze uzame ukuba ungathathi ngaphezu kokusingatha. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala wedwa, ke uzukise loo nto. Ukuba unqwenela inkampani kunye nothando lwabanye, funani. Yenza nantoni na into evelayo kuwe ngeli xesha elinzima.
Cela Uze Uyamkele Uncedo
Ixesha leeholide alikho ixesha lokubonisa amandla kunye nokuzimela xa uhlungu ngenxa yokufa. Uzakufuna uncedo kunye nenkxaso yabanye ukuze ufikelele, ngoko ungaziva ngathi ungumthwalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bafumana ukwaneliseka kunye novuyo ekuncedeni abo bakhathalelayo.
Emva kokufa, abantu baninzi banqwenela ukunceda kodwa nje abazi ukuba njani. Ukuba ufuna umntu ukuba akuncedise ukulungisa ukutya, ukuthenga okanye ukuyihobisa, le yithuba lokuthetha kunye nokwenza izidingo zakho ziziwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, baya kuvuya ukuziva ngathi bancedisa ngandlela-thile.
Kuyafana neenjongo zakho zemvakalelo. Abahlobo kunye namalungu entsapho banokuziva bengakhululekile ukuthetha ngeentlungu zakho. Basenokucinga ukuba awufuni ukuthetha ngawo kwaye akafuni ukukhunjuzwa intlungu yakho.
Umbutho we-American Psychological Association (APA) uqaphele ukuba ukungathethi malunga nokufa komntu kubangele ukuba ube yedwa kwaye udimaze abo bakhona ukuba bakuxhase. Kwakhona, kuya kufuneka uxelele abathandekayo bakho indlela engcono yokukunceda. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha malunga nantoni na, okanye ufuna nje ihlombe ukukhala, bazise.
Fumana inkxaso
Ukukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho ngokuqhelekileyo kuyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokuyifumana kunye nokufumana abantu onokuthetha nabo kuya kunceda. Abahlobo kunye nezihlobo banokuba inkxaso enkulu ngexesha leentlungu. Nangona kunjalo, banokuba bajamelana neemvakalelo zabo okanye baxakeke kwieholide ezingenakukunika inkxaso oyifunayo.
Enye into efanelekileyo kukujonga iqela leenkxaso zentlungu .
Unokukhangela kwi-intanethi okanye uhlolisise ngamabandla asekuhlaleni, amaziko oluntu, amakhaya omngcwabo, okanye i-hospice ukufumana iqela elikufanayo. Amalungu eqela lokuxhasa ahlala esenza abahlobo ekugqibeleni abe ngumthombo wokuthuthuzela kunye nokunyamekela iminyaka emininzi ezayo.
Yenza umehluko
Abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukunceda abanye ngeendlela ezinkulu okanye ezincinci ngexesha leeholide. Sinokusilahla utshintsho lwethu kwibhasikidi yokuthandana, ukuthenga isipho kumntwana osweleyo, okanye ukunikela entlanganisweni eyintandokazi. Oku kunokusinceda sizive ngathi sinegalelo ekulungileyo.
Ngokufanayo, ukuncedisa ukuphucula ubomi babanye kunokunceda ukugxila ekulahlekeni kwakho.
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukuzithandela kunokuba luncedo kwimpilo yethu yengqondo, ngokukodwa njengoko sineminyaka yobudala.
Cinga ngokuzithandela kwikhaya labahlengikazi, esibhedlele, esibhedlele , kwindawo yokuhlala yabantwana, okanye ekhitshini lesobho. Unokufumana indlela yokunceda ilungu lentsapho okanye umhlobo onokuyidinga. Naliphi na lezi zinto zinokuthi zibonakalise i-cathartic kwaye zincede kwinkqubo yokuphilisa.
Yeka ukwenza ukuthelekiswa
Kulula ukubona abanye abantu okanye iintsapho zijabulela imikhosi yeholide kwaye uqhathanise namava abo kwinto ovakalelwa ngayo ngeli xesha elinzima. Oku kunokukwenza uzive ukhulu ngakumbi okanye ukuba usweleka ngendlela ethile.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba iiholide zixinzeleleka kubantu abaninzi kwaye azinqabile ukuba "imilingo" imibuthano eboniswa kumakhadi okubulisa, ama-movie okanye kumabonwakude. Zama ukwamukela oko unakho kunokukufanisa noko ucinga ukuba abanye banako.
ILizwi
Njengoko kunzima njengoko kubonakala ngathi, uya kuphila kwieholide enye. Ngenxa yosizi lwakho, le holide ingaba yinto enzima kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, uya kuphumelela kwaye uphume kwelinye icala kunamandla kunaphambili. Akukufaneki ukuba ujonge iiholide okanye uhambe ngeendlela zokuzenza uzonwaba.
Oko kwathiwa, kulungile ukuba nexesha elifanelekileyo naphezu kwentlungu. Ukuba ulonwabo luhamba nge window yakho yentlungu, vumela ukuba kwenzeke kwaye ujabule. Ngeke uyenze umthandi wakho ngokungekho sikweni ngokuzivuyisa. Isipho esona sikhulu kunazo zonke onokunceda nabani na omthandayo kukuba kukunyaniseka kuwe kwaye uphile ubomi bakho ngokupheleleyo, njengoko ulungelelanisa nokulahleka.
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