Iimveliso kunye neNgcaliso yokuba nomnye umntwana
Uhlala uceba ukuba nezingane ezininzi. Emva koko umntwana wakho wokuqala wafunyaniswa ukuba ene-autism, kwaye unzima ukuza kuhambisana nayo yonke into yokuxilongwa. Ubomi kunye nomntwana ogunyazisileyo kunzima kunokuba ukulindele, kodwa kuza kunye novuyo lwayo. Ngoku yisikhathi sokubuza umbuzo "ukuba sifanele siphinde sikhulelwe?"
Umbuzo onzima wokuqwalasela
Lo mbuzo, kunjalo, kuphela ezifanelekileyo kwiintsapho eziziva zikhululekile ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa.
Kodwa kule mizalwane, umbuzo unzima kakhulu. Abaphandi bavuma ukuba iibini ezinomntwana omnye we-autistic zinomngcipheko ophezulu wokuba nomntwana wesibini onenkinga , nangona inqanaba elifanelekileyo lomngcipheko lifanelekile. Oku kuthetha ukuba uzakuziva ukhululekile kunye nokukhupha abantwana abaninzi abakhubazekileyo. Ukongezelela, xa sicinga le ngxaki, abazali kufuneka bahlolisise iimvakalelo zabo. Nazi ezinye ezimbalwa iingxaki ezinokuvela xa uthi "yebo" kumntwana wesibini:
- Unokuziva unetyala malunga "nokutshintsha okufutshane" umntwana wabo wokuzimela ngokubhekiselele kwiimfuno zomntwana wesibili;
- Unokuziva uxhala malunga nokukwazi kwabo ukulawula iimfuno zomntwana wesibini, ngakumbi ukuba loo mntwana unemoto;
- Unokuziva uxhalabile ukuba ngaba iimali zakho, amandla, kunye nezibonelelo zakho ziyakwanela ukulawula intsapho enkulu ebandakanya ubuncinane umntwana okhubazekile;
- Unokuziva unethemba malunga nokuba unomntwana onokuthi amava akhe aya kuba kufuphi nawabanye abantwana abakujikelezile;
- Unokuziva uvakalelwa ngeengcamango zokuzisa umntwana kwihlabathi ukwazi ukuba yena, ukuba uya kukhula, ekugqibeleni kufuneka athathele ubuncinane umthwalo othile kumntwana okhubazekile.
Ingqondo Yengqondo
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., kunye noCindy Ariel, Ph.D. ngokukodwa ekusebenzeni nabazali bezingane abaneemfuno ezizodwa. Nazi iingcebiso zabo kubazali njengoko becinga ukukhulelwa umntwana wesibili.
Awodwa, njengomntu okanye njengomntu obini, ekujongene nemingcipheko yento ebonakala ngathi i-lottery. Uphando olutsha ngoku luqinisekisa ukuba umngcipheko wokuba nomntwana oza kugqitywa kwi-autistic spectrum. Ngoxa le nto ayinanto yokwenza lula, namathuba okuba nomntwana oqhelekileyo aphezulu kakhulu. Oku kwenza ukuba kube sisigqibo somntu siqu esiza kubumba bonke ubomi bakho kunye nobomi bentsapho yakho.
Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba unabantwana abangaphezu kweyodwa kwibala? Into enye iqinisekile: La bantwana bahluke njengabantu ngabanye ngokwemigangatho yabo yokusebenza kunye nobuntu babo. Baye baxhamana ngokufanayo njengabantakwabo.
Abanye abazali bajamelana kakuhle , kwaye abanye baxakeke ngaphezu kwam ukukwazi ukuchaza ngamazwi. Abanye abanakuzisola kwaye bathande kwaye baxabise umntwana ngamnye njengomntu oyingqayizivele kwaye okhethekileyo kwindalo yonke. Abanye banqwenela ukuba abazange bazame ukuba nomnye umntwana baze bazibuze ukuba bekuphi na. Kukho izibini ezingenako ukuzenza iingqondo zabo kunye nezibini zidibene ngokubanzi kwiingxaki.
Kukho abantu abaninzi abanomntwana oqhelekileyo kwaye bazive "bebhendi entsha."
Ngaloo nto ingqondweni, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokukhululekile nangokunyanisekileyo ngezizathu zakho zokufuna omnye umntwana kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo xa benomnye umntwana onemfuno ezizodwa. Kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela uhlobo lobomi obulindeleke ukuba umntwana ayenakho. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungayichukumisi iqabane lakho ngenye indlela xa uhlala unyanisekile ngendlela ocinga ngayo ukuba uya kuhlangabezana nomntwana wesibini nge-autism kunye nendlela onokujamelana ngayo ngaphandle kokuzama ukuba nomntwana wesibini.
Abanye abantu bayabelana nomnye kwaye nokuba bahlala batshatile baqala ukuhlala ubomi bobuhlungu obuhlukeneyo.
Enye indlela yokujonga ebomini kwimeko yakho kukubeka onke amandla omzali wakho kumntwana onayo. Uvuyo kunye nokwaneliseka kunokukwenza ube nolonwabo ngokuphila kwakho xa ukhuselekile kunye nesi sigqibo wena nomtshato wakho. Abanye abantu baya kwindlela yokutholwa komntwana engekho ngaphandle kweengozi. Ngoko uninzi ucinga ngako. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho sigqibo esilungileyo okanye esingalunganga.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo yindlela ofika kuyo. Ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukufika kwisigqibo osikhululekile kuzo, unokufuna ukuqwalasela ukunxibelelana neengcali zempilo yengqondo onamava ekuncedeni abantu ukuba bahlele ezi ntlobo zeengxaki. Ukuba nomntwana onesifo sokukhubazeka njengokuba i-autism ngokuqinisekileyo ifundisa indlela esincinci ngayo. Oko sinako ukulawula phezu kwezi zigqibo esinokuzenza xa senza njalo ngengqondo evulekile necacileyo.
ILizwi
Ukuba unomntwana wesibini we-neurotypical, ekugqibeleni uza kuhlala neengxaki eziza kuba ne-siblings engakhange ikhule ngendlela efanayo nabanye abantwana. Kodwa oko akusiyo into embi. Abantwana abaninzi kunye nabantwana babantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa bahlakulela ukukhula kunye nokunyamezela okungazange kubonwe ngokuqhelekileyo kubantu bonke. Inyaniso yokuba nomntakwenu kwimiba ingaba yintsikelelo ngaphezu kwesiqalekiso.
Naliphi na isigqibo osenzayo, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba unyanzelekile kunoma ngubani ngaphandle kwakho nabantwana bakho. Akukho mkhulu, umhlobo wakho omhle, okanye udade wakho unelungelo lokwenza isigqibo kuwe.
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