Abanye abantu bahlala bekhululekile ukuxoxa nge- multiple sclerosis (MS) nabo bonke abadibana nabo, ngelixa abanye bacinga ukuba le nkcazelo yabucala ifuna ukwaziswa ngexesha elifanelekileyo . Le meko yenziwa yinkimbinkimbi ngakumbi xa kufikelele ekuthandaneni. Sifuna ukufumana ukulinganisela kokunyaniseka kunye nokugcina xa sizama ukujonga indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngomntu.
Ngoko lixesha elihle lokudalula i-MS yakho kumhla?
Ukuchaza ulwazi loLuntu
Unokuba ngumnye walabo abavulekileyo ngokuvakalayo ngesimo sabo se-MS. Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abantu abazivekanga njengokuba banyanzelekile ukuba baxelele ukuba banayo i-MS kubo bonke abantu abadibana nabo, ngakumbi kwihlabathi elingaqhelekanga nelingenakunzima lokuthandana. Le ngxaki iholele ekubambeni-22: awufuni ukuphazamisa abantu abanomdla phambi kohlobo lwakho lokuqala, kodwa ukulinda ixesha ukuba ubone oko kukhula kunokukhokelela kumntu onomdla nge-MS njengokuba sele ebambelela ulwazi omnye umntu. Le meko ingabangela uxinzelelo ngokukhethekileyo ukuba uthanda omnye umntu kwaye ucinge ukuba ingaba yinto enzulu.
Ixesha Elifanelekileyo Lokuthetha Nge-MS yakho
Akukho mgaqo onzima kunye okhawulezayo malunga nexesha elifanelekileyo lokutyhila i-MS yakho kumntu. Ukuba awuvulekanga nge-MS yakho, kunjalo, unokuziva ukhululekile ukulinda de kube ngumhla wesibili.
Ngeli xesha uye wacinga ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nokumbona lo mntu, kwaye baya kufumanisa ukuba ukhulu kangakanani. Kucacile ukuba umdla wokubambisana wawunelungelo lokuba ubuncinane ukhokele kumhla wesibini.
Umhla wesibini udla ngokuba kukho ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nolunye nolunye luye lwavezwa. Umhla wokuqala ngowakho malunga nokubonakaliswa nokuziphatha kwakho, ngelixa umhla wesibini ungaphantsi malunga neenkwenkwezi kwaye kukuvumela ukuba uzive ukhululekile kuba nguwe.
Umhla wesibini ngowokuthi ezinye izinto "zangempela" zingaphuma. Akukho mntu ulindele ngokwenene ukufumanisa amanqaku amabi-ngxowa-mali, ukukhubazeka kokufunda, ukudibanisa okudlulileyo kwangaphambili, okanye ukukhethwa kokutya okungaqhelekanga ngomhla wokuqala.
Akukho xesha "elifanelekileyo" lokuba phambili nge-MS yakho. Uza kuthatha isigqibo. Kodwa ngomhla wesibini okanye wesithathu okanye wesine, mhlawumbi uya kuziva ukhululekile malunga neemeko kwaye ukwazi ukuchaneka ngokuchanekileyo malunga nezihloko ezinzima ngokubanzi; kungekhona nje i-MS yakho.
Indlela Yokuxelela Othile Unayo MS
Akukho sizathu sokuziva uhlazekile okanye ungathandeki. Ukuxelela umntu onayo i-MS kulula nje ngokuxelela umntu onayo i-MS. Nangona kunjalo, isicwangciso esincinci asizange sibuhlungu nabani na. Nazi izinto ezintathu ukugcina engqondweni.
Cwangcisa intetho yakho. Yigcine imfutshane kwaye ilungile, kodwa cwangcisa kwaye yenza oko ufuna ukukusho malunga ne-MS yakho. Khumbula, abaninzi abantu abazi into eninzi malunga ne-MS, ngoko kufuneka ulungele ukunika imvelaphi emfutshane malunga nesi sifo. Ukuxubusha ngokucacileyo ukuxela kwakho kunye nesimo sengqondo sakho nge-MS kuya kwenza ukuba umhla wakho-okanye nabani na, ngenxa yolu hlobo-bazive bekhululekile ukubuza imibuzo.
Yilungiselele "izilumko". Kwakhona, abaninzi abantu abazi kakhulu nge-MS, ngaphandle kwezinto abazibonayo kwiWest Wing okanye kwi-interviews kunye nabadumileyo njengoMelel Williams noJamie-Lynn Sigler.
Umhla wakho unokuthi ube nemibuzo ocinga ukuba ayikho into eyaziwayo , kodwa ube nomonde nokuqonda. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba kukho umehluko phakathi kokungaphantsi kwe-knowablegable ngokungafaniyo.
Akunakuze ufune ukuxelela. Ukuba awuyithandi loo mntu akukho sizathu sokubaxelela. Kucacile ukuba ukuba usuku lwakho luyi-jerk awunakuze ubone kwakhona, akukho mfuneko yokuba "enkulu ibonakalise."
Kutheni Unokuba Ufuna Ukulinda
Abanye banokukhuthaza ukulinda de ukwazi ukuba uyafuna ukuba nekamva kunye nalo mntu ukuba umxelele nge-MS yakho. Nguwe kuphela owaziyo malunga nemeko yakho, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukulinda, oko kulungile.
Mhlawumbi uthatha ulwalamano ngokukhawuleza, okanye awunakucatshulwa ngokuqinisekileyo nge-MS , okanye awuqinisekanga ukuba uyamthanda lo mntu. Zizo zonke izizathu ezilungileyo zokuzigcina izinto uze uzive kakuhle.
Nangona kunjalo, ukulinda ixesha elide kunokungongeza ukongeza uxinzelelo, ingakumbi ukuba nawuphi na oye wabelana ngolunye ulwazi lomntu. Kwabanye, kunokubonakala ngathi uye wafihla into okanye ungathembekanga, kodwa ayikho into engenakuxhaswa ngcaciso elula. Jongana nokucinga kwakho emva kokulinda ukuthetha nge-MS ekudaluleni kwakho "intetho."