Uninzi lwabazali baneenjongo ezikhethekileyo kubantwana babo - kunye neenjongo ezithile ezizezona zabantwana abane-autism. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezo njongo ziqala ngokuthi "Ndifuna umntwana wam abe nolonwabo." Noko ke, kunzima ukulinganisa.
Ngaba utsho ukuba "Ndifuna ukuba umntwana wam angaziva exhala, ukwesaba, okanye ukudabuka, kwaye unomnqweno onokuthi unelisekile ngokukhawuleza?" Ngaba utsho ukuba "Ndifuna umntwana wam abe nobomi obuzalisekisa iimfuno zakhe kunye neenjongo zakhe?" Okanye uthetha ukuba "Ndifuna umntwana wam ukuba abe nobomi endiya kumjonga ngaye?"
Bambalwa abazali abafuna abantwana babo-ngisho nabantwana babo be-autistic-ukuba baphumelele ebomini kwintlalo evuyayo yokubukela i-TV kunye neepatati, ezixhomekeke kuzo zonke izinto ezibandakanyekayo kwihlabathi lenene. Kodwa baninzi abamaMama nabazali banomdla kakhulu kwimibono yabo yolonwabo kunokuba iminqweno yomntwana okanye izinto ezikhethiweyo.
Oku kunengqiqo kwinqanaba: abantwana abane-autism banokuba nexesha elinzima ukucinga okanye ukucacisa iingcamango ezithile malunga noko bafuna ubomi. Nokuba intsha okanye abantu abadala kwi-spectrum banokugxininiswa ngakumbi kwixesha elide kunexesha elide. Kwaye ukwenza injongo kudinga ukucinga okungaqhelekanga kunye nokucwangciswa kolawulo okungenakulungele ukukulindela.
Noko ke, iingxaki zivela, xa abazali bezalisa naziphi na iimpawu kunye nemibono yabo yinto enqwenelekayo, inomdla, ikhululekile, okanye ikhethwayo. Kungenxa yokuba ithemba kunye namaphupha omntu omdala ongenomdlavuza abaqhelekanga kumdlalo ofanelekileyo kumntwana we-autistic, umntwana osemtsha okanye omdala.
Enyanisweni iinjongo zabazali zivame ukudalwa, kungekhona ngengqondo yazo, kodwa nethemba (ngamanye amaxesha ungancibiliki) ukuba umntwana wabo ozimelayo uya kuba ngumntu omdala.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, abazali abaninzi banethemba kwaye baphupha, umntwana wabo uya kufumana imimiselo yoluntu kunye nokulindela. Ngokwenza njalo, umama, utata, umkhulu, umkhulu, kunye noluntu ngokubanzi banolonwabo kwaye banokukhululeka.
Iinjongo eziqhelekileyo eziphathiswe ngabazali be-Autistic Children
Ingaba kukho naziphi na ezi njongo eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo?
- "Ndifuna umntwana wam abe neqela elihle labangane."
- "Ndifuna umntwana wam ukuba aphile ngokuzimela ."
- "Ndifuna umntwana wam ukuba atshate kwaye abe nosapho."
- "Ndifuna ukuba umntwana wamphathe kwaye acinge ngokuqhelekileyo."
- "Ndifuna umntanami abe nomsebenzi omhle kwaye aqhubeke phambili emsebenzini wakhe."
Njengoko usenokuba uqaphele, zonke iinjongo ezingentla-zonke ezo zibonakaliswa ngabazali bezingane ezizimeleyo-zakhiwe malunga nezithandwa kunye nezakhono ezifuna izakhono zokunxibelelana kwezentlalo, izakhono zokucwangcisa eziqinile, ukhetho lokuchitha ixesha kumaqela asekuhlaleni, kunye neenjongo zobuntu. Baye banqwenela ukufumana iqabane lomtshato osisigxina kwaye (ngokufanelekileyo) bavelise inzala.
Abantu abane-autism banamandla amaninzi, izakhono, umdla kunye neminqweno. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ziyi-autistic, ayinakukwazi ukuba namandla, izakhono, iimfuno, okanye iminqweno ehambelana namaqela oluntu okanye umnqweno wokubangela abanye.
Abantu abaninzi abane-autism bakhetha ngokuzimela kwimiqela. Abanye abantu abane-autism badibana, kodwa baninzi bafumana ubungqina obusondeleyo ukuba bube nzima.
Okona, ngumntu onqabileyo ono-autism onomnqweno oqhelekileyo wokufuna ukuphazamisa nokukhupha abo ontanga okanye abazali bakhe.
Iinjongo ezifanelekileyo zoMntwana nge-Autism
Ngoko, ziziphi iinjongo ezifanelekileyo zomntwana ophethe i-autism? Njengoko nayo yonke into ehambelana nombonakalo we-autism, iimpendulo ziya kuhluka - kwaye ziya kuxhomekeka kumandla, iimfuno kunye neminqweno yomntwana wakho ngamnye.
Iyiphi indlela engcono yokuqalisa ngokuzibekela iinjongo, ngoko? Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha kwaye uyakwazi ukunxibelelana ngezihloko ezinzima, qalisa ingxoxo malunga nokucwangcisa ixesha elide. Ukuba akunjalo, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukusekela ezinye iinjongo ngenjongo yokucwangciswa kwenguqu , jonga kwaye ubandakanye nomntwana.
Uyithandani ? Yintoni efanelekileyo? Ngabe ukhululeke nini, ukhululekile, kwaye wenza ntoni?
Umntwana wakho kuphela unokukuxelela okulungileyo kumntu.