Ukunyameka ngokuqhelekileyo kudla kuba nzima. Isisindo esithinteleyo sinokungathandeki ukuba sithwale, ingakumbi xa kukho ubunzima obukhulu bokuthintela umsebenzi okanye ukuphazamisa imisebenzi enomdla. Kukho ukungathandeki ngokucacileyo ukuba kubandakanyeka ukuba ukukhuluphala kwamanzi kubangela iingxaki, ezifana nohlobo lwe-2 lweswekile. Kodwa ixhaphake kakhulu kuyo yonke into engaxhamliyo iyathetha nje ngomcimbi.
Enye into, ulwimi lokunyanya kunzima-ukuqala ngegama elithi "ukukhuluphala" ngokwalo. Akukho sizathu sokwenza ukuba igama lifanele likhale lihlambalaza okanye lidlulise ihlazo, kodwa isiko lethu lenze ukuba lenze njalo. Igama elithi "ukukhuluphala" liyakwazi ukunyusa, kwiindawo ezininzi, i-involtionary wince.
Igama eliqhelekileyo lezenzi-mafutha-ngokusobala alikho ngcono. Kwaye iinzame ezahlukahlukeneyo zokuhamba ngeendlela ezingathandekiyo ngamazwi asiyithandi ngamazwi esingaba ngcono (ama-bulky, beefy, njl.) Ngokubanzi ziquka kuphela ingxaki ngokugqamisa imizamo yethu yokufumana indlela ejikelezileyo.
Ukuthetha ngokunyamezela akukhathazi. Ngoko, ngokungaqinisekiyo, ndiboniswe ngolu hlobo lucelomngeni ngamaxesha angamaxesha angama-25-okanye-kangangeminyaka yokunyamekela kwesigulane: Ndingathini na _______ yam ngesisindo sabo?
Kukho abaninzi abanokuhlala kuloo "_______." Ndabakho abazali ukuba babuze ukuba bangayenza njani le ngxoxo nabazali babo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ndaye ndafumana kwelinye icala: ootatomkhulu babuza malunga nabantwana babo abadala. Ndiye ngaba nabahlobo bebuza malunga nabahlobo, abantakwabo babuza malunga nabantwana bakowenu, kwaye abatshatileyo bacela malunga nabatshatileyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona kunjalo, eyona mingeni inzima kakhulu kwaye ibonakalayo kulezi ziganeko kubandakanya abantwana. Xa abazali okanye ootatomkhulu, okanye abanye abathandekayo, banenkxalabo ngesisindo esingenasifo somntwana, ngokuqhelekileyo belahlekelwa yindlela yokuxoxisana nesihloko.
Ukuze kucace, ukukhuluphala akufanele kuxoxwa ngawo onke abantwana abancinci, kwimbono yam. Abayi kuqonda kwaye abalawulwa yimiba echaphazelekayo-ukutya, imihla ngemihla yokusebenza ngokomzimba-nokuba kunjalo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umngeni uphindela kubantu abadala abachaphazelekayo ukuthetha nabanye abantu abadala abangabandakanyekanga, ngokungafuni, okanye nje ngokulahleka.
Iingxoxo ezicacileyo nomntwana zenza ingqiqo xa umntwana ekwazi ukuqonda kwaye enegunya lokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo. Akukho bukhulu bomlinganiselo-obuyiyo yonke inombalo yamanani kule nto, kodwa okanye malunga neminyaka eyi-8 kukuqwalaselwa ngokufanelekileyo .
Intliziyo Yezinto
Ngayiphi indlela-nokuba ingxoxo ihambelana nomntwana, okanye ngomnye umntu omdala egameni lowo mntwana, isisombululo silula, sisebenza, mhlawumbi sisobala-luyothando.
Oko ndiyithethayo kukuba, ngokwenene, intetho kufuneka iqale ngothando. "Ndiyakuthanda ..." okanye "Ndiyamthanda umzukulu wam ..." Kwimeko ethile, xa sithetha nomngeni onjalo nomhlobo, "Ndiyakhathalela" kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo.
Kutheni le nto? Okokuqala, ukuba awukhululekile ukuxubusha isihloko sesisindo ngothando, ngoko awuyena mntu ofanelekileyo ukujongana nayo. Isizathu esisodwa esibalulekileyo sokuxoxa ngesisindo somntu kunye nabo ukuba (a) kunesizathu esivakalayo sokuxhalabisa ukuba ubunzima babo bungabonakalisa impilo yabo , kwaye (b) unenkathalo ngempilo yabo kuba uyabakhathalela.
Ukuba unakho ukungathandabuzeki ngalokhu-ukuba, ngokomzekelo, ucinga ukuba unokufuna umntu ukuba alungise ubunzima bakhe kuba uyifumana ihlazo-ngoko unelungelo lokungakhathazeki. Akufanele uxoxe ngawo; uxolele ukunyaniseka-okungafanelekanga. Uthando lwenza ufaneleke.
Musa ukuxoxa ngesisindo nabani na, umntwana okanye ngenye indlela, ukuba isisindo, ngeyona nto, ekukhathazayo. Musa ukuxoxa ngesisindo ukuba ukukhathazeka kwakho kukuphathelele ukubonakala okanye kubandakanya ukugwetywa. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ukhathazeke ngemiphumo yempilo yesisindo kumntu omthandayo, kuquka umntwana, ulungele ukufuna ukulungisa loo nto, njengoko ufuna ukukhusela loo mntu nakweyiphi enye ingozi.
Oko, ngoko, yintoni okumele uthi: " Ndiyakuthanda, kwaye ndixhalabele ukuba ubunzima bakho bunokuba yingozi kuwe-kwaye ndingathanda ukunceda ukuqinisekisa ukuba akunjalo. Ndinganceda njani? "U
Okokugqibela, "ndingayinceda njani," kuya kuba neengqiqo kubafundi abaselula kunye nabadala kunabantwana. Abantwana akunakwenzeka ukuba bayakwazi impendulo, ngoko kungenangqiqo ukubuza umbuzo. Kwakhona, akukho bukhulu bomntu obufanayo-bonke abhaliweyo. Kodwa indlela eqhelekileyo yenzalo yonke. Ngoko, ukuba uthetha nomntwana wakho, unokuthi " ... kwaye ndifuna ukunceda, ngaba kunjalo na?"
Ngokufanayo, ukuba uthetha nomntu omdala, ukucela ukuncedisa kunokusesikhatshane. Mhlawumbi umbuzo wokuqala, umbuzo wokuqala: " Ngaba le nto sinokuxoxa ngayo? "U
Eyona Nkxalabo
Ukunyuka kwamafutha omzimba akusoloko kusisongela impilo, kodwa kaninzi. Ukunyuka kwamatyala kuqhubeka nokunyuka phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana emhlabeni wonke , kwaye iziphumo zokunyanya-ukuquka ukufa kwangaphambi kokudala-zikhuphuka. Ukukhathazeka ngoku oku kusemthethweni. Ukujongana nayo kwinqanaba ngalinye, nokuba, ukuba ukhuthazo lwakho luthando kunye nenkxalabo, kungekhona isigwebo.
Ngokuphathelele oko uyenzayo emva kokuba udibanise isihloko, kuxhomekeke. Ngamanye amaxesha umcimbi nje wokusebenza kunye ekuphuculeni iindlela zokutya kunye nemisebenzi; ngamanye amaxesha, umgudu kufuneka ubandakanye isikhokelo esicacileyo esivela kwingcali yezempilo. Kukho enye iphela, nangona kunjalo: Kufuneka bonke badlale kumgangatho wentsapho, kungekhona umntwana ngamnye.
Xa kugxininiswe impilo kunokuba isisindo, kunye nothando kunokuba kubekho isigwebo, asikho isizathu sokuba umntwana afune "ukulungisa" ubunzima bawo. Kufuneka, endaweni yoko, babe yinxalenye yentsapho esebenzayo kunye kunye nokuxhasana, kuba bayathandana. Ngobunye, kukho amandla.
Ukuba nantoni na oyenzayo ukulungisa ingxaki yesisindo kumntwana owenzayo njengentsapho, kwaye udibanisa ngenxa yothando, awukwazi nje ukuhamba kakubi kakhulu. Qala iingxoxo zakho ngokufanelekileyo.
UDkt. Katz wayengumhleli-oyintloko wongxelo yontanga, u-Childhood Obesity.