Iindlela ezili-15 onokunceda wakho othandekayo ngeCarcer
Ungamxhasa njani umthandayo umhlaza womphunga ? Yintoni omele uyenze kwaye kufuneka uthini?
Kumntu ophila nomhlaza, inkxaso yeentsapho kunye nabahlobo ibaluleke kakhulu ekuhambeni kwabo. Sekunjalo, ukuxilongwa komhlaza kaninzi kubamba umntu ngokumangalisa kwaye kushintshile iindima esizijwayele ukudlala. Abo bangakhange bahlukane nomhlaza, nangona kunjalo, abanako ukuqonda ngokucacileyo oko umthandayo owenzayo ngokomzimba nangokomzimba.
Njengoko ujamelana nale ntsimi entsha, zeziphi iingcebiso ezingakhokelela kwindlela yokuxhasa umhlobo wakho ngokuhamba ngokuluncedo?
Iindlela ezili-15 zokunceda abahlobo bakho kunye nabathandekayo ngeCarcer
Ngezantsi siza kukwabelana ngeengcebiso ezili-15 malunga nento ongayenza kunye noko ungatshoyo ukubonisa uthando lwakho nokunyamekela kumthandwa wakho ngomhlaza. Ezi zimbalwa nje iingcamango zokukwenza ucinga, kwaye njengoko ufunda ngazo ungacinga ngabanye ukuba kuya kuba ngcono kulungu lentsapho okanye kumhlobo wakho. Ezi ziyiziphakamiso kuphela. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awuzange wenze ezinye zezi, ezifana nokuya kubaqeshwa, ungakhathazeki. Olu luhlu alubhekiselelwe kukukwenza uzive unetyala!
Ukuthetha ityala, zikhumbuze ukuba uhamba ngokukhawuleza. Ufanelekile kwaye udinga inkxaso. Akukho namnye kuthi uphelelekile nangona singabhekene nexhala kunye nokungenakunceda ukuba nomntu othandekayo ngomhlaza.
Musa 'ukulibala ukuzithoba kwaye uzilungele ngokwakho.
1. Qaphela kakuhle
Ukuphulaphula ngokulula umntu onomdlavuza unokuva ngathi kulula, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi anzima. Sifuna ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono. Sifuna ukulungisa izinto. Kodwa ukuphulaphula indlebe ngokuqhelekileyo oko "kunceda" kakhulu. Mthande umthandayo uveze iimvakalelo zakhe, nokuba loo mvakalelo yenza ukuba ungakhathazeki.
Unokuqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukuba umthandayo uvelisa isihloko esinzima, njengokufa, uye wacinga ngexesha elide. Mvumele ithuba lokufumana induduzo yokwabelana. Musa ukugweba, ungaphazamisi, uze uphulaphule ngamehlo nomzimba wakho, kungekhona nje iindlebe zakho.
Njengengqalelo eyongeziweyo, gcinani engqondweni ukuba, ngokuchasene namahemuhemu, ukugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngomhlaza akubonakalwanga ukuba kuthintela ubomi. Kunoko, kubalulekile ukuba othandekayo wakho abonise iimvakalelo ezimbi kunye nomhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu losapho aze abakhulule.
2. Ukusebenzisana Neemvakalelo Zakho Okokuqala
Njengabanakekeli, sibhekene nesimo sethu sengqondo esinzima kunye nosongelo. Yintoni eya kwenzeka kumthandwa wam? Ngaba uya kuba nentlungu? Ngaba uya kuhlala? Yintoni eya kwenzeka kum ? Ubomi bam buya kutshintsha njani? Zama ukujamelana nokwesaba okokuqala, ukuze ukwazi ukuphulaphula ngenyameko. Unokuba nobunzima. Ukuba uziva uziva wedwa kwimeko enzima phakathi kokuzama ukugcina ithemba kunye nokulila ixesha elizayo, qi niseka ukuba ufunde malunga nentlungu ekulindelekileyo .
3. Yithi "Ndiyakuthanda" Ngokuqhelekileyo
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba izenzo zakho zibonakalisa njani uthando lwakho, azikho endaweni yamagama akho. Mqinisekisa. Dumisani i mizamo.
Nangona kuphela into engayenza emva kokuba i-chemotherapy ejikelezayo iqhube amazinyo, mxelele ukuba uyayimfuneko kwaye iyabaluleka.
4. Yinyathelo Kwiingubo Zabo
Njengoko uqhubeka ufunda ezi ngcebiso, kunokuba luncedo ukuzama ukuzicingela kwisithandwa sakho. Yintoni evakalelwa kukuba unomdlavuza? Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo intlungu kunye nokwesaba kunye nomoya okhupha umhlaza womhlaza ngokucinga nje kuphela, kodwa ukucinga ukuba ubhekane nomhlaza kunokukunika ingqiqo kwiingcamango ongaziqondi.
5. Lungisa isandla
Kulabo abanomdlavuza, ubomi buqhubeka nangona bezama ukufumana unyango kunye nokujongana nemiphumo ecasulayo njengokhathala komhlaza .
Iibhilile ziqokelela. Uthuli lubutha. Into elula nje njengomnikelo wokunceda indlu ecocekileyo iyure idlalwa kakhulu. Musa ukulinda umthandi wakho ukuba acele uncedo. "Ngaba ndingaya ngoLwesithathu nge-2 PM kwaye ndihlambe iifestile ezimbalwa?" Ingongoma ebalulekileyo apha kukunika uncedo kwaye uyenze ngqo .
6. Hamba kunye nabo kwiiNyulo
Ukuya kuqeshwa kunye nomntu obathandayo kunokubonisa ukunyamekela kwakho ngeendlela ezininzi. Izibhedlele kunye neeklinikhi zinokuyikrakra indawo kunye nokulinda kunokuba luncedo. Nika incwadi. Buza imibuzo . Thatha umqaphela. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba uvumele umthandayo ukuba azenzele izigqibo.
7. Yongeza i-Touch of Humor
Uthotho luya kuba luncedo lonyango. Yiba neengxaki kwixesha apho umthandayo kufuneka adlulise intlungu, kodwa ulungele ukuhleka kunye nokumomotheka.
8. Hlonipha Iimfuno Zabo Ukuba Zibe Ngedwa
Ngamanye amaxesha abathandekayo bethu abanomdlavuza bathi bafuna ukuba bodwa ukuze bangakhathazeki, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, bafuna ukuba bodwa. Jonga ezinye iindwendwe kunye. Ngaba wakho umthandayo unomuva wokuba ufanele awathabathe, kodwa akafuni ukubacaphukisa aze abuze ukuba bahambe? Ukuba kunjalo, ngenyameko mayeke ezinye iindwendwe ukuba ziyazi xa umthandi wakho ebonakala ekhathele aze abulele ngokutyelela.
9. Yiba ngumbhalisi wolwazi
Ukuba nolwazi lubonakala lubulula ukukhathazeka okujongene nabantu abanomdlavuza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, banokwenza umehluko kwiziphumo. Funda indlela yokuphanda isifo sakho esibathandayo kwi-Intanethi , cela isikhungo sakho somhlaza ukuze uthole ulwazi, uthathe amanqaku, uze ubuze imibuzo kwiindawo zokuqeshwa kwabagqirha. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba abanye abantu abafuni ukuba abo bathandekayo babelane ngolwazi lwakamuva kwiimvavanyo zeklinikhi okanye batyhole enye inyango. Mamela umhlobo wakho.
10. Cinga malunga Nento Ongayithetha Ngomntu Othandekayo
Abantu abanomhlaza bahlala bebuhlungu ngamagqabaza abanye abenzayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungcono ukuba uthethe into kunokuthi ungathethi nto kubantu abaninzi-abavakalelwa gqitha ukuba abathandekayo babo bahlala bengayazi into yokuba bathethe-kodwa bathathe isikhashana ukujonga into engayithethi kumntu onomdlavuza, ngokubhekiselele kubantu 'abaye belapho.'
11. Musa ukufihla izinto ezivela kubo okanye kwabanye abathandiweyo
Abathandekayo bethu abanomhlaza badinga ukuhlolwa ngokunyanisekileyo kwimeko yabo ukwenza izigqibo ezinokuzilungelelanisa iimfuno zabo-nangona ukuba ukunyaniseka kuyabuhlungu. Ukunyaniseka namanye amalungu omndeni, ngakumbi abantwana. Sifuna ukukhusela abantwana bethu ekubeni yintoni umzali okanye ootatomkhulu abanokujamelana nayo, kodwa abantwana bahlala becinga kakhulu. Nangona ukuxeliswa komzimba kukubi, ukwabelana nabantwana ngokunyanisekileyo kubanika ithuba lokuqala ukulila kwabo nokubonisa uthando lwabo.
12. Baze bafumane Inkxaso
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomntu ongenomhlaza ongathandabuzekiyo, ukuthetha nomntu obhekane nemingeni efanayo kunokubaluleka kumntu ojongene nomhlaza. Buza isikhungo sakho somhlaza ukuze uthole ulwazi malunga namaqela enkxaso -mntu kumntu amaninzi Amaqela enkxaso ye-intanethi afumaneka kwakhona, kwaye athathe inzuzo yokukwazi ukuxhuma nabanye abanomdlavuza kunye nabanonophelo bomdlavuza iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Ukuba umhlobo wakho akanomdla kwiqela elixhasa, jonga kwiinkonzo ezihambelanayo ezinikezwa yimibutho efana neLUNGevity, apho abantu abanomdlavuza bafanisana nabanye abajongene nomhlaza ofanayo.
13. Yiba nokuthanda ukugoba
Amalungu entsapho kaninzi anemibono eyahlukeneyo xa umntu obathandayo enomdlavuza, esekelwe kumava abo ubomi. Ukuvuthwa kaninzi kukhula, kwaye kunokukhathazeka nokucaphuka. Umthandana wakho akafuni ukuba ngumthombo weengxabano zentsapho. Zama ukuva iingcamango zomnye nomnye kungakhathaliseki ukuba zingabonakali njani. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba nonke unenjongo efanayo; nonke nifuna ukuxhasa umthandayo.
14. Zizinakekele
Ukutya okunempilo, ukuzama ukulala ngokwaneleyo, nokugcina umlinganiselo wobomi bakho kunokukunceda ukubonelela ngenkxaso yakho ethandekayo. Khangela iingcebiso ezongezelelweyo zokukhathalela iintsapho zentsholongwane ukuze uzikhusele njengoko unakekela abanye.
15. Yintoni Oyithandayo Oyifunayo?
Isixhobo esinamandla sokufunda indlela yokuxhasa umntu obathandayo ophila nomdlavuza, "Makhe Ndiphile: Izinto Ezi-20 Abantu Abanomdlavuza Bafuna Ukwazi." Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sizama kangakanani ukuhamba ezinqabeni zomntu onomdlavuza, kunceda ukuva iingcamango, iiminqweno, kunye neenqweno ezabelwana ngabantu abaye bahamba ngendlela enzima loo ndlela. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, wakho umthandayo mhlawumbi akayikuyiqonda, kodwa ukuba ummeli wakhe ekunakekeleni kwakhe akunakuxabiseka. Hlola ezi ngcebiso malunga nendlela yokuzimela wena okanye umthandayo ngomhlaza ukuze ufumane uncedo olungcono.
> Imithombo:
> INational Cancer Institute. Unonophelo lweNtsapho kwiCancer: Iingxaki kunye neengxaki - i-Health Professional Version (PDQ). Ukuhlaziywa 03/15/17. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/coping/family-friends/family-caregivers-hp-pdq