U-Ego wakhe Unokufumana Indlela Yokunyamekela
Abaninzi bethu badibana nomgqirha okhukhumelayo okanye ogqirha. Uza ngaphaya nje kunamandla-kunoko-, ubonakala ehlasele, ephakamileyo okanye enokuzikhukhumeza njengokuthi kufuneka sive inhlanhla nje ukuba sibe ebusweni bokuba lo mntu, okanye sinoyiko ngokwaneleyo ukuba sasingcono ukumnqumla.
Xa singasiva kakuhle, yiyiphi isizathu sokuba si tyelele lo mntu, siqale ngoku, sijongene nobuntu obukhulu kunokusishiya sisicatshukiswe, sithukuthele, sikhungatheke, okanye sinezinye iimvakalelo ezimbi, akukho eyanceda ekuphuculeni impilo yethu.
Ukuzithemba nokuziqinisekisa kuyimpawu ezintle zogqirha. Sifuna ukwazi ukuba oogqirha bethu bathemba ngomsebenzi wabo kwaye banomsebenzi onobuchule bokusinceda. Kodwa izigulane ezizilumkileyo ziyaqonda ukuba akukho ndawo yokuzidla, i-narcissism okanye ukuzithobela kwii-egotistical medical professionals. Ukungabi nhlonipho kwiimfuno zethu, kunye nobuntu babo obubunzima, kuya kuphazamisa ubambiswano esiyidingayo ukuze siphuhlise, kwaye asinakufumana uncedo olufunekayo kubo.
Nazi ezinye iingcamango zokuqonda, ngoko ujongene noogqirha abanzima:
I-Ego enkulu i-Cover-Up
Iingcali zengqondo ziya kukuxelela ukuba xa umntu okhukhumelayo okanye ophakamileyo, wenza oko ngenxa yokuba akanakho ukuzithemba. Esikhundleni sokuziva ephakamileyo ngokwenene, kunoko, ngokwenene uzive ephantsi. Ngoko uya kusebenzisa ukwesabisa, okanye enze umgudu wokufihla ukungabi nantlonelo. Esikolweni, lo ugqirha wayengumntu onokuxhaphaza. Kwimeko yezokwelapha, ukuba ukwesatshiswa kukuthatha uhlobo lokuzikhukhumeza.
Ugqirha uye wachitha ixesha lobomi bakhe ngobuntu bakhe kwaye awuyi kukwazi ukutshintsha. Ngoko ke, iinqunto zakho kukufunda ukufunda okanye ukufumana omnye ugqirha .
Uyayazi njani indlela yokuthatha? Uya kufuna ukuvavanya ukubaluleka kwesi sigqirha esithile kwimpilo yakho. Ngaba lo luba luhlobo olufutshane okanye ixesha elide?
Ngaba lo ugqirha unolwazi olukhethekileyo okanye amakhono abanye abangenziyo? Okanye ngaba kukho oogqirha abakhona ukukunceda ukuze ungayi kulubekezelela?
Yazi kakuhle amanyathelo okufumana ugqirha omtsha ngaphambi kokuba utshabe uDkt. Nangona ndiyakuthanda ukukuxelela nje ukuba ufumane omnye ugqirha, oku kulula ukuthetha kunokuba kwenziwe kwiinkathalo eziphambili, kunye nezinye izinto ezizodwa.
Indlela yokuphuhlisa ulwalamano olusebenzayo kunye noGqirha okanye uGqirha weZiko
Ukuba ugqiba ukuhlala kunye nogqirha okanye ukholelwa ukuba uya kukwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane, nakhu amanyathelo athathathekayo ekunciphiseni imiphumo yobunzima bakhe:
- Okokuqala, qondani ukuba kungekuphela nje ukuba lo mntu uya kukhanyela ukuba ungumzekelo, uya kukhanyela ukuba ungumntu onokuxhaphaza okanye unenkcenkceshela. Enyanisweni, uye wahlakulela lo buntu kuba lufezekisa injongo zakhe; Abantu bayesabisa ukuba abazami ukumazi kangcono. Akafuni ukuba mnandi, nobubele okanye nomusa ngenxa yokuba abantu baya kuqonda ukuba ungezantsi kangakanani.
- Ukwazi ukuba akafuni ukuba ngumhlobo, musa ukuzama ukumenza umhlobo wakho. Injongo yakho iya kuba kukuthabatha loo mida esongayo ngaphandle kobudlelwane ukuze ufumane uncedo oluyidingayo.
- Qaphela ukuba ubuntu bakhe obunzima abubonakali ngokwenene ngamakhono akhe njengogqirha. Unako, okanye mhlawumbi, ukuba ube ngumsebenzi ontle, okwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho zempilo. Uyakwazi ukufumana njengongcali onguchwephesha / ugqirha we-cardiologist / okanye nayiphi na enye "inkulu" kukho, mhlawumbi yena. Kodwa mhlawumbi akakho. Kuya kufuneka usebenze ukuze ufumane ukuba unokukunceda ngokwenene, okanye ukuba ukuzingca kwakhe kuhlanganisa ubuthathaka kwizinto zakhe.
- Okumangalisa kukuba, mhlawumbi ukuba le ngqungquthela yobuthathaka obunzima kakhulu isebenza ngokusesikweni. Ukuba unesifo esibuhlungu okanye iimpawu eziphazamisayo, kwaye unokukunceda okanye usombulule imfihlelo yakho yokuqonda , "ebonisa" ukuphakama kwakhe. Impumelelo yakhe njengoko ugqirha wakho kumnceda ukuba angaphaya kweemvakalelo zakhe zokungaphantsi.
- Khumbula ukuba ke, ukuba unxibelelwano phakathi kwenu bobabini luba luleke , ngoko qiniseka ukuba i-ego yakhe ayikuthinteli ukukwazi ukuthetha ngezinto ezibalulekileyo zesifo okanye imeko.
- Lo ugqirha uya kucinga ukuba yonke into akuxelela yona ilungile, okanye impendulo engcono. Xa kufikelele kwizinto ezinokuba sisigulane esisisilumko esibandakanya ukubuza imibuzo ehlakaniphile, okanye ukwabelana ngolwazi olufundileyo malunga nokuxilongwa okanye unyango lwezonyango, yazi ukuba uDkt Drogant uya kunqanda ingxoxo, unokukungahoywa okanye afune. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, zama ukugqithisa ingxoxo ngokuchaza ukuba uyayiqonda into akuchazele yona, ukuba uyazi ukuba zombini unomgomo ofanayo - ukuphucula isimo sakho sempilo - nokuba unokudala ukuphumelela bobabini benu ngokuchaza le ngcaciso eyongezelelweyo. Musa ukutyhwenyeka kwintetho! Kodwa yazi ukuba kuya kufuneka ufikelele kumntu onzima ngokungafaniyo ukuhamba nge-ego yakhe.
- Ukuba ungena kwingxaki ngonyango lwakho (umzekelo, izilwanyana ezimiselweyo azisebenzi kakuhle), ke qiniseka ukuba ubeka ingxaki njengengqinisiso njengoko unako. Umtshutshisi angazama ukwenza ukuba kuzwakala ngathi iphoso likukho, isiguli. Ukumxelela ukuba unenkxalabo iya kuzwakala kuye ngokungathi uyammangalela ukwenza impazamo, ngoko kuya kufuneka uguqulwe loo miji, nayo.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu yobudlelwane kunye nalo gqirha kukuba kuya kufuneka usebenze kanzima ukuze uqiniseke ukuba unokubuza imibuzo oyifunayo ukuba ufumane iimpendulo ozifunayo ukuba ufumane, kwaye ufumane ingqwalasela kunye nenkonzo oyifaneleyo.
Izifundo zakutsha zibonise ukulungelelanisa phakathi kokuzidla, ukuphazamiseka, kunye neephene zonyango. Xa uziva ungcono okanye unamandla, unokukhetha ukuthatha indima ekususeni ezi ntlobo zegos ukusuka kwimiba yeyeza. Ukuba kunjalo, kukho iindawo zokunika ingxelo ngokuziphatha kakubi ngokubonelela ngenjongo yokuphucula loo mpawu okanye ukususa loo ego kwindlela yokusebenza kweyeza.
Iingxelo:
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- > KwiNcwadana yeNeurology , inqaku lika-Alan H. Rosenstein, MD, MBA no-Michelle O'Daniel, MHA, MSG