Ukwamkela ngokwakho isinyathelo sokuqala
Sivame ukusebenzisa igama elithi "normalization" kakhulu xa uthetha nge- HIV . Kusetyenziswe ukubonisa ukuba abantu abanentsholongwane kaGawulayo abanakho ngoku nje ukuba banomgangatho wobomi obuqhelekileyo, kodwa banokucwangcisa ikusasa, babe nezingane, kwaye baqhubeke nobudlelwane obuhle bezesondo xa kunikwe unyango olufanelekileyo kunye neendlela ezimbalwa zokukhusela izikhokelo .
Kodwa nangenxa yezi nkalo engqondweni, abantu abaninzi abane-HIV bafumana ukutshata kakhulu.
Ukuphinda ulandelelana ngothando kungavulwa loo mntu kwiimeko ezikhuselekileyo ezihamba ngaphaya kokutya okulula kokugatywa. Emva koko, ukudalula isimo sakho kumhlobo yinto enye; ukuyichazela kwintando yesithandane kuvelisa ezinye iimeko kunye nezinto ezixhalabisayo.
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Ukudibana nobomi bokwenene, okwenene, akunakukwazi ukufumana ezinqamleleyo. Ukuchaza isimo sakho se-HIV kwisithakazelo sothando kungaba yinkqubo engumngeni, nokuba yisoyiko. Kodwa ngexeshana kunye nokulungiswa, kunye ne-degree of self-reflection, zikho iindlela zokunciphisa kakhulu loo maxhala.
10 "Njani-Ngaba" yokuthandana nokuchazwa
- Qala ngokuzimela. Ukwamkela ngokwakho kudlula ngaphaya kokuzixelela ukuba ulungile kunye nesimo sakho. Ku malunga nendlela ozibona ngayo njengomntu onentsholongwane kaGawulayo. Yinto enye ukunqwenela ukuba awuzange ube nayo; enye enye into ukuba ihlazeke . Qala ngokuzibuza ukuba ubona njani ikamva. Ngaba unethemba okanye unalo ukungaqiniseki ngabo bonke "ukuba kuthekani" okungenzeka ngenxa yesifo sakho? Ukuba ngaba ngowokugqibela, kufuneka usebenze kule miba yokuqala, mhlawumbi ngokudibana nomcebisi okanye ukujoyina iqela leenkxaso zabantu abanjengomdla oye wahamba nezinto ezifana nawe.
- Yakha inkqubo yoxhaso. Akukho ngokwenene inxalenye ye-HIV apho kuxhamla khona ukuhlaliswa ngokupheleleyo. Fumana umhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu lentsapho onokumphendukela kuyo ukuze uncedise-umntu oqonda ukuba ungubani njengomntu, kodwa uya kuthatha ixesha lokufunda ukuba yeyiphi i-HIV kwaye ithetha. Xa uhamba nenkqubo nomnye umntu, unokuqala ukufumana iindlela zokuthetha ngamava akho-nesimo sakho sengqondo ngesifo-ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye ephumelelayo.
- Zi fundise. Xa uqonda ngokubhekiselele kwintsholongwane kaGawulayo kunye nokukhusela, bhetele uza kuba kwi-HIV evolontiweyo ebomini bakho. Qala ngokuzifundisa ngonyango njengendlela yokuthintela (TasP) , esetyenziselwa ukunciphisa ukunyanga kwakho, kunye ne -prophylaxis yangaphambili (PrEP) , enokunciphisa ukuthinteka kweqabane lakho. Xa uqonda ngakumbi ezi ndlela, uqiniseke ngakumbi ukuba uya kuba nesithakazelo somdla.
- Hlola iimpendulo zakho. Ukubeka nje, ucinga ukuba uza kuthini xa usenqatshelwe? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uya kuthini ukuba usabele njani ukuba awukho? Zibini ezi zinto zibalulekile. Ukuvakalelwa "ukubulela" ukwamukelwa (ngokuchaseneyo, kukuthi, ukukhulula okanye ulonwabo) kunokuba nje kunengxaki njengokuba uphonswa kwi-tailspin engqondweni xa ungekho. Hlola ukuba kutheni uvakalelwa iimvakalelo zakho kwaye, xa kuyimfuneko, sebenzisa ngayo umhlobo okanye umcebisi.
- Yamkela ukuba umhla wakho "uvunyelwe" ukukugatya (ngendlela efanayo "uvumelekile" ukuba unqabe umhla wakho). Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni abantu bakhethe ukungabikho ukuthandana. Abanye bengafuni okanye bangakwazi ukufaka iintloko zabo nge-HIV. Ukuba kunjalo, loo nto ingumcimbi wabo kwaye ingezakho. Ukuzibamba ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba ngakumbi malunga nokungaqiniseki kwakho kunye neengxaki ezingaphezu kokunciphisa umntu onqabayo.
- Lungiselela ukuchazwa kwakho okwesibini. Ukwaziswa okwesibini kukuthi "wathini na?" imibuzo ephakama, ngamanye amaxesha ingacacanga ngexesha lokuchazwa kwe-HIV. Yilungiselele ukwabelana ngokubanzi njengoko ufuna. Zama ukungabi nxamnye, kodwa khumbula ukuba awubophekanga ukuba uchaze yonke imifanekiso yembali yakho yomntu okanye yesondo.
- Ungacingi ngokubhengezwa nje ngokuthi "ibhomu" okanye into ofuna ukuxolisa ngayo. Umgca wenyani kukuba nabani na ofuna ukulandela ubudlelwane bezesondo kufuneka baxoxe ngembali yabo yesondo kunye nezenzo zabo. Ngokuxolisa ngesimo sakho, ngokukhawuleza uzibekelele. Khumbula ukuba oko utshoyo nendlela othetha ngayo kubonakalisa isimo sakho sengqondo. Ukuba ubonisa ukwesaba, ukungaqiniseki, okanye umsindo, yiloo nto umhla oya kuwufunda.
- Musa ukukhokela ngomgca wokuphuma. Ukuthi, "Ndiyakwazi ukuba unqumle ukuba ungayithathi nantoni na eyona nto" sele isele yatshatyalalisa. Vumela umhla wakho ukuba wenze yakhe ingqondo.
- Ukuba uthando lwakho lunomnqweno wokuqhubeka phambili, xubusha iindlela zokwenza njalo. Khumbula ukuba ngoku uyinkqubo yakhe yokuxhasa. Ngaloo ndlela, ungadinga ukuthumela usuku lwakho ugqirha okanye ootitshala be-HIV abangaphendula nayiphi na imibuzo okanye iingxaki ezinokuvela. Kwaye nangona kungengqiqo ukuvavanywa-wonke umntu kufuneka-kubalulekile ukunika loo mntu indawo eyaneleyo yokwenza izigqibo zakhe.
- Ukuba umdla wakho unomdla uthatha isigqibo sokuba ungaqhubeki phambili, phendukela kwinethiwekhi yakho yenkxaso. Khumbula ukuba ukujongwa yinkqubo kwaye, ngokunyamezela, izakhono zakho esizikhulisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Sebenzisa ukulahlwa njengendlela yokuchonga iimvakalelo okanye ubunzima obungasayi kuzinza. Ekugqibeleni, kulungile ukuba ugwetywe okanye utyumle ebusweni bokuchaswa, kodwa ungavumeli ukuba kukuhlukanise. Ukuba uziva ucinezelekile okanye ungenakukwazi ukujamelana nayo, khangela uncedo lwezakhono.