Abazali abaninzi-kufuneka babe nomfanekiso engqondweni yabo yinkwenkwe encinci okanye intombazana ecela i-hugs kunye ne-cuddles, emema umama noyise ukuba bazenze i-tea party, okanye babuze "ngaba uza kudlala?" Enyanisweni, abazali abaninzi abanakulindela kuphela kodwa bancike kumntwana wabo ukuba abe ngumphuphi weengcamango kunye nomgqugquzeli wokudlala.
Abantwana abane-autism, nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, benokuba neengcamango ezinkulu , akunakwenzeka ukuthatha inxaxheba yoluntu.
Enyanisweni, abantwana abane-autism bahlala bexhala kakhulu ukudlala yedwa , baphinda imisebenzi yabo abathandayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngokungabandakanyeka kuMama, uTata, okanye nawuphi na umntu.
Okona, abantwana abane-autism abafaneli baxelise abanye. Ngenxa yoko, abadlali ukudlala iintlobo zemidlalo yokuzenza okanye imidlalo eyenziwa ngabazali. Ingcamango yokuxelisa isidlo sokupheka komzali akunakwenzeka kubo. Ingcamango yokudlala igqoke, okanye ukuba "njengomama", uTata, amanani ezemidlalo, okanye ama-superheroes angeke angene ezingqondweni zabo. Akunakubonakalisa ebomini bokwenene okanye banqwenela ukuba yiNtshonalanga okanye iinkosana.
Oku kudibanisa abaninzi abantu abaye balindele uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha, banomlinganiselo onzima kakhulu wokutshintsha okulindelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali kunye nogogo nomkhulu banquma ukuba abayi kuze baqonde umntwana wabo, kwaye bayeka ukuzama. Athethi ukulimaza okanye ukunyamekela, kodwa baye benza iingcinga zabo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubudlelwane.
Ngoko a kunjalo.
Imiba Abazali Bathi Ngabantwana Babo Abazenzekelayo Abachitha Ubudlelane
Ngelishwa kuba abantwana abane-autism, ukungabandakanyeka kulula kakhulu. Konke omele ukwenze kuthetha enye yee binzana, kwaye abantu abajikelezile baya kugxininisa ngokuqonda. Isiphumo: awusoze wakha ulwalamano nomntwana wakho obala.
Ikhefu.
Nazi ezinye iibinzana ezimbalwa eziza kukunceda uqiniseke ukuba awusoze wazi umntanakho wakho:
- "Ndiza kumvumela ukuba eze kum. " (Akayi kuza kuwe kuba abantwana abane-autism abacingi ngawe ngaphandle kokuba banesizathu esihle sokwenza njalo.)
- "Andifuni ukumsunduza." (Ukuba awunakuze umngeni umngeni wakho nge autism ukuba asebenze nawe okanye enze into ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela, akayi kuze kube njalo. indlela ende.)
- "Uya kuthukuthela." (Ewe, ukuba unomngcipheko wakho umntwana uya kuthukuthela.) Kodwa xa uthetha naye apho sele ekhululekile kwaye enika imingeni enzima, akayi kuthukuthela - nakuba angonwabile, avuyiswe aze asebenze!)
- "Akakwazi ukwenza olo hlobo lomdlalo ." (Kuyi nyaniso ukuba abantwana abane-autism abakhethi bodwa, ukuba baxelise okanye bazenze njengomnye umntu. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abantwana abane-autism abanako ukuklama-nokuba, ngokwenene, kuthetha ukuba ABAKHO xelisa. Kodwa ke, kuthatha umsebenzi othile kwinxalenye yabazali ukuba bafunde indlela yokunceda umntwana nge autism ukuba aqalise ngokuzenza ngathi okanye ukudlala ngokukhawuleza.)
- "Andikhululi ngokwenene nabantu abaneziphene." (Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxhatshazeka ngokwenene: abantu abaninzi abadala banokuziva benqunyulwa ngokwenene nayiphi na uhlobo lokuhlukana kwengqondo okanye yophuhliso. Yona yezona zizathu eziphambili zokuba kutheni abazali, ootatomkhulu, oomama, kunye noomalume banalo ulwalamano oluncinane okanye bengenalo ubudlelwane kunye nelungu lentsapho kwi-autism.
- "Akayithandi, ngoko ndiya kuqhubeka ndide." (Ukugcina umgama wakho kuyindlela ekhuseleyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba awusoze ufikelele ngakumbi-ngokomzimba okanye ngokomzwelo - kumntwana wakho we-autistic. Ukhethe olungcono ukubukela abantu abaya kusondela , bona oko kusebenza kakuhle, kwaye uyinike Kulungile ukuzama, ukungaphumeleli, nokufunda kwiimpazamo zakho - kodwa ukungahoywa okanye ukunyamekela umntwana wakho akunjalo.)