Xa ufumana iimpawu, kwaye ugqirha wakho akabonakali ukukufumanisa ngokuchanekileyo, unokukuxelela ukuba ingxaki yakho "yonke into entloko yakho."
Okona kungaphezulu - akayi kukuxelela, kodwa uya kubaxelela abanye. Ngokusoloko, oogqirha abaziphatha ngale ndlela bawenza oko kuba bafuna ukwenza ingxaki kuwe, kungekhona ingxaki ngokukwazi kwabo ukufumana iimpendulo. Loo mkhuba wegqirha okhukhumeleyo , ocinga ukuba akaze aphosakele okanye akakwazi.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona ugqirha uzama ukugxeka isimo sakho sengqondo, uya kuqhubeka nokufumana ezo zimpawu zomzimba. Uyazi into engalungile. Uyazi ukuba ufuna ukuxilongwa ngenxa yokuba ufuna unyango oluya kusebenza. Uyazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga efuna ukulungiswa.
Ngezantsi zithatha amanyathelo athatyathekileyo ukuba ugqirha wakho akuxelele ukuba ingxaki yakho yintloko yakho.
1. Ungacingi ukuba "yonke into entloko yakho" isigwebo esibi.
"Konke entloko yakho" akuthethi ukuba ugqirha wakho ulahla iimpawu zakho. Oko kuthetha ntoni ukuba ugqirha ufuna ukuhlolisisa ukuba izibonakaliso zakho zomzimba zinezizathu ezigxilwe kwingqondo yakho kwaye kungekhona inkqubo yomzimba ebonakala ngathi ithintekile.
Ngokomzekelo, sonke siyazi ukuba ukungcola kungasiphazamisa isisu sethu, nokuba senze ukuba sihlanza. Siyazi ukuba ukunyamezela kunokusenza siphume kwiimingxuma, okanye senze ezinye iziqhwala esikhumbeni. Ukwesaba okanye ukuhlazeka kuya kusenza sidideke okanye siqale ukufihla.
Inzululwazi yezokwelapha yanamhlanje yonke ifumana iindlela ezintsha zokuthintela iingcamango zethu ngokomzimba. Bambiza ukuba unxibelelwano lomzimba wengqondo. Olu xwebhu luya kwenza ukuba amayeza ase placebo asebenze.
Xa uxhulumano lwengqondo ludala iimpawu ezinengxaki, oogqirha babiza iziphumo zeengxaki ze-psychosomatic okanye i-somatoform disorders.
Ukuba usuphantsi kwengcinezelo okanye ukholelwa ukuba iimpawu zakho ezinokuthi zixhamla kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo zandipha okanye ziphazamisekile, khawucinge ukuba "yonke into entloko yakho" ingaba yintoni enye ingxaki, kwaye usebenze nodokotela wakho ukuze uyilungise.
2. Ukuqonda Ukungazi Nogqirha Wakho Ukukufumanisa
Inyaniso kukuba, akunakwenzeka ukuba bonke ugqirha bakwazi ukuphendula yonke impendulo, nokuba bakwazi ukufumanisa zonke izifo. Izigulane akufanele silindele ukuba ugqirha onikezelweyo unalo, kwaye akufanele ukuba oogqirha balindele ukuba ngokwabo. Ukuzikhukhumeza okanye akukho, akukho dokotela kufuneka abe nesisindo sokulindela emahlombe akhe.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezingenako ukulindela .
Kunoko, zeziphi izigulane ezimele zikulindele kukuba ugqirha uya kunika into efanelekileyo, ekulingeni, kwaye ke, ukuba akakwazi ukuyicombulula loo mngeni, ukuba uya kusinceda sithole izixhobo zokufumana iimpendulo ezilungileyo kumntu, okanye kwenye indawo, enye, kwaye kungekhona nje ukubeka isohlwayo kwiingxaki kwimpilo yethu yengqondo.
3. Sebenza kunye nogqirha wakho ngokubambisana ukuze ufumanise into engalunganga.
Sebenza ngokusebenzisa inkqubo yokuxilongwa ngokungafani ngogqirha wakho, oku kunokukunceda ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi na inokwenzeka.
Ungaphinda ufune ukuqwalasela amathuba ogqirha wakho ongaqhelekanga ngalo, okanye akayi kuluhlola.
Ngokomzekelo, i- dysautonomia yinkcazelo efanelekileyo kunye nokuxilongwa ngeempawu ezininzi ezinzima ukubeka umunwe, kwaye azikwazi ukuvavanywa.
4. Fumana umbono wesibini okanye wesithathu.
Oku kuhle kakhulu kwenziwe ngokuzimeleyo, kungekhona ngokudluliselwa kwikhompyutha yakho yangoku, ongenakukwazi ukuxilonga-ugqirha. Landela izikhokelo zokufumana injongo yesibini .
5. Cela isicelo sokuthunyelwa kwi-psychologist okanye kwi-psychiatrist. (Ewe-ngokungqongqo!)
Le yinyathelo elithatyathwa ngayo ininzi lethu, kodwa lingaba linyathelo elibalulekileyo kunye nelibalulekileyo. Nasi isizathu: Ukuba ugqirha wakho ekutshilo ukuba ingxaki yakho yintloko yakho - ngoko kuya kukwenza udideke kwaye unomsindo.
Ukuziphindezela, xa uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ingxaki ayiyiyo ingqondo okanye i-somatoform disorder (bona i-# 1 ngasentla) kukubonisa ukuba ayiphutha. Ukuba okusemandleni akwenzayo kukuxelela ukuba ingxaki yakho yonke entloko yakho, ke apho uya kuhamba nayo. Cela ukuba uthunyelwe.
Ngaba uya kunika ukuthunyelwa (jonga ngezantsi kweziphumo). Okanye akayi kuthi - ngelo xesha uya kubabiza ngokuba yi-bluff.
Ukuba ulungiselela ukuhanjiswa, kwaye udibana nomfundi weengqondo okanye unengqondo, unako iziphumo ezimbini, kwaye zombini zinokukunceda kuwe. Esinye isiphumo siya kuba uya kuthathwa njengesigxina ngokwengqondo, kungekho nonyango okanye i-cyberchondria. Ngoku uyazi ukuba ugqirha ongeyicatshulwayo ayilunganga - kwaye uya kuthi, naye.
Esinye isiphumo esinokwenzeka kukuba i-psychologist okanye u-psychiatrist uya kugqiba ukuba unengxaki yengqondo efuna ukujongana nayo.
Ukuba umcebisi uya kukuxelela ukuba ingxaki isentloko yakho ke, ngeendlela zonke, fumana umbono wesibini wengqondo, naye. Thatha ubuhlungu obukhulu ukufumana imbono yesibini yengqondo yengqondo evela kumntu ongenamsebenzi ongekho ngokupheleleyo kwi-original yakho "yonke into entloko yakho" ugqirha. Awufuni ukuba ubuhlobo boogqirha buchaphazele ukukwazi kwakho ukufumanisa kakuhle.
6. Emva kokuba ulandela ezo zikhetho, uya kukhetha ukwenza malunga nokuhamba phambili.
Unokukhetha ukusebenza kunye noogqirha okholelwayo ukuba unempendulo ezilungileyo kuwe.
Omnye ummango: uluvo oluchanekileyo aluyenawo uluvo oluthandayo. Qinisekisa ukuba ukhetho luni na ugqirha oza kusebenza nalo luneempendulo ezichanekileyo kwaye kungekhona nje iimpendulo ozifumanayo ezilula ukujamelana nazo.
Ungaqwalasela la maqhinga okufumanisa zonke iinkcukacha ezikhoyo ukuze kukuncede ukuba ufumanise ukuba yintoni ukuxilongwa kwakho.
7. Sebenza nommeli wesigulane.
Ngamanye amaxesha izimpendulo ezilungileyo zivela kumntu ongenaso nxaxheba kwisiphumo ngaphandle kwempumelelo yakho. Ummeli wesigulane angasese unokukunceda ukuba uthathe isinyathelo sokubuyela emuva, ukulandelela kunye nokurekhoda iziqendu ezibalulekileyo zepuzzlizi yakho, kwaye kukuncede ukuba ufumane apho uya khona. Nantsi indlela yokufumana, udliwano-ndlebe kwaye ukhethe ummeli wesigulane .