Umhlobo okanye othandekayo uye wahlinzwa ngokutsha, kwaye xa efika esibhedlele, umphathiswa wezonyango uqala ukuqala inkqubo yokubuyisela. Ukubukela umhlobo wakho othandekayo njengoko evuka kwaye ehamba nge-hip yabo entsha kukukwenza uzive ungancedi. Ungenzani? Unokuba njani uncedisi osebenzayo kumntu womnye umntu ohlala naye ngaphandle kokuxhalabisa okanye ukuhamba endleleni?
Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba ngumnakekeli komntu emva kokuhlinzwa okutshintshileyo okutshintshiweyo?
Indlela Ongayinceda ngayo
Ukuba umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho lisebenza ngokutyunjwa ngokutsha, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uncede. Ezi zinto zingabandakanya izinto ezilula okanye imisebenzi enzima kakhulu, kodwa nayiphi na into inokuba luncedo ngelixa umhlobo wakho elula. Izindlela ezahlukeneyo umnakekeli angakunceda emva kokuhlinzwa okubandakanyekayo kunokubandakanya:
- Nceda ukulungiselela ukuhlinzwa. Ngaphambi kokuhlinzwa, abaninzi abantu bayazuza ngokufunda izinto ezimbalwa ezenzayo. I-pre-op yonyango yomzimba yokuhlinzwa ngokubambisana ngokunxulumana kunokunceda isigulane sinamandla amakhulu kunye nokuhamba okunokuthi kube nefuthe elihle kwi-post-op yokubuyisela. Ngaphezu koko, ukufunda malunga nokuhlinzwa okulindileyo kunokunceda ukubeka ingqondo yomntu wonke malunga noko kukulindela. Khuthaza ilungu lakho lentsapho ukuba livakashele umphathiswa wezobugcisa malunga nokuqeqeshwa kwangaphambili ngaphambi kokuba ulungiselele ukuhlinzwa ngokubambisana.
- Uncedo ekulawuleni isixhobo esixhasayo . Emva kokuhlinzwa, ilungu lentsapho linokuhamba kunye nomgibeli wesondo okanye iinqonga, kwaye unokufuna uncedo lokulawula ezi zinto. Ukufumana uncedo lokuhamba kunye nokuphuma kwinqwelo okanye ukuhla kwezitebhisi kunokufuna umsebenzi omncinane, kwaye wena, njengomnakekeli, unokuba ngumntu onokukunceda.
- Uncedo kwiprogram yokuqhuba ekhaya. Emva kokuhlinzwa, umphathiswa wezonyango uya kubeka iprogram yekhaya (HEP). Oku kungenzeka esibhedlele, kwiziko lokuhlaziya, okanye kwisibonelelo seP PT. I-HEP ibalulekile, kwaye ivumela umthandayo ukuba asebenze ngokuzimela ekufumaneni amandla kunye nokuhamba phakathi kweeseshoni zonyango. Njengomnakekeli, unokukunceda ukugcina umkhondo we-HEP kwaye unokuqinisekisa ukuba uqeqesho luyenziwa ngokufanelekileyo.
- Ukukhuthaza nokukhuthaza . I-rehab ingaba nzima emva kokutyunjwa okwenziwe ngokuhlanganyela. Enye yemisebenzi yakho ephambili inokuba kukunikela ngokukhuthazwa kunye nokukhuthazwa kumthande wakho. Ukunceda isigulane sihlale sigxininise kwiinjongo zangexesha elide lonyango kunokunceda ukuqinisekiswa ngesiphumo esihle emva kokuhlinzwa okwenziwa ngokuhlanganyela.
- Uncedo lokuhlela amayeza . Ezinye izigulana zifuna unyango emva kokuhlinzwa ngokubanzi ukulawula intlungu kunye nokuvuvukala. Ukuncedisa ukuhlela nokulawula amayeza kunokuba ngumsebenzi obalulekileyo kumntu wakho othandekayo emva kokutshintshwa okuhlangeneyo.
- Ukunikezela ngezikhumbuzo ezincinci zokulondolozwa kweposi. Emva kokutshintshwa kwe-hip totali, kunokubakho ukunqanda ukunyanzelisa okumele kulandelwe ukuqinisekisa ukuba umdibaniselwano awuhambisani. Oku kufanayo kunyanzelekile ukutshintshwa kwefayili. Ukufunda ezi zinto zokuzikhusela kunye nokunceda umntu obathandayo uyigcine yinto ebalulekileyo yomnakekeli.
- Ukuncedisa ukuthutha ukuya kwipilisi. Xa umhlobo wakho ekhutshwa esibhedlele, unokufuna uncedo lokuthutha ukuya kwipilisi okanye kwiofisi yegqirha. Ngethuba lokugqibela emva kwexesha, ukuqhuba umkhondo kungavunyelwa, kwaye umsebenzi womnakekeli unokuba ukuqinisekisa ukuhamba okukhuselekileyo nokuthembekileyo kumhlobo okanye othandekayo.
- Jonga ngeempawu zoxinzelelo. Uphando olupapashwe nge- Aging kunye neMpilo yeNgxelo yezeMpilo lubonisa ukuba malunga neyodwa kwizigulane ezine zihlupheke ngenye indlela yokudandatheka ngaphambi nangemva kokuhlinzwa ngokuguqulwa kwamadolo. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yentlungu, ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza, kunye nentsebenziswano engaphelelanga yentlalo emva kokuhlinzwa. Jonga iimpawu zokudakumba , kwaye uzazise umphathiswa wezonyango okanye ugqirha malunga naluphi na uxhalaba malunga neempawu zelungu lentsapho yakho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukufumaneka kumhlobo wakho okanye othandekayo emva kokutshintshwa ngokubambisana kunye nakho konke okuyimfuneko. Ukubonelela ngononophelo kunye nokukhuthazwa kungakho konke okufunekayo. Mamela isigulane, kwaye ube nomonde xa unyamekela umthandayo emva kokutshintshwa okuhlangeneyo.
Indlela unyango lweZinyama luncedo ngayo
Ingcinga efanelekileyo yokuhamba nomhlobo wakho okanye othandekayo kwi-PT emva kokutshintshwa ngokubambiseneyo. Ingcali yomzimba ingasebenza nawe (kunye nesigulane) ukunceda wonke umntu ukuba aqonde oko kufuneka kwenziwe ukwenzela ukunyamekela. Ezinye izinto i-PT enokuyenza zi nokuba:
- Ukubonelela ngemigaqo malunga nokuqapha okuhlangeneyo.
- Ukufundisa indlela yokusebenzisa izixhobo zokuncedisa
- Ukufundisa malunga nesisindo sokuthwala iinkqubo
- Ukubonelela ngeprogram ebhaliweyo yasekhaya kunye nawe nesigulane kwaye ikufundise ukuba kwenziwa njani umsebenzi ngamnye
- Nika iziphakamiso zokubonelela ngeyona ndlela iphakamileyo yokukhuthazwa kunye nokukhuthazwa kwesigulane
Qiniseka ukuba uphulaphule isifo somzimba, kwaye uzama ukuba ungabi kakhulu kwixesha leeseshini zonyango. I-PT iza kukukhawulela xa kuyimfuneko; akukho nto ibenzi ngaphezu komnakekeli ophazamisa inkqubela phambili emva kokutshintshwa ngokubambisana.
ILizwi
Kunokuba nzima ukubukela umntu onomdla malunga nokuhamba ngokuthethelela kunye nokuhlaziya, kwaye unokuba ufuna ukubandakanyeka kwaye uncede. Ukuba ngumnyamekeli womntu emva kokutshintshwa ngokubambiseneyo kunokuba nzima. Awukwazi ukuba yintoni efunekayo okanye into enokuyenza ukuze unike uncedo olungcono. Sebenzisana nomthetheli womzimba othembekileyo kwaye uphulaphule iimfuno zesigulane, kwaye unokuqiniseka ukuba ungumncedisi osebenzayo kumntu emva kokuhlinzwa okutshintshiweyo.
> Umthombo:
> Scott, JE, etal. Ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuxhalaba emva kokutshintshwa ngokubambisana kwabantu abadala: ukuhlaziywa kweemeta. Impilo yokuguga yeMent, 20 (12): 2015; 1243-1254.