Ucinga ukuba abazali bezingane abane-disism disorder disorder beba ngabahlobo obusondeleyo kunye nabalingane. Emva koko, baninzi ngokufanayo. Ukukhulisa umntwana nge-autism kunokuba nzima kwaye kudideke, kwaye ngubani na oya kuqonda ukuba bhetele kunomzali womnye umntwana nge autism?
Nangona kunjalo ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kukho amaqela axhasekileyo abazali be-autism ngaphandle, into yokuba abazali be-autism abahlala bebona ihlabathi ngendlela efanayo.
Kanye nje ngokuba abantu abakwiimpawu bahluke kakhulu komnye, kunjalo nabazali babo. Enyanisweni, abazali bezingane (kunye nabantu abadala) kwimibandela banokuthi babe yimizila yeendlela.
Kunokwenzeka njani loo nto? Nazi zimbalwa zezizathu ezibalulekileyo.
1. Umntwana ngamnye oVikelekileyo uyingqayizivele.
Khawucinge ngenye imeko apho oomama ababini abaneminyaka eyi-10 ubudala abaxhasa abantwana babo kwisithili esifanayo. Kodwa ngelixa elinye lamakhwenkwe liphezulu ukusebenza , likwazi ukulawula izifundo eziqhelekileyo, kodwa inengxaki kunye nentsebenziswano yentlalo, enye inkwenkwe ayiyiyo izityholo kwaye inemingeni ebonakalayo.
Umama # 1 waqala ngokubhengezwa kwakhe kuqala kwaye wakwazi ukusebenza kunye nesithili ukuseka isigaba sokufundela nge-autism kunye neengcebiso ezifanelekileyo zonyana wakhe. Umama # 2, owaqalisa emva kancinci, ujongene nenyaniso yokuba kukho igumbi elitsha lenkxaso ye-autism kwisikolo esineempawu ezimbalwa ezifunwa yunyana wakhe - kwaye isithili sesikolo sinqwenela ukuba "kuya kuba kuhle . "
Umama # 1 uyavuyiswa yintoni ancedayo ukudala, kwaye akafuni utshintsho olwenziweyo; Umama # 2 ukhuthaza utshintsho olubalulekileyo kwisakhiwo kunye nokuxhasa kwi "classist classroom."
2. Abazali banalo iifayile ezahlukeneyo malunga ne-Autism.
Utata # 1 unomntwana ophethe i-autism ephakathi. Uphazamiseka ubunzima bokusebenzisana nendodana efumana "imidlalo", ayikwazi ukuhambelana nemithetho ye-Boy Scouts, kwaye ibonakala engenakunxulumana nokudibanisa neontanga ezifanayo.
Uqhutyelwa ngumnqweno wokunceda unyana wakhe afunde izakhono afuna ukuzibandakanya kunye noontanga bakhe.
Utata # 2 unomntwana onemiba efanayo - kodwa kuye, akukho nto enkulu. "Kuthiwani ukuba abantwana bethu bahluke?" Ubuza, "sifanele sixhase abantwana bethu njengoko kunjalo, kwaye ungazami ukuwafaka umntu ongabikho."
Utata # 1 ufuna uTata # 2 ukuba amxhase njengoko ezama ukufundisa unyana wakhe izinto ezisisiseko zebhola . Utata # 2 unomdla okanye awunomdla kwaye unokuphelisa ukudala iimvakalelo ezimbi njengoko ebuza uBawo # 1 ukungabi nabubele kwonyana wakhe.
3. Abazali baneenjongo ezahlukeneyo zabantwana babo.
Ngaba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana ene-autism azive ekhululekile kwisikolo se-autism-friendly, okanye ukuba afunde ukulawula indawo enzima yokubandakanya? Kungcono ukugxila ekufumaneni ukhambi kwe-autism - okanye ukugxila ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukuba aphile kakuhle nemingeni yakhe? Iinjongo ezahlukeneyo kuthetha ukuba abazali baneengcamango ezahlukileyo malunga noko kubalulekile kwisicwangciso esikolweni okanye kuluntu, kwaye banokuba neengcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga nendlela umzali engumzali ngayo.
4. Abazali bayamkela kwaye bakhuthaze iingcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga neZonyango kunye neengxaki ze-Autism.
Umzali A uqinisekile ukuba i-autism yengane yakhe ibangelwa zizigulane.
Umzali B uvakalelwa kukuba inkolelo yinto engenamsebenzi.
Umzali A uzinikezelwe kunyango oluthile kwaye ukholelwa ukuba bonke abazali kufuneka balandele umzekelo wakhe. Uyenza umgomo wakhe wokufikelela kumzali ngamnye womntwana omele ukuvakalisa ngeendlela zakhe ezikhethiweyo kunyango lwe-autism - nangona xa wathi: "andinomdla."
Ezi ntlobo zeendlela zonke okanye ezingekho nto zingabangela ukuchasana kwangempela.
Ukuba ufumana udidekile ngabazali be-autism odibana nayo, awuyedwa. Ngethamsanqa, ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukufumana iqela eligxininisa uhlobo oluthile lwe-autism, unyango, okanye ifilosofi-ukuze ufumane iqela elungileyo.