Namhlanje, umyeni wam wayethetha ngokuqhelana nomntu owaziyo unyana wethu uTom. UTom u-14, ene- autism esebenzayo ; uthetha, uyamnandi, kodwa ngokucacileyo "uhlukile." Umhlobo wayesivile malunga nesimo sokuhlala esiseduze kubantu abadala abane-autism, kwaye ndayichazela kumyeni wam. Ingcamango yakhe yayikuba yinto enhle yonyana wethu ngexesha elizayo.
Umyeni wam umbulele, kodwa menze amazi ukuba injongo yethu yokuba unyana wethu ahlale nathi, ubuncinane kwixesha elizayo eliza kubonakala (ngaphandle kokuba aphefumle ekholeji okanye enze ezinye izinto ezemfundo okanye ezikhethiweyo ezithatha ngaphandle kwendawo ). Ukuba kubonakala ngathi kunengqiqo, sinokumnceda ukuba afune indawo yokuhlala okanye enye imeko ephilayo kufuphi, kwaye anike inkxaso njengokuba kufuneka.
Le ngcamango ibonakala iyimangalisa ukuba siyazi. Kodwa sinezizathu ezimbalwa zeendlela zethu zokucinga.
Okokuqala, kubonakala kuyimvelo kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo yokuba namalungu ezizukulwana ezahlukileyo ezihlala kwintsapho yokuhlala ndawonye. Emva koko, ingcamango yokuba umntu oyedwa uya kuhamba naye ngokwakhe ukuba azise ikhaya kuphela, ukulawula zonke iinkalo zobomi bemihla ngemihla, ngokwenene (kwaye, ngombono wam, andithandi kakhulu). Ngaphambi kwemfazwe yehlabathi yesibili, kwakungeyona into engavamile - kwaye nanamhlanje, ngemisebenzi enzima ukuba ifike, abaninzi abantwana abadala bayaqhubeka behlala nabazali babo kwiminyaka engama-20 nangaphezulu.
Abantu abaninzi, i-autistic okanye " neurotypical ", bafumana uxinzelelo lobomi bodwa, banomthwalo wokusebenza, bethenga, ukupheka, ukucoca, iindleko, ukulungiswa kwekhaya, ukulungiswa kwemoto, ukubandakanya intlalo, amalungiselelo okuhamba kunye nokunye, ukuba kube nzima. Yintoni ebhenkisayo?
Okwesibini, ngelixa kukho umgangatho ophezulu, iindlela ezixhaswa ngabantu abadala abane-autism , zimbalwa kwaye ziphakathi.
Akukho nto ijikeleze kwikona ukusuka kuthi. Kwaye nokuba imeko efanelekileyo ingatshintshwa ngokuhamba kwexesha, njengoko abasebenzi bejika kwaye abahlali beza bahamba. Ngethuba lonyana wethu uneminyaka engama-20, kuya kuba neenketho ezingaphezulu; okwangoku, nangona kunjalo, ingcamango yeqela lekhaya okanye isimo esifanayo sixhalabisa.
Okwesithathu, sisebenze kanzima (kwaye siya kuqhubeka sisebenza nzima) ukunceda unyana wethu adibanise noluntu lwasekuhlaleni. Siphila edolophini encinci, kwaye emva kweminyaka emithathu nje uyazi kwaye uyaziwa kakhulu ngabantu abaninzi abasebenzisana nayo rhoqo. Ababhalisi, abadibanisi, nokuba abantu base-bowling alley bazi igama lakhe, baqonde ukungafani kwakhe, kwaye bafunde ukuthetha naye ngokukhululekile.
Okwesine, uTom uqale ukufumana indawo yentlonipho yangempela kule ndawo, ngokukhethekileyo izakhono zomculo. Sele sele eyaziwayo ngokukwazi kwakhe njenge-clazzetta ye-jazz, kwaye uya kudlala nebhokisi leedolophu ngokukhawuleza. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba uTom ungu-virtuoso, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ikhono lakhe kunye nekhono lethu lokunxibelelanisa lenze ukuba akwazi ukudibana, asebenzisane aze azi ezinye zezikhokelo zomculo kuluntu lwethu. Ukuba wayishiya idolophu yethu, bonke abadibanayo - kunye nentlonipho ayifumanayo-iya kubonakala.
Okwesibini, siyavuya kwinkampani yonyana wethu. Sineendawo ezininzi, kwaye asiyikucwangcisa ukuhamba. Wenza umsebenzi ohlambulukileyo wokuhlamba nokugubungela iimpahla, ukondla izilwanyana, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo uyanyamekela kwaye uncedise ejikeleze indlu. Yintoni enokuyifumana nayiphi na ngokuhlala kwenye indawo kunye nabantu abangazange bahlangane nabo?
Ekugqibeleni, sifuna ukuba unyana wethu abe nekhaya apho eziva ekhululekile nalapho eyaziwayo kwaye ethandwa khona. Namhlanje, unako. Kwixesha elizayo, unokufumana umlingane wokuphila, abahlobo, okanye olunye ulwalathiso. Ukuba akunjalo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, siya kuqonda ukuba unayo ikhaya eluntwini apho ahlala khona ubuninzi bomi bakhe.
Ukuba uyayifuna, ngokuqinisekileyo singakwazi ukusekela inkxaso kunye nezimali emva kokuba siphelile. Ukuba akayidingi - kakuhle, akukho nto ilahlekileyo.
Kakade ke, akuzona zonke iintsapho ezinezingane ezizimeleyo ezinezincedisi zobuqu okanye zemali ukuze umntwana ahlale nabo-okanye kwi-nickel yabo-ngonaphakade. Yaye ilungiselelo elinjalo lilula kakhulu ngomntu ophezulu osebenzayo kunokuba ngumdala omdala ofuna ukunyamekela ixesha elipheleleyo. Okwenene, abaninzi abantu abane-autism banokukhetha ukuhlala ngaphandle kwendlu yabazali babo (kwaye unyana wethu unako, mhlawumbi, abe ngowona wabo).
Ziziphi iingcamango zakho kulo mbuzo? Ngaba ucinga kwangaphambili kwiimeko ezizimeleyo zokuphila kumntwana wakho? Iqela lekhaya? Okanye ngaba ucinga ngesicwangciso sexesha elide engqondweni?
Okunye malunga noCwangciso lwaBadala abane-Autism
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