Iindlela ezili-9 zokuxhasa umlingani okanye umlingane onomhlaza webele

Iingcebiso malunga nendlela oonxibelelwano abanokubanceda ngayo abathandwayo abane-Cancer Breast

Ukuba umlingane wakho ufumene ukuba unomdlavuza webele, unokunikela njani ngenkxaso ayenayo? (Khumbula ukuba amadoda angafumana umdlavuza webele, naye). Umhlaza wesifuba, nokuba ngowomntu okanye kumfazi, uthinta abantu ngeendlela ezininzi. Unyango lunokubangela ukuba umfanekiso womzimba uguqulwe, unyango lwama-hormone lungenza abantu .... kakuhle ... i-hormonal, kwaye akubandakanyi konke ukutshintshwa kwe-chemotherapy kunye neyeza zonyango.

Unyango lomhlaza wesifuba ushiya ezininzi izigulane ziziva zidinwe kwaye zifuna ngakumbi inkxaso kunanini ngaphambili. Ukuba uthatha umzuzu ukucinga ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo xa usuke uphelelwe amandla, wongeza ezi zonyango kumxube, yinto encinci yento umlingane wakho azivakalelwa ngayo. Ngaphambi kokuba siye kwiindlela zokuxhasa umlingane wakho kubalulekile ukukhankanya umonde. Kungenxa yokuba uya kufuna umonde wakho.

Ngexesha elifanayo njengoko iqabane lakho lihamba kuzo zonke iinguqulelo, mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuba ziphi na amaqabane avakalelwa kukuba: uncedo. Ukuba ungumntu ojwayele ukuba "wenze" ungayizi apho uqala khona. Makhe sijonge ngeendlela ezithile onokuzixhasa ngokucacileyo umlingane wakho ngokusekelwe kwinto abaphambili kunye nabaphandi abaye bafumana.

Kodwa njengengxelo yokugqibela yokukhawuleza, ke, ungalokothi unqabe indima yakho. Akukuphela nje kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umyeni wakho aphile kakuhle, kodwa uphando lubonise ukuba ukusinda kungabonakala ngcono kulabo abanenkxaso yentlalo. Ngoko ma siqale. Ungamxhasa njani umthandayo wakho ngomhlaza webele?

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Khuthaza

Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho nonke nivakalelwa ukukhala. Qhubeka. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba nguwe ohambisa ii-hankies, kungekhona isigulane sakho. Ufuna i-anchor emotion, kwaye nguwe ukuba uyayithanda okanye awuyi. Ngamanye amaxesha ungatsho nto into engcono kunokuthetha into engalunganga. Kodwa ukuba ukhona, ukukhuthaza nokulungelelanisa, izenzo zakho zitsho ukuba uyamkhathalela, nangona ungenayo amagama okuthethayo.

Ngamanye amaxesha kunceda ukugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo . Kodwa abo benza iingcamango ezinjengezinto ezinjengokuthi "kufuneka uhlale unomdla wokuhlala nomdlavuza," awuzange ulifunde uphando. Kukho ngakumbi ukuba umthandayo unokuveza iimvakalelo ezibi nomdlavuza . Kwaye njengokuba (okanye lakhe) kunye naye, yindawo efanelekileyo.

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Ummeli

Nangona unokuba ngumlwi wendalo, umfazi onomdlavuza wesifuba kaninzi akwazi ukulwa nezibhedlele, abahlengikazi abangenakuqonda , abahlengikazi abangenangqondo , okanye omnye umntu, ngakumbi wena. Ngumsebenzi wakho ukuba uthathe uhlangothi lwakhe kwaye ubuze imibuzo ekhuni, bhinqa ideskiti yokumkela xa ungagcinwa, kwaye wenze ngokusemandleni akhe. Kwaye nabasebenzi abanonophelo bonyango banomatasa kakhulu okanye baxakeke. Kwaye xa oko kwenzeka, kufuneka usebenze ukuqinisekisa ukuba isigulane sakho sinyamekela.

Kwindoda yakho njengeqabane, unokumkhuthaza (okanye yena) ukuba abe ngummeli wakhe kumdlavuza wakhe . Yenza umehluko.

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Hlela

Mhlawumbi awukho umququzeleli ozalwe. Kodwa unako ukugcina umgca wokuqeshwa kwamagqirha, unyango , imiyalelo, izibhedlele zezibhedlele, iingxelo zokuvavanya, kunye namakhulu eempawu zephepha ukuba ulandelelwano oluqhelekileyo lwenyango yomhlaza webele. Akunabo bonke la maphepha abalulekile, kodwa awufuni ukulahlekelwa yiyo. Kwaye isigulane sakho siya kukhululeka kungekufuneka ukuba ulandele ngokwawo (okanye ngokwakhe).

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UMthetho oqhelekileyo

UMthetho "oqhelekileyo" kangangoko kunokwenzeka. I-Cancer ayithethi ukuba umhlaba ufanele ugaye ukuma. Ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ninemigangatho eqhelekileyo kunye nezinto ozonandiphayo, zama ukuzigcina ngokubanzi. Kodwa soloko uvalela ukukhathala ngokomzimba , uxinzelelo lwengqondo , okanye ezinye izizathu zokungenzi izinto owazenzayo.

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Nyaniseka

Uninzi lwabantu namhlanje luya kuthanda ukuva inyaniso malunga nemeko yabo yezokwelapha kunamanga amnandi. Oku akuthethi ukuba unenkohlakalo engenakudinga, nangona kunjalo. Xa nonke nibhekana neenyaniso ezifanayo kunye, nokuba nantoni na, unokwenza kunye kunye nokuhlala kunye kunye nonyango.

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Buza Uhlobo lwabahlobo

Ababini kuni anifanele nenze konke ngokwenu. Abamelwane, abamelwane kunye neentsapho baya kucela uncedo. Akunabo bonke abaya kuyenza, kodwa uya kumangaliswa koko abanye abantu baya kukwenza xa ucela nje. Funa lwabo uncedo ekuqhubeni ukuya kwiindawo zokuqeshwa, uhlala kunye neqabane lakho xa usebenza, okanye wenze iziganeko ozenzayo kodwa ungenaso ixesha lokusasa.

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Lindela ukuphendula

Wonke umntu unengqondo eyahlukileyo ngomhlaza. Abanye abantu baya kuvuka baze baleke xa uzama ukubatshela into engalunganga ngayo iqabane lakho. Abanye baya kulila, bathukuthele, okanye bawutyeshele imeko yonke. Awukwazi ukulawula ukuphendula kwabo, kodwa unokulawula ukuphendula kwakho kubo.

Ungazivolonti ngolwazi ukuba iqabane lakho linomdlavuza ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle. Kwiphepha le-flip, ungazami ukwenza imfihlo ebumnyama. Yaye mayeke abantu obaxelela ukuba bajongane nabo ngokwabo.

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Thandaza / Camngca

Naluphi na iinkolelo zakho zokomoya, qonda ukuba ezo nkolelo ziyingxenye yimeko. Wena kunye nomlingane wakho uza kufuna iimithombo ezininzi ukuze uzuze, ngaphezu kokuba unako ukuzitholela ngokwakho. Musa ukuyihoxisa ingokomoya lakho kule mpi. Iyakunxibelelana nawe nomthombo wamandla akho amakhulu.

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ILizwi Elivela Kuxhaswa Ngomntu Othandekayo Ngomhlaza Webele

Indima yakho njengeqabane okanye iqabane lingenakwenziwa phantsi. Amanye amaqabane abesilisa abatshilo ukuba abaziva bengabalulekanga njengamantombazana aqhubela kwindawo. Kodwa ungayithobeli indima yakho. Njengomlingani wakho indima ibaluleke kakhulu ekuthandeni kwakho abathandekayo.

Ngelo xesha, musa ukulibala ukuzinyamekela. Khumbulani ukuba zeziphi iindwendwe ezihamba ngeendiza zisitshilo xa sihamba ngeendiza? Faka i-mask yakho ye-oxygen mask ngaphambi kokunceda abanye.

> Umthombo:

> I-American Cancer Society. Xa Umntu Owaziyo Unomdlavuza. https://www.cancer.org/treatment/understanding-your-diagnosis/talking-about-cancer/when-one-you-know-has-cancer.html