Iqhinga elincinci kunye nokucatshulwa kwangaphambili kunokuhamba ixesha elide
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko yonyango, kunokuba nzima ukuthetha izinto ezilungileyo. Xa ufumanisa ukuba umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho linama- multiple sclerosis (MS) kwaye awukwazi okwaneleyo malunga nalo, kulula ukunyathela unyawo lwakho emlonyeni wakho.
Unokuthi uthethe kakuhle kwaye ufuna ngokwenene ukuxhuma kumntu onomsebenzi we-MS ngokuthi ezinye zezi zinto zilandelayo. Nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukuqaphela ukuba ezininzi zale nkcazo zingabetha indawo enomdla kumhlobo wakho, zibenze zithukuthele, kunokuba zibathande kubo.
Ukuba ungumntu onomhlobo, isihlobo okanye omaziyo kunye ne-MS, nceda ukhangele eli nqaku. Ngethemba, kuya kukunceda ukuba uqonde kangcono apho abaphila nesi sifo bevela khona, kunye nokunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza incoko yangempela malunga ne-MS.
"Kodwa ukhangeleka kakhulu!"
Le nkcazo inomsindo kubantu abaninzi abane-MS. Uninzi luya kuba luva ukuba abantu banelisekile kukuba banesifo esingapheliyo kunokuthi bacinge, "Wow. Ubonakala buhlungu kangangokuba ndiqinisekile ukuba yinto engapheliyo."
Nangona kunjalo, kumntu onomncedisi we-MS, oku kunzima ukuva xa beziva bexakekile ngo-9: 45 ekuseni kwaye bayazi ukuba kufuneka bawenze ngenye indlela.
Njengoko "lihle" njengoko le ngxelo ibonakala ngathi, ayiboni zonke iimpawu ezingabonakali ezibethelela abantu abane-MS. Ukukhathala , ukunyanzeliswa kwesibhanxa esenza ixhala kunye neentloni, ukungasebenzi komsebenzi okuhlala kushiywe phakathi kweminye imisebenzi.
Ukuba umntu onesi-MS sele esele akuxelele ukuba banokubandezeleka kokushisa okwenza ukuba baxakeke okanye bahlupheke, ukuba baxelele ukuba bajonga kakuhle bafanele baqondwe kunye nemigca "Kodwa izinto akunakwenzeka ukuba zibi. "U
Enye indlela engcono "Kodwa ukhangeleka kakhulu" inokuba:
"Uvela ngaphandle, ubonakala wenza kakuhle, kodwa unjani ngokwenene?" Oku kukuvumela ukuba ugqithise into yokuba umntu onomdla we-MS ubonakala kakuhle, kwaye uvumela i-MSer ukuba ikuxelele oko kwenzeka (ukuba uvakalelwa ngathi).
"Ndivile ukuba kukho iyeza eliphilisa i-MS."
Akukho. Ezi ziyi nyaniso, zilula kwaye zilula.
Kukho amayeza amaninzi (abizwa ngokuthi "ukuguqulwa kwezifo") ukuba abantu abane-MS banako ukujova, ukugwinya okanye ukungeniswa kunye nabo baye baboniswa ukunciphisa amathuba okubuyela kwakhona kubantu abane-MS-reing-remitting. Oku akuyiyo yonyango. Akukho zonyango ezibanceda abantu abane -MS .
Abantu abaninzi bazama nje ukunyamekela kwaye bancede ngokubalisa oko bakuva malunga 'nokunyanga.' Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho impiliso, umntu ohlala ne-MS uyazi malunga nayo phambi kwakho.
Enye indlela engcono ukusixelela 'ngonyango' ingaba yile:
Buza umhlobo wakho ukuba besivile malunga neyeza ezitsha ze-MS eziseendaba kunye noko bacinga ngako.
"Ufuna ukucinga iingcinga ezilungileyo."
Lo unokuba nomsindo kakhulu. Nceda, ungalokothi utshele umntu one-MS ukuba "ingqondo ngaphezu kwento." Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba yena unokuyeka ukuhlala phantsi kwinto yokuba imihla ngemihla iyanzima kwaye amaphupha athile angafuneka ashiywe, kwaye kugxininiswe kwiimvula kunye neekiti, yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo.
Kuyinyani ukuba ukucaphuka okanye ukrakra ngexesha elide kungabikho nto, kodwa, wonke umntu kufuneka afune indlela yakhe nesi sifo. Ukubaxelela ukuba bacinga iingcamango ezivuyayo zifana nezo zipostile ezibuhlungu zentaka enamathele kwi-brandy encinci ngegama elithi "Zama nzima!" okanye umfanekiso wentaba ngamagama athi "Finyelela phezulu!" zibandakanya kuwo.
Enye enye ingcono ibe yile:
Nika uvelwano oluncinane kumntu onitshele ukuba bahamba ngamaxesha anzima nge-MS yabo. Zive ukhululekile ukubuza imibuzo, enokuthi ingaphendulwa okanye ingaphendulwa.
"Ndandinomama (udadewethu, utitshala esikolweni esiphakeme, njl.) Obenayo i-MS waza wafa kuyo."
Ngoku, kutheni umntu ofuna ukuva malunga na?
Akukho ndlela engcono kulo mnye.
"Ufanele uzame ijusi le-goji (unyango lwe-bharatric, unyango lwezinyosi, njl.). Uncede ndinqumla i-psoriasis yam (i-tennis elbow, i-warfare warts, njl.)."
Nabani na oya kuvuya gqitha ukuba ukusela umchamo weebhokhwe kunokukuphilisa kwimeko ethile yokugula. Kuhle ukuba ufumene into eyasebenza kuwe. Basenokuze bajonge kwaye babuze imibuzo yokulandelelana.
Abantu abane-MS ababiziyo kwiiyeza ezizezinye kunye nezongezelelweyo. Uninzi luye lwazama into - okanye izinto ezininzi - ngexesha lokuphila kwabo.
Nangona kunjalo, kuya kuba neentlonelo kuwe ukuba ungayeki ukucela (okanye ukufuna) ukuba umhlobo wakho azame into emnandi ngenxa yokuba incede. Kunokubacaphukisa abantu abangenakuziva.
Enye indlela engcono kukuba:
Yabelana ngamava akho, ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuba nabani na umntu kufuneka azame. Indlela ehloniphekileyo yomntu ozama izinto (izidlo, ukuxilisa umzimba, iivithamini) kuya kubakho ukuvavanya kwakho kwangoko kubantu abanokuba banomdla. Lindela imibuzo yokulandelelana kwaye ubatshele indlela encede ngayo, ngaphandle kokwenza iingcebiso ngaphandle kokuba ubuze.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ufune ukungabikho ukwabelana kakhulu. Abantu abaphelisa ukuzama ezi ndlela ziyakucasula xa kuvela nzima okanye kudidekile ukuba ayisebenzi kubo.