Njengomdlavuza womhlaza wekolon , usenokuba uchithe iiyure ucinga ukuba kutheni, njengomntu omdala onempilo ongaziwayo, unyuliwe ukuba uhlakulele umhlaza. Ukungalungi kwalo akukhenkethi kwaye kungatshintsha ukuba ibe ngumsindo, ukuba ungashiywanga ngaphandle kwexesha.
Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuba akusiwo wonke umntu oza kuthukuthela ngenxa yokuxilongwa. Abantu abaninzi banesaba, bazisole, okanye bathethekile xa bexelele ukuba unomdlavuza.
Ezi zinto - kunye nentukuthelo - imvakalelo yendalo neyesiqhelo eyinxalenye enempilo yokwamkelwa kokuxilongwa kwakho , ekuqaleni .
Emva kokuba ufunde ukuba unomdlavuza, unokwenza malunga nokuba ubomi bakho buya kuthini xa ungabhemki, uphuze ngokweqile, okanye uthathe ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezingozi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unokuba udibanise ukwesaba indlela oya kusinda ngayo unyango oluzayo kwaye uqhubeke usondla intsapho yakho. Zizo zonke izinto eziqhelekileyo - kwaye eziqhelekileyo - ezixhalabisayo. Yingakho amanqanaba amaninzi ekwelapha umdlavuza aquka inyango njengengxenye ebalulekileyo yonyango lwakho.
Ukubuyela kumsindo, kukho iindlela ezintle zokwenza le mvakalelo, kunokuba uvumele ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakho bobuhlobo kwaye ekugqibeleni, wena.
Hlola Umoya
Oku kunokubonakala kucacile, kodwa ungeke uhlolisise nantoni na into eyenza ubenze. Ngaba uyadala ukuba udle i saladi esikhundleni se-cheeseburgers kwiminyaka eyi-10 edlulileyo kwaye kubonakala kungenakulungile ukuba ikholoni yakho ayibulele?
Okanye, ngaba udidekile ukuba unike ukutshaya kwiminyaka yakho engamashumi amabini kwaye ucinga ukuba, " Zininzi izinto ezintle ezenzayo . Ngokuhlolisisa kakuhle into othukutheleyo ngayo kunokukunceda ukuba uqhube phambili kwaye udlulele umva. Siyakuhalalisa ngokuziphatha kwakho okunempilo kwaye usebenze ngokuvuma ukuba amaxesha amaninzi, umhlaza awufanelekanga .
Sisazi ukuba kutheni abantwana bezalwa kunye okanye kutheni umntu oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala onempilo.
Vumela Abahlobo Nentsapho Yakho Yazi Xa Ukho Ngokwenene
Uninzi lwabantu abasinda kumhlaza bazama ukuvalela iimvakalelo malunga nokufumanisa ukuba unomdlavuza . Esikhundleni sokukhusela intsapho kunye nabahlobo, njengoko bekujoliswe kuyo, ngokuqhelekileyo uphelisa ukonakalisa ubudlelwane kunye nokugquma okwenziwe ngumntu ongenakwenzelwe. Kukulungele ukuxolisa uze uvumele umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho ukuba wazi oko uvakalelwa. Ukuqiqa kwam kukuba uya kumangaliswa kwaye uya kuqonda ngokupheleleyo.
Shift Your Priorities
Emva kokuxilongwa komhlaza, oku mhlawumbi sele kwenzeke ngokusemthethweni, kungekho mzamo omkhulu kuwe. Ukuchitha ixesha elongezelelweyo elijongene nomsebenzi wesikolo sakho seentombi okanye ukuthetha nomhlobo omdala olahlekileyo uqala ukukhanya ngokutsha xa unyanzelekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ixesha lethu apha lilinganiselwe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba uchithe ixesha elincinci suku ngalunye luthatha isikhundla sengqondo enomsindo ngokubongela oko unakho, kunokukunceda ukuhlaziya isimo sakho sengqondo.
Cinga ngcebiso
Cinga mhlawumbi ucinga: Andikwazi nokuba ndiza kwenza njani ixesha lezo zonyango. Kutheni ehlabathini ndifuna ukubeka iingcebiso kunye nokuqeshwa kwabanye?
Impendulo ilula. Ukuba umsindo wakho uphila ubomi bakho kwaye awuzange usuke udlule, ungakhokelela kwiimeko ezinzima ngakumbi. Ukungafunwa ngumsindo kungabonakalisa kwiinkxalabo zomzimba ukubandakanya:
- Igazi elonyukayo
- Ukuxhalabisa
- Ukuxinezeleka
- Ukubangela ukuziphatha okuyingozi
Ngendlela yokuziphatha engumngcipheko ndiyathetha imisebenzi esingazibandakanya ngayo xa singacingi ngokucacileyo, njengokusela ngokugqithiseleyo okanye ukuzonyango, ukukhwabanisa, ukuthukuthela komgwaqo, okanye ukuzenzela izinto zesondo ezingakhuselekanga ukuvutha umsindo. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uhamba phantsi le mizila, kukuqiqa ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zakho kunye nogqirha wakho kwaye ukhumbule ukuba awuhambi phantsi le ndlela yedwa.
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National Cancer Institute. (nd). Ukunyamezela: Imizwa kunye neCarcer. Kufikeleleka kwi-intanethi ngo-Agasti 30, 2015.