Iinguqu ezintle emva kokuxilongwa kweCanscer

"Andiyi kufisa umdla kumntu, kodwa ekhangele ngasemva, kukho iindlela ukuba ndingumuntu ongcono kunokuba ndingaze ndibe nomhlaza." - engaziwa

Ngaba uvile umntu othi bangumuntu ongcono okanye banandipha ubomi ngaphezu kokuba befumene ukuba nomhlaza? Mhlawumbi, kungaphezulu kokucinga. Uphando lusitshela ukuba abaninzi abantu bafumana isantya "sokwanda kwe-posttraumatic". Amagama amaninzi kunye namazwi asetyenziswe ukuchaza olu tshintsho emva komhlaza, njengale:

• Imigca eshayinayo
• Izibonelelo zomhlaza
• "Nguwuphi umhlaza oye wandifundisa"
• Ukwenza intetho, ukwenziwa kwengqondo, okanye ukufumana inzuzo
• Ukuguqula ubomi
• Iintsikelelo zomhlaza, okanye
• Isipho somhlaza

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu uza kuhamba nomdlavuza ngokuzikhethela, kodwa abantu abayi-14.5 (kunye nokukhula) e-US abaye bafumana ingozi ebomini ngumhlaza, kunokududuzeka ngokungazi ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho iinqununu zesilivere .

Nangona kungekhona wonke umntu ohlakulela amava okukhula komzimba, ubuncinane kwisiqingatha kwisibini kwisithathu sabasindileyo bayavuma ukutshintsha okulungileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu banokufumana utshintsho olungakumbi ixesha elide liye lalunjalo ukususela ngoxilongo lwabo. Ngeenjongo zeli nqaku, siya kusebenzisa inqaku eliqhelekileyo lomdlavuza osindayo. Umntu osinde ngumhlaza ngumntu onomdlavuza, ukususela ngosuku abafunyaniswa ngayo, kunye nabo bonke ubomi babo.

Ukukhula kwe-Posttraumatic kwenzeka kwiimeko ezininzi ezibeka ubomi obungozi okanye ezithintela uxinzelelo, kuquka nomhlaza. Izifundo zifumene ubungqina bokukhula komntu kubantu bonke abaneentlobo zomhlaza kunye nazo zonke izigaba zesifo, nangona ubukhulu kunye nohlobo lwenguqu luhlukile kumntu ngamnye. Nangona i-term posttraumatic growth iyingqungquthela, iimbono zokubandezeleka ezikhokelela ekuguquleni zibuyela ekuqaleni kwegama elibhalwayo kwaye zithethwa kwiinkoliso ezininzi zehlabathi.

Amaphepha alandelayo achaza iintlobo ezininzi zeenguqu ezintle eziphawuliweyo kuphando. Njengoko ufunda ngale "zibonelelo," cinga ngendlela umhlaza uthinte ngayo ubomi bakho. Ungaphuthelwa ngamaphepha okugqibela, nangona kunjalo, ezichazela ezi nguqulelo kumagama omhlaza osindileyo, olulandelwe ngamaccebiso ekukhuthazeni ukukhula kwakho emva kokuhamba.

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Ukuxabisa Ubomi

Uninzi lwezifundo malunga nokukhula kwangemva kokukhula kwimizimba yezigulane zomhlaza ziye zafumana ukuxabisa ngokutsha kobomi ukuba enye yezona zinto ziqhelekileyo zesiliva.

Kungaba nzima ukuchaza lo mva kumntu ongenakuphila nomdlavuza (okanye nayiphi na enye imeko egxininisayo okanye esongela ubomi).

Kukhangeleka emehlweni abantu kwiNgqungquthela ye-LUNGevity HOPE ye-Annual -many abangakaze badibane nomnye umdlavuza womhlaza wamaphafu-ngoku egumbini ngokuqinisekileyo egcwele umdlavuza womdlavuza wamaphaphu. Yaye kulaba basindileyo, ukwazi abaninzi banokufumaneka kuphela ngenxa yokunyanga kwonyango lomhlaza okwenziwe kunyaka owedlule okanye ezimbini.

Yiloo nto esiyibonayo kwintlalo engapheliyo yonyaka oneminyaka emibili ibona intaka entsha, okanye ulwandle, okanye i-ladybug okokuqala. Uhlobo olunjalo lomntwana luloyiko kwaye luyamangalisa.

Umdlavuza womlwelwe we-Lung uJim Morrison uthabatha ulwazisa olusandul 'utsha lobomi ngokucacileyo kwincwadi ethi To See Another Sunrise. Ukuphuma kwelanga ngosuku olutsha luyingxenye enye yobomi engasetyenziswanga emva komhlaza.

Kutheni singayixabisi ubomi kule nqanaba ngaphambi komhlaza? Ewe, abanye abantu abanentlonelo. Kodwa abaninzi bethu babona ngokucacileyo ngokucacileyo kuba ezinye zezinto ezijoliswe kuzo zijoliswe kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye lijoliswe kwixesha elizayo. Ngomhlaza, abantu banokuhlala baphila ngokulula kancinane. Ngoba? Kukho ingcamango engaqinisekanga yokuba lo mzuzu unakho konke esinakho.

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Ukuphucula ubudlelwane

Kukho into enye engatshintshiyo kunye nokuxilongwa komhlaza, ukuba oko kuya kuba utshintsho. Abantu abaye bahlala beqhelana nabo bangaba ngabahlobo bakho abathembekileyo kakhulu, ngelixa abanye bakho ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bungase buphele. Ulwalamano oluhle luqiniswa, kwaye ubudlelwane obuhle buya kuhamba.

Phakathi kobudlelwane obomelezwayo, abasindileyo abanomhlaza baziva bexhalabisa kakhulu. I-Cancer inikeza ithuba elikhethekileyo lokuba lijongene nobungozi kwaye livakalise iimvakalelo ezinzulu. Oku kuvuleka kunokukhokelela ekufudumeni, kubuhlobo obusondeleyo.

Ukuqiniswa kobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabasindileyo bomhlaza kuya kwindlela zombini. Abantu abaninzi abanomdlavuza baqonda-ngamanye amaxesha okokuqala-kubaluleke kangakanani kwabanye, kwaye banani abahlobo babo nabathandekayo abakhathalelayo. Ngaloo xesha, abasindileyo abanomdlavuza bavame ukuvelana novelwano olukhulu, okukhokelela kubathandekayo babo bazive bebathandekile kwaye banakekelwa.

Kubalulekile ukubonisa ukuba ukukhula okuhle akufani nokuba nesimo sengqondo esihle. Enyanisweni, ubunzulu bobudlelwane buvame ukubonwa ngokukwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo ezihamba kunye nokuxilongwa komhlaza.

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Imfesane kwabanye

Bobabini uvelwano, ukukwazi ukunyathela kwezinye izicathulo zesinye, kunye novelwano, ukunyamekela omnye, ziqhelekileyo kubantu abaye bafumana umhlaza.

Nangona unemfesane kwaye unengxaki ngaphambi kokuba uxilongwe, uqobo olujamelana noxinzelelo lomhlaza lungakwandisa ukuqonda kwakho ngezilingo omnye onokuyisebenzisa.

Ukuba awuzange uqaphele ukwanda okwenziwe kwintsilelo yakho, usenokwazi ukubona ezinye zamabali ovelwano oluninzi oluqhelekileyo phakathi kwabasindileyo. Izinto ezinjengeentengiso zeTV ezibonisa abantwana abalambileyo bekhokelela kwiyure zezinyembezi.

Ngombulelo le nkonzo yesilivere yinto eqhubeka isinika. Indlela enkulu yokuhlangabezana nokuxhalaba nokungaqinisekiyo okuhambelana ne "scanxiety" kwaye ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda kukufikelela ekuncedeni abanye ukujamelana nomhlaza.

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Ukuxhotyiswa

Ukuxilongwa komdlavuza wemikhosi ekhuselekileyo ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki kunye nezicwangciso zokubhekana nokungafani nantoni na ngaphambili. I-Cancer yinkqubo yokuhlaselwa ehamba ngokuhamba ngokuqala ngokuqeqeshwa ngokucwangciswa komsebenzi ngosuku ofunyanisiweyo kwaye kufuna ukuba ulandelele ngezinye iinkqubo izifundo ezingekho phantsi kwezonyango kunye neengcali.

Kuyintsikelelo eyenziwa ngabaninzi abasengozini yomhlaza, ezi zizakhono ezisanda kuphuhliswa kwaye zinobuchule zinokuba luncedo ekujonganeni nemingeni engabandakanywa nomhlaza. Izifundo zisitshela ukuba izakhono ezitholakalayo kumdlavuza ohambahambayo ziqhubela kwezinye iindawo zobomi bethu. Ubuncedo obuyimveliso yoluhlobo lwenu ngonyango lunokunceda ekulawuleni izithintelo zobomi eziqhelekileyo ekulungiseleleni iresiphi ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukhethe iikholeji. Nazo izakhono zokubhekana nazo ezivela kwimizuzu emfutshane kunye nomhlaza? Ziyinto eninzi yethu inokuzuza kuyo yonke imihla.

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Amandla nokuthobeka

Kukho i-T-shirt evakalisa ukuba: "Awukwazi ukuba unamandla kangangokuba usomelele yona nto ukhethayo." Akuyena wonke umntu onomhlaza oya kufikelela kuNietzsche xa ethi, "Yintoni engakubulaliyo inokumomeleza," kodwa abaninzi abasindiswa ngumhlaza bathetha ngokufumana "amandla afihlekileyo" ababengazi ukuba babekho ngaphambi kokuba baxilongwe.

Le ngqiqo yamandla iza ngokuthobeka-ukuqonda ukulinganiselwa kwakho, kunye nokwamkelwa okukhulu kwimeko yakho. Ngamanye amazwi, abaninzi abasinda kumhlaza abaza kuthathwa njengePapa. Oko esikubonayo sisisigxina-ukuqina okungabancedisi kuphela abasindileyo ukuba bahlangabezane kwezinye iindawo zobomi ezifuna amandla angathobekiyo kodwa bafaka ingcamango yokwamkela nokuxhaswa kwizigulane ezisandul Enyanisweni, ngaphezu kokunikezela ukuba ungeyedwa, "mhlawumbi enye yeenzuzo zamaqela okuxhasa umdlavuza.

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Ubulumko kunye nezinto ezibalulekileyo

Abantu abaninzi baqaphele utshintsho olukhulu kwizinto eziphambili emva kokuxilongwa komhlaza. Izinto eziye zadluliselwa "ngelinye ilanga" zidluliselwa ukusuka ngaphantsi kwoluhlu ukuya phezulu. Imisebenzi engxamisekileyo yangaphambili, ibonakala ingxamisekileyo. Kunye nemisebenzi ebalulekileyo yento? Basenokupheliswa ngokupheleleyo.

Olu tshintsho kwizinto eziphambili zikhona nje ukutshintsha kwexeshana kwimiba yemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ngenxa yeedyuli zonyango, kodwa kunoko, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuguquka ngonaphakade kwifilosofi yobomi. Yintoni ebalulekileyo ngaphambi kokuba umhlaza uhluke kwizinto ezibalulekileyo emva komhlaza.

Utshintsho lomsebenzi wentsholongwane yoluntu kubantu abaninzi abaphila nomhlaza. Ekuqaleni, ezinye iinguqu zinokuba ziyimfuneko ngenxa yonyango, kodwa utshintsho oluhlala njalo luvela kutshintsho kwizinto eziphambili. Ukuba usebenze iiyure zomsebenzi ezingama-60 ezixelela intsapho yakho uya kuphelisa umsebenzi kwaye uchithe ixesha elongezelelweyo nosapho "ngolunye usuku," ukuba mhlawumbi ngolunye usuku ungabakho. Oku akuyiyo nje abantu abanomdlavuza ophezulu abanokungaqinisekanga, kodwa abantu abaninzi abanomdlavuza wokuqala.

Enye inzuzo engaphantsi-ecacileyo yokubaluleka njenge "inzuzo" yomhlaza kukuba abaninzi abasindayo banako ukukhulula izigulane kunye neentlungu. Akuyena nje umnqweno wokubuyisela uxolo, kodwa njengomntu osindayo omnye umhlaza wathi: "Ndabona ukuba ixesha elithatha ixesha elingakanani lokubamba umama, kwaye andisayi kufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye namandla." Ngokuqinisekileyo, akuyiyo yonke into evuthayo, kwaye ukufunda ukuvumela ukuba uphile kakuhle nomhlaza ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo nabani na ochaphazelekayo nabanye abantu abangaphantsi.

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Ukunyamekela kwezeMpilo kunye nokuNakekela

Izifundo zisitshela ukuba utshintsho oluthile oluqhelekileyo kumsindisi womhlaza ngumnqweno wokuba uqaphele impilo. Mhlawumbi kukuqonda ukuba asiphepheli ngumhlaza, okanye umnqweno wokulondoloza ubomi okanye ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokuphindaphinda, kodwa abaninzi abasindileyo bafumana ukutya okunempilo kwaye bazama ukwandisa umsebenzi wabo wemihla ngemihla (ngaphandle kokunyanga).

Ukwenyuka kwimiba yempilo yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa abaninzi abasindayo banika ulwazi olwandisiweyo lwempilo yengqondo. Ulwalamano olubalulekileyo luncedwa, kwaye ulwalamano olubi luhlolwa.

Ukuphendula kwizigulane ezininzi zinqwenela ukubandakanya iingqondo zomzimba kwiprogram yabo yokuphulukisa, amaninzi amanqanaba eengxaki zomhlaza ngoku anikezela unyango lwe-cancer olubandakanya ukucamngca , ukunyanga ukunyanga , i- yoga , kunye nokwenziwa kwamathambo , kunye neendawo zokudala, ezifana nolobugcisa .

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Ezintsha

Le "isiliva yelinen" ayinakho inembile. Kutheni i-diagnostic yomhlaza-ingakumbi ukuba ungumhlaza onobuhlwempu-ube ngumnyango wamathuba amatsha? Ukuba unenkathazo ekufanekiseni umdlavuza ngale ndlela, zibuze: "Ngaba kukho na umntu ongeke adibana nayo ukuba ungenomdlavuza? Ingaba kukho na indawo ongenakuya khona ukuba ungenayo umdlavuza? kukho nayiphi na imisebenzi emitsha ongayi kuzama ukuba ungenayo umdlavuza? "

Uninzi lwethu ludibana nabantu abatsha ngexesha lohambo lwethu lomhlaza. Kungenzeka ukuba ube kwiklinikhi yomhlaza okanye kwiqela leenkxaso. Kungaba ngabavakalisi okanye abaqhelana nabo abangabonakaliyo ababonakala bevela emaplanga, ngokuqhelekileyo kuba bona okanye othandekayo baye bafumana umhlaza. Kungaba lula ukuba indima odlala kuyo intsapho yakho iyatshintsha.

Xa udibana nabantu abatsha, udibana nabantu abonwaba ngamava ahlukeneyo, kwaye oku kuvula amathuba amasha.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ekuqaleni kwimisebenzi emitsha kunye namava okunyangwa ngumhlaza yinto onokuhlala ngaphandle. Sekunjalo nangona kwimeko yokususelwa kwintsholongwane abantu baqala-okanye ekugqibeleni bafikelela kwimisebenzi abayithandayo. Kungenzeka ukuba ngoku ufunda ezoveli-nto uhlale unqwenela ukuba ube nako lokufunda.

Njengoko ixesha liqhubeka, kwaye uluhlu lwakho oluphambili luye latshintshwa, unokuba ukhangela izinto kwiluhlu lwamabhakethi-uluhlu lwezinto ezilindele ukuzenza ngaphambi kokuba ufe. Kutheni silinde?

Yintoni oye wafuna ukuyenza? Dlala ipiyano? Funda ukudlala igalofu? Uhambo?

Uninzi lwethu ngomhlaza uyaqonda izibonelelo zohlu lwamabhakethi. Ukuba awuzange uqalise enye, namhlanje ngumhla olungileyo ukuqala. Yaye ugcine engqondweni: ukuba ufikelela ekupheleni kweluhlu lwamabhakethi, unokuhlala uqala entsha.

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Ukunyaniseka kokomoya

Ukunyuka kobunzulu bokomoya kunokuqhelekileyo kubantu abaphila nomhlaza.

I-National Cancer Society ichaza ngokomoya njengenkolelo yomntu malunga nenjongo yobomi. Kwabanye abantu, ukomoya kubonakaliswa ngonqulo oluhlelekile, kwabanye, lo mbono unamava ngobugcisa, ukuthetha kunye nendalo okanye ukucamngca.

Kwabo abanokholo lwenkolo, olu kholo ludla lukhula ngelixa lonyango. Kwabo bavakalisa ngokomoya ngokwenza ubugcisa, bavame ukuziva bexhamle ngakumbi nabanye abavakalisa ngayo ngale ndlela. Kwabo abathanda imvelo, ubunzulu beentlungu ngexesha lokuhamba emaphandleni banokwanda.

Akunjalo ukuba ukomoya kungabikho kubantu ngaphambi komhlaza. Kunoko, i-"up-up" umnxeba unomdla oza kubangela ubomi bokubaluleka kunye nemisebenzi yobomi iqhutyana kakhulu

Njengenzuzo eyongeziweyo kule "ngenelo," ukomoya kunokuthatha indima emdlalweni wesifo ngokuphathelele kwizifundo ezimbalwa.

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Ukufumana Iingenelo Ekuhambeni Kwakho Ngomdlavuza

Usenokuba uqaphele ngenye yophando malunga nokuxinwa kwe-posttraumatic, okanye mhlawumbi wazibonela kwamanye amabali avela kwabanye abasindileyo bomhlaza abaye bafumana iinqununu zesilivere ekuhambeni kwabo. Izifundo ezivuyisayo nazo zijonge iindlela zokuba abantu bakwazi ukwandisa ukukhula kwabo ngokwawo ngohambo lwabo lomhlaza. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unokuba udimazekile, kwaye ungenakuze ucinge ukucinga malunga nantoni na into enokuthi ibe nomhle malunga nomhlaza.

Nazi ezinye iimbono ekufumaneni nasekukhuleni iziphumo:

• Qhubeka ukhangelelanisa izilivere zesilivere. Abanye abantu abanomhlaza abaqapheli utshintsho olulungileyo oluye lwaluqhutyelwa de bajonga. Cinga ukuhambisa uhambo lwakho lomhlaza . Unokufisa ukubuza abathandekayo bakho ukuba bakubone njani bekhula xa uhlolwe.
• Hlola ezi ngcebiso zokunandipha ubomi bakho kunye nokufunda ukunandipha umzuzu.
• Cinga ngendlela ubuhlobo bakho obubaluleke kakhulu buye buphucula ngayo kwindlela yohambo lwakho lomhlaza ngoku. Thetha nabo bantu malunga nemizwa yakho.
• Cinga ngento oya kuyenza ngoku ukuba awuyi kuqwalasela ukwenza ngaphambi komhlaza. Okanye, cinga ngomntu onalo ithuba lokudibana ukuba mhlawumbi akunakuze udibane.
• Ngaba kukho izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi okanye ezingabalulekanga kuwe ngoku ukususela xa ufumene uvavanyo?
• Ukuba nolwazi olunzulu lwezempilo alugcini nje kuphela amandla kodwa kunganciphisa umngcipheko wokuphindaphinda kwamanye amagciwane. Khangela i-American Institute for Guidelines Research Cancer for Survivors of Cancer.

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