Funda Oko Utshoyo Endaweni Yomntu Ophethe Isigaba 4 I-Cancer Breast
Abantu bahlala becinga ukuba bathethe ntoni kumntu onomdlavuza webele-ngokukodwa umdlavuza webele we-metastatic.
Ekubeni ukusho into engcono kunokuba ungathethi nto, umbuzo ongcono unokubuza ukuba ungathini kumntu osandul 'ukuvavanywa ngesifo somhlaza wesifuba sesine okanye isifo somhlaza wesifuba sakhe sisaphinda. Okokuqala, makhe sithathe isikhashana ukuthetha malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini umdlavuza webele we-metastatic okanye ukuphindaphinda kwesi sifo.
I-Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC)
Umdlavuza webele we-Metastatic (MBC) ubhekisela kwiisomdla zebele zomhlaza ezithathele ( izilungelelaniso ) kwiindawo ezikude zomzimba. Xa umdlavuza webele usasazeka kwi-lymph nodes esiye sitsho ukuba sele idlulile kwi-lymph nodes, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ngumhlaza wesisu se-metastatic.
Umdlavuza webele we-Metastatic ubizwa ngokuba ngumgca wesi-4 somhlaza wesifuba, isigaba esiphezulu kakhulu sesifo. Abanye abantu bangasebenzisa ixesha elibhekiselele kumdlavuza webele webele elichazwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Isifuba esilandelayo sibandakanya isigaba 3B kunye nesigaba se-4 somhlaza wesifuba , kwaye ngokubhekiselele kuthetha ukuba i-cancer yebele ayinakuphiliswa ngokuhlinzwa.
Umdlavuza webele weMetastatic awuphilwanga, nangona uphathwe kakhulu. Inyaniso yokuba ayikwazi ukuphiliswa inokubangela ezinye iingxelo ezilimazayo abafazi ( kunye nabesilisa abanomdlavuza webele ) beva malunga neekhansela zabo.
Umhlaza we Breast oqhelekileyo
Abantu abaninzi abanomdlavuza webele we-metastatic banokuphindaphinda umdlavuza webele.
Basenokuba baphathwe ngethuba lokuqala lomdlavuza webele lwebele okanye kumashumi eminyaka ngaphambili. Unokuzibuza ukuba umhlaza ubuya njani emva koko. Asiqondi ukuba kungani umdlavuza webele we-breast recurs nakuba kukho iingcamango ezininzi malunga nendlela umhlaza ofihla ngayo nokuba kutheni ubuya . Oko kubalulekile ukuba abathandekayo baqonde ukuba oko kunokwenzeka kwaye kwenzeke, kwaye xa kwenzeka, abafazi (okanye amadoda) bafanelwe yonke inkxaso enokuyenza, kungekhona imibuzo malunga nokuba kutheni kwenzeka.
Unokuba unomdla wokufunda ngokubanzi malunga nendlela umhlaza usasazeka ngayo .
Ukuphindaphinda komdlavuza webele kungathatha iifom ezahlukeneyo. Abanye abafazi banomdlavuza wesibeleka wendawo emva kokuba i- lumpectomy yenziwe kweso sesifuba esifanayo. Kule meko, ukuphindaphinda akuyi kubhekiswa njengomhlaza wesisu se-metastatic. Abantu banokuphinde bafumane ukuphindaphinda kwendawo , njengokuba umhlaza wesifuba ubuya kwii-lymph nodes kwi-armpit okanye ukuphindaphinda kwindonga yesifuba . Umdlavuza wesifuba ungaphinda ube nokuphindaphinda kude kwiindawo ezifana nesibindi, amathambo okanye ingqondo. Zizo zihlandlo ezikude ezibhekiselwe kuwo njengomhlaza wesisu se-metastatic.
Ekubeni ukuphinda kudibanisa abantu abaninzi, makhe sisebenzise umzekelo. Ukuba ibhinqa linomdlavuza wesibeleko se-2 , kunye nemithandathu kamva kamva iphinda iphindwe ngumhlaza emthonjeni wakhe, isigaba somhlaza wakhe siya kutshintshwa kwisigaba 4, okanye umhlaza wesibeletho se-metastatic.
Ikhefu Yakho Eyona Impawu Xa Umntu Othandekayo Ane MBC - Yithetha Into / Nantoni na!
Ngaphambi kokuba uluhlu lwezinto ezinokushiya zingashiywanga xa ungathethi nomhlobo wakho nge-MBC, kubalulekile ukwenza iphuzu elinye kucace. Nangona usengozini ukuthetha into enokuba yingozi, kukulungele ukuthetha into kunokuthetha nto nhlobo.
Abantu abanomdla kaninzi baqaphela ukuba abanye babo abahlobo abasondeleyo babonakala banyamalala emva kokuxilongwa kwabo. Oku kuqheleke ngakumbi xa umhlaza uphuthukile, okanye xa uphindela (ubuya kwakhona.) Enye yezona nkxalabo zalabo abaphila nomhlaza ushiywe yedwa. Qinisekisa ukuba akunakwenzeka kunye nomthandayo.
Oko kwathiwa, abanye abantu banzima kakhulu ukuthetha nomntu onomdlavuza ongaphiliyo. Mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe ngumntu osondelene nawe nomdlavuza, okanye ujongene nokuphindaphinda komhlaza ngokwakho. Ukuba kunjalo, zama ubuncinane ukuba umthande wakho azi ukuba uyamkhathalela, kodwa ngenxa yeemeko kufuneka uzide.
Abantu abanomhlaza bayaqonda ukuba oku kwenzekayo, kwaye banako ukuwamkela oku ngakumbi lula kunokuba bangaqiniseki ukuba izizathu zokungabikho kwenu ziyabonakala.
Izinto Ezi-10 Azingathethi Kumntu onomdlavuza webele waseMetastatic
Emva kokuba wenze into yokuba kukulungele ukuthetha into ethile nangona usengozini ukuthetha enye yezinto esiza kukhankanya ngoku, makhe sithethe ngezimvo ezinokulimaza kumthandayo wakho ngomhlaza webele. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhangele ngenyameko ngala mazwi ngenxa yokuba ayisoloko ebonakalayo kumntu ongazange amelane nomhlaza ophezulu. Ukulandela oku "ungatshoyo" izimvo esiza kuphakamisa iindlela ezimbalwa kwiinkcazo.
1. Ungathethi: "Uza kwenziwa nini na unyango?"
Kungokwemvelo ukubuza imibuzo. Enyanisweni, akubuza imibuzo ukuba unomdla ebomini bomntu, uphawu olukhathalelayo? Kusenokubonakala ukuba ukubuza malunga nokuphela kwesifo somhlaza wesikhumba kuya kuba yindlela yokukhuthaza, ukukunceda umhlobo wakho acinge ngethuba elonwabileyo.
Ngelishwa, kuba abaninzi abantu abanomdlavuza webele we-metastatic ayenziwanga. Okanye, unyango luyaqhubeka luze lugqibe isigqibo sokuba akukho nto inokuyiluncedo kwonyango olugqithiseleyo ingozi; ixesha apho bakhetha ukuyeka unyango kwaye mhlawumbi ukhethe ukunakekelwa kwenkxaso kuphela okanye ukunakekelwa kolondolozo.
Ukuqhubeka unyango kwakungekho rhoqo ukhetho kubantu abanomdlavuza wesibeleko, ongenza ukuba uveke ngathi kusekho ukhetho lokunyanga ukuba umntu ufumana unyango. Ngombulelo, kukho ngoku unyango lomhlaza wesifuba ophakamileyo onokunyusa ubomi. Ngaphaya kwelo xesha, akukho ndawo yokuphela kweziphumo zonyango, kwaye zihlala ziqhubeka ngokuqhubekayo ukusebenza. Ngamanye amazwi, uninzi lwexesha unyango lomhlaza wesifo se-metastatic luyekile ngenxa yokuba ayisasebenziyo okanye kubangele imiphumo emibi engasayi kubekezelela.
Kukho uguquko oluninzi kule "musa ukuthetha" ukuphawula. Ngokomzekelo, izimvo ezinjengokuthi "Ngaba awuyi kuvuya xa usenziwa ngonyango?" kunokulimaza njengoko umhlobo wakho nomhlaza wesifuba unokucinga, "Hmm, uthetha xa ndifile?"
Ngeendlela ezininzi, unyango lomhlaza wesifuba ophezulu lufana nolunye lwezifo ezingapheliyo, ezifana nesifo senhliziyo. Le meko ayishiyi kunyango kodwa ingagcinwa kwindawo ekhethiweyo.
Buza Endaweni : "Nguwuphi unyango owamkelayo ngoku?" okanye "Uziva njani unyango lwakho?"
Ungesabi ukubuza malunga nonyango. Abantu abane-MBC bajwayele ukucelwa ngonyango lwabo kwaye bangalindelanga ukuba abahlobo babo baqonde iintlobo zonyango ezikhoyo okanye iinjongo zonyango nge-MBC.
2. Ungathi: "Kufuneka kube yonyango"
La mazwi aqheleke kakhulu, kwaye akumangalisi njengoko kusekelwe kwinkolelo efanayo. Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba uninzi lwabantu lukholelwa ukuba kukho impiliso yesifo somhlaza wesisu.
Inyaniso kukuba ukusinda komlambo (ubuninzi bexesha emva kokuba isiqingatha sabantu sisaphila kwaye isiqingatha sidlulile) umhlaza wesibeletho se-metastatic iphela kwiminyaka emithathu kuphela. Kukho abanye abantu abahlala kwixesha elide abanomdlavuza wesibeleko, abaneminyaka eli-10 okanye ngaphezulu, kodwa oku kuhlukile kunomthetho, owenzeka ngaphantsi kwama-5 ekhulwini kwabasetyhini.
Inyaniso yokuba umdlavuza wesifuba usathatha ubomi ungamangalisa abantu abathile, banikezwe ubungakanani bentengiso ebomvu ngaphandle apho. Ngombolo yabasetyhini abasindileyo kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwiintlanga, kunokuba lula ukungawuboni ukuba abantu bayaphumelela kwisifo. Nangona kunjalo, ngelixa unyango lomhlaza wesifuba lwexesha lokuqala luya kuphucula, ezo zigaba eziphambili aziguqukanga ngokukhawuleza. (Nangona ubude bomyinge wobomi be-MBC buphindwe kabini kule minyaka elishumi edluleyo.)
Ukutshintsha kwalo mbuzo ovame ukucelwa kubantu abaphindaphindayo "Kutheni ungekho umsebenzi wakho wokwenza unyango?" Okona kumbi ngakumbi, "Udadewethu wayenomdla ofanayo nomhlaza wesifuba njengoko wenzayo kwaye ulungile." Ngendlela efanelekileyo, izimvo ezifana nalezi zinokumxelela nje umhlobo wakho ukuba awuyiqondi imbali yendalo yomhlaza webele. Kodwa ngokungahambi kakuhle, yena (okanye yena) unokuziva ukuba ucinga ukuba wenza into engalunganga ukuze unyango lwakhe lube luncedo ekukhuseleni ukuphindaphinda.
Esikhundleni Sokuba uthi : "Ndiqinisekile ukuba unesabiso ngamanye amaxesha nonke ojongene nayo. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha nomntu ngokukhululekile, ndilapha."
3. Ungathi: "Umele Uhlale Ulungile"
Nangona ngokubanzi umgangatho wobomi uya kuba ngcono xa uzama ukuhlala ecaleni lezinto, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu onomdlavuza webele weemetastatic ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo ezintle , ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba kwabo kunye nentlungu yabo kwisifo engacaluliyo.
Ngokuchasene nenkolelo eninzi, ayizange iboniswe ukuba "ukuhlala ulungile" kuphucula ubomi, kwaye ezi zifundo ziqinisekisa ukuba zininzi zethu eziye zaphawula. Siyazi ngabantu ababenomdla njengokuba nabani na oye waba nomdlavuza kwaye usaphosa eso sifo. Ngomqondiso ofanayo, siyazi ngabantu abaneempembelelo ezingapheliyo eziqhubekayo ukwenza kakuhle.
Ukugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngomdlavuza kunokuba luncedo ngokubanzi, kodwa kunokuba uthethe la mazwi, kwaye ngokubhaliweyo ukubeka ubunzima bokuba nefuthe kumagxa omhlobo wakho, cinga ngezinto onokuzenza-izenzo zakho-ezinokubangela ukuba uzive kakuhle umhlobo wakho. Ezi ntshukumo zinokuvumela ukuba umhlobo wakho azi ukuba akafaneleki ukuba abe neempembelelo kwinkampani yakho. Unokuba yinyani.
Endaweni ethi : "Ndiyazi ukuba umdlavuza uyasondela. Naliphi na ixesha xa ufuna ukuphazamiseka kwakho ngaphandle kokugweba, ndilapha."
Kukho into onokuyenza. Ukongeza kuzo zonke iindlela ezimbi umhlaza ochaphazela ubomi bethu, kukho izinto ezintle. Uphando luqala ukusitshela ukuba umdlavuza ushintsha abantu ngendlela ezilungileyo . Ukuba umhlobo wakho ubonakala phantsi, khangela ukuba kukho naziphi na ezi ndlela ezilungileyo ezitshintshileyo ongayichazela zona, okanye ukumnceda ukuba ajonge iinqununu zesilivere ebomini (okanye bakhe).
4. Ungathi: "Unamandla kwaye uza kutshaba le"
Ngokumalunga nokuxelela umntu ukuba izandi eziqinileyo zinokuba ziyakhuthaza, empilweni yangempela, kunokukwenza okuchaseneyo. Ngaba uyazi ngokwenene ukuba umhlobo wakho unokubetha umdlavuza wakhe? Ingaba uqinisekile ukuba uya kuba ngumnye weepesenti ezingaphantsi kweetlanu zabantu abahlala kwixesha elide lomdlavuza webele?
Abanye abantu abasetyhini (kunye namadoda) banokuthi bawuthobele ezi mpendulo, kodwa kwabanye, ezi ngxelo zifana neeplagi ezenza ukuba zikhuphe zonke iintlungu zabo kunye nokukhathazeka kwabo. Abafuni ukuphoxeka abanye ngokungabonakali bomelele, kwaye banokuziva bexanduva kwaye batyholwa xa umhlaza wabo uqhubeka.
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi kwiinkcazo, ezifana nokuthi "qhubeka ulwa." Ingaba izimvo ezifana nale nto zibonisa ukuba umhlobo wakho ukhetha ukuyeka unyango obangela imiphumo engaphezulu kunexabiso? Ukuba uyeka? Ukuba akafuni ukuhlala?
Ungakhathazeki ukuba wenze iimpendulo ezifana nalezi. Ngaphandle kokuba uhlala nomhlaza ophezulu, awuzange ucinge ngeendlela ezi zivakalisi ezivela ngaphesheya. Umhlobo wakho, nangona ufumanisa la mazwi aphumele umonakalo, mhlawumbi watsho izinto ezifanayo kwabanye kwixesha elidlulileyo ngaphambi kokuba aphile nomdlavuza we-metastatic ngokwayo (okanye yena.) Abahlobo bethu kunye ne-MBC ayifuni ukuba siphelele. Kungcono ukuba wenze izimvo ezinjengokuthi "qhubeka ulwa" kunokuba ungathethi nhlobo kumhlobo wakho.
Esikhundleni Sokuba uthi : "Uyi-trooper ngempela kulo lonke le nto."
5. Musa ukuthi: "Ngaba ubumnyama?"
Umdlavuza wesifuba uvame ukusabalalisa (imetastasizes) kwimiphunga. Ukuba kunjalo, akukona umhlaza wamaphaphu, kodwa kunoko "umdlavuza webele wesifuba kumaphaphu." Ewe nokuba ngaba ngumhlaza wamaphaphu, la magama akufanele athethe.
Lo mzekelo uyithuba elihle lokuthetha ngomdlavuza weemetric. Ukuba umhlobo wakho unomdlavuza wesifuba oye usasazeka kwisibindi sakhe okanye ingqondo yakhe ayikho umdlavuza wesibindi okanye umhlaza wengqondo. Ukuba wenza i-biopsy yomhlaza wesifuba oye wasasazeka kwisibindi, uya kufumana iiseli zomhlaza zesifo somhlaza esesibindi, kungekhona iseli somhlaza wesifo. Oku kuya kubhekiselwa kuye ngokuthi "isifo somhlaza wesifuba sebele kwisibindi."
Ukuba umhlaza womhlobo wakho usasazeka kumaphaphu akhe, ungabuzi malunga nokutshaya, kodwa kubalulekile ukuphepha ukuthetha malunga nayiphi na ingozi yobungozi. Akukho mntu unomdlavuza. Imibuzo kunye nezimvo ezinjengokuthi "Ngaba uncelise abantwana bakho?" okanye "Ngaba umhlaza wesibeleko usuke usapho lwakho?" okanye "Ndacinga ukuba udla ukutya okuphilayo!" kufuneka ishiywe kwiingxoxo kunye nabangakhange bajamelane nomhlaza. Umhlobo wakho ufuna ukuba umxhashe (okanye yena), ukuba ungazami ukucacisa oko kwabangela ukuba (okanye wakhe) umhlaza okanye nayiphi imingcipheko yomhlaza wesifuba . Ukuba ucinga ngako, le mibuzo ihlala ibuzwa isizathu esithile; ukuba umhlobo wakho unomngcipheko ongenayo, mhlawumbi ukhuselekile. Kodwa nabani na umntu unokuhlakulela umhlaza.
Akukho mntu unomdlavuza. Ukubuza le mibuzo kungenza umntu ophila nomhlaza aziva ngathi abangela ukuba isifo sabo-sifanele sifanele. Oku kuhambelani noko ufuna ukukwenza ekuxhaseni umhlobo wakho.
Esikhundleni Sokuba uthi : "Ndiyathandwa yindlela ozikhathalelayo ngayo," okanye, ukuba umntu ojikelezayo uyenzela enye yezimvo, "Akukho mntu ufanele ukuba nomhlaza."
6. Musa ukuthi: "Ndifunda Ngonyango ..." okanye "Ufuna ..."
Enye yezona zivakalisi eziqhelekileyo abantu abanomdlavuza abafumanayo iingcebiso ezingenakunyanzelwa malunga nendlela yokunyanga isifo sabo.
Ingaba kuyisilungiso esandul 'i- homeopathic yomhlaza , ukutya okunokunciphisa umngcipheko wokufumana umdlavuza, okanye unyango olusandul' ufunde ngalo, zama ukuphepha ukunyusa ngokucokisekileyo kumhlobo wakho. Kuyafana neencomo malunga nokunyamekela kwabo. Ukuba umntakwabo wesibini ummelwane wommelwane wakho uhlasele malunga neengcali zomhlaza webele, unokuba ufuna ukucinga ngethuba elithile ngaphambi kokumisela umngane wakho ngokufanayo ukuba abone ingcali.
Kukho izizathu ezibini zokuziqaphela ngezimvo ezifana nalezi. Enye kukuba izimvo ezinjengalezi zingongeza umthwalo kumntu osele elayishiwe kunye nezigqibo ezenziweyo kunye nohlu olukhulayo. Ngenxa yoko, zama ukuthintela naziphi na izimvo ezibandakanya amabinzana athi "kufuneka ..." "kufuneka u ..." okanye "kufuneka u ..." Umhlobo wakho sele sele eneengxaki ezaneleyo ebomini bakhe kwaye ufuna abantu ukumnceda ukuba amenzele uludwe, angongezi kuyo.
Esinye isizathu kukuba ezininzi zezi ngcebiso zidibaniswa nokuthelekiswa. Udadewethu-udadewethu wahamba waya eKliniki yaseMayo wathi akayi kuhamba naphi na. " Ukuthelekiswa kwamanye amaxesha akusebenzi nje ukubeka umntu phantsi, kodwa bathabatha ingqalelo kumhlobo wakho-lowo ufuna ukuxhasa.
Endaweni ethi : "Kuvakala ngathi ukhethe iqela elikhulu ukunyanga umhlaza wakho."
Ukuba unqwenela ukuba unganikeza isiluleko sakho, mhlawumbi uthi, "Ukuba ufuna ukuba ndikhangele nantoni na, yithetha nje igama." Ukuphela kwengxoxo.
7. Ungatsho "" Ngaba awuyivuyo Ngaba Unomdlavuza Wesifuba Esikhundleni Senye I-Cancer? "
Okumangalisa kukuba, eli gama lithetha rhoqo. Mhlawumbi idibhoni ezipinki ziguqula zonke izinto ezisuka kumathoyizi ebantwaneni ukuya kumatshini okulahla inkunkuma zenza abantu bacinge ukuba ukugula nokufa kwisifo somhlaza wesibeleko kuyinto edlulileyo. Nangona iirebhoni zepinki zikuncede ukuphakamisa ulwazi malunga nomhlaza wesifuba ngokubanzi, abaninzi abantu abaphila nomhlaza wesibeletho se-metastatic bazive beninzi.
Abantu abaninzi abane-MBC bazive bebuhlungu ngokukhawuleza ngexesha le-Pinktober. Aba bantu abanomdlavuza webele we-metastatic bangakuxelela malunga nokuba lukhuni kangakanani ukuba nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic in-sea-early-stage pink. Abanye abantu abane-MBC baye batyunjwa ngaphandle kwamaqela axhasayo-abo abanomdlavuza webele we-early-stage baye bafumanisa ukuba bacinezelekile ukuba babe nomntu oza kufa ngesi sifo. Ngombulelo, ngoku kukho amaqela enkxaso afana ne- METAvivor , enika i-outlet kulabo abahlala ne-MBC.
Kukho ukuhluka kwezi gqabaza ezizilimaza ngokufanayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuphawula okwenziwa ngamaxesha onke, "Kungaba nzima, awudingi amabele akho." Akukho mhlaza uhle. Akunandaba nokuba ngumhlaza webele okanye i-melanoma, isigaba sokuqala okanye ixesha elide, unyango, okanye akunjalo. Umhlobo wakho akanakuze asebenze nomhlaza nhlobo.
Endaweni ethi : "Ndivile ukuba abantu abanomdlavuza webele weemastast often baziva belibalekile kwintsholongwane yomhlaza wesifuba. Kutheni ungandixeleli ukuba loo nto ivakalelwa njani, kwaye ndiyakwenza ntoni ukunceda ukwenza umehluko."
8. Ungathi: "Ndibize ukuba undifuna"
Intoni? Ngaba akufanele unikele ngoncedo lwakho kunye nenkxaso kumntu ohlala nomdlavuza we-metastatic? Ngaba unika uncedo lwethu into enothando esinokuyenza kubahlobo bethu abajongene ne-MBC?
Akusiyo isibonelelo sosilelo esilungile kule nkcazo, yilo mqathango: "Ukuba undifuna."
Ukuba ucela umntu ukuba akubizele ukuba ufuna uncedo ubeka umthwalo wokubiza kunye nokucela uncedo kubo. Abantu abaninzi abanomhlaza banesaba ukuba ngumthwalo. Nangona befuna kakhulu uncedo, banokungabaza ukubiza. Kungcono ukutsho ukuba ufuna ukuza kwaye uncede kwaye ubuze ukuba yeyiphi ixesha eliza kuba lilungele kwaye oko (okanye yena) angathanda ukuba wenze.
Kanti ngamanye amaxesha nokwenza isigqibo sokuba umhlobo unokukunceda njani kunzima. Kukho izigqibo ezininzi zokwenza lonke ixesha kunye ne-MBC, kwaye nokuba ufike ngeengcamango malunga nendlela onokukunceda ngayo unokuziva ugalelwe. Kunoko, ukunikela ukunceda ngomsebenzi othile kunokuba ngumnikelo ongcono kakhulu ongayenza.
Endaweni ethi : "Ngaba sinokuza ngoMgqibelo size siphume indlu yakho?"
9. Ungathi: "Ndiyayiqonda"
Inqaku elithi "Ndiyayiqonda" lisetyenziswe kakhulu xa lithetha nabantu abanomdlavuza. Ingxaki ngale ngxelo kukuba akukho mntu unokuyiqonda. Nangona unoluhlobo olufanayo kunye nesigaba somhlaza, unyaka olinganayo, unabantwana abaneminyaka elifanayo kwaye uhlala emakhaya afanayo, awukwazi ukuqonda.
Utshintsho lwamazwana lithetha ukuba uyayiqonda kuba umama wakho, okanye umama okanye ummelwane olandelayo unesifo esifanayo. Kuyamangalisa ukuba mangaphi amabali umntu aziva ngabanye ngomhlaza emva kokufumana ukuxilongwa kwabo. Umhlobo wakho, nangona kunjalo, ufuna ukuba uyive kwaye umphulaphule, kungakhathaliseki ukuba iziganeko zakho zikhuthaza njani abanye.
Ukuphila nomhlaza kuyahlukileyo kumntu ngamnye. Abanye abasinda kumdlavuza babelane ngezinye zezi ngcamango kule nqaku malunga noko kuthanda ukuhlala nomhlaza . Ingxenye yesizathu ongenakukuqonda, ukuba nabo abaphila nomhlaza abaqondi ukuba bavakalelwa njani ixesha. Ngeentsuku xa konke kuhamba kakubi, okanye beva iindaba ezimbi kwingxelo yokucinga, banokuziva bevuya. Ngokwahlukileyo, umntu onomdla we-MBC unokuziva ehlelwe ngamaxesha ocinga ukuba uyabonwabile. Akukho mntu unokuqonda, kodwa sinokubuza kwaye sinokuphulaphula.
Endaweni ethi : "Andikwazi ukuba uyintoni na, kodwa ndilapha ngenxa yakho."
10. Ungathi: "Awuboni Ugula"
Le yinye enye "ungatsho-nto" leyo ingaba yinto engabonakaliyo. Ngaba akunakuba kuhle ukubonisa indlela umhlobo wakho abukeka ngayo?
Akulona gqabaza "awuboni ugula" onokulimaza, kodwa kunoko ukuthetha okuvela phakathi kwamagama.
Siyazi ukuba umdlavuza webele ushukumisa umfanekiso womzimba ngezindlela ezininzi. Ukuvakalisa indlela umhlobo wakho abukeka ngayo kule nto ibuhlungu ngayo. Kodwa enye yezona zinto ezinzima kunaloo mazwana yinto enokuyilandela engqondweni yomngane wakho. Ekubeni eyazi ukuba unomdla ongapheliyo, le ngxelo ingaba isikhumbuzo kuye ngelinye ilanga uza kubonakala egula.
Kwinqanaba elincinci, ukujongana nomhlaza wesifo semitha kunendlela yokunceda abantu babone oko kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini. Ixabiso elingenanto lixabiso elingaphantsi, ngelixa ubuncwane obufihliweyo, njengentsikelelo ibaluleke kakhulu.
Endaweni yoko, fumana indlela yokumncoma kuloo nto ngoku ayixabisa ngaphezu koko "ibukeka." Ngokomzekelo, igama malunga nobubele bakhe, ububele bakhe, okanye uthando lwakhe kwabanye. Ukuba ukhangele ezinye iingcamango, khangela ukuba uphando luni lusitshele ngomdlavuza onokutshintsha abantu ngendlela efanelekileyo nefanelekileyo .
Yithi: "Andiyazi Into Yokuthetha"
Ukuba unzima ukwazi ukuba ungathini kumhlobo wakho, mxelela nje oko. Mxelele ukuba awukwazi into omele uyenze. Uya kuqonda ukunyaniseka ngaphezu kokuba uyazi.
Ngaphantsi kwindlela ongayithethayo kwaye ungathethi kumntu ono-MBC
Ukuba ungumntu, amathuba kukuba uthethe enye yezi zinto kungekhona ukuthetha izinto kumntu wakho omthandayo ngomhlaza. Ungakhathazeki. Wena ungumntu! Abantu abahlala ne-MBC bayazi ukuba unesimo apho ungazi nje ukuba ungathini. Kungenzeka ukuba, bebekhona bexesha elidlulileyo kwaye bathethe ezi zivakalisi ezifanayo abaye zithintela ngoku.
Ungavumeli ukwesaba ukuthetha into engalunganga kukugcina ungathethi nto. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umhlobo wakho uyazi ukuba awuhambi.
Ngaba uyazibuza enye into onokuyifumanayo ekuxhaseni umhlobo wakho onayo i-MBC? Khangela olu uluhlu olufutshane lweendlela ezili-15 ongamxhasa umthandayo ngomhlaza .
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