Yintoni Abaselula Abafuna Ukuyazi Xa Uthetha NgezoSondo

Iseluleko kubazali ... Ukususela kwi-Persist Perspective

Ukuba ngaba abazali bafuna ukuvuma okanye kungekho, ngethuba elithile, abatsha babo baya kuqala ukuthetha ngesondo kunye nokuzibandakanya kuyo. Ngaba uyazi ukuba wenzeni xa ixesha lokuthetha ngesondo kunye nentombazana yakho? Uphando lubonisa ukuba intsha iyayiqonda ngesondo kwaye ithatha inxaxheba kwisithuba esincinane.

▪ Iipesenti ezithandathu zabantu abaneminyaka engama-13 ubudala balala ngesondo.

▪ Amashumi amabini anesithandathu kwipesenti zabafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo sele sele balala ngesondo.

▪ Isiqingatha sabo bonke abaselula abasakholelwa ukuba isondo somlomo sisondo.

▪ Iipesenti ezilishumi elinesine zabafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo babika ukuba sele benamaqabane amane okanye ngaphezulu kwezesondo.

▪ Iipesenti ezilishumi elinamabini ezishumi elineminyaka engama-15 ukuya kwe-19 ukuya kwimihla yokuziphatha ngokwesondo zithi zingasebenzisi naluphi na ulawulo lokuzalwa ekugqibeleni balala ngesondo.

▪ Iingamashumi amabini ezeshumi ezaselula ziye zalala ngesini eli-15.

▪ Amashumi amahlanu ekhulwini kwabazali kwi-8th-11th graders ayengazi ukuba abantwana babo baqala ukulala ngesondo.

▪ Omnye kumantombazana asemantwaneni ama-5 uya kukhulelwa ngexesha le-high school-6.7 pesenti yamantombazana aphakathi kweminyaka eyi-10-14 aya kukhulelwa.

▪ Ipesenti ezingamashumi amathathu nezine zazo zonke izikolo eziphakamileyo zezikolo zithi zilalwe ngesondo (zithetha ukuba ziye zabelana ngesondo kwiinyanga ezi-3 zangaphambili).

Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba abazali bathethe ngesondo kunye nentsha yabo? Idatha ibonisa ukuba:

▪ Phantse amaphesenti angama-32 asetsheni (abaneminyaka eli-15 ukuya ku-19) athi abazange bafumane imfundo yezesondo ngaphambi kokuba bafikelele kwiminyaka eyi-18 (oku kuquka indlela yokuthi hayi ngesondo ). Kubaselula abafumana imfundo, malunga neepesenti ezingama-60 zala ma-teen asenayo imfundo yesondo phambi kwe-10 bakala.

▪ Amaphesenti angaphezu kwe-50 abantwana abaneminyaka eli-10 ukuya ku-15 bathi xa bacinga ukulala ngesondo kunye / okanye bafune isikhokelo ekujonganeni noxinzelelo lokwabelana ngesondo, bafuna kuqala ukuthetha nabazali babo.

▪ Iipesenti ezingama-31.7 zamakhwenkwe kunye namaphesenti angama-51.7 emantombazana (abaneminyaka eyi-15-17) baye baxubusha iindlela zokulawula umzali nomzali kanti i-75.8 ekhulwini yabantwana abancinane kunye namaphesenti angama-60.7 emantombazana asetsheni athi abazali babo abazange bathethe nabo malunga nokuba baza kuzalwa lawulo.

▪ Ipesenti ezingamashumi amane nesibhozo abaneminyaka engama-15-17 abangazange babelane ngesondo kwaye ama-56% abo balala ngesondo bathi abazange bathethe nabazali babo malunga nendlela yokwazi xa usulungele ukulala ngesondo.

▪ Amaphesenti angama-50.1 omama abeshumi abashumi abatsha abakhankanyi ukuba benze into yokuthintela ukukhulelwa.

▪ Amashumi asixhenxe anesithoba kwipesenti zolutsha 12-19 bathi bafumane kulula ukulibazisa izenzo zesondo kunye nokuphepha ukukhulelwa kwentsha xa bekwazi ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo, ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nale mibuzo kunye nabazali babo.

Yikholwa okanye cha, abazali banempembelelo ebalulekileyo malunga nokuba intsha yabo iyakhulelwa. Nangona njengabazali ongenakukwazi ukulawula izigqibo zesondo zakho zezesondo, umgangatho wobudlelwane bakho kunye nentsha yakho inokuyenza impahluko. Idatha ibonisa ukuba abatsha abasondelene nabazali babo kwaye baziva bexhaswa ngabo banokuthi bayeke ukulala ngesondo, balinde de kube badala ukuba baqale ukulala ngesondo, babe neqabane elincinane lezesondo kunye nokusebenzisa ukukhulelwa komzimba ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Umyalezo-ungalindeli ukuthetha ngesondo kunye nentsha yakho. Qala ezi ngxoxo kusenokwenzeka-kwaye ziphinda ziphinda. Ngale ndlela, wakho umntwana uya kuziva ekhululekile ukuthetha ngesondo nawe.

Ngoko, uthetha njani ngesondo kunye nentombazana yakho? Yintoni omele uthethe ngayo? Oku okulandelayo intsha ithi bayathanda kubazali babo ukuba bazi njani xa kuthethwa intetho yesini:

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Intsha Inemibuzo

Kwabaningi abaselula, ukucinga ngokulala ngesondo okanye ukumazi abahlobo abelana ngesondo kunokuxininisa, kuphazamisekile kwaye kuyantyantya. Kungaba ngowokuqala ukuba intombazana yakho inokuqwalasela imingcipheko yabantu abadala, njengokubonisa uxanduva lokukhusela ukukhulelwa okungalindelekanga -kucinga ukuba ngaba kuya kulungile ngokukhipha isisu , kuba ngumzali , okanye umcamango wokutholwa. Iintsholongwane zihlaselwa ngcinezelo yontanga evela kubahlobo, abeendaba, iincwadi, umculo, amaphephancwadi kunye nemidlalo yevidiyo. Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngesondo kunye nabo, nokuba ngaba bengayi kubuza imibuzo kuqala. Intsha ifuna uncedo kunye nesikhokelo ekuqondeni imeko kunye nenjongo yesini. Basenokuhlazeka okanye besabe ukuza kuwe ukuze bacebise, ngoko uzame ukunikela kubo. Cinga ukuba banemibuzo kwaye ibe ngumthombo othembekileyo onokunika iimpendulo.

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Intsha Ngaba Unakekele

Nangona umntakwenu angenakuziphatha ngendlela enjalo okanye akuxelele oko, intsha ibonakala ibakhathalele oko abazali babo babatshele. Ngoko, nokuba ngaba benzayo okanye akunjalo, umntwana wakho ufuna (kwaye ufuna) ukhokelo lwakho. Ingane yakho ifuna ukukholisa kwaye ikukhubekise.

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Kufuneka Bakulungele

Kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngesondo, ukukhulelwa kwezesondo kunye nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (STIs) kunye nentsha yakho. Abafundi kufuneka baqonde indlela umzimba wesetyhini osebenza ngayo nendlela ukukhulelwa kwenzeka ngayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho olala naye, kufuneka / abe nolwazi oluchanileyo malunga nendlela angakhulelwa aze abambe i-STI. Nangona umntwana wakho engabonanga ngesondo, yena uya kuba yinto ethile ebomini bakhe. Ngaba unokuthi umntwana wakho athole ulwazi oluchanekileyo kuwe okanye athembele kwingcaciso engamanga / iimbali ezivela kubahlobo babo?

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Ulwalamano oluxanduva kunye nokunyaniseka

Iintswelo zidinga imifanekiso emihle yabantu abadala. Bafuna ukubona ukuba ubuhlobo obuthembekileyo bubukeka njani. Xa ubelana ngemisebenzi kunye nentombazana yakho kwaye ubonise ukunyamekela kwabazali, intsha ingaba nefuthe elihle. Umgangatho wobomi bakho bentsapho udibene nokukhulelwa kwentsha. Iintshukumo ezikhulayo kwiintsapho ezixhaphazayo, amakhaya angatshatanga-ntlalontle kunye / okanye intlupheko banakho ukulala ngesondo. Gxila ekudaleni ubuhlobo phakathi kwakho nentsha yakho, kwaye ufundise iindlela zokuziphatha eziza kunceda ukukhusela iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu okanye ukulimaza abanye.

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Yenza okungaphezu kweeNgxelo malunga nokuziyeka

Nangona kubalulekile ukucacisa ngokucacileyo ukulindela kwakho kunye nemilinganiselo yakho kwintsapho yakho, intsha ifuna ngaphezulu . Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukuthetha ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa nokuziyeka ngexesha elifanayo akubanga ukudideka okanye imiyalezo edibeneyo. Intsha iyifumana-ngoko ngokuba neengxoxo ezinoxanduva, uthumela intlonelo yakho kwintsapho yakho. Ungasebenzisa le xesha ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba uvakalelwa njani nje ukuba uphulaphule noko bathethayo.

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Ukukhulelwa komntwana akulungile

Ingaphantsi kwesigxina sabo bonke abaselula bayavuma ukuba bafumana umyalezo ocacileyo wokuthi ukukhulelwa kwentsha engacwangcanga kulungile. Kubonakala ukuba amaphesenti angama-71 amabhinqa abeshumi kunye namaphesenti angama-64 eentombazana ezithandanayo avumile okanye avumile ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kulungile umfazi ongashadile ukuba abe nomntwana. Okwesabisa ngakumbi, i-58% kuphela yabasetyhini abasetyhini kunye namaphesenti angama-47 abesilisa abancinci besithi baya kuba nomsindo gqitha xa bekhulelwe (okanye bafumana umlingani okhulelweyo). Enyanisweni, iipesenti ezili-14 zamantombazana kunye neepesenti ezingama-18 zala makhwenkwe zibonisa ukuba ziya kuvuya xa zikhulelwe (okanye zibangele ukukhulelwa). Idatha enjengale ndlela ibonisa ukuba intsha ingavumi ukuba ukukhulelwa kwentsha kungabangela ingxaki-kuphela i-12 ekhulwini yabafana abancinci bathi abafuni ukulala ngesondo kuba besaba ukufumana intombazana ekhulelwe.

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Qwalasela

Yazi ukuba ukubeka iliso kunye nokunyamekela ukuziphatha kwentombazana yakho kwenza ukubahluko. Bekani ingqalelo kwaye nibandakanyeke. Funda ukuba ngubani abahlobo babo. Musa ukukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uya kukwazi xa umntwana wakho eselula elala ngesondo-abaninzi abazali abayithandi. Yenza kube ngumbono ukubonisa inkxalabo kunye nothando kwintsapho yakho kwaye ungalindelanga ukuba umntwana wakho alahleke. Kwakhona, jongana nomntwana wakho xa eneminyaka engama-10 ubudala olala nesini-ntlonelo kule nkalo banomdla wokuzibandakanya ngesondo ekuqaleni.

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Musa ukucinga ukuba Benzayo

Xa konke kuthethwa kwaye kwenziwa, intsha ifuna ulwazi oluchanileyo, ngoko banokwenza izigqibo ezinolwazi. Ukuba umntwana wakho ozayo ucela kuwe malunga nolwazi malunga nokukhulelwa kwezesondo kunye nesondo, musa ukucinga nje ukuba balala ngesondo. Uninzi lwabazali bavumelana ukuba banokukhetha ukuba umntwana wabo uhlale engabonakali, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abatsha abayi kuba nolwazi ngesondo. Phendula imibuzo yakho yeveki ngaphandle kokugweba. Khumbula ukuba imfundiso yecala yokuzigcina ngesondo ayigcinanga intsha yokufumana isini-nkqubo kuphela yeenkqubo zesifundo sezesondo (ezo zixoxa ngokuzilahla kunye nokukhulelwa komzimba) zibangelwa ukuqaliswa kocansi ngokukhawuleza kwabaselula. Ngoko ungangeni emgibeni wokukholelwa ukuba ukuxoxa ngokukhulelwa komntwana wakho kunye nentombazana yakho kuya kukukhuthaza ukuziphatha ngokwesondo.

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Ubudlelwane obubi

Abaselula banokufuna uncedo ekuboneni ukuba okanye bengenawo ubudlelwane obubi okanye obunokuxhaphaza. Basenokujonga njengeliphawu lokuba inkwenkwe / intombi yabo iyabathanda kakhulu kangangokuthi uhlala efuna ukuba nabo. Ulwalamano olutsha apho kukho amaqabane akhulileyo okanye ukwahlukana kobuhlanga, ubuhlanga, imimiselo yezoqoqosho zentlalo, njl njl Kwakhona kunjalo ukuba umntwana wakho engamazi kakuhle iqabane lakhe. Kungenokuba nzima ukuba umntwana wakho athethe inxaxheba kwintsebenzo yesondo kunye / okanye ukusetyenziswa kweqhinga xa ebudlelwane obubi. Iintsholongwane kufuneka kwakhona zilumkiso malunga neengozi ezinobungozi.

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Akukho Nenene Ufuna Ukuthetha NgezoSondo

Masijongane naloo nto, abaninzi abazali bayesaba ukuba bathethe ngesini kunye nentsha yabo, kwaye abatsha abanakulindela ngokuthe ngqo ukuthetha ngesondo. Ukuba uqala le ngxoxo xa abantwana bakho beselula, kulula ukuba wongeza nje ezi ntetho njengoko abantwana bakho bekhula. Nanini na xa uthetha ngesondo, kufuneka ukuba yintetho , kungekhona inkulumo. Nangona uvakalelwa kukuba awunelisekile, wakho umntwana uvakalelwa kukuba wenza into enokuzihlazisa, yenza konke onako ukwenza ukuba bazive bekhululekile kwaye bahloniphekile. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abuze imibuzo aze axoxe ngengcamango yabo. Kukho nawuphi na, umsebenzi womzali ukulungiselela abantwana babo ukuba babe ngabantu abadala. Inxalenye yale mbopheleleko inceda umntwana wakho ukuba afunde indlela yokwenza izigqibo zesondo ezikhuselekileyo nezihlakaniphile.