Usuyazi iindaba ezimbi: umzukulwana wakho ophelileyo unogxininiso lwe- autism . Kodwa kukho iindaba ezilungileyo: njengo-grandparent wengane ene-autism, unokufumana ithuba lokudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuncedeni umntwana wakho omdala kunye nomzukulwana wakho onokuphila kwaye uphumelele ngumngeni ongalindelekanga. Usenokumangaliswa nokufunda ukuba ukuba "u-autism okhulu-ntombi" akuyonto inzima kangako njengoko kuzwakala.
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Ewe, mhlawumbi uye wambona intombi yakho iguqa umzukulu wakho phambi kweTV ngexesha elide, okanye unqume ukukhupha intonga kwaye uvumele ukunyaniseka okukhulu. Kodwa zonke izicalulo zophando zenze kucacile ukuba i-autism AYINYE (kwaye ayizange ibe yinto) yeziphumo zemibuzo engabazali . Kucacile ukuba, ukuba ucinga ukuba umzukulwana wakho useyingozi uya kufuneka ufune ukungena kwaye wenze izikhalazo. Kodwa mfutshane yenkxwaleko enkulu, gxina umnqweno wakho wokubeka ityala kubazali bakho bazukulu.
Mamela
Umntwana wakho omdala uya kuba nokufumana ulwazi malunga ne-autism ukusuka kulo lonke ulawulo-oogqirha, ootitshala, oogqirha, abahlobo kunye nabamelwane. Njengomkhulu-ntombi, akusona umsebenzi wakho ukongeza ngaphezulu kwi-cacophony. Endaweni, sebenzisa izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula. Vumela umntwana wakho kunye nomlingane wakhe ukuba akuxelele ukuba kwenzekani, yintoni inzima, yintoni ephazamisayo, oko kusebenzayo, noko kungenjalo. Buza imibuzo, ncedise ukucacisa ukucinga, kodwa yenza okusemandleni akho ukuphepha ukungena kwiinkcukacha ezingaphezulu, iingcebiso okanye iingcamango.
Endaweni, sebenzisa izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula. Vumela umntwana wakho kunye nomlingane wakhe ukuba akuxelele ukuba kwenzekani, yintoni inzima, yintoni ephazamisayo, oko kusebenzayo, noko kungenjalo. Buza imibuzo, ncedise ukucacisa ukucinga, kodwa yenza okusemandleni akho ukuphepha ukungena kwiinkcukacha ezingaphezulu, iingcebiso okanye iingcamango.
URuth Nemzoff, umbhali kunye nesithethi Singazibambi Iilwimi Zakho: Indlela Yokukhuthaza Ubudlelwane Bokubuyiselwa Ngabantwana Bakho Abadala uthi: "Ugogo akafanele akhuphe ukukhathazeka komntwana omdala, kodwa kufuneka axhase."
Fumana Ngakumbi Ukukhathazeka Kwakho "Ngeemfuno Ezizodwa."
Uninzi lwabantu abaneminyaka engama-500 ubudala lwakhula ngeli xesha xa abantwana "abakhethekileyo" behlukaniswe kude nokude kunokwenzeka. Usenokuba ukhulile kunye nomngeni ukuba imingeni yengqondo kunye nentuthuko ihlazo. Ukuze uxhase umntwana wakho omdala kwaye ube nenxaxheba kunye nomzukulu wakho, uya kufuneka ufumane ngaphezulu kwayo. Oku kungathi umsebenzi onobubele kuwe, kodwa kufanelekile umzamo: awukwazi ukuba ngumntakwabo omhle onomntwana onentloni ngaye!
Yazi Iimpawu Zomzukulu Wakho
Enye yezona zinto ezinzima kunokuba ngumzali onomntwana nge autism yinyani ukuba abantu abaninzi baya kumbona "njengezinto ezilimazayo." Izikolo, oogqirha, kunye noogqirha bonke bagxininise kwimingeni kunokuba babe namandla. Njengoko utatomkhulu, unelungelo lokumazi umzukulwana wakho njengomntu. Khawucinge ukuba nguyena ofumanisa italente yokufihla inzala yakho ekuboniseni, ukucula, okanye izibalo - umntu oyedwa obala ubungqina bokuqala, kwaye ubeka imingeni ngaphandle.
Funda uLoti, Yabelana ngeNcinci
Kukho konke ukuhlala ukwazi ngokumalunga ne-autism, kwaye unokwenzela ngokulula yonke imini nobusuku kwiTV, inomathotholo, iincwadi, iiwebhsayithi, ii-podcasts kunye namanqaku malunga ne-autism. Emva koko, ungabonakalisa kwindlu yomntwana wakho ngephepha lephepha ngalinye ngosuku. Njengoko unokucinga, nangona kunjalo, onke iphepha elo liza kuphuma linyuka kwi-birdcage. Kunokuba uxoxe nge-autism ye-autism kwi-"News Morning", ithambo phezu kwendlela yokwamukela umzukulwana wakho, ufunde okuthile malunga ne-autism nemfundo-kwaye ulungele ngolwazi xa lufuneka ngokwenene.
Uncedo lokuLawula intsapho eyongezelelweyo
Umntwana wakho omdala unelungelo lokusingatha ngaphandle kokuzama ukuhlangabezana nomcebisi "omcebisi" wakhe womzalwana, umxhala wakhe ("Ngaba unyana wam uya kubamba i-autism ?!") kunye nomalume wakhe onomusa kodwa engenamsebenzi ("uya kuba kakuhle, mnike ixesha! ").
Njengoko unako, jonga phambili phambi kwemithetho kunye neengcamango zokudibanisa iintsapho eziza kunceda ulungelelanise indlela kunye nomntwana wakho omdala kunye nomzukulu wakho nge-autism. Imigaqo efana "akukho ngcebiso ye-autism evumelekileyo," kwaye "ewe, umntwana ophethe i-autism ufumana ikamelo lakhe" kufuneka alungise imibuzo ngaphambi kokuba aphakame.
Ukunikezela ngoncedo lwezandla kunye nezezimali
Ukuba kukho izinto ezimbini ezifunayo umzali we-autism, zixesha kunye nemali. Isikhathi sokuthatha ikhefu, ukuxhuma kwakhona kunye neqabane kunye nabanye abantwana, ukuthenga iindawo zokutya, ufumane ixesha lokunyusa izinwele, u-autism ukhulule ubomi. Nemali. Imali yokuhlawula iipilisi, okanye ukubuyisela imali engenayo. Imali yokufumana abantwana abakhethiweyo, iimfuno ezizodwa kwiimfuno zengingqi, ezonyango ezingabhekwanga yi-inshurensi. Unako ukunikela ngokunyamekela umzukulwana wakho, okanye unokuthi uhlalise i-sitter; unakho ukuhlawula iimfuno ezithile okanye ukufumana ingeniso. Unokuhlawula iimfuno zakho zabazukulwana, okanye unikeze umntakwethu "umkhulu kunye nami" . Naliphi na imisebenzi engcono kuwe uza kuba isipho esikhulu kumntwana omdala kunye nomlingane wakhe.
Njengoko ubona, ukuzala umntwana nge-autism kunjengomntwana naluphi na umntwana, nangona kunjalo, njengemali ye-Nemzoff, "nangona kunjalo." Njengoko uyazi umzukulwana wakho kwaye ufunde malunga ne-autism, uza kufumana amaninzi amathuba okubamba isibophelelo esisodwa kunye esingenakuqhekeka kunye nomntwana ofuna ngokwenene.