Iingcebiso zokunceda abafelweyo bahlangabezane nexesha leeholide leKrisimesi
Ixesha leKrisimesi lingaba lunzima ngakumbi kumntu olila ukufa komntu othandekayo. Akunjalo nje kuphela izinto, izandi kunye nefesholo yeholide endijikelezile kwaye kungenakukwazi ukuphepha, kodwa izithethe, imicimbi kunye nemihlangano esiyidla ngokubambisana nexesha leeholide nayo inokugxininisa into yokuba ilungu lentsapho elithandayo okanye umhlobo asisekho kunye nathi, ukudibanisa iimvakalelo zethu zokulahleka.
Eli nqaku linikeza iingcebiso ezintlanu zokukunceda ukujamelana nexesha leholide leKrisimesi ukuba usihlungu ngokufa komntu othandekayo.
Zinike Isipho Sokuvumela
Uxinzelelo oluswelekileyo lubangelwa ukuba lenze ngendlela ethile xa ukulila ngokufa kufaka umthwalo onzima kwaye ungadingekile kulabo ababuhlungu ilahleko nangaliphi na ixesha, kodwa oku kuyiyonene ngexesha leKrisimesi. Uvuyo kunye nokuhleka okuhlotshaniswa nale holide kunokudala ukuba ukudabuka kunye nokukhala akuphelelwe ndawo kwaye kunokunciphisa iholide kwabanye.
Ukuba ufumana ixesha leKrisimesi ukuziva ukuba kufuneka ufihle iinyembezi zakho okanye ubeke ubuso obomeleleyo (okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ungahleki okanye ujabule ngamanye amaxesha), ngoko kufuneka uzinike isipho semvume, oko kukuthi, zixelele Ulungele ukukhalazela ngendlela yakho . Ngaphandle kweengcinezelo zentlalo - ngokwenene okanye ecatshangelwayo-okanye ukungaqondi kakuhle ukuba abantu balandela amanyathelo athathekayo , akukho ndlela efanelekileyo yokulilela ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo.
Kwaye njengokuba ukufa kungathathi iholide, akukho ntlungu, ngoko kufanele wenze nantoni na okufuneka uyenze ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana nayo.
Ziqhelise ukuzithanda
Usizi ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye awufumani nje umonakalo onobuhlungu kulabo abalilayo ukufa kodwa kunye nomzimba. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafelweyo baziva bephelelwe amandla ngenxa yokutya okungahambi kakuhle, ukungabikho kokuzivocavoca kunye / okanye ukulala ngokwaneleyo.
Ngelishwa kwaye ngenye indlela, ukuvuthwa kweeholide ngokuqhelekileyo kubangela ukuba iingxaki ezifanayo kubantu abangekho buhlungu bokufa, oku kuthetha ukuba iKrismesi inokuyandisa le miphumo kubantu abafelweyo.
Ukuba oko kuchaza wena, ke wenze ukuzithanda ngokwakho ngeli holide ngokuqwalasela iimfuno zakho zomzimba . Ukuba uceba ukuya kwidini yeholide, xelela umphathi okanye umncedisi ngaphambi kwexesha ukuba usenokushiya kusasa xa uziva ulele kwaye ufuna ukulala (kwaye qinisekisa ukuba uhamba ngokuhlukeneyo ukuze uhambe xa unqwenela khona). Esikhundleni sokubhankanya kwiholide yeholide, yenza ezi ndlela ezintandathu zokutya okunempilo ngexesha leeholide. Kwaye kunye nokuzivocavoca ngokulinganayo kuya kukunceda ulale ngokubhetele kwaye unciphise izinga lakho lokunyamezela, ke qiniseka ukuba uthatha inja yakho ukuhamba okanye ubuze umhlobo ukuba ahambe nawe epakini okanye kwindawo yokuthengisa.
Ukujamelana Noyiko Lwenu
Efana ne-Thanksgiving, ngokuqhelekileyo sidibanisa iholide yeKrisimesi kunye neenkumbulo ezivuyisayo zamalungu entsapho kunye nabahlobo, kunye nezithethe ezininzi ezijikeleze imithembiso yethu yonyaka. Ngelishwa, emva kokufa komntu othandekayo, ezo zithethe kunye nezithethe ziba ngumthombo wentlungu kubantu abafelweyo. Lapho ukuhlobisa umthi weKrismesi kwakuyimisebenzi ebalulekileyo yentsapho ehlonishwayo, ixesha eliqhelekileyo, umzekelo, loo bhokisi elula yeempahla ingaba ngumhlaba osihlungu owenza ukuba iindiza zokudabuka kunye neenyembezi zikhukhumeze njengokuba iinkumbulo zikhukhula iingqondo neentliziyo zethu.
Ukuba ukhathazekile okanye uloyiko lokuba awuyi kukwazi "ukulibala" umhlobo wakho othandekayo ngexesha leeholide, ngoko kufuneka uqonde ukuba awukwazi kwaye akufanele uzame. Esikhundleni sokuvumela uloyiko lokuba uya kuqalisa ukukhumbula umhlobo wakho kwaye uzive uhlungu ngenxa yeholide yakho, xhobisa ngokufaka inkumbulo yakhe kwiiholide zakho zeeholide . Ngokomzekelo, xhoma umhlobiso omnye - nokuba ukhona okanye umthengi omtsha oyithengayo okanye owenzayo - okulungileyo kukukhumbuza ngomthandayo wakho kwindawo ehloniphekileyo emthini wakho weKrismesi, okanye ubeke isithombe sakho ozithandayo somthandayo ikhandlela elikhanyayo kwindawo epholileyo ebonisa ukuba khona kwayo entliziyweni yakho kwiholide.
Ukuthatha ngokuzithandela izinto ezifana nalezi kunokusinceda sibhekane nosongelo lwethu, lunokubonisa ubungqina be-cathartic ngokusondeleyo kwaye lusinceda sithole iimeko zokuthuthuzela kunye nexesha leKrisimesi.
Ukuphelisa uMgwenxa wokuThula
Emva kokufa komntu othandekayo, abahlobo bethu, amalungu omndeni, osebenza nabo kunye nabanye bahlala bejamelana nokulungelelanisa nokuthuthuzela abafelweyo. Ngokuzithemba sinethemba lokusenza sizive ngcono ngexesha lethu losizi, abo basondelene nathi bayesaba ukwenza okanye besithi into eya kusenza sikhale okanye sikhumbuze iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu zomntu osithandayo. Isiphumo somnatha sivame ukudala "ulungelelwano lokuthula" apho kungekho mntu uthethayo okanye usebenzisa igama lomntu ofileyo osijikelezayo - malunga nokuba akazange abe khona-enokubangela intlungu.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba oku kwenzeka enkundleni zakho zentlalontle, ke kufuneka uncedise kuphela abantu obaziyo kodwa uzixelele nabo ngokuzungezile ukuba kulungile ukuxelela iinkumbulo zomntu oshonile kunye nokusebenzisa igama lakhe ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lekhefu leKrisimesi , ukuba efunwayo. Emva kokuba unike imvume yokuba bancede banqobe ukungabikho kwentlalo yabo, abaninzi abantu baya kubelana ngokukhawuleza ngamabali abo kunye neenkumbulo zomntu obathandayo. Ukwenza oko akuvumeli kuphela iimpawu ezikhethekileyo zomntu ozithandayo kodwa kuqinisekisile ukuba awuyodwa yintlungu yakho kwaye ukuba abo bakuzungezile bathande kwaye baninyamekele.
Yamkele iYe nyaniso
Njengoko kuphawuliwe ngasentla, intlungu evelele emva kokufa komntu othandekayo yenza umzimba ngokwenene, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo kwinto engafanelekanga. Oko kuthetha ukuthini ukuba, njengoko uqhubela phambili ekuhambeni kwakho kosizi, mhlawumbi uya kufumana amaxesha ngexesha leeholide xa ungekho amandla akho aqhelekileyo kunye / okanye ukuzonwabisa kwakho kwimizila yakho yeYuletide, phakathi kwezinye izinto. Ngamanye amagama, awukho "oqhelekileyo" ngokwalo ngoku.
Ngoko ke, kufuneka uqaphele kwaye wazi imida yakho ngaphambi kwexesha . Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ingcamango yokulwa neendawo zokugcina izakhiwo kunye nezitolo zesebe ukuthenga izipho zeKrismesi ziziva zikhulu kunene kulo nyaka, ngoko uthetha ukuthenga ezo zipho kwi-intanethi. Ukuba uhamba ngeenxa zonke kwiidolophu okanye kwilizwe lonke ukuchitha iKrismesi kunye namalungu entsapho okanye ngabahlobo kodwa ungaziva ufikelele kwangoku, ngokuqinisekileyo ukwamkelekile ukutsho njalo wenze ezinye iiplani eziqhubekayo ngokuhambisana nomoya wakho kwinqanaba lamandla. Yaye ukuba unqwenela ukunciphisa imisebenzi yakho yentlalo yenkcubeko yeKrisimesi ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuhlala wedwa, ngoko uyazi ukuba oku kuqhelekileyo, kwakhona. Nabani othanda ngokwenene kwaye uyazi intlungu ojongene nayo uya kuqonda ngokuqinisekileyo.
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