Umbuzo: Sinokunceda njani Umntwana Wethu Omele Akwazi Ukujamelana Nesahlukaniso Sethu?
Ndifuna ulwazi malunga nendlela yokunceda unyana wam ukuba asebenze ngokuqhawula kwam umtshato. Ndine thamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ekugqibeleni ndifumene umcebisi oqonda i-autism, nangona ndifuna iindlela zobuhla ngemihla, indlela yokuphendula imibuzo enzima, yiyiphi inkxalabo exhaphakileyo yabantwana kwibala ngexesha loqhawulo-mtshato, indlela yokunciphisa ukungahambisani nemvakalelo, ukutshintshwa kwishedyuli, ukuguqula indima kunye nokuzithemba.
Impendulo: Kusuka kuCindy Ariel:
Ukwahlukana kuyintlukwano enzima kumntu wonke kwintsapho. Abantwana bavame ukunyamezela ukuphazamiseka okuqhelekileyo kuhambelana nale nqanaba elinzima lotshintsho lwentsapho. Ukuvakalelwa ngumsindo, ukudumala, ukwesaba, ukuhlazeka, intlungu, ukukhulula yonke into eyenziwa ngamalungu entsapho. Abantwana bazivakalelwa kwaye bahlala bevalelwa ngaphakathi beziva bejongene neziganeko kunye neemvakalelo phakathi kwabazali babo kunye nabo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda oko uvakalelwa kwaye uqaphele ukuba le mivakalelo iqhubela phezulu kuwo wonke umntu. Injongo ephambili kulo mbandela kukunciphisa ubunzima kunye neempembelelo ezingalunganga zaliphi na ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye neengxaki kumntwana wakho.
Indlela yokuphendula imibuzo enzima ngokucophelela, ngokufanelekileyo, kunye nanye ngexesha. Oku kudla ngokugqithisileyo ngoncedo kunye nesikhokelo esivela kumsebenzi oqeqeshiweyo owaziyo umntwana wakho kunye nemeko nangona kukho iimeko eziqhelekileyo ezingenziwa.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyabuza, ulungele impendulo. Impendulo kufuneka ijoliswe kumgangatho womntwana wakho kwaye inyanisekileyo nenjongo kunokwenzeka phantsi kweemeko ezinzima. Nangona iibakala zibalulekile kubantwana, akudingeki ukuba bazi zonke iinkcukacha zokuba kutheni abazali begqibe ekubeni kungcono ukuba bangahlali ndawonye.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungahluleli ukunyaniseka kwengane yakho ngokungahloneli okanye ukuthetha kakubi ngomnye umzali. Bafuna ukwaziswa malunga noshintsho lweedyuli kwaye babe nombono ocacileyo xa baza kubona umzali wabo kwakhona. Ukungahambisani nomoya kuncitshiswa ngabanye; Gcina engqondweni izinto umntwana wakho kufuneka azive azifudumele kwaye ukhuselekile kwaye ukhululekile kwaye uyathandwa.
Kungathi uzive nje ukuba intsapho iyahlukana, kwaye ngeendlela ezininzi ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, wonke umntu uya kukhula kwaye iimvakalelo kunye neendima ziya kutshintsha kancane. Kuya kubakho ukwesaba okungaphantsi kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo njengoko ixesha liqhubeka. Ukuzithemba kuya kuqhubeka, ngokukodwa, ukuba kuhlangane kunye nomama nobaba ngoko umntwana wakho kufuneka azive kakuhle kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngomzali ngamnye kunye nolwalamano lwakhe nabo.
Ukususela kuBob Naseef:
Ukufumana ingcali yengqondo yengqondo ngengemvelaphi ye-autism ngokuqinisekileyo kuyintsikelelo. Imibuzo oyiphakamisayo iphendulwa bhetele ngumphathi owaziyo kwaye uyazi umntanakho. Indlela umzali oqhawule umtshato olawula ngayo le micimbi iqalisa ngokwenene kwinqanaba lokuphuhlisa umntwana ngokubhekiselele kulwimi nokuqonda kwengqiqo. Yintoni ekhoyo eluhlu lwakho yindlela yokunyamekela iimfuno zakho kunye nentlungu ehamba ngokungahambiyo nayiphi na ilahleko enkulu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo umtshato uqhafaza.
Abafundi abaninzi beli kholomu banokukhathazeka ngemitshato yabo xa abanye bekwimeko yakho.
Njengoko uJosh Greenfeld wabhala kuMntwana Obizwa NgoNowa (ngo-1970), "Kukho umda kunoma yimuphi umtshato xa umntwana egula. Kwaye sisoloko sinomntwana ogulayo. "Uhlobo lokuxinezeleka okungapheliyo okukhulisa umntwana eneemfuno ezizodwa kuquka nokuchaphazela ubudlelwane kwiindawo ezibuthathaka. Ngokutsho kwe-US Census Bureau (2000), i-47% yemitshato yokuqala iyahluleka kwaye i-57% yazo yonke imitshato iphele ngokwahlukana. Nangona ezi ziphumo zihambelani, kukho ukuvumelana ngokubanzi phakathi kweengcali ukuba ngelixa ukuhlukana komtshato kuqhathaniswa, kubonakala ngathi kukho uxinzelelo lomtshato phakathi kweentsapho zabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa (uSeligman noDarling, iiNtsapho eziqhelekileyo, Abantwana abazikhethekileyo, 1997).
Iimfuno zabantwana abane-autism zinzima kwaye zinzima. Ukufakwe kwiingcinezelo kunye neengxaki zobomi bemihla ngemihla, ubudlelwane babo bunokungabikho kokukhathalela. Xa ukukhubazeka okanye ukugula okungapheliyo kufunyanwe, iimvakalelo ezinamandla ziphezulu kwaye zingafaka ubudlelwane kwisilingo. Ngenxa yokubandezeleka okunjalo, ezinye izibini zithandana kunye, kodwa kwabanye ubuhlobo obuthathaka okanye obunokukhubazeka bunokuthi "yintlobo yokugqibela." Ezinye iintsapho ziyahlukana xa abanye bekhula nangona ubunzima babo. Abantu banokuvela kwiinkathazo zivuselelwe kwaye ziphuculwe. Abanye abantu bazive bekhululekile xa umtshato ozele iingxaki ezingapheliyo ziphela.
Ukuze umntwana aphumelele, udinga abazali abanamandla, abazinikeleyo. Ngoko ukunyamekela iimfuno zakho kubalulekile kwintsapho yakho njengoko ngoku ikhona. Ngethemba ukuba uncedise ngokwakho ngobuhlobo novelwano. Ukuxubusha ngokuqhawula umtshato kunokuthatha ixesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo ndibona abantu abaqhawule umtshato kodwa behluke ngokwemvakalelo kwizinto abaye bahlala kuzo. Uncedo lokunyamekelwa kwabantwana, ukuze ukwazi ukufumana ixesha lakho liphinde lihle xa ungayifumana. Ukuba akunjalo, ukufumana kunye nokuthatha ixesha elincinane eliyolisayo kunokuzihlaziya ngokumangalisayo.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., noCindy Ariel, Ph.D., ngabaququzeleli be "Amazwi avela kwi-Spectrum: Abazali, oogogo nomkhulu, abazalwana babo, Abantu abane-Autism, kunye nabaSebenzi Belana Ubulumko Babo" (2006). Kwiwebhu kwi http://www.alternativechoices.com