Iingcebiso zokukunceda ukujamelana neeholide lomtshato ngelixa ulila ukufa
Iintsuku ezikhethekileyo zivame ukudala iimvakalelo ezinamandla kunye nabakhunjulwayo kungakhathaliseki ukuba sele kudlule ixesha elingakanani ukusweleka komntu othandekayo. Ukuphendulwa kweholide okanye ukukhumbula isiganeko kungenzeka ngenxa yokuba udibana nomhla kwikhalenda okanye umcimbi ngokwawo umntu obalulekileyo, njengomlingane, ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo.
Kuba ubani olila ilahleko ngenxa yokufa, uSuku lweValentine luziva lukhulu kakhulu ngenxa yokuba ligxininisa ukuhlanganisana, uthando kunye nokuthandana.
Ngaphezu koko, ngokunikezelwa kwayo ngokuphawulekayo kunye nokubonakaliswa kwezinto eziphathekayo kwiintengiso zeentlobo zonke, akunakwenzeka ukukhusela izikhumbuzo ukuba "iholide yebhendi" isondela.
Sebenzisa la macebiso ukukunceda ukujamelana nentlungu ovakalelwa ngayo okanye malunga noSuku lweValentine njengoko uzama ukujongana nokulahlekelwa kwakho.
Ukuthobela iMithetho
Ingcinezelo yokwenza ngendlela ethile idibanisa umthwalo ongenalusizo kwaye ungadingekile kulabo abalila ukulahlekelwa kukufa. Ukuba uziva uncedo ngexesha leSonto likaValentine ukufihla iinyembezi zakho okanye ubeke ubuso obomeleleyo (okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ungayihleki okanye uzonwabele ngezinye izihlandlo), kufuneka uzinike imvume yokukhalazela ngendlela yakho. Ngaphandle kweengcinezelo zentlalo-ngokwenene okanye ecingelwe-okanye ingcamango yehlabathi jikelele leentlungu , akukho ndlela efanelekileyo yokulila ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo.
Cope Ugly
Ngomnyaka we-2008, kwanyatheliswa isifundo malunga nokuqinisekiswa kwabantu abajongene neziganeko ezinobungozi, kuquka ukutshatyalaliswa.
Ababhali bavakalisa imbono yokuba "baxhatshaze," oko kuthetha ukuba ukujamelana akufuneki ukuba yinto enhle-kufuneke ukuba kwenziwe umsebenzi. Yenza nantoni na okufuneka uyenze ngeeholide ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana nayo.
Faka iPeni kwiPhepha (okanye iminwe kwiKhodibhodi)
Ukuhanjiswa kungabancedisi kuphela ukukhulula uxinzelelo kodwa kunokukunceda ukuba usebenze kwaye uhlele iingcamango neemvakalelo zakho njengoko ubhala phantsi.
Ingaba uzichaza kakuhle ukuhlala kwikhompyutheni yakho okanye usebenzisa iphepha kunye nepeni, ukuhlola nokurekhoda iimvakalelo zakho zangaphakathi kunye neengcamango "ngenxa yamehlo akho kuphela" zihlala zibonisa unyango kwaye ziyakwazi ukuqonda ingxaki yakho yokuphendula .
Ukungcwaba kwangaphambili
Ukuba ukhululekile ngombono, khetha i-memento ephawulekayo, isikhumbuzo, okanye i-artifact ukuba uqhagamshelana kakhulu nomfi kwaye, ngokoqobo, uyifake emhlabathini ngexesha lomcimbi wabucala owucebayo. Ingaba oku kubandakanya isithombe esithile, ileta, ibhola lokubhala, isikhumbuzo, okanye olunye uxhumano lomntu othandayo, ingcamango apha kukufuzisela ngothando nangomdla ukuba ushiye umfi kwaye uvumele "ukuhamba" ubuhlobo bakho obudlulileyo ukuze uhambe phambili.
Yiba ngowakho i-Valentine
Intlungu ayifuni nje ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kulabo abalila ukufa, kwanjalo kuthatha umzimba. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu oshonelwe uziva ephelile ngenxa yokutya okungahambi kakuhle, ukungabikho kokuzivocavoca okanye ukulala ngokwaneleyo. Ukuba oko kuchaza wena, ke wenze ukuzithanda ngokwakho ngeli holide ngokuqwalasela iimfuno zakho zomzimba. Ukuba ungaziva unamandla okwenzela ukutya, uze ulandele okanye uphume kwindawo yokutyela eyintandokazi. Thatha inja yakho ukuhamba, okanye memela umhlobo ukuba ahambe kunye nomthengisi.
Izikhokelo zokuhlaziya ukukunceda ufumane ukuphumla ebusuku .
Hlonipha Abathandekayo bakho
Ukugxininisa ingqalelo ngendlela enenjongo yokuhlonela nokukhumbuza umhlobo wakho unokunceda ukutshintsha iingcamango zakho neemvakalelo ngendlela efanelekileyo ngexesha leeholide. Zibuze wena ukuba umthandi wakho angathanda ukukhunjulwa aze enze oko kwenzeke. Ingaba isikhumbuzo somzimba njengokuba utyala umthi kwiredi yakho okanye unikele omnye kwisikolo okanye kwibandla, ungeze encinci "KwiMemori ye ...". Kodwa zikho iindlela zokuhlonela umhlobo wakho ongafuni ukuchitha imali. Unganika igazi okanye uncedise nge-drive drive, uzinikele ngokuzithandela ixesha lakho lokunceda abanye, okanye ukutyelela nokufunda kwabo kwikhaya labahlengikazi.
Nika ingcamango uze ufumane indlela yokumhlonela wakho othandekayo. Unokwenza lolu suku lweSonto lwe-Valentine.
> Imithombo:
> Bonanno GA, Mancini AD. Ubunono boBuntu bokuPhuma ngokubhekiselele kwiNgxaki yomntu. Pediatrics . 2008; 121 (2): 369-375. i-doi: 10.1542 / iipedithi.2007-1648.