Ukufumanisa ukuba umntu onokukhathalela unomdlavuza onjenge- leukemia , i- lymphoma okanye i- myeloma inokumangalisa, ukuphazamiseka nokuphazamiseka. Xa ukuxilongwa komnye umntu kusenza sizive sibi, akunakwenzeka ukuba sicinge ukuba umntu ofumene ukuxilongwa kufuneka azive njani.
Ithemba lethu kukuba sinokufumana amagama alungileyo okanye izenzo ezintle zokuthatha ezinye iintlungu, kodwa sinokuthetha njani oko sivakalelwa?
Yaye yintoni into efanelekileyo ukuthetha?
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Ngamanye amaxesha into emangalisa ngayo ngokuchazwa ngumhlaza yindlela isigulane esisebenza ngayo. Bangabonisa amandla angakholwanga ongazange ukwazi ukuba ayenayo, okanye abe nobungozi ngakumbi kunokuba wazi. Bangabonisa inani leemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo - ukudabuka, umsindo, ityala, uloyiko, ukuxhala, ukuphepha-ngamanye amaxesha bangabonisa konke kanye okanye batshintshe ukususela emzuzwana ukuya kumzuzwana.
Indlela umntu ayenzela ngayo nayiphi na imeko ifakwe ngamava onke awo aphelileyo, oko kukukhokelela kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo iindlela abantu abaphatha ngazo kunye nokujamelana neziganeko. Ngamafutshane, xa kuziwa ekujonganeni nokuxilongwa okuxinzelelekileyo njengomdlavuza, lindela ukungalindelekanga.
Indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngayo malunga nokuxilongwa kwabo kuya kunceda ukubeka impendulo yakho kuyo. Mhlawumbi ba se nqanaba apho i-diagnostic yabo yonke into efuna ukuthetha ngayo, okanye mhlawumbi abafuni ukuthetha ngako konke.
Ukuba zifumaniswe ngethuba xa isifo sabo sigxilile, impendulo yakho iya kuba yinto ehlukileyo kunokuba ifunyanwe nokuba yimeko esongela ubomi okanye izibhedlele.
Nantoni na oyikhethayo ukuyithetha, Yisho into
Ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo lokuthetha into elungileyo lunokuba lunzima. Kuthekani ukuba umhlobo wakho eqala ukukhala?
Kuthekani ukuba bakubuza into ongayaziyo impendulo? Kuthekani ukuba bayakucaphuka? Kuthekani ukuba ubenza bazive bebi kakhulu?
Isilingo sinokuthi siphephe imeko yonke. Emva koko, bayazi ukuba uyabakhathalela, akunjalo? Inyaniso kukuba, umhlaza yindlovu egumbini. Ukungazi ukuba kuyingozi nakakhulu kunokuba nantoni na onokuyithetha.
Indlela yokusingatha izivakheno zezibhedlele
Ukutyelela izibhedlele akuvumelekanga ukuxilongwa komhlaza "ukuziphatha," ukuba kukho into enjalo. Abantu abaninzi banokubandezeleka okukhulu kwizibhedlele, kwaye ukuba ufumanisa le nto, yazi ukuba kukho ezinye iindlela ezininzi onokubonisa ngazo ukuba unomdla kangakanani.
Ukuba awunayo ingxaki kwizibhedlele, kukho izinto ezimbalwa omele uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokutyelela:
- Biza phambili. Fumana iiyure zokundwendwela kwiyunithi yabongikazi. Lindela ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukutyelela kude kusekuseni okanye emva kokuhlwa kwangoku kwaye kukho ixesha lokuphumla kwimini. Kwakhona, khangela ukuba umhlobo wakho okanye umthandayo uyamkela iindwendwe kwindawo yokuqala.
- Lindela ukugcina uhambo lwakho lufutshane. Kufuneka uhambele ngokungapheli imizuzu engama-20 ukuya kwe-30 ngexesha. Izigulane zegciwane lesigulane ngegazi lijongene nokukhathazeka okukhulu , okwenziwa kakubi ngokuxilongwa. Ukuba bafuna ukuba uhlale ixesha elide, gcina ixesha elide, kodwa qiniseka ukuba ungabakhupheli.
- Hlala kude ukuba ungeva kakuhle. Abantu abaneentlobo zee-khansa bahlala benesistim somzimba sokusikhuphaza ngexesha lokuxilongwa kwabo, kwaye ukuvezwa kwintsholongwane okanye ibhaktheriya kunokukhokelela kwisifo esibi kakhulu. Nangona ungaguli, qiniseka ukuba uhlamba izandla zakho ngokugqibeleleyo xa ungena kwigumbi lesibhedlele kwaye xa uhamba.
- Ukuba ufuna ukuzisa izipho , sebenzisa isigwebo sakho. Izityalo kunye neentyantyambo ziyakwenza isilwanyana esibhedlele esibhedlele, kodwa ngenxa yokukhathazeka kokungakhuselekanga, kungenakufaneleka ukubenzela igumbi le-leukemia okanye igulane lesigulane. Hlola kunye neyunithi yolondolozi okanye ilungu lentsapho ukuba ubone ukuba lilungile yini ngaphambi kokuba utyelele.
- Khumbula: akukhona kuwe. Qinisekisa ukuba intetho yakho igxile kwisigulane, kungekhona malunga nemiba yakho .
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Iingcebiso ezintle kule meko kukuthetha indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo . Ucinga ngabo? Bese uthi njalo. Ngaba uyabakhathalela? Bese uthi njalo. Ngaba uyaxolisa ukuba bahamba nale nto? Bese uthi njalo. Awazi ukuba uthini? Bese uthi loo nto . Nazi iinkalo ezimbalwa zokuqala zengxoxo:
- Ndilapha ukuba ufuna ukuthetha.
- Ndingathanda ukunceda nangayiphi na indlela endinayo.
- Ngaba uya kuba neendwendwe?
- Ngaba ukho na umntu onokuthanda ukuba ndidibanise naye?
- Oku kufuneka kube yinto enzima ukuhamba nayo.
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Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba lula ukwazi izinto ezifanelekileyo ukuthetha kunokuthi ungathethi. Musa ukubanjwa ngokuzama ukuthetha into efanelekileyo. Zama nje ukuba nencoko yendalo. Sekunjalo, kukho izinto ezimbalwa zokuphepha:
- Musa ukwenza malunga nawe okanye ukuthelekisa nento ethile.
- Ukuba abafuni ukuthetha, musa ukunyanzelisa umba. Vele ubaxelele ukuba ukhona nini na ukuba bafuna.
- Ungazami ukufumana iziphumo. Akukho ubuninzi besiliva kwi-diagnostic yegazi, ngoko gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Kungaba nzima," okanye, "Ubuncinane akusiyo ..." Kuloo mntu unesifo, oku mhlawumbi yimeko enzima kunazo zonke.
- Musa ukuvakalisa izimvo ezingathembekanga.
- Musa ukushiya ukuba izinto zibe nzima. Ukuba umntu uyacaphuka, mayeke. Ukuba bakuxelela ukuba bayesaba, vula intetho ukuze bakwazi ukukhulula kuwe. "Uloyike ntoni na?" "Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze ndincede ngoloyiko lwakho?" Ezi ngxaki zinzima ukuzilawula, kodwa uzibuyisele ngqo kwinkundla yesigulane uze ubavumele ukuba bathethe. Ngaloo ndlela, akudingeki ukhathazeke malunga nento oyithethayo.
- Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinciphisa oko isigulane esenzayo njengokuthi "Musa ukukhathazeka," "Yonke into iya kulungile" okanye "Jabulela."
- Akukho mntu ufanele ukufumana umdlavuza. Nangona ukholelwa ukuba ukukhetha komntu kubomi bakhe kwanegalelo kwisifo sabo, okanye ukuba ucinga ukuba "kukuthanda kukaThixo" oko kwenzeka, zigcine kuwe.
Indlela Ongayinceda ngayo
Kukho iindlela ezigidimi ongatshela umntu okhathalelayo ngabo ngezenzo . Into enhle malunga nezenzo zokunyamekela kukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uncedise ukuthwala ubunzima bomthwalo wakho omthandayo. Nangona umsebenzi owona mncinane unokuxabiswa ngakumbi kunokuba uyazi. Nazi iziphakamiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda ukuba uqalise:
- Ukuphulaphula isigidimi xa uthetha kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba baqhubeke xa uvakalelwa ukuba bafuna okanye bafuna.
- Thumela ikhadi ukuze ubazise ukuba ucinga ngabo.
- Ngaba wayesazi ukuba uninzi lwezigulane ezinegazi lomhlaza ziza kufuna ukumpontshelwa igazi ngexesha elithile kunyango? Kuthiwani ngokunikela ngegazi ngenxa yabo? Okanye kungcono, funda ngakumbi malunga nokuba ngaba ungaba ngumncedisi womnatha wethambo uza kukulungela.
- Awazi lutho malunga ne-leukemia, i-lymphoma okanye i-myeloma? Fumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nomntu owamthandayo.
- Ukunikela ukunyamekela zabo izilwanyana okanye abantwana.
- Hlaba umtshini okanye udibanise umzila wabo.
- Lungiselela ukutya okuthile kwifriji okanye efrijini. Ukubonelela ngamacwecwe amaphepha afanelekileyo kangangokuthi akudingeki bakhathazeke ngokucoca.
- Ukuqhuba iifayile zabo.
- Ukunikela ukwenza imisebenzi yabo yasendlini ezifana nokuhlamba izitya, ukucoca okanye ukuhlamba impahla. Cinga ngesatifiketi sesipho sokuncedisa inkonzo.
- Ukunikela ukubonelela ngezothutho kwiindawo zokuqeshwa.
- Lungiselela ipakethe yokunakekelwa kwe-chemo ingabazisa kunye nokuqeshwa okanye unyango.
- Yenza i-movie, incwadi okanye i-CD ukuba bayakuzonwabisa xa besesibhedlele.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, Yiba novelwano
Ukwazi oko kukuthethayo kwiimeko ezixinzeleleko kuhlala kunzima, ingakumbi xa imeko iyingozi yokuxilongwa. Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kukucinga ngaphambi kokuba uthethe, vumela umntu ukuba akhulume ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa kwaye enze kube ngqalelo kwingxoxo. Namela ingqalelo malunga nokuba bancinane kangakanani okanye bancinane kangakanani abanqwenela ukuthetha ngokuxilongwa kwabo.
Ukubonisa unonophelo kunye nemfesane kwizinto ozithethayo kunokuhamba ngendlela ende kwindlela yakho yomhlaza womthandayo.
Imithombo:
U-Kaplan, R. (2004) Indlela Yokuthetha Xa Ungayazi Into Ongayithethayo: Amazwi Akunene Ngamaxesha Obunzima. I-Prentice Hall Press: eNew York.