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Umbuzo: Ndingayinceda njani i-My Autistic Teen Feel "Cool"?
Ndingamncedisa njani umntwana wam osemantwini ukuba aphephe? Xa uneminyaka eyi-16, unyana wam kunye no- Asperger Syndrome uzama ukuphuhlisa i-persona, kodwa akayithobeli. Ukuba wayenokufunda intetho encinci, wayeya kuba yiekhilomitha ngaphesheya apho ekhona khona ngoku. Nceda ndincede ndifumane enye indlela yokumnceda.
Impendulo: Kusuka kuDkt. Robert Naseef:
Ixesha ngalinye lobomi kunoma yimuphi umntwana, ngoku ukukhula kwonyana wakho , kuzisa ixesha elitsha lokuba ngumzali onina noyise. I-Autism okanye i-Asperger iyaqhubela phambili ingxaki yokuguquka komzali nomntwana. Xa unyana wakho wenqaba ukuvuma ukuba uhlukile kwabanye, ulwa nolwazi lwakhe kunye nokuzimela. Nangona oku kunokuba bubuhlungu kwaye kungakhululeki ukubukela, kuyimpawu yokuba uyakhula. Ngoko kukho umgangatho ophilileyo. Ukufuna ukungenelela kwaye "upholise" yile fom ezithathayo ngoku. Akunzima ukujongana nayo, kodwa kusekhona isigaba esitsha sophuhliso. Kuwuphawu lwempumelelo yakho ekukhuliseni unyana wakho. Zama ukubamba loo ngcamango, kwaye uzenzele ngetyala lokuba le ngxaki ifike ngoku. Ukuxhatshazwa ngendlela evakalelwa ngayo ngoku kungamnceda ukuba aqonde kwaye amkele ukuhluka kwakhe.
Empeleni kukho uncedo olukhoyo. Abaqalayo, abaninzi abatsha abanothando luka-Asperger incwadi, i-Freaks, Geeks kunye ne-Asperger Syndrome: Umkhombandlela wokuSebenzisa ubuntutsha, obhalwe nguLuka Jackson, umfana osemtsha kunye no-Asperger, kwaye wapapashwa nguJessica Kingsley.
Nawe uya kufumana ukuhleka okumbalwa kunye nokuqonda okunzulu kakhulu kumbono womntu wokukhula kunye nokujongana nokungafani. Uphawule ukuba kunikwe ingqalelo kwiingongoma zokuqala zokusebenzisana ne-autism kunye ne-Asperger, kodwa abantwana abane-diagnostic ngokwenene bayakhula kwaye bajongene nemingeni emitsha nehlukahlukeneyo.
Zininzi iincwadi ezinika ikharityhulam yokufundisa izakhono zentlalo eziyimfuneko.
Ubulumko ukuba uqaphele ukuba awukwazi ukwenza konke oku kuwe. Ufuna ukufunda oko akufunayo kwabanye abantu ngokunjalo. Ndiya kubonisa izikhokelo zobungcali esikolweni nangaphandle kwosuku lwesikolo kuba oko kungenakuhlazisa. Amachiza anokunceda. Ndiya kuphakamisa ukuvavanywa ngunyango wezifundo zonyango okanye umntwana wengqondo yomntwana onamava ekuphatheni abaselula kunye no-Asperger. Ngokuqhelekileyo umthamo omncinci ungenza umehluko omkhulu, njengoko abantu abadala abadala abaphumelelayo abanokuxilongwa baxelele.
Ekugqibeleni, ungakulibala ukuzinyamekela. Izingane zithatha ixesha elide ukuba zilungele ukuba zodwa kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje kwaye oku kubonakala kusebenza ngakumbi kunye nabantu abaselula abakhulayo kwibala. Indodana yakho idinga ukuba ube nesimo esihle kwaye ujabulele ubomi ngelixa le nkqubo iqhubeka. Ufanelwe le nto ngokwakho.
Ukusuka kuDkt. Cindy Ariel:
Ngokubanzi ulutsha lunzima ukuvuma umahluko xa bezama ukufumanisa nokuza kubambisana nabani ngokwenene. Ukufaneleka ngenye yeenjongo eziphambili ezixhalabisa abafana abatsha kweli nqanaba lophuhliso lwabo.
Kukho iincwadi ezintle ezilungileyo apho ngaphandle kunokunceda unyana wakho kumzabalazo wakhe. Phakathi kwezinye iindawo, unokufumana ezininzi zazo kwiithala ezikufutshane nencwadi ethi uDkt. Naseef ukhankanywe, ngokucinga i-Amazon, okanye ngokuthungca ngekhathalogu kaJessica Kingsley. Kunokuba luncedo ukushiya iincwadi malunga nelokuthetha ngokungafaniyo, kunye neengxaki zeengxaki eziselula. Ingane yakho inokukwazi ukufunda ngento enye intsha esicinga ngayo nokwenza ngokufunda ngayo, kwaye ufunde ngaye kunye nezinye iintlukwano ngexesha elinye.
Nangona inkqubo inganciphisa, kunokwenzeka ukufundisa nokufunda ubugcisa kunye nesayensi yeentetho ezincinci.
Kukho iindlela eziliqela zokuzama ukwenza oku kwenzeke kwaye kuncede intsha enjengendodana yakho ukuba ibe yinto ebonakalayo kwimeko yeselula. Ukuhlala kunye nabanye abaselula kwizilungiselelo ezikhuselekileyo kunokuba luncedo. Kukho iincwadi ezinokukunceda ukuba umqeqeshe ngentetho encinci nakwezinye izakhono zentlalo. Ukuba unalo na bahlobo unokuqhubeka nokukhuthaza ukusebenzisana ngelixa uncedisa ukuba afunde ama-nuances enzentlalo enzima kakhulu kubabaninzi abaninzi.
Ngeli nqanaba, kunokuba nzima ukuba unyana wakho avume ukuba abe khona kwiqela lezakhono zentlalo kunye nabanye abatsha, nangona ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba abe nezakhono kwiontanga zakhe angavuma ngokungafuniyo kwaye amkele ngasese ithuba elinjalo. Khumbula ke ukuba unyana wakho akanakuziva unesizungu ngendlela oza kwenza ngayo kwaye ekugqibeleni kuya kuba kuye ukujongana nobudlelwane bakhe kunye nokuba yedwa. Ngoxa uncedo lwakho, ukuba ukhuthazwa ukuba afikelele kwaye asebenze nabanye, uya kufunda ukuba abe noluntu ngokwengeziwe ngexesha lakhe.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., kunye noCindy Ariel, i-Ph.D., ngabahleli abaququzeleli be "Iimvo ezivela kwi-Spectrum: Abazali, oogogo nomkhulu, abazalwana, abantu abane-Autism, kunye nabaSebenzi Belana Ubulumko Babo" (2006). Kwiwebhu kwi http://www.alternativechoices.com .