Ukuqhawula i-Gap phakathi koBomi bakho obudala kunye neNew yakho entsha
Ukuphila nomntu onomzimba we-fibromyalgia (i-FMS) okanye isifo esingapheliyo sokugula (i-CFS okanye i- ME / CFS ) ngumsebenzi onzima, nokuba lowo mntu ukhubazekile ngokupheleleyo, u-50% usebenza, okanye uhamba ngeentsimbi ezithile. Kusemandleni onke, ukuba nomntu ogula kakubi ekhaya lakho kuya kuba nefuthe lobomi bakho.
Kodwa unako ukuthatha amanyathelo okwenza izinto zibe lula kuwe.
Ngaba uzive unetyala ngenxa yokufuna oko? Awuyedwa - abaninzi abantu abakwiimeko zakho bazive benokukhathazeka ngomntu ogulayo kwaye kungekhona. Umyeni wam unzima naloo nto, kwaye sobabini sifanele sifunde ukuba kukulungele ukuba acinezeleke ngolu hlobo. Isinyathelo sakho sokuqala kukuvuma ukuba ukuhlala nomntu onokwakheka i-fibromyalgia okanye isifo esingapheliyo ukuguga akuthethi ukuba ulahlekelwe ilungelo lakho lokuziva.
Kodwa masithembeke ngokupheleleyo apha: Labo bethu ngeFMS okanye ME / CFS kunokuba nzima ukuba abantu bajongane ngezinye izihlandlo. Xa uvakalelwa ngakumbi ngumthwalo wendlu, imiba yezemali kunye nokukhathalela, ulwimi olulukhuni okanye ukungafihli lutho aluyikunceda imiba. Akunakukwazi ukuxoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho nomntu ogulayo ebomini bakho njengoko engasekho kwindawo yokuvuma ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zijoliswe kwimeko kwaye kungekhona kuye.
Ingcinga efanelekileyo yokufumana inkxaso evela kwezinye iindawo ukuze ufumane oku.
Ukuva Ukulahlekelwa "Kwimiba Yezinto"
Bobabini kunye nomthandayo uya kufuneka ulandele utshintsho ebomini bakho. I-FMS kunye ne-ME / CFS ziimeko ezingapheliyo, oko kuthetha ukuba ubomi bakho akunakuze kube yinto ebengaphambili.
Yinto enzima ukuyamukela, kwaye ngamnye uya kufuneka afumane ukuwamkela ngendlela yakho kunye nexesha lakho.
Okubalulekileyo, kufuneka udabuke ngenxa yento olahlekileyo. Amanqanaba entlungu:
- Ukukhanyela - Ukungavumi kokwamkela okwenzekayo.
- Intukuthelo - Ivakalelwa ngathi ayinobulungisa okanye iyathukuthela ngokubanzi.
- Ukuxoxisana - Ukuthembisa into efana nokuba ngumntu ongcono xa imeko ihamba.
- Ukuxinezeleka - Ukunikela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani.
- Ukwamkelwa - Ukuza ngokuhambelana nemeko kwaye ukulungele ukuqhubela phambili.
Uphi na kwinkqubo yosizi? Ukuchonga ngoku ngoku, kwaye ujonge ukuba zeziphi izigaba ezilandelayo eziza kuzisa. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unamathele kwisigaba esinye, fumana umntu ukuba akhulume ngawo. Ukuba uziva ngathi ufuna umcebisi ocebisi ukukunceda, ungabi namahloni ngaloo nto uze uthethe ugqirha wakho. Ukuba unesixinzelelo sekliniki okanye awukwazi ukuwamkela imeko yakho entsha, awuyi kuyenza into enhle okanye umntu ogulayo ebomini bakho.
Ukulawula Izinto Ozilindeleyo - Amanyathelo amathathu
Ingxenye yokwamkela imeko ilawula ukukulindela kwakho. Ngokomzekelo, mna nomyeni wam sasivame ukuhamba ngokuhamba ngebhayisikili, senze uhambo oluthile, mhlawumbi uthabathe umkhombe emlanjeni. Kwakudingeka aguqule izinto awazilindeleyo malunga nendlela esiza kuchitha ngayo ixesha lethu kunye.
Ndaye ndashiya umsebenzi wam kunye nomvuzo wam emva kwaye ndithemba ukuba ndiyakwazi ukufumana into engayenza ekhaya. Oko kwakuthetha ukuba kufuneka ashintshe ulindelo malunga nekamva lethu lemali ngokunjalo.
Inyathelo # 1
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekulawuleni okulindelekileyo kukujonga ngokuthe tye imeko yakho kwaye uzibuze, "Yintoni endiyaziyo ngeemeko?" Ukuthatha ixesha elincinane lokufunda malunga nokuqonda imeko kuya kukunceda ujongane nenyaniso eyenziwa.
Uyazi ntoni ngokugula kwakho? Ngaba uyayiqonda ngokwenene? Nazi izixhobo ezinokukunceda:
Okwesibini, thabathe ukubukeka kwexesha elide kwizinto. Cinga, "Ukuba izinto zihlala njengokuba zihlala unyaka okanye ngaphezulu, oko kuya kuthinta njani mna, intsapho yam, kunye nomntu ogulayo?" Le nto ingaba ngumbuzo omkhulu, xa ucinga ngemali, imvakalelo, intlalo kunye nemvakalelo. Yiya kubo ngenye ixesha kwaye uzame ukuhlala ucacile.
Emva kokuba ufumene oko kukuthi utshintshe, vumela ukuba usizilele izinto eziza kuwela ngasendleleni (ubuncinane ngoku ngoku) kwaye zivumele ukuba zihambe. Emva koko gxininisa kwimimandla apho ubona khona iingxaki ezinkulu kwaye usebenze kwizicombululo.
Inyathelo # 3
Musa ukuziva ngathi uwedwa ukufumana izisombululo. Ukubandakanya umhlobo wakho othandekayo ngokubanzi, unxeba ngabahlobo, osapho, oogqirha, ootitshala, iinkonzo zentlalo, inkampani yakho yomshuwalense kunye nabani na onokukwazi ukukunceda ukuba ufumane iindlela zokufikelela kulo.
Ukuhambela Ngobomi Bakho
Xa usuke uhambile kwiinqanaba zentlungu kunye namanyathelo akhankanywe ngasentla ukuze utshintshe izinto ozilindeleyo, uya kuxhotyiswa ngakumbi ukuba uqhubele phambili kunye nobomi bakho kwaye uxhase umntu ogulayo ebomini bakho. Egameni lomntu, ndikubulela ngokuthatha ixesha lokunyamekela.
> Imithombo:
> 1969 uElizabeth Kubler-Ross, Ekufeni nasekufeni . Onke Amalungelo Agciniwe.
> 1999 iNational Dysautonomia Research Foundation. Onke Amalungelo Agciniwe. "Umncedisi weNtetho yeNtetho"