Ukubandakanyeka komphakathi kunika abantu abadala abaxhaphakileyo inethiwekhi yenkxaso
Yintoni eyenzekayo kwiNyana Yethu Yokuzimela Emva kokuba Sife?
Ngethuba elithile, umhlobo wandibeka ingqalelo kwividiyo emfutshane kwiziko le-PBS elinamalungu amabini kunye nabantu abadala kwi-autism. Iintsapho zifana kakhulu. Bobabini babengumhlophe kunye nodidi oluphakathi (enye intsapho ibheka ukuba ilucebile kunenye, kodwa yayingabonakali isisityebi okanye ihlwempu). Zomibini iintsapho zazibandakanya umama noyise kwiminyaka yabo emva (iminyaka yobudala) kunye ne-autistic unyana kwiminyaka eyi-20.
Bobabini abaselula bavakalisa ilizwi kunye neempendulo, kodwa bobabini babenomngeni omkhulu kunokuba kubonakala ntoni, ubuncinci emphakathini, ukuba babe yingxaki engqondweni nangokwenkcazo kunye nesidingo esinamandla sokufana kunye nokuqhelekileyo.
Kwimeko zombini, ukuphela kweenkonzo zesikolweni bekuye kwabonisa ukuphela kwezonyango, kunye nokuphela kwamathuba amaninzi ancedisiweyo. Enye insizwa, nangona kunjalo, yayichitha loo mini kwi-workshop ekhuselekileyo; omnye usebenze kwisitolo sokutya kunye nomqeqeshi womsebenzi opheleleyo. Ngamnye wayebonakala ekhululekile kakhulu ngokusebenza kwakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, bobabini babe neemeko ezibalulekileyo, ezixhaswayo, ezixhaswa kuzo ezazisetyenziswa ngaphandle kwekhaya. Kwaye kwimeko zombini iimeko ezixhaswayo zibonakala zixhaswa ngemali ngolu hlobo lwenkqubo yomgaqo-federal okanye yelizwe (ayingasetyenziswanga ngasese).
Ngoko ke, abazali bayakhathazeka ukuba "akunokuthi sinokujamelana njani nale meko." Ukukhathazeka "kwenzeka ntoni xa sife?"
Ngaba Abantakwabo Bakuba "I-Network Network"?
Kwindlu enye, abazalwana abakhulileyo sele bevumelene ukuba babe ngabazali babo. Kwesinye, ngaphandle koodadewabo, abazali basebenzisana nezinye iindwendwe (abangazange baxoxwa nabo) ukudala imeko ehlalayo yeqela lexesha elipheleleyo. Nangona bebesebenza kulo mbululo, nangona kunjalo, abazali babonakala bengathandabuzeki nokuba ngaba unyana wabo unokusingatha iqela kwikhaya .
Bathembele, ngokuqeqesha ngemali eyimali ekhaya, ukuba bamlungiselele ubomi obuzimeleyo .
Kakade ke, ezi ntsapho zimele iqela elikhulu labantu (okanye kungekudala ukuba libe) kwiimeko ezifanayo. UPeter Gerhardt, omnye wabantu abambalwa abanamava amaninzi ekusebenzeni nabantu abadala kwibala, bachaza ukukhukula kwabantu abadala abakudala nge-autism njenge "tsunami." Isizathu siselula kakhulu: abaninzi abantwana abaxilongwa ngokuba ne-autism kuthetha, ekuhambeni kwexesha, abantu abadala abadala abane-autism. Iiprogram zeZikolo zipheleleyo kwaye ziyafumaneka kubo bonke - kodwa iiprogram zabantu abadala zihamba phambili, kwaye zingabandakanya uluhlu olude lokulindela, ngokukodwa kwiintsapho apho umntu omdala ene-autism engenakho ukuziphatha okubi kwaye unako ukujongana nokunakekelwa kwimihla ngemihla kunye nemisebenzi yenkqubo.
Ukunceda Umntwana Wakho Wokuzibandakanya Ukujoyina Uluntu
Enye into eyandixabisa mna kunye nomyeni wam njengoko sasibukele le vidiyo yinto ecacileyo yokuzihlukanisa. Abazali kunye nendodana, kuzo zombini imeko, babonakala behlala kwindawo yokucima. Akukho nto ikhankanywe ngemisebenzi yentsapho; akukho nkcazo yemisebenzi yangaphandle yonyana; akukho khankanya ngabahlobo okanye intsapho (ngaphandle kwabantwana babo, bobabini bahlala kude). Ngokwenene, ezi ntsapho zodwa - kwaye ngoko ke oonyana babo.
Iintsapho zazizinikezele ekunqwenekeni koonyana babo ngokufanayo kunye neziqhelo; Umzali omnye wathi "sonke siyakwazi ukuphila ubomi besiqingatha somntu omdala."
Ewe, ukukhathazeka ngokuthi "emva kokufa" kuyinyani kubazali banoma yimuphi umntu omdala onokukhubazeka. Kodwa kubonakala kucacile ukuba asikwazi ukuxhomekeka kumnatha woxolo karhulumente ukubonelela ngenkxaso, uthando, kunye noluntu lwethu oluntu oludala olufunekayo. Njengokuba silindele ukucwangcisa nokubambisana nabantwana bethu abancinci, kufuneka sicwangcise kwaye sihlanganyele kunye nesisombululo sokusombulula iingxaki kunye nokwakhiwa koluntu kubantwana bethu abadala, ukuze ubomi bethu nabomi babantwana bangachazwanga ngokwemiqathango " "kwaye" sibi. "
Enye into eyenziwa yintsapho yethu - ngenjongo - ukushiya ukungabonakali kwamadlelo edolophu encinci. Oku kwenza umehluko. Ukwahlukana okwenene. Apha, unyana wethu nge autism akayena mfokazi onzima: nguTom. Oku kubalulekile.
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Xa siya elayibrari , umthala-mzila uyazi ngegama. Xa siya e-bowling alley, abanikazi be-alley bayazi ubukhulu besikhumba sakhe. Abasebenzi baseYMCA bayamazi kakuhle, kwaye bazimisele ukwenza indawo encinci kwiinkqubo ezingenokuba nzima kumnye.
UTom ungumdlali ocacileyo we-clarinet; wonke umculi womculo edolobheni uyazi ubuchule bakhe, kwaye uyazi. Udlala kwibhola yesikolo kwaye uqala ukudlala neqela leedolophu. Ikhefu lasehlotyeni eliqhutywa yi-symphony yendawo yintsikelelo, kungekhona nje ngokuba yinkampu enkulu kodwa kuba abantu abafanayo baqhuba inkampu nabo baqhuba ibhendi yedolophu, i-conservatory kunye ne-symphony. Bathanda uTom, bahloniphe it talente yakhe. Ihlabathi elincinci.
Njengamalungu asekuhlaleni, sisazi ngakumbi apho amathuba okuba umsebenzi wokuvolontiya, ama-internship, kwaye, mhlawumbi, umsebenzi. Siyazi ngemisebenzi - kungekhona nje kwiWalmart okanye kwivenkile, kodwa kwizitshixo zoshishino kunye nonzuzo - ezinokuthi zinike ithuba loonyana bethu. Siyazi abantu abaqhuba amashishini kunye nonzuzo. Kwaye sicacile ukuba, ngelixa amashishini amancinci kunye nabangeniso-mali aqhelekanga ukuba "bakhubazekile," banokuzikhethela ukuba baqeshe umntu othile abaye bawaziyo, kwaye bathanda, iminyaka emininzi.
Njengoko ndakhulile kumadlelo kwaye ndahlala kwisixeko, ndiyazi ukuba kulula kangakanani ukuziva ngathi i-chip of bark ehamba phezu kolwandle olukhulu lwabantu-yodwa kwisihlwele. Kodwa ndiyazi nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo. Ndibone iintsapho ezongeziweyo ezithandayo. Ndibukele amalungu asekela uluntu afuna uncedo olungakumbi. Nantsi edolophini yethu, inkqubo ephantsi-yendleko ejoliswe kuluntu isekela abadala kunye nabakhubazekile abaneenkonzo zasekhaya kunye nokuthutha-ngaphandle kwemfuneko yombalo obomvu okanye urhulumente.
Ukuhlala kwendawo kunokuthi uhlale udibene
Akukho nanye kule nto ithetha ukuba siyazi ukuba uTom "uya kulungile" xa siphelile. Kukho umgama omkhulu wokuhamba phakathi kwexesha elide, kwaye unyana wethu akayi-22. Ngokuqinisekileyo asilindele ukuba uluntu lwethu luqokelele iingqungquthela xa silela umntwana wethu.
Oko sikwaziyo, nokuba kunjalo, kukuba sonke - umama, utata, udade kunye nomzalwana-unokuphila apha. I-bowling, ithala leencwadi, umculo, i-Y kunye nezinye ziyingxenye yaloo nto. Silindele ukuba sikhulile apha, kwaye sicinga ukuba uTom uya kuhlala kunye okanye kufuphi nathi njengoko sikhula. Silindele ukuba uya kuqhubeka ekhula njengesivolontiya, umqeshwa, umculi kunye nomfundi omdala. Kanye njengoko sifuna. Sinezicwangciso kunye neengcamango "xa siphelile," nangona ezo zicwangciso (njengobomi bonke) ngokutshintsha.