Fumana indlela oogqirha abaxhatshazayo abanokuchaphazela ngayo ukunakekelwa komonde
Uninzi lwabantu lucinga ukuba njengoko sikhula, ukuxhatshazwa kuqala kutshabalalisa ebomini bethu. Kodwa uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abanye abaxhaphazayo abanakubeka bucala iindlela zabo zokunyamezela. Kunoko, baqhubeka besongela, baxhaphaza baze baxhaphaze abantu baze babe ngabantu abadala. Emva koko, ukuxhatshazwa kuyabasebenzela, ngoko akukho nto ikhuthazayo yokutshintsha. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ukuxhatshazwa kwabantu abadala kunokufumaneka kwiindawo zonke zobomi.
Kwaye inkundla yezokwelapha ayinakukwazi ukuxhatshazwa phakathi kwezigaba zayo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kweDktri kukuchaphazela njani
Abanikezeli bezempilo kunye nabahlukumezayo babenza ukuqeshwa kunye neenkqubo ezimbi kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ziyingozi nakwizigulane zabo. Ngokomzekelo, oogqirha abaxhaphazelayo badla ngokunciphisa uxhulumaniso phakathi kwelinye iqela lezempilo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni ufumane unyango olungadingekile kwakunye nokuba utyando olungenakufunwa.
Enyanisweni, uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba oogqirha abaxhaphazayo badla ngokudambisa ukunxibelelana. Oku, kunako, kunempembelelo embi kumgangatho wenkathalo oyifumayo. Ngokomzekelo, uphando oluqhutywe yiZiko loKhuseleko lweMicrosoft (ISMP) lufumene ukuba ama-40 ekhulwini kwabanikezeli bonyango abazange bakhulume ukukhathazeka kwabo ngesigulane somguli kuba ukwenza oko kuya kubafuna ukuba babuze umgqirha onamandla.
Olu cwaningo luye lwafumanisa ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi kuxhaphake kwindlela yokunakekelwa kwezempilo.
Enyanisweni, iipesenti ezingama-60 zeekliniki zathi ziye zatshutshiswa. Okwangoku, iipesenti ezingama-50 zabika ukuba zijongene nolwaphulo lomzimba. Ngokufanayo, ezinye izigulane zisoloko zisongelwa ngamagqirha abo. Ngenxa yoko, abanako ukungavumelani okanye ukuthetha ngenxa yokwesaba ukugqirha ugqirha.
Ngenxa yoko, izigulane ezixhatshazwayo zisoloko zikhanyela ukuxelela iimpawu ezikhathazayo okanye ukubuza imibuzo malunga nemiyalelo yabo , ingakumbi ukuba ugqirha wabo unomfutho omfutshane okanye uhlala ecasulwa okanye engapheliyo.
Qaphela ukuba Ungabhalisi Ukuxhaphazwa Kwentliziyo
Xa kuziwa ekujonganeni nezigulane, oogqirha abaninzi baya kwixesha elide ukugcina indlela efanelekileyo yokulala. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukuba uhlale ulungile kwaye uphumelele. Ngokomzekelo, akukho mfihlo yokuba ababoneleli ngezezempilo baqeshwe. Bahlala bekhathele kwaye bagxininisekile, okubangela ukuba babe ne-cranky baze baqhube ngaphantsi kokuziphatha okunqwenelekayo.
Izigulane ezingasebenziyo nazo zingazama ukunyamezela isigulane sogqirha ngokukodwa xa isigulane singathathi ingcebiso ngokucebisayo okanye ilandela isicwangciso socwangciso esivumelwaneni. Kwaye izigulane ezizixilonga okanye zikholelwa ukuba ziyazi ngaphezu kogqirha zingafaka umxhatshazo kubudlelwane nodokotela . Ngoxa kubalulekile ukuzalana nogqirha wakho, ezinye izigulane zithatha le ngqiqo kwaye zifuna. Zonke ezi zinto zikhokelela ekubeni ugqirha ube yi-grouchy kwaye ngokukhawuleza.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ubhale ugqirha wakho kumxhaphazi, khumbula ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kukhoyo xa kukho umzekelo wokuziphatha.
Ngamanye amagama, ukuba ugqirha wakho uye wanyanzela okanye ufutshane nawe, mhlawumbi le nto yenzeke kwaye unokuyifakela kwimini embi. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kuthetha ukuxhaphaza xa ufumana ukuhlambalaza, ukugxekwa kunye nezinye izenzo ezenza amandla kunye nokulawula.
Khumbula, ugqirha odla ngezinye iinkqubo akayiyo inkohlakalo. Angenakukhathazeka, ubonakale ephuthumayo, athathwe kwiingcali zakhe okanye engenako ukugxilwa kwegulane , kodwa akahlali esenza ngokungafanelekanga. Ngaba oogqirha ababonisa rhoqo ukuziphatha nokulawula okufuneka ukhathazeke ngazo.
Iimpawu Ugqirha Wakho Buhlungu
Ngelixa kungenanto yokufumana inzondo kumsebenzi wokunceda, ukuxhatshazwa kubakho kwiindawo zonyango. Nazi ezinye iiflegi ezibomvu ukuba ugqirha wakho abe ngumxhaphazi:
- Unqabe ukuphendula imibuzo yakho okanye ukunikezela ngolwazi malunga nemeko yakho . Ngamanye amagama, ulindele ukuba ulandele amacebiso akhe unyango ngaphandle kolwazi olongezelelweyo kwaye ubonakala ecacileyo xa ucela imibuzo. Ukulindela kwakhe kukuba uyingcali kwaye kufuneka uthabathe nje ilizwi lakhe kwaye wenze kanye njengoko athethayo. Khumbula, kufuneka uhlale udlala indima ekwenzeni izigqibo zempilo .
- Intimidates kwaye ikuxhaphaze ukuba ube neemviwo okanye iinkqubo ongafuni ukuba nazo ngaphandle kwengcaciso malunga nokuba ziyimfuneko yonyango. Khumbula, unelungelo lokunqaba unyango. Awunyanzelekile ukuba unike ugqirha igunya elipheleleyo phezu komzimba wakho.
- Ubonisa ukuzidla nokuzilungisa . Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ubuza malunga namava akhe okanye ubuchule kwindawo ethile, uhlaselwa ngokucacileyo. Okungakumbi, unokukwazi ukuthetha ngendlela engathandabuzekiyo malunga nendlela efundwe ngayo kunye namava.
- Uba novelwano . Abanye abanikezeli benonophelo lwempilo banzima ukubonisa imvakalelo xa befumanisa isigulo esibi. Nangona kunjalo, oku akufani noko kubonisa ukungabi nangovelwano. Oogqirha abangenalo uvelwano okanye ubulumko bentliziyo, akhathazeki ukuba udidekile, ukhathazekile okanye ukhathazekile. Kuya kubonakala ngathi abayiqapheli into ovakalelwa ngayo kwaye ukuba bayibona bayakhathalele.
- Awuyihloneli imfuno yakho yokuthozama okanye yobumfihlo . Uninzi oogqirha baya kumnquba emnyango ngaphambi kokungena. Baya kususa isambatho sakho ngokuncinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukugcina ukuthozama xa behlolisisa. Ukuba ugqirha wakho ungena egumbini lakho ngaphandle kokungqongqo kwaye akayihloneli isidima sakho, ngoko unokuba ngumxhaphazi. Kwakhona ifulegi ebomvu xa engaphumeleli ukukuxwayisa malunga noko ayeza kukwenza xa ehlolisisa okanye xa ekushiya kwindawo ebonakalayo.
- Uthetha ngokuzithobayo kuwe . Oogqirha bafundiswe kakuhle kwaye banolwazi, kodwa oku akubaniki ilungelo lokunyanga nje ngokuba uyisidenge. Ukuba ugqirha wakho uthetha kuwe okanye akathethi ngentlonelo, oku kungabonakalisa ukuba ungumntu onokuxhaphaza.
- Ukuphatha ngokukhawuleza . Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimviwo kunye neenkqubo ezibuhlungu, ugqirha wakho kufuneka ahlale esichengeni ukuthuthuzela kwakho. Kwakhona kufuneka aphephe naluphi na ukulungiswa okungadingekile. Ukuba ugqirha wakho uhlala ekhathaza ngaphandle kweenkcazo okanye ukuxolisa, unokufuna ukucinga ngokufumana omnye umboneleli wezempilo.
- Uphatha abahlengikazi bakhe kunye nabancedisi . Ukuba ngabahlengikazi boogqirha, abancedisi boogqirha kunye nabasebenzi bokuxhasa banomdla malunga naye, oku kuwuphawu olubi. Iqela elijongene neenkonzo zezempilo kufuneka lihlale linxibelelwano olufanelekileyo phakathi kwamalungu ayo. Ukuba abanye ababandakanyekayo kwinkathalo bakho babonakala besaba ukwenza iphutha, oku kungakulimaza ekugqibeleni. Khumbula, xa amaqela ezonyango engabonakali intlonelo kunye noxolelwano oluvulekile, ekugqibeleni, uya kuba nguye ohluphekayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ugqirha wakho unogqirha, ukuba ubonakalisa ezi ziqhelo rhoqo, kusenokuba ixesha lokufumana ugqirha omtsha . Ufanele uphathwe ngesithunzi nangenhlonipho, kwaye kufuneka uhlale ungaphantsi.
ILizwi
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ugqirha wakho ungumxhaphazi kuwe okanye kumntu othandekayo, ungayinaki imeko. Ukwenza oko kunokunciphisa umgangatho wokunyamekela owamkelayo. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuthetha nogqirha ngokuziphatha kwakhe kakubi okanye uthathele umphathi kumphathi. Ukuba ukuma kumntu onokuxhaphaza akusebenzi kwaye uyaqhubeka esongela wena, lixesha lokufumana ugqirha omtsha. Ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kunzima, unokufuna ukuqwalasela ukuziphatha kwakhe kwibhodi yelayisenisi yelizwe. Khumbula, ngenxa yokuba ugqirha wakho unokuba yingcali kwintsimi yakhe ayimniki ilungelo lokukuxhaphaza.
> "Ukunyaniseka kusekho Inkinga kwindawo yokusebenzela yasebhedlele, i-ISMP Survey Show," I-Institute for Practices Practices, Oktobha 2013. https://www.ismp.org/pressroom/PR20131003.pdf