UkuCwangcisa Kubalulekile
Kuzo zonke i mibuzo endibucelwe yona, "Ndithintela njani ngesondo ekhuselekileyo ngexesha lesithathu?" inokuba yenye yam intandokazi. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngokuba ngumntu osasazela ngesondo xa unengqiqo ngalo.
Ndihlala ndivuya xa abantu befuna ukudibanisa ubomi obusempilweni, obuvuyisayo ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo. Ukuba nesithathu kunobungozi kunesondo kwisigxina esisodwa, ixesha elide, ulwalamano olwenziwe apho abantu babini bavavanywa .
Nangona kunjalo, akunjalo kakhulu kunobungozi ngaphezu kobudlelwane obunxulunyanisayo kunye nabanye abantu ababandakanyeka ngesondo esingakhuselekanga .
Eyona nto ixhalabileyo xa uzama ukwenza ukhuseleko olwesithathu lufana noxa uzama ukwenza ulwalamano olusondeleyo ngokwesondo. Kufuneka uxoxe ngeengxelo zokuvavanya kunye nesondo esilondekile kusengaphambili ukwenzela ukuba ufumane ukuphatha kakuhle kumanqanaba afanelekileyo enobungozi obubandakanya nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yesondo. Emva koko, xa sele ugqibile, unokuxoxa ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yeyiphi imisebenzi wonke umntu onomdla ekuhloliseni, kunye naye.
Nazi ezinye zeengcinga ezifunekayo ozicingayo xa uzama ukufumana unqabileyo olukhuselekileyo:
- Wonke umntu kufuneka asebenze ngesondo ekhuselekileyo, nokuba ngaba babini abantu " banamathele emzimbeni "
Kukho umngcipheko wokubonakalisa iqabane lesithathu kumanzi omzimba xa amaqabane amabini adibeneyo asebenza ngamanzi asebenzisana nezenzo zesondo ezingakhuselekanga. Ngoko ke, yinto efanelekileyo yokuba wonke umntu asebenzise izithintelo kuzo zonke izenzo zesondo. Ukongezelela, ukugxininisa ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo kubo bonke abantu kunceda wonke umntu ahlale enembeza. Iyanciphisa umngcipheko womntu olibale ukubeka ikhondom xa kuyimfuneko. Kwakhona kukukhumbuza ukuba usebenzise ukukhuselwa olutsha xa ushintsha amaqabane esondo.
- Isenzo esitsha, isithintelo esitsha - akukho ngaphandle
Kanye nje ukuba ulala nesinye iqabane, ukuba unesithandathu, rhoqo xa utshintshe izenzo zesondo omele usebenzise umqobo omtsha. Oko kuthetha ukuba uhamba ngesondo ukuya kwi- fallatio , okanye ngokuthe ngqo, utshintshe iikhondom. Kufuneka kwakhona utshintshe iikhondom ukuba usuka ekungeneni kwelinye iqabane ukuba ungene kwelinye. Kufuneka uthathe ibhodlela elitsha lamantombazana xa wenza isondo ngomlomo kumntu omtsha. Ngethuba lomzuzu, kunokulula ukulibala ukuba awuyikusebenzisa nje izithintelo zokuzikhusela. Usebenzisa nabo ukukhusela abantu olala nabo. Awunqweneli ukuhlambalaza amaqabane akho kunye nolwelo lwamanzi ngaphezu kokuba ufuna ukuzityhila.
- Cinga ukunikezela ngekhondom eyahlukileyo / iglavu / ibhodlela ekusebenziseni ngamnye umntu ochaphazelekayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukugcina umkhondo wenzani ukuba ngubani oye wenza oko kuye. Ukuthabatha izifo zesondo ezikhuselekileyo ezinemibala kunokunceda. Umzekelo, sebenzisa iiglavu ezibomvu / iikhondom zokunxibelelana ngesondo kunye no-Partner A, iiglavu ezimnyama / ikhondom zokuqhagamshelana ngesondo kunye no-Partner B kunye neiglavu ezimhlophe / iikhondom zokuthintana ngesondo kunye noMlingani C. Emva koko akukho mngcipheko wokungcola. Ngaphezu koko, kunokuba nzima ukugcina umkhondo wezandla, iilwimi kunye nezinye izixhobo zomzimba ezikuchaphazelayo ekutshiseni kwangoko. Kodwa unokuziva uzikhuselekileyo xa zonke zihlanganiswe kwi-latex yombala (okanye nitrile).
Ewe, izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo aziyona nto yodwa ekwazi ukuguqula indlela emithathu. Ukuba uyingxenye yesibini kwaye ucinga ngokumema umntu wesithathu ebhedeni lakho, kubalulekile ukuba uqinisekise ukuba into yesithathu into oyifunayo. Ukongezelela, kufuneka uxoxe ngemida yakho yomzimba kunye nemizwelo phambi kokuba umntu wesithathu athathe inxaxheba. Kufuneka wenze kwakhona isicwangciso sendlela oza kuthatha ngayo izinto xa omnye wakho ephazamiseka okanye edidekile kwaye ufuna ukuba amava ayeke. Ukuxhomekeka kunye neetreesome ukucokola ubuhlobo bakho buhle.
Nangona kunjalo, awufuni ukuphelisa ukwenza into eyichithayo endaweni yoko.
Ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba "iindwendwe ezikhethekileyo" ngumntu, naye. Kufuneka baphathwe ngenhlonipho. Kubalulekile ukubabuza, kunye nokuphulaphula, imida yabo. Njengaye nawaphi na amava ezesondo, wonke umntu kufuneka azive ekhuselekile kwaye ekhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba athi akukho, kunye no-ewe.