Kulabo abalilayo ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo, ii-houble zeeholide, iintsimbi kunye nezibane ezikhanyayo zivakalelwa kukuba zivuya. Nazi izicwangciso ezintlanu zokunceda abo baxhatshazwayo ukufa bajongane neeholide.
Vula uMnyango kwiiNkolelo ezintsha
Umnumzana weeNgesi uSomerset Maugham wambi wathi, "Isiko lisikhokelo kwaye asikho umgcini wejele." Nangona kunjalo, izithethe zeholide esizenzayo kwiminyaka emininzi kunye nomlingane, umntwana, umzali okanye omnye othandekayo obamthandayo unokuhlala evakalelwa nje ngokungenakukhunjulwa njengemivalo yentolongo. Ukuthumela amakhadi eKrismesi, ukubhaka ikhefu ekhethekileyo yeholide, ukuthenga nge-Friday ngoLwesihlanu, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwizibane zemizi / imihlobiso yokubambisana, njl., Unokubambisana kunye nenkumbulo yakho yeeholide, kodwa ingaba isithethe sakho siyakukuvuyisa ngokwenene kulo nyaka? Ukuba akunjalo, cinga ukutshintsha ukuze uziva ukhululekile.
Khumbula, unako ukuhlaziya isithethe sakho sokuqala phantsi kwendlela ukuba ungathanda, kodwa unokufumanisa ukuba isithethe esitsha sinelisekile.
Kulungile ukuthi Hayi
Unyaka wonke, intsapho yakho ijonge phambili ukuza endlwini yakho nge-Krismesi ngee-carols kunye ne-cocoa. Kodwa kulo nyaka, ingcamango yokuhlobisa indlu kunye nokunciphisa umthi wonke uzive ukhulu. Okanye mhlawumbi uququzelele umculi weeholide kwicawa okanye kwiziko loluntu kwixesha elithile elidlulileyo, kodwa ngoku, intliziyo yakho ayikho kuyo. Nangona ingcamango yokuguqula iholide yakho ingaba nzima, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba unembopheleleko enokuziva ukhululekile ukuyisebenzisa kwaye uxoxe ngokucacileyo oko kwintsapho yakho kunye nabahlobo. Zibuze ukuba ufuna nje uncedo ngomsebenzi othize okanye ukuba ukhetha umntu ukuba athathe kulo nyaka wonke. Khumbuza ukuba kulungile ukuthi "cha" njengoko ulungelelanisa ubomi emva kokulahleka.
Akukho nto epheleleyo kwaye akunjalo nawe
Ininzi yethu ithwala umfanekiso wengqondo malunga neeholide "kufuneka". Iincwadi, amaphephancwadi, iifilimu, iimveliso zethelevishini kunye nokuba sikhumbule abantwana singakwazi ukwenza lo mzekelo ngokudala umfanekiso "opheleleyo" uHanukah, Thanksgiving, uKrisimesi, Firsta, [ faka iholide apha ] ukhangeleka. Oku kunokudala uxinzelelo oluninzi, omnye umthombo woxinzelelo awudingi ukujongana nawo ngoku. Ngoko ke, zinike ikhefu leeholide ngokuvuma izinto njengoko zikhona . Ngubani okhathalelayo ukuba izibane ezimbalwa zeKrisimesi zitshiswa xa ukufudumala kwezindlu kunye nekhaya kukhanya ngokukhawuleza? Mhlawumbi awuzange uchithe ixesha elide uhlanganisa ezo zipho kubantwana njengokuba usenza njalo, kodwa nini ixesha lokugqibela umntwana enqaba isipho ngenxa yokugubungela umsebenzi? I-Turkey yincinci elomileyo kulo nyaka? Yongeza i-gravy encinane. Nantoni na eyenzekayo, phinda uthi: "Masiyeke."
Hlonipha Umntu Othandekayo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abo bayalila ukufa, "Ndingaziphepha njani ukucinga ngaye?" Inyaniso kukuba, awukwazi ngokupheleleyo - ngoko kutheni uzame? Esikhundleni sokuba uhlale ukwesaba ukuba uya kuqalisa ukukhumbula umhlobo wakho kwaye uzive uhlungu, zixhobisa ngokufaka inkumbulo yakhe kwizicwangciso zakho . Xa uhlala kunye nosapho lwakho, khanyisa ikhandlela kwintlonelo yakho ethandekayo engayibonisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba khona kwayo ezintliziyweni zakho. Okanye wenze i-popcorn kwaye uhlale phantsi kunye njengentsapho ukuze ubukele i-movie yakhe ekhethiweyo yeholide. Ukuba unobumba bokudala, yenza iintlobo zeeholide ezikhethekileyo kunye nabantwana bakho okanye abazukulu uze uzixhomeke kwindawo ehloniphekileyo kwisihlahla sakho seKrismesi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kuyo, cela intsapho yakho ukuba yabelane ngezikhumbuzo ezizithandayo zomntu othandayo, okanye u tyelele indawo yamangcwaba, indawo yesikhumbuzo okanye indawo ebalulekileyo ebomini wakho othandekayo kunye.
Fumana Injabulo Yokwenene Yokunikezela
Sisoloko siva ukuba ukupha kungcono kunokufumana, kodwa bangaphi bethu bakholelwa ngokwenene loo nto? Ewe, khawuqwalasele le holide xa uza kufaka i-chestnut endala ngokumnceda umntu ukuba ajamelane ne-blues yeholide kwindlela encinane. Nika amathoyizi ebantwaneni okanye izambatho ezifudumele kubantu abangenamakhaya. Ncedisa ukondla abantu abalambileyo okanye abancedisayo abadala. Yilungiselela intsapho ehluphekileyo okanye yenza igalelo lokuncedisa ngokukhumbula umhlobo wakho. Kukho amathuba amaninzi okufumanisa uvuyo lokunika xa ubheka . Kuluhlu lwamathuba okunceda omnye umntu abe neeholide ecacileyo kwindawo yakho, nceda u tyelele iwebhusayithi ye-Volunteer Match.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo :
• Ukuyeka ukuhamba
• Indlela yokuPhepheka kweNdwendwe yeKholide yeKrisimesi
• Indlela Yokusinda Ngumhla Wokubonga Ngosuku
• Indlela Yokusinda Ngethuba Lusuku Luka-Valentine
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