Umbuzo: Ingaba Umntwana wam nge Autism Unabo Abambalwa Abangane?
Ndixhalabile kakhulu kuba unyana wam oneminyaka eyi-10 ubudala unabohlobo oluncinci. Empeleni uthanda ukudlala enye inkwenkwana enemiba. Akubonakali kumkhathaza, kodwa ndikhathazekile kakhulu ukuba uya kuba yedwa xa ekhulile. Ndibahlobo abaninzi kunye nabanye babo ukusuka kwisikolo samabanga.
Andifuni ukuba umntwana wam ubunzima ngenxa yokuba ndiyesaba ukuba uya kuthi, nangakumbi nakwixesha elizayo. Unokundinceda ngeengxaki zam kunye nonyana wam?
Impendulo: Kusuka kuDkt. Robert Naseef:
Ingxaki yakho iphakamisa uxhalaba lwabazali abaninzi abazinikezele nababathandayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala uyonwabile ngoku ke intsikelelo akufanele ithathwe ngokulula, kodwa ngokucacileyo oko akusiyo isiqinisekiso sovuyo lwexesha elizayo. Izinkumbulo ezimnandi zobuntwaneni bakho nazo zizinto ezilungileyo. Sifuna abantwana bethu babe namava ajabulisayo njengabethu kwaye sifuna ukuzikhusela kwiziganeko ezibuhlungu. Ngaloo ndlela, sinalo inyawo elithile ngaphambili (kwiintsapho esizivela kuzo), kunye nelinye unyawo okwangoku, kwintsapho esiyidalile.
Ukuxilongwa kwe-autism kuthatha ubunzima ekunxibelelaneni nasekunxibelelaneni, okuchaphazela ukulindela abazali abanalo kubantwana babo. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukuthetha nokuthetha, kodwa kuthetha ukuba ubomi buya kuba buhluke kakhulu kunokuba kulindeleke.
Akungabazeki ukuba imeko yonyana wakho ibe ngumngeni kwintsapho yakho. Ndifuna ukubiza ingqalelo kwisicatshulwa esithi, "Musa ukusixhalabisa" nguJim Sinclair. Lo mntu omdala one-autism unceda abazali ukuba balungise le micimbi ebaluleke kakhulu. Njengoko athi, "I-autism yindlela yokuba yinto ekhoyo, ibalabala onke amava, yonke into, ukuqonda, ukucinga, imvakalelo, kunye nokuhlangana, yonke into yokuphila.
Akunakwenzeka ukwahlula i-autism ukusuka kumntu-kwaye ukuba kwakunokwenzeka, umntu oye wayishiya akayi kuba ngumntu ofanayo oqale naye. "
Ubuhlobo yinto enye yamava ahlukeneyo. Ukuba unyana wakho unomhlobo onqwenela ukuba naye uya kubhiyozelwa. Akumangalisi ukuba unako ukuhambelana nomoya wothando-omnye umntwana onokungafani. Oku akuyi kukunciphisa okanye ukuphika iimvakalelo zakho. Kubalulekile ukwamkela impendulo yakho yemvakalelo kwimibono yabantwana bakho, kuquka neenkxalabo zakho malunga nolonwabo olusasa. Ukwamkela iingxaki zakho, ukuzibona, ukuzihlonela, nokuzivumela ukuba zihlambe phezu kwakho yindlela efanelekileyo yokuncedisa wena kunye nonyana wakho ukuba abe nolonwabo kwaye abe nakho konke. Oko ndicinga ukuba sinako ukulawula konke oku kulandelayo: ulwalamano lwethu nomntwana wethu onobomi obucelomngeni, ohluke kakhulu, kwaye ngubani ohle kwaye othandayo imihla ngemihla.
Ukusuka kuDkt. Cindy Ariel:
Sonke sifuna okulungileyo kakhulu kubantwana bethu kwaye sihlala siqhathanisa ubomi babo kunye neyethu kwinqanaba ngalinye. Ngeendlela ezininzi, oku kusinceda siqhagamshelane nabo kwaye sincede kwaye sibakhokele njengoko bekhula. Ngezinye iindlela, kunjalo, kusikhuthaza ukuba senze iiprogram ezithile zezinto zethu kubantwana bethu kwaye siziphathise ngokungathi ziyiyo.
Abantwana bethu baninzi ngathi ngathi ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa abayenawo .
Kunzima ukufunda ukuhlula abantwana bethu. Ngokukodwa, njengomama, siye saziva ukuxhamla ngokwezinto eziphilayo njengabantwana bethu ngokwenene babephakathi kwimizimba yethu kwaye baqhotyoshelweyo kuthi; siye sawabelana ngomgca wabo wobomi be-oxygen negazi. Siyazi ukuba banzulu kakhulu inxalenye yethu, kwaye kunjalo sifanele sifunde ukuhlukana kwaye siyiqonde njengabantu ngabanye ngoku basinda kwaye bekhula ngokwabo, bancedwa ngoncedo oluphela.
Uvakala njengomntu onentlalo. Kuyinto emnandi ukuba uyonwabela abantu kakhulu kwaye unako ukugcina ubuhlobo obunaphakade.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba oku kukunceda ngeendlela ezininzi ebomini bakho. Ingane yakho inokuthi ingabi njengentlalo njengoko ukhona. Inyaniso yokuba unayo nayiphi na intandane yinto entle. Abantu abaninzi banokuphela kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo kuphela kwaye bazive bekhululekile ukuhlala ngale ndlela.
Abantwana abaninzi kwimiba yokugqibela bayabakhokelela kwabanye abantwana abangahle bahluke kwaye banokuqonda ukuba kuthini ukuba bahluke; maxa wambi bafumana ubudlelwane kunye nokungafani kwabo kwaye kuyabaduduza kwaye bakhululekile kubo. Akuveki ngathi umntwana wakho ubandezeleka ngendlela onokuyenza ngayo ukuba ungenabo abahlobo abaninzi. Unokumkhuthaza kunye namathuba okuba ajikeleze kwaye asebenzisane nabanye kunye nenqanaba lokuthuthuzela abanye elithile lingaqhubeka landa. Kodwa ukugxotha kungenza ukuba azive engakumbi.
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhula ngokufanelekileyo kukukwazi ukuthanda nokuthandwa. Akukho mgangatho wokuba ungaphi abantu omele uwamthande okanye uthande ngawo. Zama ukungakhathazeki ngobungane bakhe ngaphandle kokuba ehlanganyela nawe ukuba uxinzelele kuye. Ukumnceda ngobuhlobo obukhethekileyo kunokumnceda ukuba avule ngakumbi kwaye ekugqibeleni angathintela ulwalamano olunye. Indodana yakho inenhlanhla ukuba ube nawe ecaleni , ngokucacileyo uyamthanda.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., kunye noCindy Ariel, i-Ph.D., ngabahleli abaququzeleli be "Iimvo ezivela kwi-Spectrum: Abazali, oogogo nomkhulu, abazalwana, abantu abane-Autism, kunye nabaSebenzi Belana Ubulumko Babo" (2006). Kwiwebhu kwi http://www.alternativechoices.com.