Ukuba uyinto enjengaye, uyaziqhayisa ngokukwazi kwakho ukujamelana nemeko, ukuhlangabezana nemingeni, kwaye ufumane i-positive - nakwiimeko ezinzima. Xa kuziwa kwi-autism, mhlawumbi ufuna ukwenza into efanayo. "Ndixelele ngokuthe ngqo, Doc," ufuna ukuthetha. "Ingaba umntwana uya kufunda ukuthetha? Ngaba uya kwenza abahlobo ? Uya kugqiba esikolweni, abambe umsebenzi, akhe ubuhlobo?" Emva kwakho konke, unokuba uzive, nangona uhlaselo olubi luyakunceda ukuxhasa imingeni yomntwana kwaye ucwangcise ikamva lakhe.
Ngezinye iimeko, unokufumana okungenani impendulo efanelekileyo. Mhlawumbi uya kuva "kukho amathuba angama-60 aloo miphumo," okanye "uzilungiselele ukuba kungenzeka ukuba i-X iza kwenzeka."
Ngo-autism, nangona kunjalo, akukho ndlela enhle yokwenza kwangaphambili iziphumo . Ugqirha lomntwana wakho akakwazi, ekukholweni okulungileyo, akuxelele kakhulu malunga nokuba yintoni umntwana wakho anokukwazi ukuyenza okanye uya kukwazi ukwenza - ngakumbi xa umntwana wakho esemncinci. Oogqirha abanakho izixhobo ezinokwethenjelwa zokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uya kuphucula kancane, ngokubalulekayo, okanye kakhulu-kwaye akukho zixhobo ngokubanzi ekuchonzeni ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuncedisa okanye iindlela zokufundisa eziza kusebenza ngempumelelo kunoma yimuphi umntu.
Ngenxa yoko, ingxoxo yakho engokoqobo ingahamba into enje:
- Ngaba uya kufunda ukuthetha?
- Ingayiyo. Uninzi lwabantwana abane-autism bafunda ukuthetha kamva kunokuqhelekileyo.
- Uya kuphumelela esikolweni esiphakeme?
- Kunzima ukwazi. Abanye abantwana abane-autism benza kakuhle kakuhle esikolweni, kodwa abanye abakwenzi.
- Ngaba i-XYZ yokwelapha iya kunceda umntwana wam?
- Ewe, unalo idumela elihle kwaye alikwazi ukulimaza-kutheni ungazame!
Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, ezinye iinkalo zekamva lakhe zicaca. Umntwana ongafundile ukuthetha ngeeminyaka ezithandathu okanye ezisixhenxe akanakwenzeka ukuba akhulise ulwimi oluthile oluqhelekileyo.
Umntwana onokukhubazeka okufunda kakhulu uya kufumana nzima okanye angenakwenzeka ukuhlala kwindawo yokufundela. Kodwa nangona "eziyinyaniso" zingatshintsha njengoko umntwana wakho efunda kwaye ekhula. Umntwana onokwenene ophumelela eklasini elibandakanyekayo unokufumanisa ukuba akunakwenzeka ukulawula ukulindela okusemgangathweni okuphezulu, ngelixa ungeke ukwazi ukulawula umfundi onokufundela angakhula abe ngumfundi onamandla.
Mhlawumbi ukhathazeka ukuba uqikelele ukuba ngaba kwaye umlinganiselo onjani umntanakho uya kulawula imiba yezinto ezinomdla eziyingxenye ye-autism. Abanye abantwana abancinci banokukhathazeka ngokugqithiseleyo, ukukhanya, okanye ukuvumba - kodwa kuba nzima ngakumbi kwixesha. Abanye abantu bagcina amanqanaba afanayo wokuqonda kodwa bafumane izixhobo zokulawula imingeni yabo. Kodwa abanye abantu abazange bafunde ukujamelana nayo nayiphi na into ephawulekayo "yokuhlaselwa," okwenza kube nzima ukuphendula ngokubhekiselele kwiibhendi zesikolo, ukuphawula izimpondo, ukukhanya kwezibane, okanye ezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nezandi zobomi banamhlanje. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu ophethe i-IQ ephakamileyo kunye nemiba enzulu yeengqondo kunokufumanisa kunzima ukujamelana nesikolo nomsebenzi kunomntu one-IQ engaphantsi kunye namandla amakhulu okulawula imingeni yokujonga.
Ngolwazi oluncedo olunzulu olwakhiwa ngalo, kuba nzima kakhulu "ukujamelana nokunyaniseka." Enyanisweni, ngokwamkela ukukhawuleza okuthe xaxa ebomini bakho, unokuba lunciphisa amathuba abo okuyithintela loo mingcele.
Ngomqondiso ofanayo, umzali othabatha umntwana wakhe omncinci uya kupheka, ahambe, kwaye atyelele imingeni eyimfuneko ye-autistic ingaba yinto engamangalisiyo.
Eyona nto, abazali abajongene neqiniso le-autism banamathele kwisimo esingenakonwaba kodwa sinyani ngokwenene sokuthatha ubomi njengoko kuza.