Akulula ukuxoxa ngokufa, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu.
Amalungu entsapho okanye ngabahlobo ngamanye amaxesha babhekene nokuthetha ngokufa kunye nomhlobo wabo othandekayo kwaye bazibuza ukuba bangakanani ulwazi abanokukunika. Iinkcubeko okanye iinkolelo zakho ziyakuthintela abathandekayo ukuba bavume okanye baxoxe ngokufa. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa ngumhlobo othandekayo ukuba uya kufa uya kuchitha nayiphi na ithemba kwaye aze amenze afe ngokukhawuleza.
Ngoko, ingakanani ulwazi omele ulunike lona othandekayo wakho othandekayo?
Imisebenzi ebalulekileyo yokuDala
Umoya womntu uyamangalisa. Sisoloko sifuna ukukhusela abo sibathandayo kwiintlungu kunye nentlungu kodwa ukukhuselwa esikunikezayo ngamanye amaxesha kungabuyela. "Ukukhusela" othandekayo eqinisweni malunga neemeko zabo kungabonakala ngathi kuyinto efanelekileyo kodwa ukungafuni ukwaziswa kunokukhokelela ekudumeni nasekudakaleni. Umntu ofayo ngaphandle kokugqiba imisebenzi ebalulekileyo yokufa unokushiya ngebhizinisi elingagqibekanga.
Xa umntu eyazi ukuba bafa, banethuba lokwenza izinto ezintlanu ezibalulekileyo:
- Ukuxolisa ngeempazamo zangaphambili,
- ukuxolela abanye ngeempazamo zabo,
- bulela abo bantu kubaluleke kakhulu,
- uthi "Ndiyakuthanda" kulabo abathandayo, kwaye
- Yithi Bhayi-Bhayi.
Ngaphandle kwithuba lokwenza ezi zinto zixabisekileyo, umhlobo wakho unokufa nezoshishino ezingapheliyo.
Ithemba ekupheleni koBomi
Ndivile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu abe nethemba xa ejongene nokufa okuthile.
Kodwa ndikuthembisa ukuba kukho ithemba lokufa. Umntu osweleyo unamandla amangalisayo okuba nethemba. Akasenakho ithemba lokunyanga, okanye enye iminyaka engama-10, kodwa unokufumana ithemba lokutshilo kubathandekayo aze afe ngokuthula ekhaya. Unako ukuqhubeka nethemba lokuphilisa ngokumangalisayo kodwa uhlele phambili nangona kunjalo.
Ukugcina inyaniso malunga nokufa kumntu osondela ekufeni kungamthintela ithuba lokuhlola kwakhona nokuzalisekisa ithemba lakhe. UMnu H wayeyisigulane esibhedlele kunye nomdla wezemoto. Wayesoloko enethemba lokuqhubela uFrrari kodwa akazange akwazi ukufumana enye. Xa wafumanisa ukuba ukufa kwakhe kwakungqinisiso waqhubeka ethemba ithuba lokuba eFrrari, nokuba wayenakukwazi ukuqhuba enye. I-arhente yesibhedlele yenza ukuba kwenzeke ngokuhlela umqhubi wovavanyo lwe-Ferrari kunye noMnu H kwisihlalo somgibeli. Ngenxa yokuba uMnumzane H wayesazi ukuba ufile, wakwazi ukuphinda ahlolisise ithemba lakhe kwaye wazi ukuba kwakungekho ixesha elisele elenza ukuba azimisele ukuwaqonda.
Yimangalisa! Uyazi ukuba ulele
Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ngokwenene ukuba banokufihla ukufa okuza kusondela kumntu othandekayo. Ukufa yinkqubo yemvelo eyenziwa ngumzimba. Kanye njengokuba umfazi obelekayo uyazi ukuba umntwana uzayo, umntu ofayo uyazi ukuba ukufa kusondele. Nangona umhlobo wakho engathethi ngokufa kwakhe, uyazi ukuba kuza. Ezinye iintlanga zenkcubeko kunye neentlobo zentsapho aziqhelanga nje ukufa kwaye umntu wakho othandekayo unokubahlonela loo nto. Mhlawumbi ufumane ingqiqo kubathandekayo ukuba akukho mntu ufuna ukuqonda okanye ukuxubusha inkqubo yokufa kwaye wagqiba kwelokukhusela ngokwenza okufanayo.
Ukufa ngoko kuba yindlovu engavumiyo egumbini. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba kukho kodwa akukho mntu uya kukuvuma. Ingxoxo zentsapho zinokuthi zibe nzima kwaye zingabonakali, zingaze zifikelele kumgangatho osondeleyo. Umsebenzi obalulekileyo wokulungisa nokuzalisa ubudlelwane ushiywe.
Iingcebiso zokuthetha ngokufa
Ukuthetha ngokufa akunakuze kube lula. Abaninzi bethu baziva bengakhululekile baze bathi "ukufa" okanye "ukufa". Ukuthetha ngayo nomntu othandekayo ojongene nakho kunzima nakakhulu. Ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuvuleka ngokufa kunye nomthandayo, nantsi ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda:
Njengoko umthandi wakho eqala ukuqaphela ukuba ukufa kusondele, unokuthi ahambe kwiinqanaba zeDABDA. Uya kuqalisa ukuhlaziywa komntu ukuze athathe isitophelo ebomini ahlala kuyo ngoku. Njengoko ukufa kusondela, uya kukwazi ngokusesikweni. Nantsi ingcaciso engakumbi malunga noko ungalindela njengoko ixesha lisondela: