I-Autism yinto enzima; Nazi ezinye izixhobo zokuhlangabezana nazo.
Uphando oluqhutywe kwiYunivesithi yaseNorth Carolina lubonisa ukuba "oomama abantwana abane-autism banokuba neengxaki zokuxinezeleka xa beziva bejongene nesizathu okanye imbangela yengxaki yomntwana ...". Ama-50% oomama abanabantwana abane-autism baye baphakamisa amanqaku okudandatheka, xa kuthelekiswa ne-15% ukuya kuma-21% kwamanye amaqela. Oomama abangabantwana abangabantwana abakhubazekileyo bafunyaniswe ukuba basengozini yokudakumba okukhulu kunomama abahlala kunye neqabane.
Kutheni amaMoms of Autistic Kids ayenze ngakumbi ukuxinezeleka?
UDkt. Dan Gottlieb weesitulo se-NPR kaFiladelphia KUNANI na ukuphawula ngesifundo. Ukucacisa, waphakamisa ukuba oomama abaziva bengenakuyenza ngokwaneleyo umntwana wabo nge-autism banokudandatheka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, loo mvakalelo yokungaze ibe yaneleyo ingakhokelela ekudakaleni. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, ukululekwa ngabanye ngamama kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
Kodwa nangona ivakalelo zecala nokungafaneleki ngokuqinisekileyo zidlalwa kubazali abaninzi, kuninzi kubali. Imindeni, kuquka nabo abanezingane "ekupheleni" kwiphepha le-autism, bhekane neminye imiba ebalulekileyo ekhokelela ekubakho ukukhungatheka, umsindo, ukugwenxa, ukukhathazeka nokunye. Umzekelo:
- Abazali abafumana ukuxilongwa kwe-autism bajongana nokulahlekelwa kwezinto ezininzi ezilindelwe ngabazali. Ngelo xesha, balahlekelwa "kwiklabhu yomzali" enokubakhokelela - yonke into ekutshintshiseni ama-playdates kunye nokunyamekelwa kwabantwana kunye nabamelwane ukuba baqeqeshe iqela lebhola lendawo. Le nto ibuhlungu kakhulu.
- Kunokuba nzima ukubandakanya umsebenzi oqhelekileyo woluntu nomntwana kwi-autism. Ukuzihlukanisa kwezentlalo kuyaziwa ngokukhokelela ekudakaleni.
- Kungabi kubiza ukuphatha umntwana kwi-autism. Iintsapho ezininzi ziya kwietyala zokuxhasa iiprapi ezingakhokhelwa yi-inshurensi. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuxhalabeni, ukuxinezeleka, nomsindo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama nabantwana kwi-autism spectrum bavusa ukuyeka imisebenzi abayithandayo (kunye nemali engenayo abayifunayo okanye bayifunayo) ukuze banakekele umntwana kwibala. Oku kunokukhokelela ekudakaleni.
- Abantwana abaninzi abane-autism banexesha elinzima lokulala kwaye bahlale bevuke abazali babo ubusuku bonke. Ukukhathala kungakhokelela ekudakaleni.
- Abazali abaye balwa nezithili zesikolo kunye ne-arhente yempilo yengqondo yoluphi na uhlobo lweenkonzo ezifanelekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo baqhutyelwe kwimibandela kunye neemeko ezingavumelekanga, kodwa ngenxa yoko abanakho ukulawula okuncinci. Oku kuphazamiseka ngokwenene.
- Njengokuba abantwana abane-autism bekhula, abazali bahlala bejongana "nomhlalaphantsi" kunye noxanduva olupheleleyo lomntu kunye nemali kumntwana omdala oncike kuyo yonke into. Oku kuya kunzima.
Ngamafutshane, ukuba nomntwana ophethe i-autism, ngokwenene, kunokukhokelela ekudakaleni, kodwa izizathu zininzi kwaye zinzima. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomdla okanye unomdla umzali, ngaba abanakho ukunyamezela xa bexinekile, bebhankqalaza, kwaye bahlukane.
Ukujamelana Neengxaki Zomzwelo We-Autism
Yintoni umzali onokuyenza ebusweni beninzi kangaka? Kukho uninzi lwezinyathelo zokwenza. Nangona kungekho namnye oya kuguqula inyaniso engundoqo yokuba i-autism ilapha ukuhlala, abaninzi banokubanceda abazali bajamelane kangcono neengxaki zengqondo.
- Fumana inkxaso phakathi kwabazali abafana nabantwana abane-autism.
- Funa ukunyamekela, ukwenzela ukuba wena kunye nomlingane wakho uhambe kunye kunye nekhefu elifanelekileyo.
- Funa uncedo lwezakhono kwi-opharasi onamava osebenza kunye neentsapho ezineemfuno ezizodwa.
- Zama ukuloba ukukhupha uxinzelelo lwakho.
- Ukunciphisa iindleko zonyango ngokukhetha iindleko eziphantsi, ezincinci zonyango kumntwana wakho nge-autism.
Mhlawumbi ibaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke, yazi ukuba wenza okusemandleni akho kumntwana wakho nge autism. Esikhundleni sokuzityhaphaza "nantoni na ukuba," thatha umzuzwana ukuze ujabulele umntwana wakho.
Imithombo:
Inkcazo yenkxalabo yoomama nooyise yabantwana abane-autism. I-Psychol Rep. 1992 Dec; 71 (3 Pt 2): 1272-4.
Ukuxinezeleka koomama nooyise babantwana abanokukhubazeka kwengqondo. Umbhalo woPhando loKhubazeka koBuchule, uMqulu 45, iNombolo 6, uDisemba 2001, iphe. 535-543 (9).
Izinto ezinxulumene noxinzelelo kumama wabantwana abane-autism. Autism, Vol. 9, No. 4, 416-427 (2005).